David Bowie's Son Shared This Letter From Doctor About Father's Passing. Wow.
The world mourned the loss of David Bowie on January 10 - a legendary singer, songwriter, producer, actor, multi-instrumentalist, painter, record producer, and overall human being.
Duncan Jones, Bowie's son, shared a tribute to his father, penned by the palliative care doctor that they came to know throughout Bowie's 18-month cancer illness.
Find the letter below.
Oh no, dont say its true whilst realization of your death was sinking in during those grey, cold January days of 2016, many of us went on with our day jobs. At the beginning of that week I had a discussion with a hospital patient, facing the end of her life. We discussed your death and your music, and it got us talking about numerous weighty subjects, that are not always straightforward to discuss with someone facing their own demise. In fact, your story became a way for us to communicate very openly about death, something many doctors and nurses struggle to introduce as a topic of conversation. But before I delve further into the aforementioned exchange, Id like to get a few other things off my chest, and I hope you dont find them a saddening bore.
Thank you for the Eighties when your ChangesOneBowie album provided us with hours of joyful listening, in particular on a trip from Darmstadt to Cologne and back. My friends and I will probably always associate Diamond Dogs, Rebel Rebel, China Girl and Golden Years with that particular time in our lives. Needless to say, we had a great time in Kln.
Thank you for Berlin, especially early on, when your songs provided some of the musical backdrop to what was happening in East and West Germany. I still have Helden on vinyl and played it again when I heard you had died (youll be pleased to hear that Helden will also feature in our next Analogue Music Club in the Pilot pub in Penarth later this month). Some may associate David Hasselhoff with the fall of the wall and reunification; but many Germans probably wish that time had taken a cigarette and put it in Mr Hasselhoffs mouth around that time, rather than hear Ive been looking for freedom endlessly on the radio. For me that time in our history is sound tracked by Heroes.
Thanks also on behalf of my friend Ifan, who went to one of your gigs in Cardiff. His sister Haf was on the doors that night and I heard a rumour that Ifan managed to sneak in for free (he says sorry!). You gave him and his mate a wave from the stage which will remain in his memory forever.
Thank you for Lazarus and Blackstar. I am a palliative care doctor, and what you have done in the time surrounding your death has had a profound effect on me and many people I work with. Your album is strewn with references, hints and allusions. As always, you dont make interpretation all that easy, but perhaps that isnt the point. I have often heard how meticulous you were in your life. For me, the fact that your gentle death at home coincided so closely with the release of your album, with its good-bye message, in my mind is unlikely to be coincidence. All of this was carefully planned, to become a work of death art. The video of Lazarus is very deep and many of the scenes will mean different things to us all; for me it is about dealing with the past when you are faced with inevitable death.
Your death at home. Many people I talk to as part of my job think that death predominantly happens in hospitals, in very clinical settings, but I presume you chose home and planned this in some detail. This is one of our aims in palliative care, and your ability to achieve this may mean that others will see it as an option they would like fulfilled. The photos that emerged of you some days after your death, were said to be from the last weeks of your life. I do not know whether this is correct, but I am certain that many of us would like to carry off a sharp suit in the same way that you did in those photos. You looked great, as always, and it seemed in direct defiance of all the scary monsters that the last weeks of life can be associated with.
For your symptom control needs, you will presumably have had palliative care professionals advise on pain, nausea, vomiting, breathlessness, and I can imagine they did this well. I envisage that they also discussed any emotional anguish you may have had.
For your advance care planning (i.e. planning heath and care decisions prior to things getting worse and before becoming unable to express them), I am certain you will have had a lot of ideas, expectations, prior decisions and stipulations. These may have been set out clearly in writing, near your bed at home, so that everyone who met you was clear on what you wanted, regardless of your ability to communicate. It is an area not just palliative care professionals, but in fact all healthcare workers want to provide and improve, so that it is less likely that any sudden health incidents will automatically result in a blue-light ambulance emergency room admission. Especially when people become unable to speak for themselves.
And I doubt that anyone will have given you Cardiopulmonary Resuscitation (CPR) in the last hours/days of your life, or even considered it. Regrettably, some patients who have not actively opted out of this treatment still receive it, by default. It involves physical, sometimes bone-breaking chest compressions, electric shocks, injections and insertion of airways and is only successful in 1-2% of patients whose cancer has spread to other organs in their body. It is very likely that you asked your medical team to issue you with a Do Not Attempt Cardiopulmonary Resuscitation Order. I can only imagine what it must have been like to discuss this, but you were once again a hero, or a Held, even at this most challenging time of your life. And the professionals who saw you will have had good knowledge and skill in the provision of palliative and end-of-life care. Sadly, this essential part of training is not always available for junior healthcare professionals, including doctors and nurses, and is sometimes overlooked or under-prioritized by those who plan their education. I think if you were ever to return (as Lazarus did), you would be a firm advocate for good palliative care training being available everywhere.
So back to the conversation I had with the lady who had recently received the news that she had advanced cancer that had spread, and that she would probably not live much longer than a year or so. She talked about you and loved your music, but for some reason was not impressed by your Ziggy Stardust outfit (she was not sure whether you were a boy or a girl). She too, had memories of places and events for which you provided an idiosyncratic soundtrack. And then we talked about a good death, the dying moments and what these typically look like. And we talked about palliative care and how it can help. She told me about her mothers and her fathers death, and that she wanted to be at home when things progressed, not in a hospital or emergency room, but that shed happily transfer to the local hospice should her symptoms be too challenging to treat at home.
We both wondered who may have been around you when you took your last breath and whether anyone was holding your hand. I believe this was an aspect of the vision she had of her own dying moments that was of utmost importance to her, and you gave her a way of expressing this most personal longing to me, a relative stranger.
David, you will live on in our hearts.
David Bowie and Duncan Jones, shared by Duncan on Twitter.
Sure, spoiled brats are annoying, but there’s something extra irritating about those moments when you try and do something nice for someone only for them to throw it in your face. These Redditors came together to share their stories of the most ungrateful jerks they’ve ever had to deal with—and they’re so infuriating, they’re unforgettable.
1. Now You See It, Now You Don’t
It was my niece's birthday and she just went to college so I thought I'd get her a laptop for her birthday. Now, I am a student myself but I still want to give her something special. So I searched for a good used laptop and I found a decent Toshiba Satellite. I sold my PSP and some other things so I can afford it. So there we were at the dinner table opening presents. When she opened mine, I couldn't believe her reaction.
"This is it? I thought you'd buy me a brand new one" "You know I can't afford it. It's the best I can do”. "I want a brand new one, not this. This sucks! Worst present ever!” She then shoved the laptop and box across the table and it fell down onto the floor. I picked it up and walked out. My cousin tried to stop me, but I just said "I'll never give her anything again”.
She even had the nerve to call back and asked for the laptop. Apparently, her parents punished her for her behavior and she will now have to buy her own things. No hand-outs or gifts. My friend bought it from me as a favor. He helped me pick it out, and he knows how much I bought for it. The profit was only $10. But the story doesn’t end there.
My niece called this morning, asking for the laptop because she will need it for college. No apology yet, only demands. Her brother said I would cave and give it to her. Heck no, and I’ll never get her a present again.
2. If I Could Turn Back Timeperson holding pizza in boxPhoto by Arantxa Aniorte on Unsplash
I delivered a pizza to a low-income type apartment complex. The total was $18, so she handed me a $20 bill rolled up and told me to keep the change. I turned around and started walking down the stairs back to the parking lot while unrolling the $20 to put in my wad of cash. My eyes widened with shock.
Immediately I turned around, went back, knocked, and said: "I don't think you meant to include this inside the twenty," as I extended my hand towards her with the $100 bill in it. She instantly started screaming at me about how she didn't give me a hundred-dollar tip and that I was lucky she didn't call the authorities. She slammed the door, then called my pizza shop to complain.
I told the manager the whole story, and she was put on the do-not-answer list. Crazy lady.
3. No Good Deed Goes Unpunished
A couple of years ago, a friend and I were driving across the country in a big moving truck full of my mom’s furniture. We had been on the road for about 18 hours on the second to last day of the trip, so we stopped at a rest stop to stretch our legs and use the bathroom. That’s when we saw a devastating sight. Sitting at the rest stop late at night was an entire family: a mom, a dad, and two young kids. Their car was obviously broken or otherwise not working.
Feeling like I should try and help, I asked the father what was wrong and he told me they had run out of gas and just needed to get to the next town, which was about 40 miles away. I couldn't leave the rest stop with that family stranded, so my friend and I got back in the truck and drove the 40ish miles to the next town, bought gas and a can, and drove all the way back in our huge moving truck. The whole trip back and forth took us about an hour and a half. By the time we got back to the rest stop, we were both about to pass out.
Well, the family was still there waiting and I hopped out to give them the gas they needed so badly. I handed the can to the father and he looked at me and said "I would rather have the money". This caught me off guard as money wouldn't help them get anywhere. That’s when I made a disturbing realization.
