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People Share The Best Examples Of 'It's Expensive To Be Poor'

People Share The Best Examples Of 'It's Expensive To Be Poor'
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It's actually really ridiculously expensive to be poor - an unfortunate truth that a lot of people are learning firsthand this year. There are even some among us who are too poor to be able to afford to work.

We know, it sounds like a complete contradiction; but it's a reality for a shockingly large number of people.


One Reddit user asked:

What's your example of "it's expensive to be poor"?

and yeah ... poverty is complicated.

Fees On Fees On Fees

Overdraft fees. Oh, you ran out of money? We'll just charge you more then!

- VonSnapp

My bank just switched our free checking to an account with a monthly fee. $7.00 a month if your account goes under $10. So if it goes under $10 they basically just help themselves to your remaining balance? It really chaps my behind.

- ComprehensiveSet902

While charging overdraft fees they also want to charge you fees for your debit payments failing - each one. But they failed cause the bank processed them started with the biggest payment instead of the order you spent and each fee lowers your balance till the last one also fails.

- MyPacman

NSF fees too. Juggling bills becomes hazardous. If you guess wrong, or lose track, or have a sudden emergency, or someone cashes a check you thought they'd already done, or an automatic withdrawal (which got me the most frequently). The payment gets refused, which, sure, if the money's not there of course the bill isn't paid. But then the company charges you an NSF fee, and so does the bank, and the bill you already weren't able to pay just got 50-100$ more expensive.

- Mjolinirsbear

The Differences

In the past 10 years, I've gone from borderline poverty to being upper middle class. Here are some of the differences:

- An overdraft/late fee could be as much as 10% of my savings account. Now it's a drop in a bucket, and having white collar job, means I know how to effectively negotiate to have fees waived.

- When you're broke you can only afford cheap products that break easily, Now I buy quality products that are built to last for years.


- Expensive dinners are completely out of the question when you're broke. Now I frequently eat great (And healthy!) meals because my job pays for lunches and dinners.

- When I was broke I had to purchase expensive equipment to learn my craft so that I could get a job. Now I my job pays me to use my equipment.

- Broke people have to pay for an expensive education to get a good job. Many people with good jobs are encouraged to take classes at the expense of the employer.

- People with good paying jobs can be 10 minutes late for work without fear that they will lose their job. If I have a good excuse, like my car breaks down, I can literally not show up for work for the day, get paid, and receive a heartfelt message from colleges offering support.


- Things like expensive booze and other luxury items are something you want when you are poor. When you work a high paying job, these sort of things are frequently gifted to you from bosses/co-workers and sometimes it becomes a hassle of trying to get rid of nice things you don't need (I end up giving away, re-gifting or donating a lot of stuff).

- When you are broke, it's hard to find a good paying job. When you have a good paying job, you are seen as a valuable and you will receive multiple job offers.

A few things that are new to me that I find weird about having money:

- Expensive clothes fall apart so fast, like the fabric will start to dull after a 3rd wash. I had an Old Navy shirt that easily lasted 20 years and never faded.

- Expensive things take up so much time and can be such a hassle to care for. Like fountain pens, nice wooden kitchen utensils, Linen place settings, etc.

- -CoreyJ-

Shoes

Shoes.

Better shoes last longer before they need to be replaced. But they cost to much for me to afford them, leaving me with sub-par shoes that need to be replaced more often.

It's not easy staying healthy on a tiny budget. I stay fat. Shoes wear out. It's expensive for my body.

- [Reddit]


Definitely true irl. I wear duty boots every shift I work. When I was new I couldn't afford anything other than a cheap pair of $80 boots. My feet froze in the winter, sweated in the summer, and they weren't really waterproof. That first pair lasted me about 10 months, and that was a stretch.

I managed to scrimp and save for a $300 pair of Danners and that pair lasted me nearly a decade, kept my feet warm in the winter, didn't make them sweat much in the summer, and kept my feet dry in standing water up to about 6" deep. When they wore out, I sent them back to Danner to be refurbished about about $120 and have gotten another 7 years and counting out of them.

- Obwyn

Rent

Housing. The longer you commit to stay, the lower your monthly price. But poor people don't always know where they'll be in a few months time, especially these days.

- SPP_TheChoiceForMe

Oh man, got a really good look at that recently. Me and my fiancee wanted to move to a new house, and we didn't know how long it would take to sell the old one and find one we liked, so we rented an apartment in the meantime.


They had really flexible leases, with durations from 6-15 months, different prices for the same apartment.

