It's so easy for us to get caught up in the negative things in our day-to-day lives, whether it's a bad day at work or an ended relationship, but it's important to remember what else we have going for it.
Sometimes the best thing to do is to listen to the people we look up to, and let their words help us move through the tough time.
Redditor Miller1xo asked:
"What's the best advice you've ever received?"
It's Not That Important
"No one cares."
"That's actually the advice."
"The vast majority of people are more concerned about going about their own days and doing their own things."
"I kept being too socially conscious of myself around others, believing that every move I was making was being monitored and judged all the time."
"But the reality was that, just like me, everyone around me was just focused on themselves and what they were doing and not at all on others."
"And if anyone did anything out of the ordinary or 'embarrassing,' we all forgot about it the next day."
"So once I realized this, my social anxiety essentially disappeared after a month and I was far more comfortable in my own skin."
- fortifier22
The Bad Comes with the Good
"Life sucks, get a helmet."
"And life is like a s**t sandwich, every now and again you gotta take a bite. But the more bread you have, the less s**t you taste."
- vNerdNeck
The Great Aunt Has Spoken
"Three rules from a great aunt:"
"Go to the restroom while you have a chance."
"If there's a seat available, sit down."
"If someone offers you a breath mint, take it."
- realitygroupie
Just Ask
"If you ask, they might say yes. They might also say no, but if you don't ask, it's always a no. So ask."
- frid
Nothing Can Change if Nothing Ever Changes
"Not making a decision IS making a decision."
"As someone who struggles with indecisiveness, this has been an important one. It's easy to get wrapped up in analyzing options, especially what could go wrong. Sometimes the decision paralysis is worse than the consequences of a suboptimal choice."
- FatherJohnFahey
Take Care of Your Body
"Look after your back. You will be sorry in later years if you don't, and it's much easier to look after it now than try to fix it later."
- LucyVialli
Progress, Not Perfection
"Doing something imperfectly is better than not doing it at all."
- T3canolis
Perfection is an Obstacle
"There's a common phrase, 'Don't let perfect be the enemy of good.'"
"I like to adapt it: 'Don't let perfect be the enemy of done.'"
- angry_guacamole
Let It Go
"The best advice I ever saw was from Bo Burnham on a talk show. Conan O'Brien asked the standard question: 'What advice would you have for other young people who want to pursue their dreams like you?'"
"He responded: 'Well, my advice for you would be to take a deep breath...and give up. I got to where I am today purely because of luck. All these celebs today like Taylor Swift telling you to 'be yourself and follow your dreams,' it's like saying 'liquidize your assets, buy Powerball tickets! get rich! it works!' It doesn't work.'"
"'...Ten years ago I was just a dumb, skinny white kid who didn't know what he was doing. Now the only thing that's changed is I'm famous.'"
"Just do whatever you want, and if you get lucky and hit it rich then that's great. But it probably won't happen."
- VisconitiKing
Put Yourself Out There
"Hard work alone won't do sh*t for you. Chance encounters, a seemingly small conversation, and Cosmic timing have a much bigger impact on your success than hard work alone."
"In my case, there was a random LinkedIn message from a recruiter and a gut feeling I should respond to it. That led me to have a successful job that values work-life balance and pays way more than my previous company."
"Networking is an example of this. If you happened to know a guy who knows a guy, you can land pretty sweet jobs over someone who quietly works overtime all day every day."
"The family you are born into can also play into it. Apologies to Taylor swift fans, but there isn't anything special about her. If she was an average person, she would not have had the same level of success. Her family's connection to the record industry played a huge part in her initial success."
- ansteve1
Dump Her Back
"My first love left me for another guy. I was visibly depressed, and my Granddad asked, 'What's wrong with you?' I told him. He responded, 'Dump her back.'"
"I was bewildered. What the f**k does that mean?"
"Then, a few months later, my ex-girlfriend got dumped by the new guy and pleaded with me to take her back. It got to the point of her stalking me."
"I stood firm and dumped her back."
- frederick_ungman
Perspective is Everything
"While driving one day, I was p**sed that someone cut me off when I had the right of way."
