First dates are tricky to get right.
You're doing what you can to make a real connection with someone, forge a bond that perhaps could take you to the end of time. However, a mismanaged meal or bad weather can offset the blooming romance, taking the first date down into the "bad date" level. You save the date with the right moves, the right conversation, and a little bit of charm.
Then there's these dates, where the bloom couldn't be stopped no matter what happened, leaving you with butterflies in your gut and affection in your heart.
What has been the best first date you went on?
It can't be described. That's the easiest way to explain why a first date goes so well. You return from the encounter, flurry of feelings rushing through you, unable to process your words, and that's when you know something is working.
The True Tunnel Of Love
"The first night I went out with my now-husband was pure cinematic magic. It wasn't even technically a date, we were 25, casual friends, and he was visiting my city and he met me out."
"Early in the night there was a moment where we went to the bar to get drinks, and it was super crowded. In my memory, it feels like we were in a tunnel of people swirling around us and we were the only two people in focus in the room. We stayed out dancing all night, I took him to see the nyc skyline, and we walked 2 miles back to my apartment and got street tacos at 5am. The whole night was just like a movie."
"3 months later, he moved to New York and we've been together for almost 8 years now."
Board Games And Hand Holding
"My current gf and I had our first date at a boardgame cafe in her hometown. We got there in the afternoon, and stayed for over 5 hours, well into the evening, talking surprisingly easily with one another and enjoying some games. It was a nice November night, so we went for a walk around the city block after leaving the cafe to continue chatting. We held hands, despite the cold. It ended with a kiss and promise of another date."
"She's been my person ever since :)"
Early Internet Days Of Meet Cutes
"I drove 4 hours to meet someone I had met online 6 months previously and spoke to pretty much daily, after she asked me to accompany her to her freshman roommate's wedding. We spent a week together bumming around upstate NY being gloriously happy, and have been together for the past 21 years."
"Gotta ask, how did you meet her in the first place?"
"September 2nd, 1999 - we met on the messageboard of our (then) favorite band. It was a "favorite quote" thread, and she Instant Messaged me that evening to say how glad she was that someone quoted the line I had used."
"The wife just now, after I told her about this: I have no idea how you remember such tiny things… ;-)"
You Know It's Real When They Don't Throw The Blue Shell At You
"My personal completely unexpected Tinder love story: I went to her place to eat pizza and play Mario Kart on a Friday evening. That would have been a great first date for me on its own."
"We ended up liking each other so much that our date basically lasted all weekend and I only went home to get some fresh clothes and stuff. We've been inseparable since then and we both knew very quickly that we wanted a relationship."
"So yeah, I went there with zero expectations and now we are moving in together."
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You can't predict how a first date is going to end, or even what it might lead to if it's good. All you can hope for is the good times continue on to the second and third date.
Fortunately, these ones all have happy endings.
When Technology Isn't Playing Along
"Before debit cards became ubiquitous. A very nice guy asked me out and had a nice evening planned. He said he needed to stop at a cash machine first. OK, sure. He couldn't get any money and was very embarrassed. "I know what my balance is, why is this happening?" We've all been there. So I volunteered to get cash. My card wouldn't work. Not declined due to NSF, just didn't register at all. The problem was genuinely the ATM."
"We could have gone to other ATMs, but decided instead to use the money we had on us to get ice cream cones.Sat at an outdoor table and talked. Perfect!"
Smooth Recovery, Bro
"Besides the one with my partner...."
"I was in high school. A boy asked me to the movies. We we're standing in the wide patch separating all the other rows from the last 3 decidingwhere to sit. (Before it started of course. ) He went to lean on one of the seats behind him forgetting that they weren't just right behind him because they were descending. He flipped over the row of seats, stood up, took orange juice out of his pocket and took a sip with so much nonchalant grace it's like it never happened. Fifteen years later and I'm still impressed."
All The Ribs
"We went to a rib shack.