We calculated the cost of breaking the lease at different times together with the cost of each lease, and found that even if we moved at exactly 6 months, it would be cheaper to sign a 15 month lease and pay the penalty than to sign a 6 month lease.

Moving at pretty much any point would be cheapest to sign the 15 month lease and break it (I think at 10 months, it would be very slightly cheaper to have signed a 10 month lease). Funnily enough, we ended up moving after 6 months, but we still made the cheaper choice with the 15 month lease.

- ka36

The Breakdown

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Not being able to afford routine car maintenance and then having to shell out thousands when it breaks down

- Grass-Content

Nothing like having to push your car off an intersection because it suddenly died and won't restart, never mind if you were on your way to school, work or similar. It's a great way to lose your job.

- MyPacman

This. THIS! THIS THIS THIS. And having a flat tire every other week because you can't afford new ones. Spending ten bucks a pop to have your old tires patched when a new one (for your cheap little clunker car) costs $85 but you can't afford that because you've spent ten bucks a week for the last six months getting patches.

- Pokey1984

Laundry

Coin laundry :(

- camriver

I'm feeling this one.

My washing machine went kerplooey two weeks ago. I finally broke down and went to the only laundromat in my rural county.

$4.25 to wash each load, $1.75 to dry each load. I spent twenty bucks doing three loads of laundry.

That's $480 a year to load up my stuff and take it to a communal laundromat, during a pandemic. Holy f*ck I miss my washing machine.

- SuperTurnip

Or to put it another way, and really drive home the "expensive to be poor" aspect, in a year you'll have spent enough money to buy a brand new washing machine, without getting the washing machine.

And that's not counting the time spent there. At home you can multitask while the laundry's going.

- CommodoreBelmont

Can't Afford Health

So I'm in the US and it's "Open Enrollment" I've been looking at health insurance plans for a few weeks now. Here's my best option, as a 36-year-old single white woman with no health problems.

$235 per month (discount because I'm low-income) premium. $85 co-pay for normal doctor's visit. $145 if the doctor treats something in-office. I pay any in-office supplies that were used out of pocket. $13,000 deductible. Insurance pays 40% of hospital visits and overnight stays. Separate $7000 deductible for prescriptions. Zero dental or vision care.

Guys, I make between $800 and $900 per month. That's a quarter of my income as a premium alone. Which would be great, except if I pay the premium, I don't have any money left over for the co-pay, so I literally can't afford to both buy the policy and use it.


When I absolutely have to see a doctor I drive a couple hours to a clinic that offers huge discounts for people who self-pay. They are actually a god-send for things like sinus infections and strep throat. I had pneumonia a couple of years ago and not only did they give me the "self pay discount," making my office visit just $35, but they also found "office samples" of an albuterol inhaler and steroids, meaning all I had to buy was an antibiotic from the walmart $4 list.

I also drive an hour and a half to a Planned Parenthood clinic for my annual exam and things like that. They charge on a "pay what you can" scale. I figure out how to get by, mostly. But if anything big ever goes wrong or I develop a chronic health problem in the future, I'm gonna be so screwed it's not even funny.

I really need an eye exam as my glasses are giving me headaches, which means my prescription has changed again. And forget getting my teeth fixed, which is actually my biggest problem right now. There's no help for things like that. The healthcare situation just sucks.

- Pokey1984

Freebies For The Rich?

An inverse example is all the things rich/well-paid people get for free:

paid vacation days, gym/pool in your building, company cell phone allowance, commute reimbursement, retirement match and investing advice, paid lunches and travel, education opportunities, ability to participate in investment opportunities, references to even more highly paid jobs, etc etc.

- BurtReebus

It is definitely frustrating when I hear about rich celebrities getting giftbags with tens of thousands of dollars worth of merchandise in them. That is just silly.

- AbandonAllHope

Food

Food.