"My Great Grandfather told me, 'There's a lot of dead people who had the right of way, too.'"
"I never forgot that advice. It may not be the best advice ever but it always stuck with me."
- SeriousBlak
Practice Gratitude
"A hundred dollars isn’t a lot to have, but it’s a lot to need."
- bang0_slank
Parenting Hacks
"If you have little kids, triple sheet their beds, alternating with full-size waterproof pads. So: pad, sheet, pad, sheet, pad, sheet."
"In the middle of the night when you have work in the morning and they wet the bed or throw up or get a nosebleed, pull up one layer, toss it into the laundry, and put the kid right back to sleep."
"Also, if anyone in your house isn't feeling well, give your kid a bucket or something next to their bed in case they wake up feeling sick. No one likes to clean up a trail of vomit from the kid's room to the parent's room or bathroom in the middle of the night."
- goddess_eris
Surround Yourself with People Who Support You
"When no one's got your back... move your f**king back."
- IJacboy
Each of these concepts are great ways to get more out of life, but the big ticket item here is perspective.
So often, we exaggerate things, whether how embarrassing a mistake was or how hard it will be to complete that task or how bad we think we have it, but if we compare that to someone else's circumstances, or how small this moment is in the grand scheme of things, it suddenly becomes easier to be more grateful and take more from life.
People Explain Which Things They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family That Aren't Normal At All
Everyone was beholden to certain rules growing up.
No TV until your homework is done, no sweets before dinner, lights out at 9:30 pm.
Frustrated as we were by these rules, we generally went along with them, as well as other customs and traditions organized by our families, knowing that just about all other kids were dealing with the same thing.
But were they?
Indeed, sometimes in adulthood, we've come to learn that the way things worked in our household were not what the broader population would consider normal.
While sometimes these discoveries only made us love our families more, other times it might have come as a very rude awakening indeed.
"What kind of behaviour did you think was normal because of your family, then grew up to find out it’s definitely not?"
Making Halloween Even More Fun
"I've got a positive one."
"My mum always threw the best Halloween parties."
"We had to eat donuts off strings without licking your lips, throw eggs at each other and attempt to catch them in a net, feed each other blindfolded."
"Apparently these aren't normal activities for Halloween parties."
"Especially the one year we played them on the street with random trick or treaters who came past."- butterfly_cats
You Mean, They're Supposed To Like Each Other?
"A complete and utter lack of any and all affection and romance between my parents."
"Turns out, my mom was cheating on my dad for over a decade."- HokageBiden
"Your parents hating each other."
"I only realized this was not normal after witnessing my first boyfriends parents interacting with each other kindly and respectfully."- No_Scale7584
"I thought all married couples eventually grew to hate each other and fight all the time."
"Apparently I was wrong."- mossadspydolphin
All Working Parents Make Sacrifices
"When I was a kid I thought that ALL dads worked a lot and rarely saw the kids."
"Until I got older and my friends would tell me things like 'my dad took me to a baseball game' or 'my dad took me camping'."
"I was so jealous."- Overall-Surround-925
Why Dirty Multiple Napkins?
"This is gross."
"We had a large family."
"Instead of handing out napkins, we used a single dishcloth, and passed it around the dinner table."
"We weren't poor."
"Just uncivilized."- Comprehensive_Run453
Everyone Grieves In Their Own Way
"Making a big deal about death."
"In my family when someone dies, it’s like, 'Wow, that sucks, what’s for dinner?'”- OutrageousStrength91
It's Hard To Escape One's Upbringing
"I’m still struggling to describe the way my mom lives the way she does, but the only word I can think of is 'tacky'?"
"Unless anyone can think of a better word."
"For context she grew up in a poor village, but I don’t think it’s commonplace there and maybe it’s because of how her parents raised her."
"She is clueless to how things 'should' be."
"Like it’s not normal to use shower curtains as normal curtains in the living room."
"Or to make a homemade pillow by stuffing it full of old jackets, instead of going out to buy a normal pillow."
"Or pruning a tree using a butcher knife instead of ACTUAL tree equipment."
"She exclaimed, 'Doesn’t that look nice!', but to me it just looked like the tree had been demolished by a butcher knife."