"If you're both the kind of person to go get handsy at a rib shack when you're trying to impress each other, you might be onto something. He was fun, not afraid to look a bit silly, and somehow managed to make me feel like I was being dainty chowing down on a full rack (I absolutely, 100% was not, and nor was he)."
"That guy was a real winner. If it'd turned out I was straight, 100% would have married him."
Pictures Only Tell So Much
"I met a guy on tinder, he was DREAMY in his pictures. We texted for a couple weeks, I had just moved to that area so I wanted to make sure he wasn't some creepy weirdo. We got to know each-other pretty well so I agreed on a first date, watching the sunset on the river after work. My apartment at the time shared a parking lot with some other local businesses, so I had him pick me up outside one of the storefronts. We drove like 3 miles down the road to where the pull off was, he brought chairs for us to sit in and a couple beers and we sat and enjoyed the sunset. The date was going really well, you could tell he was nervous around me, so I asked if we could go for a drive (he had jeep with the doors and top off)."
"We went for a drive down the river and I was singing my heart out, I kept seeing him peaking at me. I told him to pull off at another area and we just unloaded on each other, about our pasts, what we wanted, what we saw for our futures, etc etc... it was going so well. On the way back to my place I made him pull over, I grabbed his face and kissed him.
"We get married in 26 days."
Beach Day! Night? Day.
"We were both foreign grad students in Italy. We went bar hopping on a Friday night until 4 am, when bars were required by local law to close. I asked her where should we go and she said "the beach." Then we went to each other's places to pick our swimming suits, towels, extra clothes, etc, and took the first train to Cinque Terre. What was supposed to be a just a night out turned into a weekend at the beach."
Not every date is navigated like sailing on a calm lake during a windless day. There can be stormy sessions, periods where you're not sure where it might be going, but all you can pray for to happen is the bond you wished was there to keep things together.
And then it does.
A Romantic Evening In The E.R.
"I was meant to go on a date with a guy I'd liked for ages, but I got suddenly, dramatically sick and ended up in hospital. I messaged the night before to cancel and when I explained why, he was like 'obviously I'll just come and visit you.'"
"Being hospitalized, I wasn't at my best. I probably looked the worst I'd ever looked. He turned up with a book of '100 unbelievable facts' because he figured the done thing was to give books to people stuck in the hospital and that had been all he'd had at hand."
"The staff immediately started harassing him about whether or not he was my boyfriend, and then he sat through a really lengthy, over-the-top lecture about a medical condition that I have."
"His only response to the whole thing was that I was beautiful and it had been good not to miss out on spending that time with me."
"Anyway, I married him."
Still In Progress...
"Last weekend I had my best first date ever."
"A common acquaintance kinda set us up."
"We initially wanted to go for a walk, but it was raining heavily. So she picked me up at the train station and we went to her place. The moment I entered her room I saw five books that I read and liked. Off to a good start."
"We talked for hours and when we looked at the time figured we'd better get something to eat so we ordered some sushi. Always fun eating with chopsticks."
"After that we both felt like going for a walk so we took that walk and had a lot of fun. After that went to her place again for a drink. Talked for hours again, totally forgot the time and almost missed my last train home."
"The date lasted for over 8 hours and it was honestly my most enjoyable first date ever. To be continued."
Just A Little Bit Closer
"I remember how I used to be depressed (maybe more just 'annoyed') that my stock answer for questions like these was a really fantastic date that I'd been on back in 2013. We matched on Tinder when I was home for Christmas but didn't live in the area, I made that clear but she didn't care, literally said; 'Whatever. You seem fun. Wanna grab a beer sometime this week anyways?'"
