People Explain How A Crush's Behavior Completely Destroyed Their Infatuation With Them

People are fickle.

Changing our minds about attraction is part of our DNA.

But sometimes following the fickle feeling is the way to go.

And that is ok.

You can be in total lust and love but if the person you're fond of kicks a puppy... kick them and run.

Some behavior is unacceptable.


Redditor JackHasSmellySocks wanted to hear about the times we've had a change or heart or lust, so they asked:

"What did your crush do that completely ruined your infatuation for them?"

I'm easily turned off, so my list could be long.

Listen

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"Not listening whenever I would share a hobby of mine but insisting me into listening to theirs."

GuzzDoritos

"Currently dealing with this with my partner."

bobsandgobs

Terrifying

"We had been going out for a few weeks and on the way home from a party, we went to get McDonalds and he paid for me. I have an allergy and they got my order wrong. I asked and it wasn't a problem, they made me a new burger and told me to keep the incorrect one as they couldn't resell it."

"I offered it to him, he didn't want it so I said I would just bring it home to give to my housemate so it wouldn't go to waste. He was completely fine with this. Then a homeless guy came in and started asking at the tables for change. I offered him the burger and he took it."

"My date went crazy at me for giving away the burger that he had paid for (even though he was okay with me giving it to my housemate?) and followed the homeless man, shouting at him to give it back. Then got the guy kicked out of the restaurant."

"It was terrifying. He went from easy-going and charming to furious in a split second. Then when he sat down again, he acted like everything was normal and asked me if I wanted to go home with him! It was a side of him I hadn't seen before. I'm glad he showed his true colors early."

CalmDream0

Tears

"This girl I had a crush on early on in high school told me that she recently broke up with her last BF because his dad passed away suddenly, and, as she put it, 'wouldn’t stop being depressed and a f**king crybaby about it.' I didn’t talk to her much again after she said that."

FuzzMcBeefy84

Evil

"Participated in the murder of a homeless man. He and a group of his feckless friends cornered a homeless man and bludgeoned him to death, apparently for no reason at all. And they were caught almost immediately, because there were a couple of witnesses out of sight and a camera."

bearded_dragon_34

Creep

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"Tried to pour vodka into my drink when I wasn't looking."

Fylak

"Same thing happened to me! Too bad the guy was an idiot and didn't get very far after that."

ArcticFox46

Well that is a Dateline episode waiting to happen.

Gross

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"Told me that the reason she hung around me was to get close to my very tall best friend. They dated for three weeks before he dumped her."

Eel_OBrian

On top of that...

"Ohhh. This post made me remember a really hurtful one. When I was 17 at my first year at uni I made friends with a girl in my year, it wasn't like instant crush but she was funny and I grew to like her. One day we were going home after classes together (turns out we lived pretty close to each other) chatting and joking."

"And at one moment she says: 'I really like talking to you just about anything, I would have jumped you right now if you weren't so ugly.' I was a really awkward teenager: severely underweight, skin problems and some other complexes. On top of that very introverted - so it outright killed my remained self-esteem."

"Thing is that she actually didn't realized effect of her words, it was like a passing comment to her and wasn't said with malicious intent. That fact actually made these words even more hurtful."

Haoross

'Everyone does it'

"We went somewhere and she and her friends pulled into all three handicapped parking spaces. There were plenty of other spots, but these were the closest. None of them were handicapped in any way. 'Everyone does it,' she said. No, no they do not."

ctdca

"If 'everyone does it,' then those spaces wouldn't have been open in the first place."

Princess_Moon_Butt

"Growing up with two disabled parents, I unfortunately can confirm there are a lot more people like her than you would think. There isn't always a disabled person needing that parking spot, but when you're disabled, there's always an a**hole who beat you to it."

softcockrock

It worked out OK

"She mentioned her last name. I recognized it. Haha. It's probably a good thing. Found out her grandmother was my grandfather's older sister. It worked out ok. We were on a double date sorta deal with her friend and my friend. We found that out pretty early in the night. We literally laughed our a**es off for 15 minutes, making jokes and traded dates. I ended up dating her friend for about 4 years."

New-Sir-4662

Trash

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"He littered. Just opened his car door and dropped out a McDonalds bag on the ground. That killed it right there."

WackyShirley

The Larry

"Turns out she had absolutely no filter. She took pride in 'saying what was on her mind,' which was kind of cute at first, until I realized that she literally meant it, every thought in her head spewed out of her mouth no matter who could hear it. Not a day went by where she didn't get into an argument with someone over some insensitive or insulting comment that she made. She was the female embodiment of Larry David in Curb Your Enthusiasm."

raxtich

These are all valid reasons to drop someone if we're being honest.

Has this ever happened to you over something small? Let us know in the comments below.

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