"Or when she held my baby brother over the trash can so he could poop in it, except she did this in the living room while my friend was there."
"My friend didn’t want to come over after that."
"Or how we have 1 pair of scissors in the house that we use for EVERYTHING, from cutting food to cutting hair, and she used it to cut a mole from her back instead of going to the doctor."
"We all still used the scissors afterwards too."
"Or how she repurposes stuff in the house to re-gift to other people."
"Like, it would be okay if she actually put in the effort to make it look nice, but most recently she re-gifted a plate of cookies that a neighbor gave to us, except we ate half already."
"And twice she gave my brothers supermarket gift cards for their friend’s 12th birthday party."
"Everyone in my family, mom included, uses the bathroom with the door wide open, whether it’s pee or poop, though my mom is different in that she doesn’t care if someone walks in to brush their teeth while she’s doing it, and will have conversations with you from the toilet too."
"I didn’t know until I was in college that other families don’t share the same bath towel."
"And nobody cleans the house except with a broom occasionally."
"So you can imagine how it looks."
"My mom hasn’t cleaned her car in 15 years."
"She used to be dirt poor in the village, so I guess old habits die hard."
"I was desensitized to everything since I grew up in it, but even when I was younger I could tell that this was a bit gross."- JaguarOwn3633
Some People Just Can't Control Their Emotions
"Having tantrums because someone showed that you were wrong."
"Feels weird now seeing my 50+ uncle throwing sh8t all over the place because I straight up told him I'm not lazy I have to rest a lot because of a serious heart condition that I'm diagnosed with."- Weak-Sand9779
We're Not Talking The Birds And The Bees...
"Parents interrogating you about your sex life."
"Everyone made jokes in movies and school about overprotective dads."
"I didn't realize being woken up at 5AM to be screamed at wasn't normal."
"Or being told I'm a shame on the family for a tiny hickey wasn't normal."
"Or assuming every piece of my actions was related to sex."
"I grew up in an Evangelical cult."- KaRue3
When Teasing Is Anything But Affectionate
"I thought the people closest to you were the ones who were meanest to you because they saw the real you (and the real you was bad)."
"I also thought anger was only expressed as horrible blowout arguments, insults, name calling, and physical aggression."
"Such sad things to learn and very difficult to unlearn."- Designer-Sky
Always Thinking About Their Future.
"Living so strictly under the rule of 'everything you do needs to be working towards your career'."
"No friends, no boyfriends or girlfriends, no days to do nothing and no self expression of any kind."- Cheep_thehomelessman
It should be said, no two people have the same idea of what they consider "normal."
But if your own home is not a place where you always felt loved and protected, then you were deprived of something all children deserved.
Have you ever been told you can make money fast by selling a product and getting others to help you sell it too? Or gotten a text from a company saying they were impressed by your resume despite the fact that you never applied for a job and have never even heard of the company?
What about the ever-popular emails from a Nigerian prince asking for your information and some money?
All of the above examples are just some of the ever-present scams in today's world that people fall for.
It may seem silly at first: who is still falling for stuff like this? But it's more common than you think!
Redditors know this all too well and are ready to share the scams too many people still fall for.
It all started when Redditor eh17368 asked:
"What is scam that so many fall for without realizing?"
More Like A Donation
"The "add a tip" line at the end of EVERYTHING. No I'm not tipping the electric company, thanks."
– chyna094e
"I went to a restaurant last week and the “recommended” 20% tip they put at the end of the receipt was actually more than an actual 20% of the total when I pulled out a calculator to do the math. It’s crazy how brazen tip culture has become."
– sushimane1
"Went to a restaurant where you ordered your food when sitting down, but had to go grab it yourself off the counter when it’s ready for you, you had to pour your own drinks and such also, and lastly you out your dishes away in a bin, and they’re labeled by specific dish."
"Nothing wrong with this and I don’t mind it, but then they have that stupid a** “add a tip” sh*t to the bill and I’m like, bro they didn’t do anything worthy of earning a tip from this."
"Worst part too is when the add a tip menu comes up, it’s like some dramatic a** number like 20-25% lol."