"We went on 3 really great dates. On that first date we talked for hours, ended up getting told the bar was closing and we had to leave. I just really clicked with her on a level you don't with most people; but since we lived on opposite sides of the country (literally... Portland, OR, and Savannah, GA) I figured it was a wash and didn't really pursue much. We stayed in casual contact and both went on to date other people and live our lives... I always kinda knew in the back of my head it was a big 'what if' and felt like a major league 'missed connection.' I remember in like 2015 a friend saw me texting her out at a bar one night and asked who I was texting. I explained the background and insisted I didn't have any designs when he pressed me a little. He asked if we lived in the same city if things might be different, I kind of jokingly said: "Oh. 100% would be trying to wifey her up if I lived closer."
"It turns out that I wasn't joking quite as much as I thought. In 2016, I moved to the West Coast (a different state but technically closer) and now we will be celebrating our 3rd wedding anniversary this Summer."
Keep yourself honest, be willing to try new things, and never apologize for being yourself. You never know what kind of real world connection you might find.
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Love is crazy. I've finally come to that conclusion. And marriage, you take your life in your hands and just throw caution to the wind in hopes of survival with that step.
When love falls apart, things can get real messy, real fast. And I've always been stunned by people's behavior when love subsides.
More often than not, it's like they become different people. Sometimes people are beset by tragedy and grief and sometimes people smile wide and move on. It's a coin toss.
But my favorite post divorce personality has to be the sudden super villain. Oh honey watch out for them!
Redditor u/hyperyog wanted to hear all the tea from the divorcees out there by asking:
Divorced Redditors, what is the craziest thing you or your former spouse did after divorce?
I once had a friend who burned her ex's house down when he wasn't home. He had started seeing someone almost immediately, so she thought, lemme set their sparks. Yeah, she wasn't well. Whatever happened to just a quick goodbye?
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"She removed the retaining clips for my windshield wipers, but put the wipers back on the arms. First storm after I got my car back from her, driver side wiper flew off the car on Interstate 40. Good times."
"He wrote suicide notes and put them in my kids backpacks for them/me to find. Then he turned off his phone and went to a coworkers house to play crib and have drinks.. all the while knowing I would be freaking out searching for him thinking he was in danger or worse. Thankfully my kids didn't see the notes and didn't know what was going on. This was just one of the many, many crazy things he did. Two years out and he just recently stopped showing up at my work and driving by my house at night."
A Sad End
"Died of a drug overdose. To be fair, her drug addiction was the reason for the divorce, so maybe that isn't too crazy."
"That's so incredibly difficult to have gone through. I unfortunately know the depths of this kind of pain, and while I'm sure the circumstances surrounding it are different, the loss that still happened is a tragedy. My condolences."
"Stalked me for 5 years. Would make fake social media profiles to try to follow me (which I would block endlessly) and would try to find where I worked so she could talk to me. This lady cheated on me with 7 different men 2 months after we were married. I kicked her a** to the curb and made her sign the court papers."
"When we had our day in court she cried in the judges office while I just wanted to get this crap done. After, my dad was with me and he threw 50 dollars at her and told her to "change your freaking last name." Good guy Pops. I haven't seen or heard from her in about 5 years, thank goodness."
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"I had an ex-boyfriend go through my apartment and take back every gift he had given me that he could find. Then he went in my bedside table and took the condoms. And the vibrator he had given me."
See now, when I'm out... I'm out! I don't want to see you, hear from you or know you. I wish you well in life, but please live it far from me. Anyone agree? Clearly not the people here. Let's continue...
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"All I wanted was custody of my son, I gave her everything else except one of our cars. She fought me through 5 hearings, I won. She never came to see him again."
"My ex cheated on me the week my mom died in the hospital. She spent a year and a half trying to get in touch with me. She would call my old work and make fake accounts trying to message me on FB. It was insane. She later sends a certified letter explaining she was sorry that she did what she did and that she aborted our child."
"Wanted me to meet her somewhere so she could apologize face to face. She already married some other guy that she had children with and was still trying to get in touch with me. I never understood her."
