Trying To Make Things Better
Actions ripple out through time and we sometimes don't see who they affect until it's too late. Choices eventually catch up to us, for better or worse. No one understands this better than bullies. A child's ruthless behavior towards one another on the school grounds and neighborhoods can create psychological scars that last for years. When the bullies rise up and apologizes, though, you have a real chance to heal old wounds. Reddit user, u/Vatimus, wanted to know about those times when they asked
[Serious] Bullies who felt bad for what you did and eventually tried to say sorry, how did it go?
When It's You
I had a friend in grade school and we were always horsing around, wrestling, etc. We ended up going to different high schools and I didn't see him for years until we were both at a forensics tournament in high school. I was excited to see him, but he introduced me to his friends as "The guy who used to bully me in grade school."
I was sad that day. I may have cried a little.
Edit: I did apologize, but he just brushed it off, didn't seem to care. Never saw him again.
Just Suck It Up And Do It
Saw a girl I'd been a d-ck to in highschool recently, after about 13 years of not seeing her. I recognized her, she recognized me. There was an awkward moment where we both pretended that we didn't recognize each other, but I decided to just buck up and do the right thing.
Went over to her and said, "Hey, I don't know if you remember me very well, but I was sort of a d-ck to you in high school and I'm really sorry. You didn't deserve any of that. I don't know what was wrong with me."
She got this confused look, then smiled really big and said, "You were a d-ck! You were awful to me! Thanks for saying that." Then she introduced me to to her fiance and I got some wedding details and congratulated her and that was pretty much it.
Reach Out And Say Hi
Me and almost the whole 3 classes of our year bullied this kid for a long time, probably for 6-7 years. Maybe not every day by everyone but it was consistent from 1st grade to the 6-7th.
About 8 years ago that person suddenly pops up as a suggested friend on Facebook and it all came back to me, since I hadn't really thought about it for years. Man I felt like a piece of sh-t.
I sent the guy a friend request and a message and wrote him that I was sorry, listed the things that I remembered I did to him and asked him if there was anything else that I didn't remember that I did to him. He said that he forgave me and that I wasn't the first one to talk to him about it. This guy is doing really good today, has many friends, loves his job and is in such a good shape it makes me feel embarrassed. I'm really happy that he is doing so well.
But even though he said it was okay and it was forgiven I still feel like a piece of sh-t when I think back to it.
Leave It To The Parents
This isn't something that happened later it was fixed then. When I was alot younger I remember I was a bully to another kid in school. I'd be mean and call him ugly infront of my other friends.
He lived pretty close by and one day his parents came over with him and told my parents how I'd been bullying him during school. I'm glad that happened. We ended up playing video games that day and getting along. This was about the time my parents divorced and I moved away and never saw him again. But I'm glad I was called out then on my behavior and was able to fix it.
Family Splinters
Loooooong story short: Bullied my younger sister mercilessly for her size when we were younger. Aged out of doing that around 13-14 years old. Was 16 or 17 when I realized how mean I had been and knew it was time to apologize when I realized that it physically hurt me thinking about the way I had treated her. I love her so much.
So I apologized and it was so ranty and redundant but she accepted it and I've tried to be a good friend and a great brother every since. For some reason her quiet smile and acceptance of my apology made me feel even worse. No idea why there was this 3 year or so window in my childhood where I behaved that way.
She and I are in our twenties now and I step outside of work most days to call her and tell her I love her.
A Boy In The Fray
I was usually the one bullied. But this instance I became to bully and felt really badly for it. When I was in 10th grade, an older guy in the school took interest in me and we started dating. He was popular and I was not. His friends constantly made fun of him for dating me.
His ex girlfriend who was in the same school happened to be a popular cheerleader and she was very pretty and liked. I wanted to be her so badly. I felt insecure. So I started calling her names anytime I seen her. I would yell "whore" or something when she walked by, really immature.
The next school year she was handing out fliers for the first day of school, and I went up to her and sincerely apologized. I told her I was jealous of her and I was acting ridiculous and that I hoped I didn't cause her too much sh-t. She graciously accepted the apology and we never had an issue after that. What made me feel worse was she never tried to be mean to me back. She was always kind no matter how I treated her. She deserved the apology.
Times Change. People Change.
I used to bully this nerd but then I became a nerd and we became friends.
Psh, Gotta Get There Before Curtain Call
I said sorry, he said he didn't care then and doesn't care now.
We're good friends now and are going to see Metallica in a couple months
The Chain Ends
I bullied a bully so I guess that doesn't make me anything less than a bully.
After I was done with highschool this sense kicked into me I called up the original bully and apologized to him saying that, 'I am sorry for what I did back in school. I was young/d-ck and thought it was cool but I am really sorry.' He was like, 'no man its all cool. Don't worry about it and all.' We met after that and were good friends.