– Illustrious_Town_924
"I don't live in a country with a tipping culture and get stressed when I travel anywhere where tipping is a thing. It low key feels like extortion."
– Jealous-Treacle5736
"Help Me, Grandma"
"As a teller manager, I've had a few elderly customers who truly think their grandchildren are in jail and need to withdraw $20,000 in cash from their accounts to bail them out."
"Tell them outright to contact their grandchildren in front of me and that they are falling for a scam. Naturally, the youngster replies next."
"Their intentions are good, but before they part with such significant sums, they should consider whether they provided the con artists access to their home addresses."
– CreativeBudaw
"My mom got a call like that, she listened to the whole story before saying "but grandson, you're 5? How did this happen?" And the scammer hung up."
– eveeNicks
"My grandparents got suckered into thinking I was in jail in Canada after going there for a concert with a friend when I was 17."
"They didn’t think at all about how my mom would never let me go to a different country with a friend for a concert in a million years and that I was a complete square anyway. They only called me before sending the money because the teller at Western Union had seen other people get scammed and said they should reach out to me first."
"Sure enough, I got a call from them while I was at an academic decathlon luncheon and had to assure them I was home and in no trouble. Since then, I’ve had a secret magic word with my grandma in case she gets scammed about me and my grandpa passed away years later still certain the scammers had recorded my voice and engineered the story and responses lol"
– pgenius
"My dad got a call that his grandson (my son) was in jail and that my dad needed to send money. My dad told the guy he'd have to call his brother, Richard because Richard is the one with the money. We don't have anyone in the family named Richard."
– Special_Possession46
It's On Sale...Right?
"My local grocery store uses yellow price tags for things that are on sale AND random things that aren't on sale but they're hoping you don't actually look closely and just assume it's a great price because the tag is yellow. I fell for it all the time cause it took me about a year of shopping there to realize it."
– doghorsecatbaby
"It's amazing what "SPECIAL" and "ON SALE" does to people's brains."
"Often a customer will bring something to the checkout and ask me to check the price."
"Me (scans item): "It's $4.95.""
"Customer (thinks for a moment): "Is that on special?""
"... Does it matter? It's still going to cost $4.95."
– DoctorWho_DMC
"My job is putting the tags up. A lot of them, especially over the last couple years, will disguise a price increase by keeping the item on "sale", but the new sale price is the old regular price."
– Doodleyduds
"My main store has red tags on "locked down" prices then they have orange for "this week only" which sounds like it's also a deal but it's not. I only noticed this after raspberries were on sale the week before for 1.88. The next week they were advertised as 2.88 this week only!. I wonder how many times I've fallen for that."
– RoosterMiserable1275
Tell Me How To Live My Life
"Life coaching/Business coaching etc. I was one for years, and can promise you that 99% of them poorly regurgitate info from each other, with absolutely no experience in the areas outside making money selling courses on things they’ve never done."
"From your typical IG 20yo life coach, to the popular Jay Sh*tty’s. All completely full of sh*t scam artists that are never transparent about how they actually make their money, and post wishy-washy babble on social media that never provides a solution but convinces people low on their luck that they’re the experts."
"There's a few out there who are legit who have huge businesses and done well - but they are the huge names that are transparent- Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, Gary V, Eric Thomas to name a few from the small few."
– FattestSpiderman
"I have a personal anger towards life coaches, which makes me sad because I feel like there could be genuine people out there. But I was scammed by one as a teen. I was very overweight and miserable and found a woman who had lost a lot of weight and was even on the news. I related to her with life experiences. She had a tiny coaching business and charged a few thousand dollars for a course that lasted.. a couple months at most I think? My parents helped pay, hoping their miserable daughter would finally get some help after they had tried so many things."
"She gave me such surface level advice. I was so disappointed. There wasn’t real substance and I felt like I was being fed positive quotes you’d find on a coffee mug at a discount store or something."
"I have also been preyed on by Beachbody coaches more times than I can count. I never accepted their sales. The most recent one was a woman who really impressed me by her massive weight loss and her Instagram page with lots of relatable and helpful content. I became so disinterested as soon as I found out she was a Beachbody coach."
