In a since-deleted Reddit post, a 26-year-old bride-to-be is attracting droves of internet criticism by deciding to hold her wedding on a plantation, and then proceeding to judge two of her bridesmaids, who were black, for deciding to drop out of the event.
In a screenshot of the status, posted by the Twitter account @redditships, the bride recounts that "all was well" until she announced her wedding would be held on the "incredibly beautiful plantation," she had "admired since I was a little girl."
My (26f) friend (25f) just dropped out of being a bridesmaid. https://t.co/Nz0MD6WFnn— relationships.txt (@relationships.txt)1536419487.0
On Reddit and Twitter, people all seemed to agree the bride was in the wrong.
So she told you she wouldn't be involved in a plantation wedding and then you went and planned a plantation wedding… https://t.co/AWn9tq3rRs— Ashley (@Ashley)1536422059.0
Don't get married at plantations. Don't attend plantation weddings https://t.co/ypnDhDvdys— Almaqah (@Almaqah)1536427147.0
My Jewish friend refused to be my bridesmaid just because I chose a lovely former Nazi concentration camp as the venue. How do I convince her she's being too sensitive?
What has me fucked up most is that the OP white bride LIED and *pretended* to understand and give a fuck when her B… https://t.co/8FYJ5WQkhD— stopwhitewomen2k18 (@stopwhitewomen2k18)1536505781.0
okrelationshipadvice hopes the bride realizes what a good friend J has been:
Your friend is a saint. I'm in awe of her maturity and how gracefully she wrote out her feelings and acknowledged yours and still even offered to pay for her dress and be involved in wedding activities. You are so incredibly fortunate to have a friend like her. Do not take that for granted.
The fact that you can't see that is honestly absurd; as absurd as having a wedding on a plantation. Be careful in your response because if it's anything like what you have written here, you'll definitely be losing a wonderful and generous friend and you'd kind of deserve it.
She does not deserve a friend like this. https://t.co/eaA5dLjVzp— Mating Mooseplaining Max (@Mating Mooseplaining Max)1536465481.0
Invariably, people were on J's side, including e_finch:
She told you exactly what she thought and felt on the topic. You two had an agreement and you broke it. She very graciously backed out. Sorry, OP, you are in the wrong here.
The comments on this are glorious everyone called her on her shit https://t.co/txoByG4eah— 🍑 a nonbinary QUEEN 🍑 (@🍑 a nonbinary QUEEN 🍑)1536449811.0
Finnikwe was amazed at the bride's callousness:
Wow. So your friend wrote you this lovely letter, offered to pay for a dress she isn't going to wear, and still wants to attend your other wedding activities. You lied to her face about the venue thinking she'd change her mind, think that she's just being overly-sensitive about something that many many people agree with her on, and think that you have a better understanding than she does about how her colleagues would view this? You don't deserve her friendship.
People who get married at plantations are TRASH, full stop. https://t.co/8gqqy6ojmt— Ari (@Ari)1536449246.0
Does the bridesmaid friend who dropped out want to be my bridesmaid because she’s god damn excellent https://t.co/OXaKUH1CyA— samantha (@samantha)1536499468.0
mmmcheesecake also applauded J's grace:
I think that her response was actually very well thought out and written respectfully. You can't dictate how a POC should feel regarding the history their communities have faced and unjustness they continue to face. And each POC has a different take and position in regards to it. Your position and perspective on what's ridiculous in this regard doesn't matter.
I think she is trying to be as accommodating as she can be with you, while maintaining her stand. Especially since this conversation has already happened before, where she had clearly expressed her thoughts. You assumed what you wanted, that she was being "overly sensitive" and thought she'd get over it, and essentially lied to her.
Friend (25f), you're doing amazing sweetie! https://t.co/EuRMPJqQmS— Yvangelista (@Yvangelista)1536455104.0
she bowed out gracefully. the bride ain’t shit for trying to invalidate her friend’s feelings. just find someone el… https://t.co/ieKYiek5n7— 𝖘𝖞𝖉 | BΔΚ (@𝖘𝖞𝖉 | BΔΚ)1536431990.0
This isn't the first time this year a bride has gone too far while planning a day "all about her." Another story has recently gone viral about a woman who was forced to cancel her wedding in a now-deleted Facebook post because her guests refused to pay the $1,500 cover-charge it would take to help her "live like a Kardashian for a day."
Bride Cancels Wedding After Guests Refused To Pay $1,500 Attendance Fee🙄https://t.co/CbiNa2p20Z https://t.co/vSCJXTJQTt— Power 105.1 (@Power 105.1)1535605200.0
@mrbrown Got a real narcissist here.— jan low (@jan low)1535609014.0
@FOXLA The book was way more entertaining than the movie. https://t.co/QAw2buDeZa— Sylvia Harrington (@Sylvia Harrington)1535466600.0