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Couples Who've Had Threesomes In A Committed Relationship Reveal How It Turned Out

Couples Who've Had Threesomes In A Committed Relationship Reveal How It Turned Out

Committed Couples Who've Had A Threesome Sound Off About How It Turned Out

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Love and commitment takes work. It's not as happily ever after as the movies like to portray it. One consistent issue in sustaining a long term love story is keeping the intimacy and the sex interesting. After awhile with the same old face one might feel as though the heat has fizzled. Certain adventure can be a risk but if everyone is on the same page... it's a risk worth exploring.

Redditor _airdnaxela_g expressed interest in salacious details regarding relationship adventures by asking People who have had a threesome with their partner, how did that turn out?

ONCE MORE WITH FEELING!

I think my boyfriend thought I was jealous after she left. So he had sex with me almost immediately after. That after threesome sex was the best I've ever had.

AT LEAST IT'S A SHOW.

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It was a little, hmm, crushing maybe? A hit to the ego?

The two girls seemed to enjoy it with each other more than anything else.

HOW MATTER OF FACT.

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Me and my g/f went out drinking one night, met a girl at the bar and she came back to my apartment for some more drinks. Had a threesome that was amazing, and the girl left when we were done. Talked to the g/f after and we both agreed it was a lot of fun and went to bed. Woke up the next day, talked about how much fun we had and after that it was never brought up again for the next year we dated.

AND THEN THERE WAS 1!

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It went okay. There were two no-shows, but I salvaged it.

CRYING?! THERE'S NO CRYING IN THREESOMES!

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Started out great. We had a female friend who we'd been flirting with for a while. She came over for dinner and a few drinks. The three of us started making out, clothes were coming off, hands were going everywhere, and then... My partner started crying. Threesome over. Friend went home, and we hugged and talked it out.

I LIKE BIG BUTTS AND I CANNOT LIE.

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The other girl had a bigger butt and I didn't even make it to my gf. My girlfriend watched me have sex with her friend. But her friend satisfied her. We are no longer together and its super awkward whenever i see either of them

TRIFLIN'!!

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It was very meh. My boyfriend at the time was really into the idea. We talked a girl we met at a party. Turns out, it was basically two straight girls with one dude, the girl and I weren't into each other at all. It's not like she was unattractive or anything, just am not into girls really, as it turns out.

My boyfriend then goes and keeps talking to her after the threesome, and when he tells me that we were going to do it again, I told him no, but then he said he had flirted with her too much to back out at this point, and it happened a second time. It really pissed me off that he didn't respect that no means no... one of the many reasons that he is now an ex.

Later the girl started texting him asking to have sex with just him...

WHY BOTHER THEN?

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For me, I feel like I couldn't really enjoy it because I was manipulated into it. He spend 3 years trying to convince me to do it. She wasn't all that into it either as it turns out.

JUST ARMS & LEGS EVERYWHERE!

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Not my partner but had a 3 some with my best friend and his girl. (MMF) a couple times and once I picked up a girl at the bar who was into it so we had a 4 some. Friend and his girl are still together and I'm in a relationship with a new girl now who's definitely not into it so we don't do it anymore and I don't push for it.

SEIZE THE DAY!

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Surprisingly well. My husband had a little crush on a coworker and would "jokingly" ask me for a threesome. I brushed it off for a while, and considered it just harmless office flirting. Then one night she babysat for us, and the joke was brought up again, and we just kinda went for it. I initially did it to fulfill his fantasy, but I was surprisingly into it and we all had enough fun to do it again a few weeks later. Before the encounter, I was starting to get a bit jealous of their flirtatious relationship, but here's the twist: it turns out, she actually had a crush on me! She wanted to make it a regular thing and wanted to hook up with me solo. Once I realized her intentions, I had to end it. "Breaking up" with her was a bit awkward, but we had fun while it lasted. No regrets.

SOMETIMES IT WORKS AND SOMETIMES NO.