"A lot of coaches are quite young and it’s not that I think young people don’t have something to offer, but being a life coach at that age seems… idk?"
– TheRareClaire
Our Time Now
"Timeshares. How do people still think these are good?"
– Historical_Ad2890
"Are people still selling these or were there so many people locked into them they don't need new blood?"
– timallen445
Winner, Winner!
"Enter to win this prize! Give us all your information"
– Pristine-Regret2797
"Hey my chances must be pretty high with how many I’ve applied to by now"
– Wizard_Level9999
What A Steal!
"Black friday sales. Some are great deals but the Big majority just the same price with a fake discount sign"
– Vegetable-Drawer-416
"I worked at Best Buy years ago. They would just take the sh*tty TVs and put them up front. Those TVs were already cheap, so ppl saw the low price and thought they were getting a good deal. Nope, all you got was a sh*tty TV that was more than likely Best Buy's own brand."
– CerealKiller3030
Speaking To Those In The Beyond
"Mediums."
"I dont care what youve experienced, its fake"
– Juizehh
"Cold reading and psychology are learnable skills people exploit to present themselves as mediums. It’s convincing. And it’s total crap. I feel happy for people who get the closure they’re looking for. I feel badly for people who pour their hard earned money into these scam artists and never get the result they’re after."
– caboozalicious
"It “helps” or gives closure maybe but its not moral imo."
"If you really have that “gift” youd do it for free"
– Juizehh
The Real Price Is Not The Sticker Price
"I just got to do this yesterday. I just bought a new car and the salesman was wonderful. But once in the finance guys office. He does the whole let me explain the standard warranty and then our extra warranty. He gets all done and shows me a paper with the cost of the extra baked into the payment. It raised the price of the car by nearly 20% but he was super smooth about it like it was no big deal just a little more per month. I said no and moved on but definitely a scam."
– jjzzxxa
Make Money Fast
"Multi level marketing schemes, no Karen I don’t want your stick on nails or random sugar shakes"
– SENDS-POSITIVE-VIBES
"But if you can get three friends to sell them for you and each one of them gets 3 friends to sell them, we will all get rich!"
– joesephexotic
It's Not Me!
"Pretty soon. AI scams."
"We are very quickly entering an age where AI tools are going to allow scammers to essentially full dox you, impersonate you with near 100% accuracy, and target the statistically most vulnerable people you know."
"We are about to enter a really damn dark age. And unless you have already talked with loved ones and have discussed codewords that won't get shared. You will never know for certain that the person on the other line is even human, let alone that person."
"Also going to be really easy for your coworkers to get rid of you by having an AI impersonate you and just quitting."
– Deleted User
That last one's pretty dark...but also completely possible.
People Explain Which Actors Nailed Their Roles So Hard No One Will Ever Live Up To Their Performance
Anyone who loves watching movies or television shows undoubtedly has a favorite actor and film.
Most will also be able to answer a very important question: which performance was so good that it's truly irreplaceable?
A Redditor, who has since deleted their account, asked:
"Which actor or actress nailed their role so well that no one else will be able to live up to their performance?"
That's 'Captain'... Jack Sparrow.
"Johnny Depp as Captain Jack Sparrow."
- Civil-Ad-6365
"Especially since, if I remember correctly, Depp himself just up and decided to make Jack Sparrow so... Jack Sparrow. None of that flair was written into the character. Or so I've heard..."
- Equality-Slifer
"This is true, and in fact, the director had to defend him from Disney's attempts at studio interference and firing."
- Iwasthewalrus
1 Actress, 17 Roles
"Tatiana Maslany in 'Orphan Black.'"
"She played 17 different characters and nailed them all."
- cashew996
The Legends of 'Harry Potter'
"Alan Rickman as Severus Snape and Robbie Coltrane as Rubeus Hagrid. No one will ever bring those characters to life as they could."
"RIP, Alan and Robbie."
- poposhaker
The Addams Family
"Christina Ricci as Wednesday Addams (1991)… I’ve loved Jenna Ortega since 'You,' but nothing can beat the sheer feral nature of Ricci!!"
- jeanie-us
"Angelica Huston as Morticia Addams."