It dawned on me that he never wanted gas to begin with and probably had some in the car. He was just fishing for cash and using his kids as bait. I felt really bad for the mom as she was just looking at me the whole time with this expression of "I'm so, so sorry". I was at a loss for words since the dad didn't even want the gas we had just driven for over an hour to get for them. I just set the gas can on the ground, got back in the truck, and left feeling like a giant idiot.
4. Casting Pearls Before Swinegirl in pink dress dollPhoto by Tengyart on Unsplash
When we were very young, we were very poor. My sister's birthday was coming up; I think she was about seven. We had no money to buy gifts, but my mother had a small piece of white satin cloth and a box of tiny little pearl beads. She hand-sewed this beautiful little wedding gown for my sister's doll and sat up night after night hand sewing these tiny little beads on the dress.
When my sister was given it for her birthday, she reacted in a totally unexpected way—she threw it across the room in disgust, saying “I don't want that, it's my old dolly”. I'll never forget the heartbreak on my mother's face.
5. Replacement Value
A girl in my high school received a used car on her 16th birthday. She was unhappy with the fact that it was used—three years old—so she intentionally totaled it. Her thinking was that if she totaled this one her parents would have to buy her a new one. But she'd eventually learn her lesson the hard way—she didn't get a new car and had to ride the bus.
6. That Math Doesn’t Add Upman in black jacket and blue denim jeans standing beside silver carPhoto by Nima Sarram on Unsplash
My older sister Amanda is EXTREMELY spoiled. My dad practically worships the ground she spits on. Well, she's nine years older than me so, of course, she was able to do more things. I used to help my mom at a restaurant every day from when I was 5-8 years old. Because I was so young, people would give me tips throughout the day. When my mom’s shift ended, she would walk me next door to the bank and I would deposit my earnings.
By the time I was 8, I had a little over 800$ saved up. May came around and my sister was going to turn 17. For her birthday she wanted tons of hair styling stuff and makeup. Well, my father had other plans. He convinced me into letting him "borrow" my $800+ and combined it with his $500. He then went out and bought a cheap car for $1,000 and used the other $300ish for seat covers, new tires, a new stereo, etc.
May 5 comes around. We gave my sister the car and she threw the biggest fit ever! She wanted nothing to do with the car. So, she sold it for $700. Dad got his $500 back, Amanda got $200 to spend on hair products, and I got nothing back...just a load of garbage from an ungrateful jerk.
7. Money Can’t Buy You Lovefocused photo of a red rosePhoto by Jamie Street on Unsplash
Valentine's Day, 2004. Now, I'd never cared about Valentine's Day, but my girlfriend at the time had never been in a serious relationship and she wanted a special Valentine's day. I was more than happy to oblige. That day, I went to the local nursery where I used to work and bought two dozen red roses. I also grabbed an unused delivery invoice.
I still had the uniform—just a T-shirt and hat, but enough to make me look like a legit delivery person. I then spent my entire paycheck on gifts for her, and on food for dinner. Everything: balloons, decorations, red and pink cutesy stuff, and several expensive gifts including an iPod and a new camera. I went back to her house and decorated it, transforming her kitchen and living room into what looked like a display at the mall.
I even did the rose petals on the bed thing, because I was sure my efforts would lead to a romantic evening. Then I enacted the best part of my plan. I looked up her class schedule to figure out where her class was (we had different majors) and proceeded to burst in, pretending to be a delivery person. I gave her the roses and a teddy bear in front of her entire class, even going as far as making her sign the fake delivery invoice. It was her last class of the day so I knew she'd be heading home.
I raced out of there so I could get there first, change, and start cooking dinner. I got there maybe 20 minutes before she did, and everything was going to plan. She was upset when she walked in the door. "Why didn't you wait for me after class”? She asked. I told her I wanted to start dinner before she got home and finish decorating the house. "Oh, I really wanted to go out to dinner tonight. Can we go out to dinner”?
I explained that I was going to make something special at home, and had, in fact, already started cooking. She looked at the table full of presents and the house full of decorations and just sighed, disappointed. Then she really twisted the knife in. "I really wanted this to be a special Valentine's day. Just this once. I was really hoping we could have a special day together but I guess not”.
8. Honesty Is The Best Policygrayscale photo of books on shelvesPhoto by Sean Benesh on Unsplash
When I was younger I worked at a Blockbuster. I was the night shift manager and one night I was working by myself when a customer walked up and handed me a woman’s wallet, saying he found it on the ground. I peeked inside it to find an ID/membership card, so I could look up her account. Sure enough, she had been in the store about 30 minutes earlier so I gave her a call. She seemed pleased on the phone and said she would be right in.
The store policy for something like that was to lock the item in the safe until the customer arrived. I did so and went about my business. About an hour later, the woman came in and asked for her wallet. I told her it was going to be 15 minutes as the safe was timed. That was just the start of my troubles.
This was apparently unacceptable and she asked if I could get it faster than that. I told her no and continued helping other customers while she waited. Once the safe beeped, I grabbed her wallet and handed it to her. I had to put the line of customers on hold while I did this because I wanted her out of the store ASAP. She had spent the last 15 minutes fuming next to my register.
As soon as I handed her the wallet, she said, "My money better be in here". I explained that I honestly had no idea as I didn't open it all the way, and her membership card was on an outer flap anyway. It was one of those large female wallets that were more like a mini purse with lots of flaps and zippers and such.
After handing it to her, I asked for the next customer in line to step up, basically ignoring her. Unfortunately, I was in for a serious ordeal. She started screaming: "MY MONEY IS GONE, YOU TOOK MY MONEY," which really surprised me as she was a pretty normal-looking soccer mom type. I asked the customer I was helping to hold on for a second and I explained to her that I had not personally opened the wallet any further than the first flap.
She started screaming again, saying there were over 200 dollars in it and that she was calling the authorities. I shrugged and told her to go ahead. At that point, I was completely okay with ignoring her. She walked to the back of the store and whipped out her cell phone. I continued helping the line as customers were looking back at the woman. Most of the customers were like, "What a jerk," etc. I just shrugged and smiled.
After the line was cleared, the lady came back to the register and told me, with a super smug look, that the authorities were on their way. "Okay,” I told her. She thought she won, but she couldn't be any more wrong. About an hour later, an officer finally entered the store (she waited right next to my register the entire time) and she started waving at him and pointing at me at the same time.
I saw the cop and rolled my eyes. He asked her to repeat her story and as she was repeating it, he almost completely ignored her. He even started watching the football game that we have playing on our DirectTV kiosk. After she got done, he looked at me, rolled his eyes, and asked: "Did you take the money”?
"Of course not," I said. "I'm sorry there's nothing we can do ma'am," the officer said. He then left the store. As he got to the doors, he held them open for her and told her to leave if her business was complete. I smiled super big, like Cheshire cat big, and told her to have a super day as she left.
After she left, I bought pizza with the 200 bucks I took. Just kidding, but I almost wish that's how the story ended after she embarrassed me like that for close to two hours.
9. Choke On It Then
When I was 15, a girl in my driver's ed class turned red and stood up. She put her hands to her throat, but couldn't make a sound. Her eyes looked crazy. She was choking on a piece of candy. Everyone looked for one beat, two beats. I was like, "What the heck" and I stood up, walked over to two tables, and gave her the Heimlich. On the second attempt, the candy flew out like 10 feet, as if it were in a movie or something. She started gasping and bawling. It was a big scene. She thanked me.
I thought that it was over—but my nightmare was just beginning. The next day at class, when our parents were picking us up, she was walking down the hall with her white trash mom. They walked up to me. I was expecting a "thanks" from the mom or something. I'd never seen this woman before and as soon as she got close, she started yelling, "What did you think you were doing? You aren't a doctor or a nurse! You could have broken her ribs! You're lucky I don't get a lawyer and sue your family! I still might!”
10. Sounding Like A Broken Recordblack Canon DSLR cameraPhoto by Georgia de Lotz on Unsplash
My mom bought my little sister numerous laptops, iPhones, and cameras on the condition that she take care of them. Everything was broken in a month or two. My mom then bought her a $900 digital SLR that she knows I've been wanting for years because my sister claimed she was going to take a photography course at school. She got the camera, complained that she didn't get any other presents, used it for a day, then let it sit around for six months.
She uses it now for pictures on her blog, but she told my mom she never intended to take a photography course and she could only use the thing on auto. For Easter, I spent a couple of hundred dollars buying her tons of Hunger Games stuff and other random stuff for her Easter basket because I stupidly wanted to do something nice. I'd just pick up random stuff over the course of a few months that I thought she'd like.
She was upset that my mom wouldn't be doing baskets anymore because she was 15, so I thought she'd like my gifts—but I was so, so wrong. She threw a tantrum after she opened everything because we wouldn't hide Easter eggs for her or hide plastic ones filled with money like her friend's parents did. She’s 15, for heaven’s sake. I haven't gotten her a thing since. I bought my mom a MacBook Air to pay her back for years of caring for me—and my sister threw the biggest tantrum ever.
She clawed at my mom's face and tried to take her car because it apparently wasn't fair that my mom got something nice for the first time EVER. My sister has since "accidentally" broken her laptop, hoping I'd buy her one too. Not going to ever happen.
