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People Share The Most Common Mistakes That People In Their 20s Make

Your twenties are meant to be a fun time. It's the time you further your education, network, and make friends and lasting connections. Key words: meant to. Life doesn't often work that way. It's not that simple. In fact, this is the time when many people learn that life can be rather uncompromising. They spend a lot of time just trying to get and keep themselves together.

That's why people going through this transformative period need all the help and advice can get.

People were all too keen to share their thoughts after Redditor shaddow29925 asked the online community,

"What are some common mistakes people in their 20s should be aware of?"

"Damage can happen quickly..."

"Take care of your ears/hearing. Damage can happen quickly and it doesn't come back."

Si7team

This is a big one. Be careful at those loud concerts! Earplugs are your best friend.

"And what type..."

​"Thinking someone can save you or "fix" you mentally and emotionally. Other people can definitely help you. But you're the one in the driver's seat and you need to accept that and be willing to do better for yourself. Even if that's the hardest thing for you.

You control the speed. You get to hit the breaks. And it's your choices that steer the car. So what kind of destination are you searching for?

And what type of journey do you want? The quick route? The scenic route? Do you want to travel through the desert because the oasis is supposed to be stunning and life-changing? Do you listen to the advice of others foremost and just do a "top 10 locations," hoping that'll be fulfilling? Or do you prefer to just drive and see where life takes you?

You choose."

CatBot7

"Pay your bills on time..."

"Pay your bills on time, stay out of debt, and if you don't like your job: make plans to get out of it, or switch career paths.

If you can, seriously, shoot for a job that is practical (FOR YOU!) not for your parents, peers, or society, that you find doable, on a physical, mental, spiritual, and financial level that you see yourself doing for the long-term."

mytrustxf

Too many people waste time––and see their health spiral––by staying in jobs that are not right for them. If it's not right for you, get out. It's not worth compromising your health for a job.

"I'm not saying..."

"Once your teens are over, you'll be much less likely to be taking part in organized or casual sport. You'll find you're living a much more sedentary life in general. You're in charge of your own diet and lifestyle. It can be easy to let it all go. Staying fit is easier than getting fit, so build some good habits asap! When you hit 30 you'll really start to notice the difference between the friends that looked after themselves and those that didn't.

I'm not saying don't have fun, but remember to keep a good foundation of diet and exercise. Find what suits you and find more - you've got to keep it fresh.

If you can get into running, all the better. Whatever you're doing and wherever you are in the world, if you own a half decent pair of running shoes, there's a 30-minute workout waiting right outside your front door."

housemuncher

"Trust me."

"Brush your teeth, bro. Trust me. And use mouthwash, too. You'll save yourself a LOT of pain."

FrothyMoisture

Your teeth will betray you horribly if you don't take proper care of them! Excellent advice.

"Don't get me wrong."

"Not using protection. Don't get me wrong. I love my children, and after the initial surprise of me finding out I was pregnant, they were wanted. But looking back, things would be very very different if I had just made their dad wear a condom those nights."

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"You may be able to get away with..."

"Develop healthy eating and exercising habits NOW. You may be able to get away with cheeseburgers and a milkshake at one in the morning and remain trim in your twenties but trust me, it'll start catching up to you once you approach thirty and your metabolism slows down."

BudgetKey705

This is true: You're much more likely to live a sedentary lifestyle the older you get. It's best to fight that now. Get out there and exercise. It could add years to your life.

"It may seem like you're different..."

"Getting addicted to drugs or alcohol. It may seem like you're different, you can handle your booze or drugs, but the thing about addiction is that it creeps in. It fools your mind, you make justifications about how you're actually doing it of your free will and you can stop any time. By the time you realize you're addicted, you're pretty far gone. It's a lot harder to break an addiction than most people realize, it's hard to understand what it's like until you've experienced it."

remotetissuepaper

"The novelty of a new vehicle..."

"Don't buy a brand new car. The novelty of a new vehicle wears away fast. And you pay significantly more than buying used."

BurnsX-24

Many people need cars to get around; they're a necessity, not a luxury. But it makes sense to be sure you're making cost-effective decisions. Is that new car––and those high insurance payments––worth it? Definitely not.

"You can be with someone..."

"Staying in a relationship that you're not happy in.

You can be with someone for years and fall out of love, or learn more about them, or learn more about yourself, etc, and realize that the relationship isn't worth it. But I feel like a lot of young people (myself included in my last relationship) hold on for so long because they're scared of being alone, or they think that they're already too old to start over.

You have your whole life.

It's easier to start over when you're 23 in your college dorm than it is when you're 40 with a house and kids."

noteventitalian

The world can be a harsh and unforgiving place. It can also be really beautiful and fruitful. And it is even moreso when people are willing to offer their sage advice.

Do you have some advice for young folks that will pay dividends in the long run? Feel free to tell us about it in the comments below!

Ewww: People Break Down The Worst Food Sins They Can Imagine

Reddit user Shozo459 asked: 'What’s the worst food sin you can imagine?'

People sharing pizza
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When it comes to culinary mashups, nothing is as delectably perfect as a Reese's Peanut Butter Cup. Chocolate and peanut butter in one bite? Heavenly.