Everyone always argues "it's cheaper to eat healthy! Buy X, Y, Z in bulk, check A, B, and C specialty grocery stores, meal prep and freeze for the week, grow your own produce!" But these sorts of solutions really require a base level of wealth to begin with. Not a ton of wealth. If you're lower-middle class but still ending up in the red because you eat out too much, you can probably (probably) use these tips to cut your food budget enough to make a difference. But to do these things you need:


  • to live in a place with easy access to many different places to buy food (conventional groceries, discount groceries, big box stores, farmers markets, ethnic groceries, and bulk retailers)
  • a car, or very, very reliable public transportation and strong arms
  • time to travel to all these places to bargain hunt
  • a kitchen that has all the appliances to cook and store these items, and space for bulk foods in both a pantry and freezer
  • time to prepare these foods daily, or meal prep
  • the money to buy these things up front in bulk
  • the money to pay for a bulk shopping membership up front
  • the space, materials, and time to grow a significant amount of food

  • When you live in a food desert, like many inner cities and rural areas, pick-and-choose grocery shopping is not an option. When you don't have a car or live a very short distance from the store, buying more than an armful of groceries is not an option. When you work multiple jobs to pay rent, spending many hours per week on shipping or food prep isn't an option. When you live in an efficiency apartment, complex cooking and infinite food storage isn't an option. When you don't have a surplus of money this very minute, buying in bulk isn't an option. When you live in an apartment, or a desert, or an urban house with a concrete backyard, or a place that is a snowy tundra 6 months out of the year, growing a garden isn't an option.

    Plus, everyone gives this advice assuming a single adult or a two-adult, no kids household. But not everyone eating dollar menu and ramen noodles is a broke single college kid in a dorm blowing their allowance on beer then crying poverty. Children complicate all of this even further. So people end up buying dollar menu because it's Tuesday, payday is Friday, and they quite literally have $10 to their names to feed themselves and their kids. They could buy apples, but apples won't keep the the hunger pains away.

    - TerribleAttitude

    Wholesale

    I used to think that Costco was good for bulk sales

    My son founded a food charity and we started applying for business licenses. Guy mentioned a wholesaler to me.

    My son and I went to the wholesaler and he had 200lb pallets of pork shoulder for pulled pork- which my son needs- for $140! 200 lbs of food, which my son uses to feed like 500 homeless people- for $140.

    Or like 1000 chicken legs in cases for $0.29 per lb. something like $80 for 1000 chicken legs.

    Can you imagine if you were dead broke and spent $80 on 1000 chicken legs- you could eat for 6 months. Working with real food wholesalers is so much crazier than anything I expected.


    It's the set up for all of that - the ability to move pallets, have a huge deep freezer that all has to be there first. You're not going to have that if you're poor.

    I remember there were these cabbages, like $20 for 40 cabbages. A guy was buying like 80 cabbages to make cole slaw for his restaurant. He could spin that into profit and make money.

    I just felt like buying them and giving them to poor families. People have no idea how much more they're really paying than what food actually costs.

    - BaseballCollector


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    People Reveal Which Non-Horror Movies Absolutely Traumatized Them As A Kid

    Reddit user alina_love_ asked: 'What's a non horror movie that traumatized you as a kid?'

    No matter how long ago we saw it, there are some scenes or images from movies that still send shivers down our spine or keep us awake at night to this very day.

    Pennywise appearing in the sewer in It, Janet Leigh surprised in the shower in Psycho, Freddy Kreuger's tongue popping out of the telephone in A Nightmare on Elm Street.

    Of course, some of the scariest, most disturbing, or most emotionally traumatizing scenes from films might have been featured in films outside of the horror genre.

    Even more shockingly, some of these films were primarily marketed towards children!

    Redditor alina_love was curious to hear which non-horror films the Reddit community saw as children still send shivers down their spines today, leading them to ask:

    "What's a non horror movie that traumatized you as a kid?"

    It Was Tim Burton, After All...

    "'Pee Wee's big adventure'."

    "Large Marge scared the crap out of little me."

    "I was even scared of the fortune teller."- BlueStarrSilver·

    With A Title Like "Temple Of Doom"...

    "'Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom'."

    "The scene where the guy gets his heart ripped out traumatized me for years."- Pbhf

    That Funeral Scene Though...

    "'My Girl'."

    "Fear of death, fear of losing a friend, fear of bees, fear of puberty."- heidismiles

    macaulay culkin kiss GIFGiphy

    Jurassic Park's Got Nothing On This...

    "'The Land Before Time'."

    "Watching Little Foot’s mother die was awful."- HourglassSass

    He'll Always Regret Not Bringing Her To The Museum...

    "'Bridge to Terabithia'."- jumpstart-the-end

    "Everything goes so well and it falls apart SO FAST and your left absolutely traumatized."- VortexDestroyer99

    The Reason People Hold On To Their Appliances For As Long As They Do...

    "The Brave Little Toaster'."- Catgurl

    "The junkyard scene alone was responsible for so many nightmares."- ManChildMusician

    brave little toaster animation GIF by Coolidge Corner TheatreGiphy

    And Let's Not Forget The Coachman's Smile...