Fast forward 2 years i meet the guy who was bullied by the original bully. We are catching up and he tells me that Original Bully called me last year and apologized for what he did back in school. This dude was very surprised by this gesture.
I was surprised too but it followed by a really good feeling.
Do It Before It's Too Late
I didn't bully this girl, I thought she was sweet and was fairly close to her. However in highschool there was this girl who was bullied by a lot of People. She was a strong girl and got through it but the bullying was rather bad.
5 years after highschool she was diagnosed with a rare terminal cancer, being in a small town everyone knew everyone. Everyone who was mean to her all of a sudden was really nice to her sending her loads of messages apologising. And after she died more or less everyone who was means to her felt tremendous guilt for making her highschool years hell.
She thought it was better to love than hate and forgave them but she hated the fact they where apologising because she was dying.
Edit: after highschool she was happy. She had a loving boyfriend right to the end and good friends and family. Just so you all know it wasn't all sad!
H/T: Reddit
I can't definitively say I've come face to face with the spirits. But I have had some unsettling feelings in the dark. Shadows are just shadows sometimes, but who can be sure.
I hear it...
Nbc Wings GIF by HULUGiphy"I was helping my dad clean my grandma's house after she passed and I went in and was trying to find a song in my phone and before I could I heard a cough plain as day come from down the hallway where her room was. She died of lung and throat cancer it was pretty crazy."
Running Past...
"When I was 5 I remember getting home from my grandpa's birthday party. For context my mom was pregnant with my brother at the time, so my parents had already bought his crib. I woke up in the middle of the night to find a women in a white dress and long black hair standing over my brother's crib. I managed to wake up my dad so he could take me to the bathroom. When I got back it was still there. It was only until morning when it disappeared. Every now and then I see a glance of what I assume is that thing running past the backyard."
The Cat
"My best friend and his wife had moved to a new apartment. I came over to visit a few times, and each time I'd see the motion of a cat in my peripheral vision. Not the image of a cat, but a sense of how a cat moves. Anyway, one day I finally cracked some joke about the ghost cat in the place and his wife was instantly saying "See! See! I told you we had a ghost cat!"
"excuse me"
"I worked graveyard shift in a dementia ward for 4 years and it was anything but quiet. I was working with a nurse one night when we both heard a resident say "excuse me." We looked around and no-one was there. I checked on the resident in question and she was fast asleep in her own room. Many of us also experienced someone whistling in the ward late at night and one nurse even managed to catch a video of it happening. It was unnerving to say the least."
Clueless
Skeleton GIFGiphy"I once saw someone short walk by me in my house. They walked into the laundry room which only has one way in. I walked into it behind them and they where gone. I thought it was my little brother but I went to his room and he was asleep. I still have no clue what that was."
- ImBolio
Now was everyone here positive they were sober? Just asking. Those are certainly spooky moments. I'd like some video footage please. Continue...
Reflections
ghost library GIFGiphy"I was up at 3am when I was maybe 7 or 8. I looked out the window and saw a woman in a white dress run across my yard. I could see through her. She was transparent like the reflections on the window."
"you alright?"
"So, my work place is haunted. I was having a really crap day, and as a cleaner, it's normal that me and my co worker will be the only ones left at night. So I was standing on the second floor, leaning on the banister for the stair case, when I heard this male voice say in my ear "you alright?" Clear as day. I turned around so fast and nobody was there and it scared the hell out of me."
- Rex-the-
Watching Me
"I remember as a young kid I usually use to sit in my bed and watch tv with my room door open while the adjacent guest bedroom next to mine would always have the door shut. I always remember seeing that door fully open and close by itself multiple times a day very slowly and gently. Never really bothered me much now that I think about it… but there were other creepier experiences I had in the same house that made me feel uncomfortable like I was being watched."
Betsy
"I went to the Betsy Ross House as a really little kid in the early 90s. Normal house but I was confused why the tour guide never talked about the woman on the chair crying at the edge of the bed in Betsy Ross's bedroom. So I asked about it. No one else saw the woman at the edge of the bed. I figured it was just a wax museum since there was a wax statue of a man in uniform rolling bullets in the basement."
"Years later, I was looking at haunted Philadelphia tours to go on with a friend and the Betsy Ross House was on it. I was like "woah! I was there!" and looked into it some more. Turns out there is a woman at the end of the bed crying and a uniformed man in the basement that people have reported seeing. There is no way that 8 year old me would have known about either of these things."
hello kitty...
hello kitty lol GIF by Animation Domination High-DefGiphy"I had this hello kitty Balloon In my bed room, it had a string and weight on it. So it was late, I had the lights on just Sitting on my bed. The Balloon turns, faces my door, slowly floats into my hallway and turns and floats into my sister's room. To this day I am scared of balloons."
They are among us and they like Hello Kitty. I'm probably rattling the paranormal cages and they'll come for me next, but I'm ready. I feel like this thread has prepared me.
Boo!
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