11. A Friend In Need
I had something happen at an ATM. The guy before me had pulled out what looked like $400 and then walked away without taking the cash. I didn't realize what had happened at first, so by the time I put two and two together, he was out of the store. I grabbed the money, ran after him, and caught him in the parking lot.
I handed him the cash and he violently grabbed it from me. Then, he escalated the situation. He started talking trash, saying I was trying to take his money. At some point, his friend mentioned that before he ever met me, he was $400 down, then I came along and he was back to even. He even defended me, telling his friend, "What the heck is wrong with you”?
The guy never did thank me, but his friend did.
12. E-Class Vs. No Classgrayscale photo of mercedes benz sedan on roadPhoto by Endri Killo on Unsplash
My spouse used to have an old Mercedes E-class. It was like a 1995 or something. He wanted to give it away to my little cousin because her parents couldn't afford to buy her anything like that. So we gave her the Mercedes—but that was a big mistake. She started going on about how we were going to buy a new one and she wanted a new one too.
Immediately after hearing that, my spouse took the keys away from her and gave them to her older brother, right in front of her. The reason we didn't give it to him in the first place was that he had an old Honda that he had paid for himself; however, it was falling apart and needed a lot of work to keep it safe.
We even volunteered to pay for his insurance and his first year of college just to spite his little sister. That felt really good. We haven't bought my female cousin anything in over three years. We don't even send her a birthday card. If you act like that when someone gives you something, you clearly aren't worthy of anything.
13. Riding The Gravy Train
When my son was six, he was really into trains. He had a fantastic wooden train set with all the bells and whistles, and we spent hours putting it together in different ways and playing. But he kept begging for an electric train, just begging and begging. I told him "Not until you're eight”.
Well, that Christmas I decided to surprise him and I put together a small electric train set on a 4 x 8 piece of plywood. I couldn't spend exorbitant amounts on it, but it was a nice oval with a split-off that went up and over the main track and rejoined. I also made a couple of engines, a few cars, some simple trees, and a crossing with lights. It wasn't much, but I spent hours putting it together after the kids went to bed every night.
Christmas morning came around, all the gifts were unwrapped, and I told my oldest, "There's another surprise for you downstairs”. He ran down and found the train and his eyes lit up, he was so excited. I showed him how to work it, then went upstairs briefly to help pick it up. 10 minutes later, I was coming back downstairs to play with him, and the train set, and he was walking up the stairs. His words shot me straight through the heart.
He looks me in the eye and says, "It's kind of boring," and walked past me. Yeah, I admit it...I cried.
14. Surprise Swapa black car on a roadPhoto by Haryad Ali on Unsplash
I used to work for a local car dealership. I was selling the cheapest car on the lot to a dad and his daughter. It was a 2000 Daewoo for $3,000. She was SO excited to have her own car and it was what her dad could afford to buy her. At this same time, another salesperson was selling a brand new Ford Explorer to a dad for a present to his daughter. As I was presenting the Daewoo to the new owners, the daughter of the other dad came in to see her new Explorer.
She started throwing a fit, yelling "I didn't want an Explorer, I wanted an Expedition”! Well, her dad put an end to her tantrum in the most epic way. He walked back into the finance office and he changed the deal. He corroborated with the guy buying the Daewoo and switched the names. The girl crying over her "Explorer" now had an ugly Daewoo and the girl who was really grateful to have a car ended up with a fully loaded paid off Explorer.
I would never have believed it if I had not been the salesperson.
15. Make Your Bed & Lie In It
This kid I barely knew asked me for help moving because I'm pretty strong and I can move the couch and stuff. First problem: he had two friends there who were carrying the weight equivalent of a pack of gum up and down the stairs each trip. Then, I took the bed he has apart and his mom had the balls to ask me to speed up because her rental on the truck was only for three hours.
At that point, I turned around and asked her if she wanted to take care of it herself because she was more than welcome to. She just shut up and left me alone. At his new place, I helped him move in and I put the bed back together. That's when I had enough. He told me as I was packing up MY tools: "Oh can you leave your tools here? I have a couple of other things to build but my friends are coming over for dinner”.
I packed my stuff, gave him a piece of mind, and told him that this story would go around campus. I wanted everyone to know how much of an ungrateful little jerk he was.
16. Lesson Learnedred power rangerPhoto by Fran on Unsplash
This made me cry. It reminds me of something awful I did as a child. It was my sixth birthday or so, and my mother bought me this little musical statue that you wind up. It's an old record player with cute mice climbing and dancing on it. I opened it and just stared at it, then looked over at my brother's present—we're twins.
He got this remote-controlled Power Ranger Megazord toy. I asked why I didn't get a toy like him. I couldn't play with a fragile musical statue. And I just kept at it too...I'll never forget the look on my mother's face, it still makes me cry. She said she was sorry and started crying. I didn't understand but I knew she was crying because of me.
I started saying I'm sorry and that I did like the present. But she just turned and walked away saying for us to get ready to leave, she had to hurry and drop us off at summer day camp. She was recently divorced and my dad and all other relatives worked during the day so they couldn't watch us.
To this day, I have that statue on my shelf, and I'll keep it till the day I die. To remind me that thoughtless words can sometimes do the most damage.
17. As Good As Gold
A co-worker whined that her grandmother gave her a silver necklace for her birthday when "She knows I only ever wear white gold!” I laughed and told her that when my grandparents were alive I only ever got a birthday card and that stopped when I started high school. But the co-worker only got more defensive—she just kept trying to get me to sympathize with her situation.
This co-worker is actually a lovely person but she has lived a very sheltered life.
18. Forgiven But Not Forgottenred and white christmas stockingPhoto by Donna Spearman on Unsplash
I made Christmas stockings for my wife's two teenage children. I spent hours finding little specialty candies, little toys they'd like, make-up, etc. I tried to make them outrageously nice stockings and happily spent about 200 bucks (that I could not afford) on the two of them.
On Christmas morning, they spent about two seconds looking at them, judged them unworthy, and then just cast them aside. And that's not all. The boy actually stepped on his at one point, breaking one of the toys, and he did not care. To this day, I think he did it on purpose. It sort of ruined the whole "making Christmas nice for the kids" motivation for me.
They are adults now and I guess the fact that I still remember that scene points out how petty I am.
19. Odd One Out
Times were very tough the last few years when I was living at home. Everyone in my family worked, and we all helped to pay the mortgage on the house and the bills. We tried to save money and cut costs here and there, but overall, we still lived a pretty comfortable lifestyle.
One day, my father was talking about defaulting on the mortgage. I pushed even harder to save money at that point, and pretty much gave my entire paycheck each week to assist. I explained to him that we needed to get rid of things we did not need. He liked to provide us with everything we wanted, so it did not come naturally to him to cancel a $300 cable and internet bill, for example.
I told him it had to be done. We would drop cable and get super slow internet for $20 a month. My sister walked into the room. At that point, she was 20 years old and she never had a job. She just sat around the house all day. She's done fewer chores in her lifetime than my brother has done in a day. She whined and screamed, telling us not to cancel our cable and internet.
I calmly explained to her that we could not afford it, and that we did not have a choice. But she just wouldn't have it. She stood her ground...though her opinion didn't matter in the discussion anyway. I grabbed the cable boxes and returned them that day, and had the internet dropped to the cheapest they offered.
10 years later, to this day, my sister is still the same exact way. A firm but fair father, a loving but firm mother, two hard-working sons who have paid for everything on their own, with no debt whatsoever…and then there's her. Swapping between welfare and living with my parents. Complaining every step of the way. No appreciation on her part that I have ever seen.
20. I’m Not Lovin’ Itred and white concrete building near palm trees during daytimePhoto by Thabang on Unsplash
I work at a McDonald's and a while back, I was taking orders and payments for the drive-thru by myself. A woman came through and ordered two Big Macs, two large fries, and two cokes, which came to a total of like $21. In the time she took to drive from the speaker box to the cashier window, I re-entered them as large meals to save her some money, and as she pulled up, I said "Hey, that'll be $16, thank you."
She eyed me strangely as she fished out some money, and when I held out her change and a receipt, she snatched them out of my hand and looked over what she had ordered. After what seemed like an eternity, she absolutely lost it. She started shouting at me about how she didn't want meals, she just wanted the burgers, fries, and drinks.
It actually comes up pretty frequently as understandably not every customer knows the ins and outs of the McDonald's menu, and generally, when you explain what they've actually paid for, they apologize and are appreciative of the money you've saved them. I started going through the routine with this woman, explaining the components of a meal and how she'd actually saved $5 while still getting exactly what she ordered.
I stood there waiting for her to realize she'd benefited from what I'd done when all of a sudden she started hurling insults at me. Stuff like "I COME THROUGH AND ORDER THIS EVERY WEEK AND IT'S ALWAYS BEEN THE SAME, YOU PRESUMPTUOUS LITTLE JERK," and "HOW DARE YOU THINK I'M SUCH A MORON THAT I DON'T KNOW HOW TO ORDER MY OWN FOOD".
I tried explaining that I didn't think she was a moron, and that it was just my job to give customers the best value. I also said I was sorry that no one had done it before, and you know what she did? She threw her change at me (about 60 cents) and drove off. At this time, a woman in another car had actually come through to order a free cup of water and had driven straight to the payment window. As a result, she had seen most of what the woman had done.