    "Disney’s version of 'Pinocchio'."

    "The scene where kids are turned into donkeys and kept on the island and then resold was f*cking weird."

    "You felt bad for that bully kid after he looked sad and nobody understood what he said because he was a donkey."- earnestlikehemingway

    Few Things More Sad And Scary Than Deforestation

    "'Ferngully: The Last Rainforest'."

    "That evil tree scared me so bad."- slutsdotnet

    Anything But "Truly Scrumptious"...

    "The 'Chitty Chitty Bang Bang' Childcatcher guy!"

    "I'm still scared of him!"- Jet_Maypen

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    Offing Children One By One...In A Children's Movie!

    "'Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory' boat scene."

    "Honorable mention of claustrophobia when Augustus gets stuck in the chocolate tube."

    "UGH!"- looseseal-bluth

    At Least We Know He Had A "Sole"...

    "Who Framed Roger Rabbit."

    "That poor shoe….."- dalalice5555

    At Least The Song Is Catchy...

    "Neverending Story."

    "Not even Artax, which was awful, but the Rockbiter and his good strong hands."- marxychick1

    Neverending Story 80S GIFGiphy

    Dorothy Gettying Electro Shock Therapy Says it All...

    "Return to Oz."- Jeff_Steelflexx

    "Horrifying! What about the animated wig heads?"- weensfordayz

    The Reigning King Of Childhood Trauma

    "Old Yeller."- IceTech59

    "I remember watching this on TV during, I think, Wonderful World of Disney (Sunday nights were Disney night on TV)."

    "Cried and cried and cried."

    "I've never been able to watch it again and I've never shown it to my kids!"- crowwitch

    Not All Friendships Are Tenable... A Terrifying Thought

    "'The Fox and the Hound'."

    "Still makes me incredibly sad, lol."- mental_reincarnation

    best friends friendship GIFGiphy

    Sometimes, writers and filmmakers simply overestimate what might go over a child's head.

    Or, for that matter, they might underestimate their emotional capacity.

    Regardless, ask any of Fairuza Balk's fans which is scarier, Return to Oz or The Craft, and their answer will be immediate...

    (... and it won't be The Craft...)


    Close-up of a man wildly smiling with his face painted like the joker
    Photo by Mihail Tregubov

    Sometimes it's fun to toy with someone.

    Especially if it's an enemy or a loved one who simply deserves a good ribbing.

    Some cryptic sentences can send anyone into a tailspin.

    And oh the fun that can be had.

    You have to be as vague as possible and as sincere.

    You have to sell the sincerity. That's vital!

    And then just watch them implode.

    Redditor theary18 wanted to hear about the most creative ways to throw somebody off their game, so they asked:

    "What is the best thing to say to someone to subtly f**k with their head?"

    I love to come up behind someone and say "I can't believe they would treat you this way. I got you girl!"

    Then I scurry away.

    Tee-hee...

    It's YOU!

    For Me GIF by Liz HuettGiphy

    "Just tack on the phrase 'given your history' to any question you ask someone."

    "Are you sure you want another drink? Given your history?"

    "Do you mind driving? Given your history?"

    hamletreset

    Mean Kids...

    "I moved to my elementary school in the 5th grade. Mid-year, a boy came up to me and said, 'I really thought you were gonna be somebody.' I'm now 45 and I'm still like, what the f**k was he talking about?"

    NicklePlatedSkull

    "Likely something they heard a parent say to someone. Kids love to repeat the dumb stuff you say the next day at school."

    itsallgoodman2002

    "All jokes aside he probably thought you were someone else. I've done the same things countless times and it's happened to me a few."

    Download_more_ramram

    "I would interpret this as this kid hearing there's gonna be a 'new kid' and then their imagination ran wild as to who this new star is going to be, that it will be like in some kid movie or something, but you turned out to be just another kid student."

    i_was_planned

    I Like You

    "I don't get why other people don't like you."

    Dependent_Main2643

    "Another variant is..."

    "I don’t care what everyone else is saying. I think you’re great!"

    "They’ll take it as a compliment at first but then they’ll think about it and it’ll eat away at them."

    Oh-Cool-Story-Bro

    "A guy I work with says this time to me every time I help him 'I don’t care what everyone else says about you you’re alright. Literally everyone else. We did a poll.' XD guy says some crazy s**t. When he started he tried to convince us he was a flat earther. He just likes fucking with people."