"After years of telling me she wanted a child, that she wanted to be a mom, that her life's dream was to be a stay at home mom, she got pregnant with the first guy she slept with while we were getting divorced and put the kid up for adoption even before it was born. This was a long-standing thing with her, she always wanted something (car, house, dog, cat, marriage, etc) and the second she got it she immediately hated it."
"Called me and pretended he had been hit by a car while we were talking. He even tried to voice the crowd that had gathered around his "body." God-awful acting, but pretty funny listening to him try to mimic a woman's voice. Points for trying to be inclusive, I guess."
"I think he was trying to get me to re-live my trauma of being on the phone with a friend who actually HAD been hit by a car while we were talking. Too bad he didn't realize that hearing the real thing is worlds different than hearing a dumba** try to act it out."
"I was sending 600 dollars a month to support my daughter because she's the only thing I give a sh!t about. My ex texts me and tells me I need to be sending 1200 a month because she's broke and can't pay her bills and I should feel guilty about it. She left me for another guy while I was on deployment I told her to go screw herself--call my lawyer."
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"Took the sodas from the fridge as he walked out the door. Dumfounded."
See, I blame Alanis Morissette and her "Jagged Little Pill" album. All I'm going to say is... the secret song. I think she gave people ideas. (I love that song) Y'all, seek therapy if you can't shake people. When it's done, let it be done.
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Celebrity chef Gordon Ramsay is highly regarded for his delicious plates, his ability to run a solid restaurant, and, let's face it, his stage presence.
He's also a foul-mouthed Brit who is all too willing to dismantle people's self-esteems and compare them to livestock animals.
Alas, as watching all reality television goes, we love to see the crashing and burning.
But what if the shoe was on the other foot? What if you were the one being torn into by the sailor of all chefs, Mr. Gordon Ramsay.
Wondering what horrible dishes were lurking in unknown kitchens all over the place, Redditor FalloutSl*t413 asked:
"What's something you made that was 100% delicious but Gordon Ramsay would slap you for anyway?"
Some people talked about those purely functional meals that are just perfect for piling on enough protein and calories to get through the day.
"My mom used to make us 'Volcanoes.' Mashed potatoes topped with ground beef with some ketchup. I still tear it up to this day."
Quick and Easy
"I make weeknight 'enchiladas.' "
"You stick frozen taquitos in a casserole dish and cover them with canned or frozen chili and cheese. Bake them until everything's hot, serve with a dollop of sour cream. They sound disgusting but they taste amazing, and they take like, five minutes to prep."
"I know it looks like, smells like, and probably tastes like cat food but potted meat sandwiches. Look, when you're poor as hell and you can make 3 sandwiches with one little can that cost like 20 cents, it's pretty good."
"While I'm at it, Treet and bologna are pretty great. I have the taste palette of a raccoon and I like it that way."
"When I was younger I would make this thing where it was a patty melded of:"
- "a can of tuna"
- "two eggs
"And I would eat that almost daily, pan-fried, for lunch. Just slap me now and lets get it over with."
Others shared the recipes they make to feel fancy despite being totally trashy.
A Nuanced Process
"I call them 'chicken puffs.' Some par-cooked chicken (white or dark meat, either works) with sauteed serrano peppers and onions and garlic."
"All wrapped in crescent roll dough in little balls (a bit smaller than a baseball), put in a casserole tray filled juuuuust above the top of the little dough balls with cream of roasted chicken soup. Baked to completion/safety."
"Overly indulgent and delicious."
A Famous Side
"I consistently make a box of pastaroni angel hair and herbs as a side with meals I prepare for people. EVERYONE always asks for the recipe LOL please don't tell my secret"
Just a Couple Additions
" 'Fancy Ramen' Ramen made normal. Don't mix seasoning. Drain water. Add Mayo. Then mix in seasoning. And Volia. A lot of people question it. Until they try it."
Others outlined the things they eat that combine some ingredients it may seem disgusting to mix together.