As she pulled up, I was visibly shaking, because, despite the fact that getting yelled at is one of the things you're expected to handle as a drive-thru worker, I'd never been treated that badly. She told me that she saw (and heard) the whole thing and that I was totally in the right. I talked to her for a while and ended up putting through a free coke for her because I appreciated her making sure I was alright.
Eventually, she left and I went into the changerooms to cry.
21. She Drove Him To It
This father and his 17-year-old daughter came into the dealership to buy her a new car for her birthday. Now, this ain’t no Honda dealership, we sell Porsches. 17-year-olds should not be getting Porsches for their birthday. I don’t care if they made the honor roll every year for their whole life. Well, the girl had her mind set on a 2012 Porsche Panamera 4S, which was a $100,000 car with 400 horsepower, all-wheel drive, and a V8 engine.
The father, seeing the price tag, looked disappointed and said, "Well sweetie, I can’t afford a brand new one, so why don’t we get you a used one? The used ones go for about $85-90k, have barely any miles on them, are Porsche-approved and certified, and come with a warranty worthy of a brand new car." She replied, "Well, it’s not my fault you don’t make enough money for our family”. But then she got even more obnoxious.
She told him: “You’re going to buy me a new one or I’m never speaking to you again”. What really bothered me was that I could see the pain in the father’s eyes when she said this. He looked genuinely hurt that he didn’t make enough money. I wish I was a customer because I would have told her off. The father said, "Alright, we’ll get the new one". The funny thing was he leased it, and she had no idea.
When they got back from the test drive, the salesman told me that the girl disrespected him and her father the entire time. When the salesman was trying to show her all the different features, she flipped out and told him "I think I can figure it out okay, I’m not stupid". Then on the actual test drive, she did over 100 mph on the highway and told the salesman to "shut up" when he asked her to slow down, out of fear for his life.
He said the father just sat there and said nothing.
22. Eggsplain Yourselftwo fried eggs on skilletPhoto by Gabriel Gurrola on Unsplash
My wife was rampaging on a Sunday morning for no real reason. She started screaming that she was tired and hungry, so I offered her something to eat to soothe her. She said she wanted fried eggs, and I asked her how many and she said three. So I cooked three fried eggs, and if you've ever fried eggs together, you know that they meld into one giant egg white with three yolks.
I came back with the eggs and she lost her mind. I laughed and asked her what her problem was. She screamed: "I DONT LIKE MY EGGS TO TOUCH". I said forget it and ate the eggs in front of her. Later, I got my revenge. That day, when her friend came over to do something, I came out of the kitchen holding two raw eggs and stood in the doorway of the living room.
Her friend and she looked at me, as I slowly moved the eggs toward one another. As soon as they touched, I started yelling and bellowing. It was very funny for me, and my friend was completely confused.
23. Setting A Better Example
My friend’s youngest daughter had a Dora the Explorer birthday party for her fourth birthday which was in August, so naturally, I assumed she liked Dora the Explorer. Come Christmas time, I bought her a set of Dora's baby sister and brother—it cost about $30 which is a lot to spend on a child I didn't birth.
She opened it up and started screaming that it was for babies and that she was too old for Dora now. Her mom took her home without her present so I gave the dolls to my youngest, who fell in love with them. A few weeks later, when she came over to our house, she threw the biggest tantrum I'd ever witnessed. She took the dolls home because, apparently to her, they were hers first.
I know that kids don't have a filter when it comes to manners, but I know my kids would never do anything like that. They have received some pretty strange gifts from relatives in the past and they just say thank you and pretend to be excited about it until they get it home.
As to why I let the four-year-old take the dolls back? In the end, it wasn't up to me. I tried to convince her that she hadn't wanted the dolls and that my daughter loved them for her. Her mother, her older sister, and I all told her she was being silly and that she didn't deserve to have the dolls back. She didn't listen and started throwing a tantrum of ginormous proportions.
My daughter who was only 18 months at the time saw all this happening and gave the dolls to the four-year-old. She wasn't upset about handing them over, I think she was actually quite proud of herself because she managed to stop the screaming tantrum. I bought her a set of dolls of her own later that week.
24. Grow UpMacBook Pro on top of brown tablePhoto by Kari Shea on Unsplash
When I moved out to study, my parents bought me a computer. They don't really have much money, and it was partly on the loan that they only recently paid off. It was my going-away present and I actually really needed it to study. My sister is a couple of years younger than me. I suppose because of this age gap, she's always felt the need to "outdo" me in terms of possessions.
Well, she threw a massive tantrum when I was leaving because our parents had said no to her when she asked to go on an overseas trip. When I said something about it, she screamed about how I got to have a computer. My parents then got her a new PS3 that she never used to even out, plus a fancy laptop the following year so she could browse Facebook and not do anything productive.
That said, she does thank me for the gifts I get her now. She used to always complain if it wasn't something she liked, but not anymore. Some people are slower at growing up I guess.
25. Everyone Has A Breaking Point
I have a friend that knew she had to be out of her place in a few months. No exact date, but whatever. She called me at around 6 pm at night saying she had to be out of her place the next day by 1 pm or the authorities would be escorting her out. I should also mention she has three kids.
Now, the moving wouldn't have been such a big deal. Her problem was she hadn't found anywhere to go. I wish I could say it was due to a lack of places, but it was just because she hadn't looked. So within 12 hours, I asked a different friend that she had NEVER met if she could stay with them until she got an apartment and moved her. That ended up being the worst idea ever.
Fast forward a month later, and she'd totally screwed over my generous friends. Financially, with her attitude, and with her lies. I was embarrassed and apologized. Eventually, she got her own place, but because she was not great at life, had no way to move. My friends were sick of her, so I decided to help move her since I felt I caused all this drama in the first place.
This is what became the final straw. I noticed she didn't have a crib mattress for one of her daughters. I offered to let her use mine because my son just got a big boy bed. She started screaming at me saying it was hers, and she even went as far as to say she has no friends that ever help her. I stood there in shock for about two seconds, told her to never call me again, and I walked out of the apartment.
26. Opening A Can Of Wormsman in white and blue crew neck t-shirtPhoto by Ryan Snaadt on Unsplash
I had a co-worker who was a good friend of mine choking in the lunch room. I reached over and gave her the Heimlich, everything went well. The next day her husband comes into the office to scream at me for touching his wife, that I had left a bruise across her ribcage, and he was going to sue me for everything I had, and THEN he was going to beat me.
I got right into his face and very quietly asked if he would have preferred that she had died...and that if he wants to arrange it to look like an accident, he should let people know ahead of time so we don't interfere. Guy actually started crying.
Later, I found out the disturbing truth. She told me that he confessed that he thought we were having an affair and that the bruising was because of some rough activity in the bedroom.
27. The Grass Is Definitely Greener
My co-worker's sister was at the office. I ended up chatting with her around 7 pm while she waited for her brother to finish up work. I hung around only because she was kind of pretty and single. Big mistake. After mentioning her father paid 100% of her $100,000 tuition, a car, and all her living expenses, she started laying into her dad for promising only $500,000 as her future graduation gift.
She was expecting something more along the lines of $750k to $1 million so she was super mad and kept talking about what a tightwad he was being. Apparently, she changed her major one too many times for her father's taste and was living the lifestyle of a "forever student". This was when I was struggling to pay off my college loans, not earning very much, and barely staying afloat by paying my rent and covering my expenses.
28. Put Him Back In The Car And Leave Him Therea person standing next to a car with smoke coming out of itPhoto by Johannes Blenke on Unsplash
Around 2:30 am on a Friday night, my friend and I witnessed the horrifying sight. A pickup truck run a red light and barreled through a white taxi van doing about 50 miles per hour. No brakes, just a big crash. The white van instantly spun around a couple of times until it hit a light pole. My friend and I were in complete shock but were the only ones around, so we got out of my truck to go help.
On the way to the van, my friend called 9-1-1, and a fire started flaring up from inside the crumpled hood. The man inside was bleeding everywhere and he was obviously very hurt, however, the driver’s door was smashed so much I couldn't open the door. The passenger door was blocked and resting against the light pole. By this time, the fire under the hood was starting to engulf the front part of the van and it was getting very hot.
I took my shirt off, wrapped it around my hand, and then broke out what was left of the glass on the driver’s side door. I proceeded to pull the man head first out of the van with the help of my friend and we dragged him about 30 feet away to a grassy area by an office building.
About two minutes later, the entire front portion of the van was in flames. Another minute later, the fire department showed up and put it out. I gave my information and such to the officers. The man I pulled from the van thanked me over and over again. I thought I had done my good deed for the day...but I was so wrong.
One week later, I was served papers, stating I caused physical and emotional damage and distress to the man. He was suing me for $100,000. One awesome public defender, three witnesses, and four days in court later, he lost.
29. That’s A Big L
A guy working at Big W (a chain retailer similar to Target for people in the US) was checking people's bags outside the door when a little kid knocked down a promotion sign. The guy stopped what he was doing to rush over and fix the sign. When he smiled at the mother, her response was totally uncalled for. She just stared coldly at him and kept walking with her pram. The poor guy was just being friendly.