    ThreeBeatles

    Rumors

    “'I heard about you.'"

    ignorantpigeon

    "Whenever I hear this I always respond with 'if it’s all good, it’s all lies.' Usually shows my sense of humor and if it is bad things they heard it usually lightens the mood."

    ElApolloLoco

    "Years ago I worked at a cafe and function venue which was sold after a few years to a new catering company. The first time I met the new restaurant manager I introduced myself and she exclaimed 'Oh, you’re winoforever!' and I was a bit weirded out. Then not long later I met the new owner and she also said 'Oh, you’re winoforever!' I still wonder twenty years later what they’d both heard about me."

    winoforever_slurp_

    Problems

    Drunk Party Girl GIFGiphy

    "Go up to someone at a party and say: 'I just want you to know that personally, I have no problem with you being here.'"

    LuketheMook

    "I once got drunk and effectively said that to a girl at a wedding. 'I don't care what everyone else thinks, I always liked you' or something like that."

    Supersnazz

    Parties are the perfect setting for these shenanigans.

    Especially with the drinkers.

    But get them at least semi-sober.

    I got You

    Okaay What GIF by ABC NetworkGiphy

    "If you are chatting with someone and another person walks up look at them and say 'I just want you to know that I was defending you' then turn and walk off. It's a good 2fer."

    could_use_a_snack

    Hush

    "'We know, but don't worry, we'll keep it a secret.'"

    ch3rrycsmos_

    "A friend in high school (actually still a current friend) said something similar to me and it definitely f**ked with my head. 'You know you're not fooling anyone, right?' He wouldn't elaborate and it took me the rest of the day to figure out he was f**king with me. As a guy with imposter syndrome, especially as a teen, that had me turned for a bit."

    ablackcloudupahead

    You Again

    "If it’s someone you interact with repeatedly, always introduce yourself as if you’ve never met before."

    Stillwater215

    "I keep doing this to a guy I see very occasionally. He's a friend of my sister-in-law, but I've introduced myself to him at least four times. Right now, I'm trying to picture his face and I totally can't, so if I see him again, I'll introduce myself again. He remembers me though. And I don't have this issue with anyone else, I just can't remember this guy's face for some reason."

    KrtekJim

    Big Mouth

    "You really need to brush your teeth."

    setthepinnacle

    "Somebody jokingly left a message on the 'tip' line that said 'Take a breath mint.'"

    "I'm like 90% sure it was just the first thing that came to his head but it f**ked with me for weeks. I was self-conscious when talking to people, being close to them with my mouth open, and I'd constantly be brushing longer/harder taking mouthwash a couple extra times a day, and using mints."

    ToFaceA_god

    Head Issues

    Think About It GIF by IdentityGiphy

    "Give all your friends a few dollars to compliment their hat if they’re not wearing one. When 50 people insist you’re wearing a hat, you start to think you’re wearing a hat. It will drive them insane."

    Stillwater215

    Hats off for that last one. That's harmless but devious.

    Do you have any tips to add? Let us know in the comments below.

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    Societal pressures shape how people act most of the time, but every now and then someone comes along who doesn't care what other people think.

    They do what they want, when they want without guilt or remorse.

    According to President Theodore Roosevelt:

    "Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in the gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat."

    Much less rare are the times when otherwise conscientious people decide to throw caution to the wind. Almost everyone had at least one moment in life when they decide to go for it.

    Damn the torpedoes, full steam ahead, right?

    How things turn out after such a decision can make for some interesting stories.

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    Part of the fun of dating and being in a relationship are the unexpected, impulsive moments.

    What's funny is how these could be equally arousing moments, too, even if they're moments that we never expected to make us feel that way.

    Redditor thann3 asked:

    "What is the weirdest thing your partner did that turned you on?"

    Backing Up

    "When he backs into a parking spot, he puts his right hand on the back of my seat when he looks behind him."

    "Hnnnngggggghhh. Gets me going and I don't know why."

    - evilpinkmoney

    "Every time someone mentions this, I am reminded of the time I did it and accidentally backhanded this girl in the face."

    - kingoflint282

    That Reading Voice

    "In high school, this girl had a soothing voice. Every time she read out loud, I had goosebumps and she gave me butterflies."

    - donbruh

    Overwhelmingly Happy

    "I can’t think of anything weird my husband did, but the first night of our honeymoon, we were talking about the wedding and our future, and I started crying because I was so happy (and told him that’s why I was crying)."

    "He was smiling and gave me a kiss and then whispered, 'I don’t know why, but you crying just now turned me on.'"