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I had one partner that really took it hard after (it was her idea in the first place), and I had one that loved doing it on the regular. I was cool with it. Lots of fun times.

BE ON SOLID GROUND.

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My fiancee and i had a threesome. She ended up sticking around for over a year. It was fun while it lasted though. Including her, we had a five \some and a foursome. Still with the fiancee. Relationship between she and i is a bit rocky. Tends to happen when you involve emotions into the mix.

HOW POETIC...

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My girlfriend wanted a threesome

To that I readily agreed

Imagine my shock

When they forsake my "stuff"

And then kept going without me.

THE SECRETS TO FOREVER.

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I've done this several times and everything was good with all the ladies. And guys.

It's not for everyone, probably not for most people. But if you go into it with the right attitude and some understanding it can be enlightening, erotic, and fulfilling for everyone. The first time was my wife's (girlfriend at the time) idea. She had a very good friend who was having some trouble finding a useful partner for sexual purposes. She was also not interested in a long term relationship of any sort. Her career was just taking off and she worked long and irregular hours.

So, my wife offered me for some fun times. My wife and I were, and are, very open about things. But when she came home after a girls night out and said"I told Sherry she could bang you," I was a bit surprised.

The first several times were threesomes. Then Sherry would show up by herself. No issues at all. We're all still great friends. Sherry got married a couple years later and asked us to keep the secret. Her new husband was ultra religious and very conservative. We kept the secret and never was a word spoken.

This happened probably 5-7 times with different ladies. And I was reciprocal. If we met a guy she liked we did the same. That was much rarer. I suppose because she is really more into FFM than two guys. But we do have a guy she sees now, probably a couple times a month. And I still sometimes see the other ladies, whenever they are interested. I'm not as able lately, due to a spinal injury, but I try to help where I can.

It has been great. We've been married 20 years and neither of us has ever hinted at any sort of jealousy. We know we'll be together until the dirt falls on our caskets and, until then, everything is wide open. It's great for us, but I can certainly see where and why it might be a serious obstacle to many others. It takes a special kind of trust and the right people or you'll end up riding off a cliff into disaster.

HOW MATURE.

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My bf (now ex) and I invited another girl in, a few times. An acquaintance of his prior (they hadn't slept together previously though).

We all slept together a few times, I started catching the feels for her, she started getting the feels for him and we called it quits soon after that because we were all open about it and didn't want things to drastically change.

It was always just for fun and enjoyment and yeah, adults about it thankfully and good communication. The threesomes were hot as hell and still think about them at times!

BE IN THE MOMENT.

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Not a threesome, but a MFMF foursome. Twice. With the same couple.

The first time was incredible. The second time was just this past weekend and it was also pretty great but I'm a little in my head about it and sort feeling weirdly vulnerable and self-conscious about it now.

T.M.I !!

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Bad... alcohol and erectile dysfunction.

SEXY SECRETS BETWEEN FRIENDS.

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Pretty great. Happened quite often over the course of a couple years. We're still close friends with the other girl, who is now married.

SPREAD THE WEALTH?

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I got to disappoint 2 women instead of just one.

BE HONEST.

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I wanted to have one, and my ex said she did too.

Well, apparently she didn't, but was too afraid to say anything and eventually dumped me.

I'D RATHER ROAST BEEF & SWISS...

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It was okay. I started to think. " would anyone miss me if I wasn't here?" The other girl started to kick me and then I got bored. I ended up making a snack. It was just a sandwich. Turkey. With a little mustard.

People Reveal The Weirdest Thing About Themselves

Reddit user Isitjustmedownhere asked: 'Give an example; how weird are you really?'

Let's get one thing straight: no one is normal. We're all weird in our own ways, and that is actually normal.

Of course, that doesn't mean we don't all have that one strange trait or quirk that outweighs all the other weirdness we possess.