30. Two Wrongs Don’t Make A Rightman in white button up shirt holding black and white boxPhoto by Jessie McCall on Unsplash
I worked at a restaurant when this happened. A guy finishes eating and then goes to the bathroom, the bus boys assume he's gone and start bussing his table. He comes back screaming for a manager stating that he left his phone on the table and the bus boys must have stolen it. He demanded that the manager search the bus boys.
He was promptly told no, we're not doing that. The guy calls the authorities. They show up and tell him: "Sorry sir, that's abandoned property, how do you know a customer didn't take it”? The guy stormed off.
31. It’s Not Just Ungrateful Kids
Last Christmas, a husband wanted to get his wife a brand new laptop so she could start using the internet for shopping, etc. He purchased from us, after much deliberation, a brand new Samsung 13" Chromebook. A few days later, the wife marched him back into the store demanding that I refund the order and supply her with a MacBook.
She then had the nerve to take it further. She told her husband he was useless and that he didn't listen or understand her. The phrase "open your ears" was used repeatedly. It really boiled my blood.
32. Nothing’s Good Enoughvegetable salad on black ceramic platePhoto by Vicky Ng on Unsplash
One time at work, they provided free lunch for everyone. It was all laid out, all you had to do was fix a plate. Apparently, that wasn't simple enough—things got heated real quick. Several of my co-workers got angry because they had to walk into the other room and get it. They felt like it should have been brought to their desks.
My wife and I had just moved into our first place on our own. After being on our own for about three months, my wife's sister calls her crying. Her sister, husband, and daughter had lost their home in a fire about a year prior and had been staying with some friends who were kind enough to let them stay with them.
We had an extra bedroom so we decided to let them come stay with us until they got back on their feet. It was supposed to only be a few weeks, but it turned into eight months. For eight months we let them stay with us rent-free; the only thing we asked them to pay was the difference in the electric bill each month, which amounted to only $30 to $50 a month.
I should mention that we were violating our lease by letting them stay with us. We hid them from our landlord for a while but eventually, she figured it out. Fortunately, she felt sorry for them and said it was okay for them to stay a little longer. But after the eighth month, she sent us a letter saying that if they weren't out in a week then we'd be violating our lease. So we had to ask them to go. Their reaction was seriously devastating.
Almost immediately after they left, they deleted us off Facebook, and never talked to us again. When we tried to get into contact with them to see why they were mad at us, my wife's sister claimed she was angry that we asked them to help out with the electric bill. And because of that, they weren't able to buy tickets to go see A Perfect Circle.
But my wife and I had bought ourselves tickets, and I even bought my little sister a ticket too since she's never seen them live before. And apparently, they were angry at us for this.
34. In The Name Of The Moon, I’d Punish herwoman in white and blue sleeveless dress standing indoorsPhoto by Alex Sheldon on Unsplash
I made the mistake of being nostalgic while at my uncle's house and watching an old episode of Sailor Moon online. My younger cousin who's about ten watched it with me and was instantly obsessed. Her birthday is in August and I've been babysitting her for years, so I've seen her ridiculous birthday lists.
That year, she demanded that she get a full-on Halloween costume of Sailor Moon, complete with red boots, a scepter, and long flowing blond hair. My aunt searched tirelessly online—but to order one of those really nice cosplay costumes with custom measurements can be hundreds of dollars.
Instead, she made it, slaved over stitched this costume, and created this wig and little leg covers all for one day of my younger cousin’s life. It was honestly very good, and much better than some of the stuff they sell online. She presented it to her on Halloween—and my cousin shocked everyone. She just cried, threw down the costume, and started screaming and stepping on it; telling her mom how much she hated it and how it wasn't even close to what she wanted.
35. There’s No Pleasing Her
This past Christmas, I went home to visit my family for our first Christmas together in 10 years. Because it was our first in so long, everyone was there—about 20 of us. Being Sicilians, we celebrate Christmas Eve and Christmas Day with lots of food. We were all at my mother's house, and she was stressing about everyone being there, so I ended up cooking all of Christmas Eve and Christmas Day dinner.
I made the traditional feast of fish for Christmas Eve, as well as cookies and cannoli. I roasted prime rib and broiled lobster tails for Christmas day dinner. I did all this for 20 people. My whole family thanked me profusely–and then there was my mother. She yelled at me for leaving the kitchen messy, which my brothers cleaned up anyway.
36. Return To Senderpile of printing papersPhoto by Alexander Grey on Unsplash
The previous owner of my house occasionally still gets mail delivered to this address. He and I both work at the same university, in different departments. I generally take his mail to his department's main office/secretary, rather than writing "not at this address" on the envelope and putting the mail back into the box.
One day, I "bundled" two mail items—apparently, that was a massive mistake. It caused him to think I waited for the second piece of mail to arrive and thus delaying his mail. I happened to be on my way out of his department's mail room when I overheard him exploding to his department's secretary, complaining loudly that this was very important mail and that for me not to give it to him right away was "just unconscionable”.
So I coughed a bit louder than necessary, drew his attention to me, and left, not saying a word.
From then on, all his mail got the "not at this address" treatment.
37. Petty Revenge Is The Best Revenge
I worked in the cell phone department at an electronics store for quite a while. When the new iPhone 4S came out, I saw a lot of pretty astounding things. 16-year-old girls routinely cried because I wouldn't let them make changes to their parent's family plans or sign them up for new contracts, etc.
But one of the most astounding things I ever witnessed was a man who came in with his daughter who looked to be about 14-ish. The daughter was dressed in showy designer clothes from head to toe. Her dad walked up to me and says "She wants the iPhone 4S 64GB in white”. I'm a critic of Apple products and I saw the dad squirm when I told him that even on a brand new three-year contract, it would still be around $300.
Also, because it was an Apple product, if he needed any warranty work done, he'd have to send it away. My little corner of nowhere doesn't have an Apple store. I showed him the Samsung Galaxy S II, which was new at the time, and how it was faster, had a more durable screen, had better internet capabilities, etc etc.
He called his daughter over to see the Android device. That's when it all hit the fan. This kid started screaming at me "You're trying to trick my dad into getting me this loser phone so I'll be an outcast, you jerk"!
Needless to say, I may not have gotten the sale that day, but I did get the amusement of watching a 14 year-old-girl get dragged out of the store by security. I should note that her father profusely apologized to me and handed me a crisp $20 for my trouble.
38. Sit Down & Shut Uppeople in busPhoto by Mark Cook on Unsplash
Back in college, I use to ride the city bus to and from my apartment to campus. Pretty much everyone did. My bus would sometimes get crowded so all of the seats would fill up and people would stand. Anyway, this tiny girl gets on the bus carrying a large box. I was seated but gave up my seat to her because I tend to give up my seat to the elderly. Her behavior was appalling.
She took my seat without giving a thank you and said: "You only gave me your seat because you didn't want me to fall on you”. God, I hate people sometimes.
39. Blinded By The Light
I did an insane amount of work on an old couple's house and yard, for no payment, because they were too fragile, and their property was in bad shape. I worked most days after school and every Sunday for about two months painting, cleaning, removing trees and shrubs, repairing windows, rehanging doors, pulling up nasty carpet, and replacing plumbing fixtures that had rusted to the point of failure.
When I was done, they called me over. I thought I’d get a thank you—I was so wrong. They told me to pray for the great things God has done for them over the past two months. I walked out without saying anything.
Later, I was at my grandparent's house, where I lived at the time, acting all dejected. My great uncle, who was a priest, asked what was wrong. I explained. He said to me "People like that have been brainwashed from childhood to believe that all good things come directly from miracles or people acting as agents of god's will. All bad things are attributed to Satan. They feel you are the acting agent of the lord in this situation, don't take that as not being appreciated. They just don't know anything else”.
It made me feel a lot better but at the same time kind of sad for them.
40. Karma Strikes AgainFrozen Princess Anna dollPhoto by Sandra Gabriel on Unsplash
When I was very young, maybe six, my mother took us to her friends' house for New Years' Eve. We were pretty poor, and her friends were a lot better off. They had a beautiful house with marble counters, a piano, and all kinds of stuff. Her friend was gracious enough to give us kids small presents.
Mine was a gorgeous domino doll with porcelain hands, a porcelain face, and a silk outfit. I still cringe thinking about what I told her. I said I was too old for dolls. My poor mother must have been humiliated. I was banished to the playroom with the other kids, where I started feeling...not so well. By the time we went home, I felt awful and itchy.
I got chicken pox because I was rude.
41. Gone Fishin’
My 45-year-old sister who lives with my parents screamed and threw a temper tantrum like a four-year-old at my terminally ill father, whose only offense was accidentally waking her up at 6 am because he was getting ready to go fishing and made too much noise. She then made a veiled threat to my father ("I won't be around to bother you much longer") to try to make him feel like garbage.
To make things worse, she told me that she had taken a handful of pills when I went back inside to grab my hat. I just told her she was crazy, put on my hat, and we went fishing. When we came back and she was on the couch, still watching TV. I guess the pills didn't work.