Throw An Egg On There
"Fu** it lasagna, alternating layers of bread and shredded cheese (your choice which, I use cheddar) then crack an egg on top and put it in the microwave. Old depression meal, but it still holds up."
Hard to Wrap Your Head Around
"As a kid I would eat a banana with a cheese slice. Haven't tried it in years but it might hold up" -- Send_it_to_me
"Let's not" -- Sea-Entertainer-4974
"When I was younger I would make toast with peanut butter on it, then add pepperoni. Delicious then but I cringe thinking about trying it today"
The truly horrifying thing? There are so many more recipes out there that would leave Ramsay trembling.
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People love to talk about food. There are blogs, books, television shows, conversations in bars and farmers markets. In all likelihood, there is a recipe swap happening right this second in some deep corner of a suburb somewhere.
But sometimes talk is a lot of hot air. And the topic of food sure isn't immune to that criticism.
You can't get through a day without some telling you what "you gotta try."
The problem is, talking about food is often far more exciting than the food itself.
Redditor anicaodha asked:
"What food is overhyped?"
Many people were angry about garnishes. They hated the way restaurants try to entice people to eat certain menu items by slapping some kitschy ingredient on there.
A Very Expensive Burger
"Anything with gold flakes, absolutely pointless." -- Spend_Total
"ugh, i just remembered throwing up gold flakes from goldschlager, yuck!" -- spaceygracie12
"Aka how to add a crunch to your dish like a douche." -- CakeBot_TheReckoning
Catches the Eye Though
"Any rainbow food, rainbow grilled cheese, rainbow smoothie..."
"Just a cheap money grab."
No Breath On My Meal Please
"Dragon's breath/ nitro puffs or any dessert that contains liquid nitrogen to make it look cool." -- throwjango
"This stuff exists? God, I'm out of the loop." -- -The-Magic-8-Ball
"Truffle oil, usually doesn't contain a single truffle." -- BlckontheMoon
"The 1 thing I love about Truffle oil is I've never seen someone use it on a cooking competition show and not lose." -- igotmadshirts
Some people talked about the big trends that they just never could quite figure out.
That Almighty Nectar
"Remember when people were treating Nutella like it was the second coming of Christ?" -- Grapezard
"I had an Italian friend once invite me to his birthday party in high school. His mom made a Nutella pie and it was one of the greatest desserts I've never had the pleasure of trying again. It was so simple, like a soft flaky dough covered with Nutella."
"I don't want to come out of the blue and ask this kid for his mom's recipe 15 years later so I'll just suffer I suppose." -- JupiterTarts
"Red velvet is literally a red chocolate cake that has nowhere near enough chocolate and to much red food coloring. It literally was invented when done dudes chocolate turned kinda red when he added vinegar to the chocolate cake mix."
"Friends loved the color, but it was finicky to get the red color without changing flavor of cake, so he decided to use red food coloring."
"Fu**ing Avocado Toast.
"Avocado is a buck. Toast is few cents. Avocado Toast is $10+"
And some discussed the things that people insist are fancy and delectable, but are really just run of the mill entirely.
Meat is Meat?
"steak is good, and I'd even say a high quality steak can be very very good. But people act like it's better than busting a nut and that's just not true. It's just meat"
"Lobster. It's good, but poor value given it's almost always the most expensive protein available."
"Plus most places just drown it in butter, which again, fine, but if all you taste is butter, why spend that much?"
Depends on the House
" 'Housemade' ketchup. Give me the damn Heinz and get your banana aoili mess away from me." -- peanutbutterallytime
"I live in Pittsburgh and I have seen multiple restaurants try and fail to make housemade ketchup work. Every single time they go back to Heinz." -- HooBoy401
So if you find yourself tired of hearing people go on and on about something you don't go wild over, know that there are others fuming too.
It's not easy to always do the right thing.