For me, it's the fact that I'm almost 30 years old, and I still have an imaginary friend. Her name is Sarah, she has red hair and green eyes, and I strongly believe that, since I lived in India when I created her and there were no actual people with red hair around, she was based on Daphne Blake from Scooby-Doo.

I also didn't know the name Sarah when I created her, so that came later. I know she's not really there, hence the term 'imaginary friend,' but she's kind of always been around. We all have conversations in our heads; mine are with Sarah. She keeps me on task and efficient.

My mom thinks I'm crazy that I still have an imaginary friend, and writing about her like this makes me think I may actually be crazy, but I don't mind. As I said, we're all weird, and we all have that one trait that outweighs all the other weirdness.

Redditors know this all too well and are eager to share their weird traits.

It all started when Redditor Isitjustmedownhere asked:

"Give an example; how weird are you really?"

Monsters Under My Bed

"My bed doesn't touch any wall."

"Edit: I guess i should clarify im not rich."

– Practical_Eye_3600

"Gosh the monsters can get you from any angle then."

– bikergirlr7

"At first I thought this was a flex on how big your bedroom is, but then I realized you're just a psycho 😁"

– zenOFiniquity8

Can You See Why?

"I bought one of those super-powerful fans to dry a basement carpet. Afterwards, I realized that it can point straight up and that it would be amazing to use on myself post-shower. Now I squeegee my body with my hands, step out of the shower and get blasted by a wide jet of room-temp air. I barely use my towel at all. Wife thinks I'm weird."

– KingBooRadley

Remember

"In 1990 when I was 8 years old and bored on a field trip, I saw a black Oldsmobile Cutlass driving down the street on a hot day to where you could see that mirage like distortion from the heat on the road. I took a “snapshot” by blinking my eyes and told myself “I wonder how long I can remember this image” ….well."

– AquamarineCheetah

"Even before smartphones, I always take "snapshots" by blinking my eyes hoping I'll remember every detail so I can draw it when I get home. Unfortunately, I may have taken so much snapshots that I can no longer remember every detail I want to draw."

"Makes me think my "memory is full.""

– Reasonable-Pirate902

Same, Same

"I have eaten the same lunch every day for the past 4 years and I'm not bored yet."

– OhhGoood

"How f**king big was this lunch when you started?"

– notmyrealnam3

Not Sure Who Was Weirder

"Had a line cook that worked for us for 6 months never said much. My sous chef once told him with no context, "Baw wit da baw daw bang daw bang diggy diggy." The guy smiled, left, and never came back."

– Frostygrunt

Imagination

"I pace around my house for hours listening to music imagining that I have done all the things I simply lack the brain capacity to do, or in some really bizarre scenarios, I can really get immersed in these imaginations sometimes I don't know if this is some form of schizophrenia or what."

– RandomSharinganUser

"I do the same exact thing, sometimes for hours. When I was young it would be a ridiculous amount of time and many years later it’s sort of trickled off into almost nothing (almost). It’s weird but I just thought it’s how my brain processes sh*t."

– Kolkeia

If Only

"Even as an adult I still think that if you are in a car that goes over a cliff; and right as you are about to hit the ground if you jump up you can avoid the damage and will land safely. I know I'm wrong. You shut up. I'm not crying."

– ShotCompetition2593

Pet Food

"As a kid I would snack on my dog's Milkbones."

– drummerskillit

"Haha, I have a clear memory of myself doing this as well. I was around 3 y/o. Needless to say no one was supervising me."

– Isitjustmedownhere

"When I was younger, one of my responsibilities was to feed the pet fish every day. Instead, I would hide under the futon in the spare bedroom and eat the fish food."

– -GateKeep-

My Favorite Subject

"I'm autistic and have always had a thing for insects. My neurotypical best friend and I used to hang out at this local bar to talk to girls, back in the late 90s. One time he claimed that my tendency to circle conversations back to insects was hurting my game. The next time we went to that bar (with a few other friends), he turned and said sternly "No talking about bugs. Or space, or statistics or other bullsh*t but mainly no bugs." I felt like he was losing his mind over nothing."