42. Now That’s A Twista nintendo wii game system sitting on top of a wooden tablePhoto by Denise Jans on Unsplash
After getting close to $500 in gifts for Christmas, my sister tore down the tree, kicked other people's gifts, and started yelling and crying, because she didn't see a Wii among her presents. This was when they were really hard to find. Well, there was something that she didn’t realize—and it made her curl up in embarrassment when she found out.
We actually did get her a Wii, she just didn't get to it yet. I even had to take on a second-holiday job at an online gaming store to get it. She was a 24-year-old med student at the time.
43. Beggars Can’t Be Choosers
My father was a surgeon. He never turned a case down, and frequently did pro bono work. I worked in his office when I was a teen, filing insurance. One case was a woman who had a lump on her breast and no insurance. Because the lumpectomy was positive, he operated on her, avoiding a radical mastectomy. On the day of her follow-up, he had been called to the ER.
She then began to unleash her fury on him. She berated him to the staff for being so inconsiderate. When he came into the office, she saw him through the reception window, yelled at him for wasting her time, and told him she was going to go find another doctor—all in front of the other people in the waiting room and the nurses and staff. She also said she was reporting him to the medical board, which she did. They investigate every complaint.
Hers was that he was "curt" with her and rude. They spent his time on this investigation about a month later. She stormed out of the office and never returned. He absorbed every fee associated with the case and still didn't stop donating his services, which makes me proud to this day.
44. Never Enoughperson using laptop computer holding cardPhoto by rupixen.com on Unsplash
My brother is the worst. There was one exact quote that sent me over the edge. He told my mom: "What have you ever done for me? Raising my daughter doesn't count”! Say what? My mom is raising his six-year-old daughter even though she is over 50 and just wants to enjoy her older years since she dedicated so much of her life and time to us.
She willingly offered her home to this little girl with a MAJOR expensive time consuming medical condition so she could have a stable happy home. She constantly goes to the opposite side of town, brings him to her house—a total of 1 hour 30 minutes of driving—so he can help her around the house, and then he demands payment. He gets mad every time she won't give him money.
He does not have a driver’s license and he screamed at her for two hours because she wouldn't let him borrow money to buy a car. I have yet to see him pay back any "borrowed" money. My grandmother just bought him top and bottom dentures because he messed up his teeth so bad they all had to be pulled and he got mad because she won't pay for implants instead of dentures.
That’s not even the worst part. I still am not sure how, but a scam check in the amount of $5,000 was sent to my dad's house. My dad graciously deposited the check into his bank account and withdrew the money (stupid bank). He gave it to my brother because they have the same name. SHOCKINGLY, the check bounced and the bank started accusing my dad of fraud.
My grandparents had to pay off the bank so they wouldn't press charges. When they attempted to talk to my brother about a payment plan to pay them back he threatened their lives and now can't understand why my dad's side of the family can't stand him. He was never stupid enough to try it on me—except once. Luckily his best friend is also a friend of mine. I still don't know why she sticks around, he isn't good to her either.
She warned me before he got too far into the scam and ever since then I refuse to provide him with money or anything else. He constantly says I am a jerk and I never help him, but when my mom needs a babysitter for his kid, who is there every time? Even though I have to rearrange my whole schedule at work, I have to get up earlier and stay up later to ensure that she has everything she needs.
I do it for him, I do it for her, and I do it for my mom. But evidently, his daughter doesn't count.
45. You Can’t Take It With You
I have an acquaintance who is 50ish. He’s threatening to take his parents, who are in their '80s, to court because they're five-star larking around the world and he's terrified that there won't be anything significant left to inherit. He's been living his life based on the assumption that he'll be getting a 7 figure payout when his parents kick. So his retirement depends on getting their money.
How did he react to the news that they were getting a reverse mortgage on the house? Full-on screaming hissy fit. Dying (almost) broke = doing it right in my opinion.
46. Where We’re Going, We Don’t Need Cartoonsblack coupe parked on parking lot during daytimePhoto by Mohamed Osama on Unsplash
When I was a kid, I was home sick from school one day. My mom told me she'd go rent a movie for me to watch. Expecting a cartoon, I got really excited since I loved cartoons, and back then they were seldom on TV. She came home and had brought a live-action film. I was so disappointed I cried and yelled for a while, and said I didn't want to watch it. I would soon eat those very words.
She was like "Fine, I'll watch it on my own”! When she started watching it I pretended not to watch, but I couldn't help not watching it. It turned out it was the best movie I had ever seen. It made me both appreciate live-action films and convinced me my mom always knew what was best for me. The movie was Back to the Future.
47. From A Fuss Over Nothing To Nothing To Fuss Over
My mother's friend threw his daughter a birthday party. This was a fairly affluent family, so she got a big party with all of her friends, and this girl got a lot of nice stuff. She got dolls, a dollhouse, various toys, a freaking horse with all of the riding gear, and the promise of lessons and everything she could ever need for the horse.
This brat got what millions of little girls all over the country dream of, and you know what she did? She flipped her lid because it was the wrong dollhouse. She got a horse and she threw a huge screaming temper tantrum over the (enormous) dollhouse.
Now, I shall digress a bit and tell you about her father. Her dad came from Africa to the US as a refugee, and most of his friends and family were killed. This guy competed in the Olympics and worked so hard to become a doctor. As one might expect, this guy did not take kindly to his daughter's obvious lack of appreciation for her privileged lifestyle so he cut that stuff right out. He made sure she got what she deserved.
He canceled the party right then. The guests still got to eat cake and keep their party favors, but he packed up all the toys and took them back to the store, He even took the horse back and grounded the heck out of his spoiled kid.
48. That Act Of Kindness Fell Flatred mercedes benz c classPhoto by Denny Müller on Unsplash
I saw this woman on the side of the road who had a flat tire and was clearly having issues changing it. So I decided to halt my run and go see if I could help out. I strolled over and offered my services to her—she accepted, but she backed away a pretty far distance. I proceeded to change her tire and helped get her on her way.
As soon as I finished, I proceeded to extend my arm for a handshake. Her reaction was chilling. She said, "Back away, I have 9-1-1 on my phone right now and all I have to do is press call”. I don't know if she thought I was going to attack her or something, but you don't just do that to someone who just helped you change your tire. Flabbergasted, I ran away and I haven't seen that woman since.
I don't understand what she may have been through in the past, but if it was that uncomfortable for her to accept help from a stranger, then she should have just thanked me for offering but still graciously declined. Instead, she accepted my help and then threatened to call 9-1-1 on me.
49. Scarred For Life
I was visiting friends at their farm years ago. I was with my friend from high school, his wife, and their daughter who was about 16. The daughter was out saddling her horse when the horse kicked her in the chest. The aftermath was brutal—it collapsed her throat and she couldn’t breathe. I performed an emergency tracheotomy saving her life. Well, about two months later, I got a letter from a lawyer.
They changed their mind about how grateful they were and decided to sue me for leaving a scar from the tracheotomy.
50. Code Redorange parrotPhoto by Kevin Mueller on Unsplash
I work at a pet store. A few months ago, we had a scarlet macaw up for sale. I was weighing her in the front of the store since we have to track their growth when we get them.
A little kid and her grandfather came into the store while I was doing this. The little girl, who looked about 10 years old—as in, old enough to know better—RAN towards the bird.
That was already not good, but it got even worse. It took me a good 10 minutes to coax the poor bird out of her cage to get her weighed. She was a very timid bird, and she was slow to trust people. Anyway, the little girl was running at me, while I had a very large bird on my arm, and she ended up spooking the bird. It jumped off of my arm and luckily landed on the register counter where there was also a scale, thankfully.
As politely as I could, I asked the girl to please take a few steps back because the bird was very afraid. I told her she could watch, but she needed to keep her distance. She was okay with that for about 10 seconds. After I weighed the bird, I got her to step back up onto my arm and I told the little girl I had to take her back to her cage now and give her some treats for being a good bird.
This did not go over well. The little girl followed me back to the cage and kept asking if she could pet the bird. In case you don't know much about birds, scarlet macaws have VERY large and VERY strong beaks. If they feel threatened enough, they will defend themselves with that beak, and I have no doubt that they could easily take a finger off if they wanted to.
So she asked if she could pet it. I told her no, I'm sorry, but she doesn't like strangers touching her, and she might try to bite you, I don't want you to get hurt. Wrong thing to say, apparently. "I WANNA PET THE BIRD!!! LET ME PET IT! LET ME PET THE BIRD”! She started throwing a temper tantrum, and I just ignored her at this point, since the macaw was starting to bite ME on the arm. I still have bruises from this.
I just wanted to get her in the cage and get the girl as far away as possible. And the whole time, her grandfather was just standing there watching. He didn't say anything; he just let her carry on. So I got the bird back into the cage, and she was now on the other side, sticking her fingers in. Again, I asked her to back up, since the bird could lunge and bite her very easily. So she backs up.
Thank God, I was thinking to myself. Maybe she'll go look at the hamsters or something else now. Nope. She went up to her grandfather and literally screamed at him, "BUY ME THAT BIRD! I WANT THAT BIRD! BUY IT FOR ME”! He just looked at me and asked how much it was. My jaw nearly dropped to the floor.