Other food combos are not as popular but have a strong contingent of fans like pineapple on pizza or even peanut butter and jelly sandwiches.

And then there are ones that are simply inexcusable.

Curious to hear examples of what foodies absolutely consider tastey bites, Redditor Shozo459 asked:

"What’s the worst food sin you can imagine?"

Trust the preparation.

That Is Soy Not Funny

"ketchup on sushi."

– BattleCatManic

I do believe you'd get your a** kicked for doing that."

– Mattress_Of_Needles

No Sauce Required

"Reminds me of this random sushi joint in osaka. Every pc had the wasabi inserted already. If the piece doesnt have a sauce (like eel), then its premarinated or salted. For normal fish, the chef brushes it with some kind of soy sauce blend."

"He reminded me that soy sauce would not be necessary almost every time he put a new piece on my plate. I asked what the soy sauce bottle is for then and he just shrugged."

"And we're talking about soy sauce not even ketchup."

– gabu87

Tough Meat

"Ok, not sushi, but. (I heard this from my kid....) My ex remarried to a southern woman who fancies herself to be a southern Belle. Instead, she's more of a Momma June. My ex cooked steaks for dinner one night. He will cook meat so it is BROWN straight through. Don't think about asking for it any way, but WELL DONE. In his world, any PINK in the beef means it's nearly raw.😳 So he cooked steaks for them. The wife starts eating and exclaims, 'This steak is soooo good it doesn't even need ketchup' My kid described the meat as being extremely tough and tasteless."

– stalagit68

That's just rude.

Expired Offer

"Eating my fries after I've asked you if you want me to buy you some."

– iggylevin

"So you've met my ex-wife? 'I'm fine' is a small fry and milkshake or frostee. And yes, she should use her words , but she won't, so you can choose to be right or to not have to sleep on the couch over fries and a milkshake."

– Jimmy_Twotone

Chili & Cinnamon

"Although it's not the worst sin imaginable, there's a weird regional dish where i live that involves pairing a bowl of chili with a cinnamon roll. Every potluck I've been to here has it. It's not for me but it's definitely unique."

– MayorOfVenice

Citrus Sin

"Orange juice flavored toothpaste and toothpaste flavored orange juice."

– shhjustwatch

"I gargle with orange juice after i brush my teeth. Power move. Show that plaque who's boss."

– MayorOfVenice

Who does that?

Gimme Some Skin

"Eating the skin off of someone else's fried chicken."

– Upbeat_Tension_8077

"I had a bucket of leftover KFC in the fridge, and my ex SIL came over to my house while I was at work and ate all of the skin off the chicken. I was f'kin pissed."

"Then, on New Years, a few years later, her aunt wanted to make mole and split the cost. I was like whatever and pitched in. I had things to do and got home after it was done. Those f'kin b*tcheses had ate the all of the skin off every piece of chicken."

"I'm so glad I'm not a part of that POS family anymore. If I am ever victimized by chicken skin theft ever again I am going to throw that skinless piece of chicken at them as hard as I can at point blank range and I'm going to aim for their mouth."

– anon

Condiment For All

"Squeezing ketchup on top of a communal plate of fries."

– OverlappingChatter

"I had a boyfriend who would take all of his fries and all of my fries at McDonald’s, put them on the tray and squirt ketchup on top. This infuriated me in part because then the fries got cold so much faster."

– loritree

Wasting food is a cardinal sin.

Grocery Stores At The End Of The Day

"Grocery stores/suppliers throwing out perfectly good food when we there are people starving."

"There is a 2009 doc called 'Dive' that talks about how much grocery stores waste. Edit: (I'm sure there are many others but this is the one that made me aware of the issue)"

– moosegoose2222

"My husband did the samples at Sam's club for awhile and when they did alcohol samples they were told to bust/break the glass bottles into the food that was leftover and to be disposed in the dumpster...so first throw the food in, then break the glass bottles on top when throwing in dumpster."

– Swivel_D

Kevin Sucks

"I worked at a major big box grocery/everything else store for a short time. The a**hole store director was the kind of guy who would make one of the grocery guys get put the floor zamboni on SATURDAY AFTERNOONS to clean up footprints down the aisles when it snowed outside. Of course, it pissed people off."

"The worst thing he'd do, however, was demand that the bakery and Deli have their cases overstocked to 'Grand Opening' standards every f'king day. Of course, only half sold, and the leftovers were not marked down (he hated doing anything like that for damaged boxes or cans because he said it attracted 'poor people'). Instead, it all went into the dumpster at the end of the night. It was usually a half dozen cakes, a dozen loaves of bread, and often 15 - 20 rotisserie chickens. No, employees were not allowed to take home any of it. Oh, and he was openly racist and tried to get a disabled employee fired because he didn't like disabled people working with the public."

"I rage quit that job one day, two weeks before Christmas. I found out shortly after I left that the store director was diagnosed with Parkinsons."

"Rot in hell, Kevin."

– WhitePineBurning

My gripe is more about dining protocol than actual food.