"It was summer, the bar had its windows open. Our group hit it off with a group of young ladies, We were all chatting and having a good time. I was talking to one of these girls, my buddy was behind her facing away from me talking to a few other people."

"A cloudless sulphur flies in and lands on little thing that holds coasters."

"Cue Jordan Peele sweating gif."

"The girl notices my tension, and asks if I am looking at the leaf. "Actually, that's a lepidoptera called..." I looked at the back of my friend's head, he wasn't looking, "I mean a butterfly..." I poked it and it spread its wings the girl says "oh that's a BUG?!" and I still remember my friend turning around slowly to look at me with chastisement. The ONE thing he told me not to do."

"I was 21, and was completely not aware that I already had a rep for being an oddball. It got worse from there."

– Phormicidae

*Teeth Chatter*

"I bite ice cream sometimes."

RedditbOiiiiiiiiii

"That's how I am with popsicles. My wife shudders every single time."

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Never Speak Of This

"I put ice in my milk."

– GTFOakaFOD

"You should keep that kind of thing to yourself. Even when asked."

– We-R-Doomed

"There's some disturbing sh*t in this thread, but this one takes the cake."

– RatonaMuffin

More Than Super Hearing

"I can hear the television while it's on mute."

– Tira13e

"What does it say to you, child?"

– Mama_Skip

Yikes!

"I put mustard on my omelettes."

– Deleted User

"Oh."

– NotCrustOr-filling

Evened Up

"Whenever I say a word and feel like I used a half of my mouth more than the other half, I have to even it out by saying the word again using the other half of my mouth more. If I don't do it correctly, that can go on forever until I feel it's ok."

"I do it silently so I don't creep people out."

– LesPaltaX

"That sounds like a symptom of OCD (I have it myself). Some people with OCD feel like certain actions have to be balanced (like counting or making sure physical movements are even). You should find a therapist who specializes in OCD, because they can help you."

– MoonlightKayla

I totally have the same need for things to be balanced! Guess I'm weird and a little OCD!

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Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.

Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?

But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.

It would be so great to be sure there is something else.

But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.

Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:

"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"

Sensations

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"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."

PeachesnPain

Recovery

"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."

"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."

"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."

good_golly99

Take Me Back

"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."

"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."

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Free

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"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."

TooReDTooHigh

This is why I hate surgery.

You just never know.

Shocked

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"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."

Admirable_Buyer6528

The SOB

"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."

"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”

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Colors

"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"

Hannah_LL7

"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"

huntokarrr

The Fog

"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."

"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."

Fluffy-Hotel-5184

Through the Walls

"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."

"She's quite alive and well today."

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Well let's all be happy to be alive.

It seems to be all we have.

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Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.

The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.

Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.

Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:

"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"

Redditors didn't see these coming.

Shiver Me Timbers

"I’m always cold now!"

– Telrom_1

"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."

– r7ndom

"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."

– mr_remy

Drawing Concern

"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."

– dee-fondy

"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"

"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."

– LizardofDeath

Unleashing Insults

"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”

"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."

– alanamablamaspama

Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight

"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."

– KeltarCentauri

"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."

– KatMagic1977

"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."

– Jaew96

These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.

Shopping

"I can buy clothes in any store I want."

– WaySavvyD

"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."

– ganache98012

No More Symptoms

"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."

– colleennicole93

Expanding Capabilities

"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."

– Ramblonius

People Change Their Tune

"How much nicer people are to you."

"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"

– LiZZygsu

"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"

"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"

– awholedamngarden

It's gonna take some getting used to.

Bones Everywhere

"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."

– Princess-Pancake-97

"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."

– bekastrange

Knee Pillow

"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."

– snic2030

"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."

– Strongbad23

More Mobility

"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."

"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."

– dma1965

People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.

But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.

That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.