First off, I told him the bird was $2,000. Plus the cost of the cage, plus food, substrate, etc. Second, I told him they can live quite a long time. On average in captivity, they can get up to 50 years old, and sometimes longer. This bird was not something you buy just because a 10-year-old girl demanded it.
I actually had to stand there and talk him out of buying this bird for about 10 minutes. At least I could figure out where this girl got her attitude from. He was about to buy a screaming 10-year-old a $2,000 bird without a second thought. Good lord. I lost some of my faith in humanity that day. Luckily, they walked out of the store after that, though she did not leave quietly. She was kicking and screaming the whole way out of the store. I haven't seen them since.
Times are tough.
Money is tight.
Inflation has hit the pockets hard.
When funds are scarce, sacrifices must get made.
Lucky people get to skimp on luxuries.
While some people have to ration medicine.
Redditor iaskureply wanted to hear about all the things people are choosing to drop thanks to world financial issues, so they asked:
"What have you given up because of inflation?"
I drink at home.
Did you know that the cost of a decent bottle can match the cost of a single drink?
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"Not too much! Mostly just my future."
"Right, I was going to say hope."
Time to stay in...
"Buying a home."
"Not just this. But moving out entirely. I’m 24 and renting would take up well over half of my monthly income. Plus the cost of utilities, I’d be broke before I’d even got round to buying food."
"If you are good where you are, I wouldn't stress about moving out. This is a lot of people's reality these days. No use working yourself crazy to be broke and struggling for the sake of moving out 'just because.'"
"Pre-tipping. What if it's all f**ked up when I finally get my food?"
"I've stopped that crap, give zero if it's fast food style - like order at the counter and pick up at counter or drive-thru. Even beers at outdoor events where it's overpriced. I'm paying for a $10 Coors light at a counter, therefore I'm assuming the bartenders are paid very well, no tip."
"How about the airport bars now you have to order through the app, no talking to the bartender. They just bring it to you, once you order and pay through the app. I'm not giving you a tip to pour an overpriced beer and turn around take 2 steps and set it on the counter. Sh**s getting ridiculous."
Bye Bye Baby
"Any hopes and dreams of a family? I don't think I'll ever be comfortable enough for children."
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"Concerts for the most part. The rising costs of touring for bands made ticket prices go insane. Now instead of catching a good lineup, my attitude has become, 'I've seen all these bands before, I can skip this," instead."
Concert prices are OUTRAGEOUS!!!
Like, who is coming up with these prices?!
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"Food in general. I am currently eating less than $3 a day. Sometimes all I eat is a pack of Mr. Noodles for 49 cents."
"Reach out to a food bank! No one should be eating only one meal a day. So much food is being thrown out. Search some places near you."
"I’ve really just given up on dining out and getting delivery in general aside from the rare occasion. Tips and delivery and service fees and massively increasing menu prices… pass. Fast food is the most hilarious to me. I can’t believe people are still paying that much for that awful garbage."
"For $8, I can make a pot of cheap, healthy food and then freeze the leftovers and eat it five more times over the next few weeks. My wallet and my health thank me. And cooking is fun."
"Netflix, clothes shopping, and occasional food delivery services."
"I’ve given u ok food delivery, completely. And even takeout. Every time I do I’m let down by the quality. A couple of weeks ago, for the first time in a while, I picked up a pizza. Spent $30 and it left me wishing I would have gotten one from the frozen section of the grocery."
Less fancy grinds...
"Buying coffee. It was a waste of money 5 years ago or so but it wasn't that bad. These days it's $4-$5 dollars just for a basic one, which adds up pretty quickly. If you want anything fancy it's pushing $7-$8. Office coffee for me these days."
"For $500 you can get a solid espresso machine and grinder. Then most syrups you can make at home for a fraction of the price. Even vanilla extract is super cheap when homemade. Then you just need beans, which Amazon has their own brand that regularly goes on sale for very cheap."
"If that's too much for $10 you can get a nut milk bag and take coarse ground coffee, and soak 1 lb of coffee beans in 1 gallon of water for 18 hours at room temperature. Squeeze the bag out and remove it and you got a quality cold brew that can be used to make a lot of iced drinks similar to an espresso machine. The one trick I would recommend is not using cow's milk for flavored iced coffee. Most people seem to prefer oat milk."
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"I buy a lot of house-brand stuff at the grocery now. I don't eat out much anymore either."
That is a lot to give up.
But we have to do what is necessary.
All pennies add up.
Do you have any savings hacks? Let us know in the comments below.
As zombies and zombie apocalypses have become increasingly popular entertainment concepts, people have entertained the idea of what they would do if a zombie apocalypse would occur.
The truth of the matter is that nowhere near as many people who imagine themselves as being one of the leaders in the aftermath would even survive.
But there are countless other details most of us have never pondered if this were to become our reality.
Redditor bettercallme_ asked:
"What's something people don't really think about during a zombie apocalypse?"
All About Perspective
"Their credit score probably doesn't seem important any more."
Those Darn Telemarketers
"Your work will still ask if you're available to come in. Tom just got bit yesterday and we don't have anyone to cover his shift."
"The banks still want their quarterly fees."
"Your gym will be calling you within the week."
"I want to see a movie with a zombie trying to knock on the door, and when nobody answers, he puts a business card in the crack of the door."
"The card says, 'I've been trying to get ahold of you about your car's extended warranty.'"
What Kind of Zombie?
"Most of us will be zombies and if they are slow zombies, it is very likely most survivors will be killed by fighting other survivors for supplies/resources."
"Zombie humans don't even worry me. Humans are completely useless without their brains. If it wasn't just humans and we had Zombie bears or Zombie dogs, then it gets real and I am concerned."
"There won't be an easy access weather app/website."
"Any weather beyond a day away will be unpredictable. Rain, snowstorms, tornados, hurricanes, cold snaps, heatwaves, your ability to know what's coming will be drastically reduced."
Risks of Childbirth
"The dangers of any possible childbirth."
"The most I've seen on any show was something like, 'Oh no, she died,' and 'She lived and was up and running to kill zombies soon after,' with very little in-between that I can remember."
"If the zombie eats people, the tissue and muscle and organs, then they are leaving behind skeletons, or at best, severely damaged and incomplete corpses. So there couldn’t be many 'new' zombies, just more skeletons. It wouldn’t be that bad, really."
"If zombies move, they need energy. So they can starve. Shouldn't take too long before they've used up all easily accessible sources of food and either starve or eat each other."
Natural Biological Progression
"Move to a hot and humid climate (like Florida, Georgia, or Alabama)."
"The wild animals and especially the maggots will reduce all undead to skeletons in a matter of months."
"Also, buzzards love the smell and taste of rotting flesh."
The Lack of Restroom Etiquette
"Zombies eat so they will eventually defecate. Most portrayals depict mindless automatons that likely wouldn't know to disrobe when going number two, so they would eventually be walking around with poop-stuffed pants and underwear."
"You'll eventually have to poop."
"There is no comfortable poop ritual here. There are no 'man poops' where you get to hide in the bathroom for a f**king hour."
"There are no snacks and there is no scrolling TikTok."
The Need for Full Body Scans
"Realistically, people that get bitten and hide it from their group then turn when they are asleep or somesuch thing."
"Incorporate full-body searches after contact."
"100% full strip down and inspection of anyone living showing up at gates, even if just returning from a scouting run."
"That being said, probs not very interesting for tv/movies, and just checking arms and legs, or quarantining, waiting out the turn-timer works okay as a visual substitute."
"The number of times an arm and leg search was done and a bite would get missed would always have me yelling at the TV, haha. Seriously, disarm and strip."
"If we really go 'every man for himself,' we’ll all f**king die. Not even ancient humans did that s**t."
"We’d have to all come together in our towns and cities in order to make it. I think people in third world countries will probably survive, first world people will lose their s**t and kill each other off one by one."
Lack of Medical Provisions
"Glasses, break those you're never getting a new pair, most people are just useless after that."
"Past that, cigarettes, pharmaceutical drugs, and alcohol not being readily available."
"How f**ked we're gonna be when we run out of basic medicine, do you know how to make penicillin? No? Enjoy dying from the same s**t medieval peasants died from."
"People with chronic diseases dying from lack of meds after a few weeks or months. Diabetics, for example, that rely on insulin or metformin. I'm type two, not sure how long I'd last without metformin and a variety of food choices that allow me to eat and keep my blood sugar in control. Months? A couple of years?"
An Imbalanced Ecosystem
"Being overrun with rodents. With no predators, the rats and mice will breed uncontrolled in the grocery stores. The produce will all rot and attract insects. Food in boxes or plastic packaging will be chewed open. Within a few weeks, the food that will still be viable will all be canned."
"Then after a few generations of rodents, the cats, coyotes, and higher order predators will begin to breed like crazy, because they now have no controls and an ever-expanding food source."
"No one ever thinks to loot a scuba store for shark proof chain mail suits."
"Someone needs to remember to bring a can opener."
"Drinking water. All lakes and rivers are possibly infected during the apocalypse. How long can humans live without drinking water."
Think About the Children
"My kids can't be quiet for ten seconds. We'd be dead within a week."