Which is why most people don't usually do the right thing. Doing the right thing involves a lot of thought, empathy for others, and a self-awareness of your place in the world. You're not making a choice just for yourself, you're more often than not doing it for someone else. This, in itself, presents a difficult hill for most people to climb so, usually, they feel it's easier to make the selfish choice.
Doesn't mean people always do. They can surprise you sometimes.
*The following article contains discussion of suicide/self-harm.
What's the hardest moral decision you've ever had to make?
Even when the choice amounts to something small, it can still matter to someone else.
How Dare You Make Me Morally Astute?!
"This is small potatoes compared to most of the people on this thread but many years ago I was travelling and had very little money. I went to a stall at a market, handed them a 10 dollar bill. Item cost 5 dollars but instead of handing me a five dollar note, the handed me a 50."
"I was walking away from the stall when noticed. My first thought was BONUS. But I had lately been hanging out with a bunch of people who were really into karma. So I stormed back to the stall, slammed the 50 down on the counter and told them off for making me make moral decisions. Lady behind the counter was like "ahhhhhh, thanks"
Didn't Believe The First Time, But Can't Deny Visual Evidence
"I told a co-worker his wife was cheating on him. It ruined our friendship for a good amount of time, until he caught her himself."
"To bad he couldn't just believe you."
Owning Up To The Mistake
"Fessing up to an error I made at work that cost the company 5k. I was a manager and misinterpreted a sales promotion. I almost lost my job, this is the one time that telling the truth actually saved me. It's true what they say that the cover up is usually worse than the crime. Lesson learned.."
Doing something morally correct when it comes to family can be tricky. On one hand, you don't want to ruffle the feathers of the people you're going to be related to for the rest of your life...which is how family works.
On the other hand, do the right thing.
Making The Best Call For Your Children
"Removing the mother of my two sons out of their lives completely as she was unfit and abusive while I was on deployment. They were 3-4 years old then and now they are 17 and 15 with their mother never attempting to come back into their lives which I would prefer at this point."
Because They're Going To Be Sad Later...
"My grandmother died, and I lied to my parents about it."
"My grandparents were 95 and my parents hadn't had a vacation in 30 years. So when she passed away with only 5 days remaining on their vacation, my family decided not to ruin it for them; instead, we'd plan the entire funeral and if my mother wanted to make adjustments when she returned, we'd arrange it for her; there was nothing they could do to get her back."
"Having to decide on the DNR (do not resuscitate) order for my father who had been victim to a massive stroke..."
"I know millions have done it before and millions will again but to me it was devastating....."
"As a health worker, you did the right thing by your father. I've come across families of patients who keep them alive for their own peace of mind while the patient themselves is tired and in alot of pain mentally and physically from the constant treatments and would rather rest from it all. Don't feel bad for your decision."
Never doubt your actions when it comes to protecting children.
"Calling CPS on a student's family after she begged me not to. CPS did an investigation and she was pissed at me for months until the vice principal had a talk with her and explained that I only did it because I care and didn't want her to get hurt."
"That VP is awesome. I sat in his office while he coached me through the call, since it was my first time calling CPS."
Standing Up For Your Friend, Even When No One Else Will
"I was in high school and my best friend was being bullied on the bus. She brought a knife to school and had previously mentioned a list of people. I cried a lot when I went to the principal to turn her in. I knew I was ruining her life but I wanted her to get help. I didn't want anyone to get hurt because we were all just kids. She was expelled and forced into therapy. We had been friends since we were 11."
"My mom listened on the phone line when I was trying to comfort my friend (while absolutely not admitting it was me) and my mom jumped on and told her I'm not allowed to be her friend anymore. I had told my mom I had turned her in and she had no empathy for this girl. Because I had been bullied and stood up for myself and never "did anything like that". My friend was getting cornered on the bus by 4 people whereas I was normally taunted in public and was lucky enough to always have an upperclassmen or school employee around to help me out. I felt guilty about turning her life upside down for many years but would do it again because she did get help."
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/