I'm pretty much allergic to alcohol and aside from having the occasional glass of wine, I don't drink often when I go out.

I don't think it's fair when I'm out with a small group of people who each order more than two cocktails and I'm forced to split the bill evenly as the lone non-drinker in the group.

I get it, it's a hassle figuring out the bill to accommodate for me, but I don't mind sorting it out as there are apps to make this easy.

I think it's classy when other members of the group point out that they should chip in more for the bill so I don't have to pay my full share.

But I also hate having to speak up and say, "Umm, can you guys pay for your own drinks since I didn't order any?"

I'm screwed either way since I sound like a loser when I do voice my request or I get passive aggressive afterward for not speaking up.

Anyone know a good solution on how to deal with this?

Anyone who grew up with one or more siblings is bound to have stories of how their siblings occasionally (or frequently) got on their nerves.

Indeed, some people don't even have any sort of relationship with their siblings once they fly the nest.

Those who grew up only children, however, often have trouble accepting that people would cut their siblings out of their lives.

While being an only child can often mean getting your parent's complete love and attention, it also means that you will have to go through many of life's challenges alone, with no peer to turn to for support.

Not to mention, never having anyone to torment and boss around, as many children dream of doing to their younger siblings.

Redditor BroccoliniCarrot was curious to hear what only children thought was the biggest disadvantage of growing up with no siblings, leading them to ask:

"What’s the worst about being an only child?"

Lack Of Playmates

"When I was little, people would give me board games like Monopoly for gifts, and I wouldn't have anyone to play with."

"even Hungry Hungry Hippo sucked playing solo."

"I did master Solitaire though!"- Jesikabelcher

Last One Standing

"When my parents die that’s it."

"I’m just alone."- undertheraindrops

"Family is the most likely group of people to help you when things get tough."

"When your parents pass you have less support."

"Also, aging parents become solely your responsibility."- rubixd

"Taking care of an elderly parent with no one to help."- 3Gilligans

No One To Turn To

"When you are the only one to support your aging parents."- Fantastic_Leg_3534

Forced Independence

"I think because I am an only child I have become used to spending time on my own."

"As a result I am quite antisocial.'

"I don’t mind being around people and can be quite talkative however it exhausts me and I need far too much time on my own to recover."- OstneyPiz

"You become TOO comfortable with being alone all the time, to the point where being alone is the default and interacting with others feels like a chore."

"And that doesn't play out too well in the real world."- DeathSpiral321·

Going Through It Alone

"No one to have a sanity check with."

"My wife and closest friend have siblings and they talk about a close bond with their respective siblings where they could look at the other and effectively say 'mom/dad are crazy, right?'"

"Being an only, I thought some of the sh*t they pulled growing up was normal."

"Having a sibling would have helped counter the gas lighting from parents."- RennSport5280

Making Your Own Conversation Partners...

"As an adult, I sometimes find it difficult to quiet the self-talk because all too often growing up it was all I had."-GreenDolphin86

More For Me?

"I am absolutely not good at sharing."

"Plus and minus was that I got all of my parents' attention, so I had a lot of love and support but also a lot of expectations and not a lot of space to f*ck up."

"Nowhere to hide, no one to blame anything on, and no backup when they were being unreasonable."

"But I also didn't have to split time, affections, or personal belongings with some other gremlin sharing my DNA."=Justheretolurkyall

No One To Keep You In Line...

"No reality check."

"Nobody to confirm that, no, it's not you that's acting nuts."

"Later, nobody to bounce ideas and behaviors off of, nobody to tell you, 'hey, X thinks you're cute' or 'that's not how you ask a girl out, doofus, say this'."

"I should mention that for various reasons, if I had had siblings they would have been older."

"So when I imagine not being an only child, I tend to imagine being a younger brother."

"But I think the reality-check thing would still operate even as an oldest sibling; plus I might have learned to handle responsibility earlier."- ElderPoet

There Is, Indeed, Safety In Numbers

"I am the only son of a single mother."

"I hate this term, but it's called emotional incest."

"Basically my Mom was very young when she had me and there were no men in her / my life."

"As a result, she placed all of that emotional needs of a grown woman on to me."

"My Mom never really raised me as a son."

"At best, she raised me like a little brother she got stuck with after our parents died."

"At worst, she treated me like I was a toxic boyfriend."- ANerdCalledMike

No Scapegoats

"All eyes are on you- can’t get away with anything!"

"Most strict parents ever ( they were older too)."

"Unlike my husband's family growing up with 6 kids."

"Parents hardly knew where the teenagers were or who they were with."- Available_Honey_2951

"When asked by a parent what happened you cannot blame your sibling."- nanodecay

The Eye Of TheBeholder

"People assuming that I was spoiled."- Purlz1st

Having no siblings means never being bullied, teased or tormented, or having to vie for your parent's attention.

Something many people who grew up with older or younger siblings openly say they dream of.

When the going gets tough, however, and these same people realize they always had their brothers or sisters to turn to, they might bite their words and regret ever even thinking of being an only child.


People Who Had A Threesome With Their Significant Other Break Down The Aftermath
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