"My nephew is especially autistic and basically screamed and cried at ear-crackling decibels for the first ten or so years. I once remarked that if there were zombies, or anything hunting us, he'd get us killed immediately."
"My 14-year-old loves the zombie genre. Her one-year-old sister was teething and bawling last week, and she turned around and said, 'I'm sorry Mom, but if a zombie apocalypse happens, I think we have to leave you and my two youngest sisters at home. They're gonna get us killed!'"
"Fair enough, lol."
More Harm to Nature
"Lots of people are gonna try and go to the woods and start building fires whic will inevitably get out of hand causing wildfires."
"Or more likely, they will start to run out of food, a lot of people think that you and some other hundreds (or thousands) can survive in the middle of the forest with no much effort, just picking berries and catching rabbits."
"In a scenario like that, they will quickly find out why farming was the biggest thing happening 10,000 years ago and why our society leveled so many forests for more farmland."
"In fact, the book of 'World War Z' has a chapter about that, a lot of Canadian families drive to the north to hide in the woods, and everything is nice and chill for like two weeks, then, people start to run out of food..."
It's obvious that there's potentially much more to this genre than has been covered in movies, TV shows, and books.
Science fiction and dystopian writers should take notes and start working on the next great zombie novel!
We've all heard the phrase, "to each their own," and one place this concept really applies is in relationships, what the couple's goals are, what they like to do, and what they dream of doing as a profession.
They also know what they don't want, including which careers would ultimately be a deal breaker if their partner were to suddenly start working in that profession.
Redditor abigbearofaman asked:
"Women of Reddit, what job would a man have that would be an automatic deal breaker for you?"
"A surgeon. A lot of the times they're on the clock 24 hours per day, seven days per week, and that's just too much to handle."
"I dumped a surgeon this year. He was a nice guy. But our plans were always canceled. My last straw was when we had a late-night date, we had sex at his place, then he immediately got up and started to get dressed."
"He was working in 30 minutes and he hadn't told me. Just f**k and run. It was the first (and only) time we had sex without condoms, too."
"I went home and ended things the next day. I realized I didn't want to live that way."
Chefs and Bartenders
"I’m a chef and I get it 100%."
"It takes a special person to be able to put up with the amount of time I’m not around. The group I work for is opening a new restaurant where I’m an owner, and that really ratcheted up the workload. It’s all in hopes of a better life on the other side in a few years."
"I make fantastic money for what I do, but it’s all about what will be and not what is at the moment."
"I do love my job and the people I’m around every day really add to my gratification. My now business partners are all successful industry people who are awesome to talk to about making it and that light at the end of the tunnel. They genuinely want everyone to be happy and successful and pay their employees fairly which is a rarity in this industry."
"However, the grind is real. I pray to be successful to allow myself a life I never thought I could have, and I’m more than halfway there."
"A side note would be that I am also the only chef in my group that is sober and actively takes care of themself and works out. Most I know allow alcohol to consume them and get stuck in this cycle of abuse and anxiety. It’s not an easy profession and it is less conducive than most careers when it comes to maintaining a healthy lifestyle."
"I'm glad to see Chef on the list. You can add Bartender to that list, as well."
"I have to semi-disagree on the chef. Don't date a WORKING chef. He's going to be in a s**tty mood after cooking all day for other people, and you'll either be cooking yourself or ordering out a lot because he damn sure won't want to cook at home."
"HOWEVER, I married a FORMER chef, as in he hasn't worked in a restaurant in years, and he does all the cooking in the house because he wants to,"
"Ladies, find yourself a Truck Driver. We make the best partner. You miss us, we come back, we start to annoy you when we are home, and we leave again."
"I don't know, man... the amount of truck drivers I see on Grindr that are just passing through makes me skeptical."
"I can’t be away from my partner for too long."
An Active Soldier
"An army soldier who is active on the ground or could be deployed any time."
"I’d be terrified of losing the man I love to the horror of war. I’d rather be alone. It is his decision to give up his life or sanity for war, but I just can’t be a partner and potential caregiver to someone like that."
"I already lost a happy childhood. I can’t sacrifice anymore."
"First responders (particularly police officers). That’s a boatload of trauma I’m not prepared to deal with (having dated someone with really bad PTSD on top of my own trauma, it really made things worse for my mental health)."
"Every time I’ve matched with one of them on Tinder, the following conversation gave me weird as f**k vibes."
"It takes a certain type of person to be a partner for someone in those professions, and that's not me."
"I’m a lawyer, and I’ve told my sister to avoid lawyers. Yes, people might hate lawyers, but so do we."
Social Media Influencers
"Man who likes men here but: SOCIAL MEDIA INFLUENCER."
"Dating an influencer makes you a cameraman."
"I think I wouldn't mind handling the camera or the technical side of streaming and lighting. But I still don't think I'd want to spend that much time with an influencer."
"I went on ONE date with one. Never again. She documented the entire date and her personality while on camera was different than on so it was like being on a date with two people at the same time."
Specifically TikTok Influencers
"TikToker. They are just so incredibly NPC (Non-Player Characters)."
"I matched with one on Tinder once. He was a huge a**hole, and when I turned down his offer to hook up, he said, 'Do you know who I am?!' and went on this huge spiel about how famous he was."
"No real juicy story here. We just had super different lives and almost no common points of reference. He dropped out of high school to join the circus (yes, really) and I went to college, grad school, then worked at universities so he had basically no understanding of what my life was like."
"He also had some weird habits and fixations, he took on new hobbies not because he was genuinely interested but because he thought they made him interesting. Very much a drive to get attention. He viewed all animals as tools rather than pets and had a real disdain for horses after working with them."
"He was nearly 30 when we met and was living in an apartment for the first time ever because he'd been on the road for his entire adulthood. We just had extremely different lives and it was novel at first but then it wasn't."
Real Estate Agent
"Real Estate agent. Never again."
"I worked in sales for a number of years, and the number of ultra-competitive d-bags it attracts is unreal. I've always wondered if real estate isn't similar. Based on the presentation of some realtors, it looks worse, way, way worse."
"As a guy who dated a woman realtor. Yep, never again. In sales, you have to get used to white lies. That permeates into the relationship. Also, if they are dedicated to their job. That means they are never off."
"You want a nice dinner with them but a lead call comes in. Guess what's happening. Yep, they are taking the lead call. You end up playing second fiddle to their job."
"Personally, I wouldn't want to date anyone famous. Especially if they're someone who gets swarmed by fans."
"Anyone famous or public facing (actor, politician) because no matter how much you try to keep yourself private, you will be talked about in media. There are a few celebrity couples who have been pretty successful at drawing those lines (Dolly Parton and Carl Dean) but even the strongest lines are blurry to some degree."
"A life coach."
"Never again. I dated a former life coach and he'd say the most mundane s**t (or insights I'd already had, but phrased differently) and expect me to shower him with thanks and praise."
"By the time I left, he was trying to start an MLM (Multi-Level Marketing). Glad to be out of that one."
"It was rare for me to thank him when he exhibited this behavior. At one point, I remember looking at him silently after he said something obvious and he said, 'YOU'RE WELCOME.' Or he'd talk about how people go through their whole lives without knowing the earth-shattering (not) things he was telling me."
"I typically wasn't looking for advice anyway, but he just couldn't let go of thinking he had the (overly simplified) solutions to everyone's problems."
"Tradeshow sales, drop shipping. My friend does this and I've worked with him before. Everyone is on something, everyone spends the day lying, and no one minds scamming people. Your coworkers are always stealing and sleeping around. It's all so scummy."
"I would be fine dating someone who created their product, sold handmade goods or food. I would be fine with someone who was part of the entertainment at fairs, but not someone in the drop shipping side."
"Something religious. I'm an atheist, happy to be one, and have no interest in becoming an ex-atheist."
"I'm an Atheist, and I was once casually seeing a religious guy who eventually told me that it was his 'mission from god' to bring me back to the church."
"That was the last night we ever spoke."
No Job At All
"A lack of a job and zero desire to get one is a deal breaker for me."
"He could be 10/10 smoking hot but if he refuses to work and just sits on his a** all day playing video games and drinking, I’m out. A guy doesn’t have to make $60 an hour, but I’m in my 30’s. I need someone who has a job and is financially responsible. I’m not looking to be anyone’s sugar momma."
"I’m not talking about disabled people (legitimate reason to not work), people trying to find a job (I think we can all relate), or successful video game streamers. I’m talking about able-bodied guys who can work but refuse to even get even a part-time job out of pure laziness."
"I dated a guy like this once. We shared an apartment. I was working two jobs at the time, while he worked part-time but would call in for the stupidest reasons. 'I’m too tired.' 'My car won’t make it through the snow' (when there was 0.1' of snow on the ground)."
"He didn’t contribute, didn’t try to better himself, and he was content being a lazy sack of s**t. I left him. Now I’m doing great and he still depends on others to pay all his bills and expenses."
It's pretty clear why most of these are on the list after the Redditors explained their reasoning. A common occurrence is thinking a job sounds impressive, like being a Surgeon, without realizing what home life would be like with that person, leading ultimately to unhappiness.