"I mean, CZJ did fine, but it’s just no comparison."
- Beholder_V
"The entire cast of 'Addams Family' is just absolutely pitch perfect:"
"Christopher Lloyd as Uncle Fester."
"Anjelica Huston as Morticia."
"Raul Julia as Gomez."
"Carel Struycken as Lurch."
- munificent
"Every Gomez ever will always be put against Raul's. It's nearly impossible to outperform."
- MNcuriosity
The Antics
"Literally no one else in the world could play Mr. Bean except Rowan Atkinson."
- TheZestyJester09
Love You 3000
"Robert Downey Jr. as 'Iron Man.'"
- benwkakkn
"When your life pretty much, in its own way, parallels the character you’re playing, with the fall from grace, reinvention/rebirth, and then the second act… yeah, I don’t think anyone can ever take the place of RDJ as Stark."
"Also, I had to scroll down waaay too far to find his name."
- rubicon_duck
"Kevin!"
"Catherine O'Hara as Moira Rose."
- leebeemi
"Catherine O'Hara in everything, frankly. She's the best."
- BranWafr
The Epitome of the Super Fan
"Kathy Bates as Annie Wilkes in 'Misery.'"
- karma_dumpster
"I don't think I've ever not felt a minor shudder whenever that role comes up. That's how good/perfect she was."
- tacknosaddle
The Undeniable Villain
"Maggie Smith as Professor McGonagall and Imelda Staunton as Umbridge."
- highlandcow75
"Anyone else having problems watching 'The Crown' since Imelda Staunton took over? I keep expecting her to torture Princess Diana into saying, 'I must not tell lies...'"
- Evil_Athena
Tim Curry for Everyone!
"Tim Curry as Dr. Frank-N-Furter."
- Active_Policy_957
"Tim Curry as Primeminister Chardenko in Command and Conquer: Red Alert 3."
"You can see him trying to not laugh when he delivers his most memorable line from that game too."
"'I'm going to the one place not touched by Capitalism... SPACE!'"
- RolyPoly1320
"Tim Curry in ANY of his roles if we're being honest."
"Even when I was young, I recognized how stand-out he was as Long John Silver in 'Muppet Treasure Island'!"
- astermorii
"An entire Tim Curry thread and no mention of the 90s “It”? He was downright unsettling as Pennywise and was absolutely the best part of that movie."
- chrobbin
"Nigel Thorneberry."
- Tiny_Parfait
"Had to scroll wayyyyy too far to see Nigel Thornberry on here, my god."
"Tim Curry is iconic."
- SnoozleEnthusiast10
Robin Williams in Anything, Everything
"Robin Williams as the genie in 'Aladdin.'"
- Badit_911
"Robin Williams in just about every role he ever played."
- idrinkandsleepate
"Still miss the joy he brings to every movie."
- arootdesign
"Make It So."
"Sir Patrick Stewart as Captain Picard."
- Striving_Stoic
"Or Charles Xavier, for that matter."
- Brvcx
So Justified
"Sigourney Weaver as Ellen Ripley."
- SuvenPan
"Smart cat lady no one listens to. Everyone dies because no one listens to the smart lady. She survives with her cat."
- darthlorgas
"I love her so much in 'Aliens.' She’s so mad and she’s godd**n right to be!"
- Iirima
Breaking... Compliments?
"Bryan Cranston as Walter White."
- DDKLondon
"After 'Breaking Bad' ended, Anthony Hopkins sent a message to Bryan Cranston, telling him that his portrayal as Walter White was some of the finest acting he had ever seen in his life."
"Coming from Anthony Hopkins, that is one h**luva compliment."
- 2donuts4elephants
An Unforgettable 'Cast Away' Performance
"The Wilson volleyball as Wilson."
- 9penguin9
While there are surely countless performances anyone could name as good, there are only some out there that could be deemed as irreplaceable.
How fortunate we are to live in an era when so many of those performances are available to watch at the same time.
Love isn't forever.
That is a sad truth for many.
But when the relationship ends, let it end.
And then talk about it with everyone.
Give up the drama.