    "Lol (laughing out loud), it didn’t turn me on, but it did make me laugh, and I thought it was weird-cute."

    - snarkylarkie

    Safety First

    "On the first date, he put my seatbelt on. It surprised me because I heard of men opening doors for their dates but not putting their seatbelt on. It just showed a very caring yet masculine side of him."

    "The tension of knowing we wanted of each other but agreed to take it slow just made me go feral in my head."

    "A year and a half later, he still does it to this day. He even gets 'mad' when I don't let him. I still blush when he does it, especially when other people are in the car with us."

    - eeeeriemarie

    Certain Accessories

    "It wasn't my girlfriend, but over a Skype call maybe a decade ago when I was a teenager, I was on a call with a female friend I had the hots for."

    "I casually mentioned that I had a thing for girls in glasses."

    "She gasped, told me to wait there, and scurried downstairs. About 20 seconds later, she rushed back up, jumped onto her bed with her jaw resting on her fists, and low and behold, she was wearing glasses."

    "We laughed, I didn't know what to say, but that was the cutest and sexiest way of letting me know she liked me."

    - GemoDorgon

    Good Chemistry

    "I know it sounds weird, but her breath is intoxicating. It’s naturally somewhat sweet, and of course, she thinks I’m crazy."

    "Edit: We know it’s not diabetes, ketosis, or any other medical issue. We’ve been together for over 30 years and it’s just good chemistry."

    - yoooozername

    That Deep Stare

    "An ex-girlfriend of mine looked at me in a certain way every now and again that just did something to me, like a bit of a stare deep into my soul knowing she wants all of me. Every day I hope someone will recreate and enhance it."

    - SamCham10

    The Perfect Sweater

    "When she wears THAT sweater, I'm powerless."

    - wastedmytwenties

    "Can someone link a pic of this type of sweater? Asking for a friend."

    - schnaizer91

    The Sleeve Roll Trick

    "My boyfriend rolled up his sleeves kind of slowly the other day, and I felt like I couldn’t hear anything for like a solid minute, lollllll (laughing out loud)."

    - farrah_barra

    The Corniest Jokes

    "This man will make the corniest joke in the whole world, and then his whole face lights up as he giggles at it. Gets me every time."

    - Hobbbitttuallly

    The Perfect Wine Pour

    "We had our honeymoon in Italy and he noticed the waitstaff poured wine really beautifully, so he replicated it. Now I have him pour all my drinks for me."

    "For some reason, the way his wrist moves when he pours really gets me going."

    - chicken-and-awfuls

    Specific Arm Movements

    "Two things."

    "When he's working on something mechanical and he starts getting serious, he'll flip his cap backward. It's an absent-minded thing and F**K is it sexy. And when he's working overhead, the way his arms flex. Watching him lift things into our attic is an instant turn-on. It's f**king weird, but godD**N does it do it for me."

    "Also when I wear something sexy or low cut and he's not expecting it, he'll stutter if he's mid-sentence. We'll be talking from another room for instance, and I'll toss on a revealing shirt and walk in there and he'll lose his train of thought. Or shake his head like he needs to clear it. Your man making you feel sexy is the ultimate sexy move."

    - shimmydownnow

    Love Language: Physical Touch

    "It's the gentle physical touch in public. That little 'Love you' touch as they scurry away to do a thing. Those random touches turn me on so quickly."

    - 1beeratatime

    Totally Saved It

    "He fixed the shower in my truly horrible, low-rent grad school apartment and changed the oil on my car. Not sure why, but that just did things to me."

    "If you were to ask my husband, self-deprecating humor would probably be his answer."

    "On our first date, he and I went to see this stage production of 'Jekyll and Hyde.' At the bar, they were selling these cute little shots of Bailey's/Kahlua, with each liquor on separate sides of the glass. Me, being incredibly graceful in all things always, completely dumped the Bailey's half onto my blouse."

    "His eyes got all big, not sure how to react, and I just sighed, turned to him, and reintroduced myself like, 'Hi, I'm (my name). This kind of thing happens a lot.'"

    "He busted up laughing, I ordered a scotch, and we've been together for the past 11 years."

    - anyesuki

    Simply Existing

    "Exist. My girlfriend could literally just stand there and I could and would get a chill down my spine."

    - andytheloser12

    While we were expecting these responses to be, well, weird, most of these were actually pretty cute or heartwarming.

    Sometimes when it comes to relationships and intimacy, something can feel weird simply because it's unexpected, but maybe the unexpected moments are among the best parts of the relationship!