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Compliments are wonderful to get. They can make us feel good about ourselves and let us know that the people around us value us. Positive reinforcement is such a wonderful thing.


Reddit user u/bigd192837465 asked:

"What's the best compliment you've ever received?"What's the best compliment you've ever received?"

10.

When the first thing someone says after they taste something you made isn't a word.

But like in a good sense lol

-Zedric69

For any potluck/party/any event where I should bring food, I love making lemon bars, and I get way too excited by positive reactions to them.. that "oh wow, who made these" is the absolute best compliment

-jpipi

9.

A relative's kid (who I don't see often) named their imaginary friend after me.

To think I made an impression like that is pretty cool!

-FlannelPlaid

8.

"It's impossible not to like you".

-fancy-schmancy_name

I've gotten that a couple of times, can confirm it does wonders for your self esteem. Like yea. Yea! I am pretty awesome!

-imscaredofostriches

7.

Random girl told me I have nice eyes at the grocery store. I'm a 6'3 bearded guy who's a bit rough around the edges so I was flattered and felt very pretty the rest of the day.

-MaxAnita

I had a complete stranger stop and say the same thing to me. I struggled with severe insecurities for a longggg time, and this helped tremendously. I still think about it sometimes.

It helped me realize that people see things from different perspectives and it's better to ignore that negative voice in your head.

-seedstodream

6.

Being told "You just have that kind of smile that makes everyone else happy too." Really made my day.

-MarkaroniandCheese

5.

There was a girl who told me I was the most confident guy she had ever met. I had struggled with social anxiety issues for years, and that statement would have been so laughable just a few years back. It was such a big statement on how well I had done to get my brain in order.

-UpvoteForGlory

4.

I was waiting at a train station once in a some what colourful outfit and a lady came up to me and told me I looked fabulous. I don't get compliments like that from strangers so I was kinda taken aback. I'll never forget that compliment.

-F1T_13

3.

Knocked a box of nachos off a shelf and caught it without looking. The guy behind me said "Nice catch."

-HotObject22

2.

"I like your curly hair"

Toddler at my daughter's daycare. At 36 I finally decided to stop fighting my natural hair texture. Was two weeks into Curly Girl method.

Thanks kiddo.

-TheQueenOfFilth

The best part is, you KNOW it's genuine, because kids are brutally honest!

-bennynthejetsss

1.

When I was in fourth grade, the boy I liked told me I was so smart that by the time I got old, my brain would be so huge it would explode and that's how I'd die. By being too smart. And nothing's ever topped that.

-kansasmolasses

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