People Share The Real Reason They Cut A Friend Out Of Their Life For Good

When you gotta go, you go.

That should be a mantra for getting rid of the toxic people in our lives.

Not every relationship is meant to last forever.

Some people don't know how to be friends.

They are awfully good at pretending though.

Be vigilant of the signs and red flags.

Toxic people are crafty.

And once you're free, never look back.


Redditor _ReDd1T_UsEr wanted to discuss the reasons why many of us decided to cut some people out of our lives, so they asked:

"What was the reason why your friendship ended with someone?"

Sometimes a person just has to go.

Planning Stages

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"I stopped being the first to always initiate plans, and that was that."

Witty-Surround-6541

"I once asked a friend to plan our next breakfast + walk outing, since I always did that. He wrote me a letter ending the friendship. Stunning!"

fermat9996

Pants on Fire

"Habitual lying became too annoying and disruptive to tolerate."

Hosscatticus_Dad523

"When you constantly are thinking... this math ain't matching lol. People that lie all the time make me sick. I've told multiple friends that you don't have to lie to me."

"I feel so much better when someone can trust me and feel comfortable telling me a hard truth than an easy lie."

"Even if the truth made me feel some type of way, I'm still glad it was honest. I've even said thank you to people in the past that have been honest with me, good or bad! Some people just can not help lying about things. I wouldn't be able to ever keep a story straight if I did that."

__eden_

Bad Behavior

"He kept having kids with different girls and bailing on them. Coming from a 'went out for a pack of smokes' Dad myself, I just couldn't watch it anymore. Bailed after the third one. Think he's up to 6 now."

KingGuy420

"Reminds me of one of my ex-friends. She kept having kids with MULTIPLE guys (all of them were one-night stands), I don't think she even knows who the baby daddies are."

"She also kept begging me and people for money for pot, and she also bragged about having OnlyFans. She'd also make up stories about being in an abusive relationship with her boyfriend (she'd also cheat on him/tell people her and him they broke up, which they weren't)."

wisconsinking

Reasons

"I was a bad person and they ended it for perfectly sensible reasons. I would have done the same. I've changed, but I don't blame them for not reconsidering contact."

tabletopsidekick

"I’ve been there. I was a bad person and lost friendships and family relationships. I tried to apologize to everyone I hurt."

PDXGalMeow

"I also accepted that they don’t want me in their lives anymore. I learned that I made my mistakes, I learned from them, and I accept their choices. I don’t self-hate anymore and I try to be a better person in general. I hope you are doing well and practicing self-love and forgiveness."

PDXGalMeow

Money Issues

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"I lent them $20 and then they avoided me so they didn’t have to pay me back. Worth the $20."

BuickAssault

"I don't ever expect prompt returns of small amounts of money between my friends... we all buy each other rounds or buy the food for the BBQ or whatever. It ends up evening out over time I think we'd notice though if someone was always taking and never giving and then they'd probably get cut off too."

Badloss

In the immortal words of Cyndi Lauper... "Money Changes Everything."

Lack of Support

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"She joined a pyramid scheme selling butt-ugly leggings and it took over her whole life. When I finally told her it was negatively affecting our friendship, she accused me of not supporting her 'business.'"

LeftandLeaving9006

Oh Driver

"I was basically a taxi for my friends so I dumped them all."

Bullfrog_Little

"This one I can understand but depends on the situation. Not all of my friends had cars in high school, so our group needed to have me and my sh*tty '94 Plymouth Sundance come, or they couldn't do anything. I didn't mind at all then, but I definitely would these days."

Hoopajoops

"I remember I used to drive around with my buddies all the time before they had licenses. When one of my friends got his and a car I said sweet now you can drive me around for a bit, he replied that he wasn't gonna waste his money on gas like that. See ya, haven't really spoken to him since."

DontcallmeShirley_82

2063

"How's this for oddly specific: Friend since 1980, was hanging out at a bar in 1992 and there was a dispute of over a $15.00 bar tab. I was in the right, but whatever - he held a grudge for years."

"Ran into him in 2017 and we were both too old to care. Started to see each other now and then. 2023 and we're at this local bar for a show and got into a fight about $15.00 a ticket."

"Maybe he'll call me in 2063."

The68Guns

Exhausting

"She was a taker, constantly. When I needed something she made it about her yet again. Exhausting to be around."

LordyIHopeThereIsPie

"I'm going through this right now. Can't tell you how many texts I have from her in the past few days telling me that I need to get over myself, need to stop making myself the victim, have been a terrible friend, have never been there for her."

"She's the most narcissistic person I know and everyone does everything for her. She has one of the easiest lives ever and anytime anything bad happens to her she believes that everyone is against her and she's the victim here. It's pure insanity. There is no talking sense to people like this."

cheeseburgerwaffles

Life Changes

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"I've lost like all but two of my 'friends' because I stopped drinking and doing hard drugs."

ConcertTerrible8877

"Same here dude. My circle is small but hey at least it's a circle I know I can go to."

Miss_mayonnaise

Oh, how things change when the booze dries up.

How much fun were you really having?

Do you have any stories about cutting off a friend? Let us know in the comments below.

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