Redditor Specialist-Crazy1466 wanted to hear why and when the love ended, so they asked:
"Why did you and your ex break up?"
I always knew when it was over, but I always held on too long.
Super Bowl Ok GIF by Pepsi"I'm also a 'She that got fed up with being taken for granted", but I'd forgive him if he offered me an honest apology. Hell, I'd take him back if he really showed me that he cares. What I'm saying is - if she's not in a new relationship and you still love her, you might try and reach out. Life is too short.'"
GuinevereduLac
The Lease
"She brought a guy home with her one evening and told me I had an hour to pack my s**t and get out. I reminded her that the lease was in my name, not hers."
"Imagine the look of shock when I told her to get out."
"She saw my kindness towards her as a weakness she could exploit. I was very forgiving of her bad habits, and she pushed me to the point where she obviously thought I would let her stay in my apartment if she told me to get out."
"In hindsight, being that forgiving was my fault."
Precipice_01
Don't Worry Though
"I found pictures of her doing some other dude in our bed while I was gone for work. 5 years of my life down the drain."
"Don't worry though. Was painful at first but ended up being the best thing that ever happened to me. Got me out of an unhealthy relationship with someone who clearly didn't really love me, and freed me up to meet the real love of my life, who I just proposed to 😁."
Skwerilleee
Honesty Wins
"I didn’t have my sh*t together yet and was selfish and unreliable. She thought she deserved better, and back then, she was right. I’ve come a long way since then."
bunkermunkee
"Huge props to you for being honest and having the self-awareness now to openly admit and accept that. I obviously don't know you but it's not easy for a person to admit that they were the bigger contributor to the relationship ending. You should be proud of your personal growth at the very least."
Mecomaker
He Chose Her
No Way Do Not Want GIF by Schitt's CreekGiphy"His mom slapped me. I was tired of being abused by the b**ch so I told him he couldn’t keep both of us in his life. He had to choose me or his mother. He chose his pregnant mistress."
TheUrbanFarmersWife
Hands off. No touching others.
Whoops
Schitts Creek Oops GIF by CBCGiphy"My ex-wife filed for divorce to teach me a lesson, thinking I would try to stop the divorce. She was piping mad when I didn't, though."
Azzizzi
A Magical Time
"My ex and I were together for 14 years and it was a magical time. However, once the pandemic hit he took up smoking crystal meth at home while I was away at work all day. He became absolutely addicted, stopped taking his schizophrenia medication, and the psychosis and paranoia took over. Living with him became a horrific nightmare I wouldn't wish on anyone."
"I tried everything to get him to help but he wouldn't budge or acknowledge the depths of his despair. After 5 months of living with this madman who was once my best friend and partner in life, I had to move out and start my life all over from scratch. I still can't believe how quickly it all unraveled. Now he's homeless and living downtown in some bushes in a park."
Mythic_Damage777
SURPRISE!!
"3 months of long distance. She gave me a 'summary' of her week via text."
"I spent the first few weeks trying to engage in conversation only to be ignored for another summary."
"I spent the next few months asking if we could just enjoy casual messages that flowed in a natural conversation to mimic how we spoke when we were in the same city."
"After 2 months of not being listened to, I called her up and broke it off. For some reason she was surprised."
merlinface
I Got Nothing
"I took time off from work to take care of her parents. Her mom died, and it hit her hard. I continued taking care of her dad, but she was so stressed she would go out with her daughters and friends from work to de-stress. After two years of staying at her parents' house 24/7 and right before her dad died, she told me I was a godsend and she wanted a divorce."
"She locked me out of our house and had the attorney she was working with declare I had abandoned it so she could keep everything. Turned out her nights with our daughters and with her friends were actually with her boyfriend. She got the house and the inheritance and a new boyfriend. I got nothing."
rollercoaster_5
When in Loss
Sad Rabbit GIF by Muffin & NutsGiphy"We lost a child and grieved in very different ways. He went back into active military duty and was gone for 18 months. I developed an addiction to sleeping pills and alcohol."
When he came home, we started divorce proceedings and he returned to the military. I checked in a rehab center and we went our separate ways."
No_Scale7584
The truth is... when it's over, it's over.
And that is never easy.