Are you the type to take other people's advice or do you need to learn things first-hand?

Personally, we've had some people deliver some pretty beautifully Iroh-level good advice... and we have kicked ourselves immensely for not taking it. The best advice we've ever gotten is to take the advice we ask for.

One Reddit user asked:

What's the best advice you've ever received?

We don't know if these people took any of this advice, but yeah, this is all pretty good stuff.

A You Problem

My older brother once told me this (after I had vented about another failing relationship): If you have a problem in your relationship and you haven't told your partner ....it's a YOU problem.

It really forced me to work on communicating better (and also knowing when to call time) in general.

- raethefish

I don't understand why people have such a difficult time telling their partners when something is wrong. Does it feel better to snap at them and bite their head off?

- -4twenty-


"Only take advice from people who have what you want."

Helped me find actual mentors, and got me reading things that would actually help me.

- thedukeofdelicacies

Great advice. When people learn I've been successful financially they either want to tell me about their business idea or ask me how I did it and how they can too. Almost universally they don't actually listen to me. They're too excited to talk about themselves and their big plans. I'm very willing to give people advice, but in 2 or 3 years I've yet to meet someone who actually listens.

These days, in real life, I do everything I can to suggest I'm not wealthy so people don't pitch me their shitty business ideas then ignore me when I offer feedback.

- ignost

I'm a tax accountant. My family asked me about tax deductions. I told them their personal expenses aren't deductible. They tried to negotiate with me.

You asked. I told you the law. Stop trying to convince me. I don't care what you put on your taxes.

One of my cousins asked me about this guy who has a multi-step plan to become wealthy. I've seen tax returns of people with similar occupation titles and their taxes do not reflect what is on their website as proof of their success. So I told her he's a scammer and was indicted for fraud.

"But what kind of fraud? Because if it wasn't for mortgage fraud..."

Does it really matter what kind of fraud? And if you didn't really want my opinion, why did you ask?

- -4twenty-

Bad Food

"The money you save buying bad food will later be spent on hospital bills"

-Serbian dude in a grocery store when my family first came to America

- xokoper683

Ah yes, America. The place that combines extremely unhealthy cheap food with extremely expensive health care.

- modern_milkman

There are such things as "food deserts," though. Places where it's harder to get nutritious meals.

"Unprocessed, healthy, fresh food, with no preservatives" often equates to "spoils quickly, needs time to cook, can even be expensive depending on where you live."

For middle to upper class that's doable, but when you're overworked and living paycheck to paycheck, you buy cheap, long-lasting stuff that requires minimal prep.

- AdvocateSaint

Act Broke

Act broke to stay rich

- Boootaa

My wife and I do ok for ourselves.

We live in a nice neighborhood, and our neighbors drive fancy cars and seem really wealthy. Then when we talk to them more, we find out they have no savings.

- Dudeinairport

Money talks, wealth whispers.

- ballermasri

I know some millionaires. They drive basic models of relatively inexpensive cars that are forever old. They buy their clothes from Walmart.

And that's their secret. They're millionaires because they don't spend frivolously.

- -4twenty-

Better Than A Zero

As a perfectionist, who also procrastinates (yes I know) it's really difficult for me to do an assignment if I know I won't be doing it perfectly or on my exact terms.

Due to the corner I back myself in to most times, I don't always have the time to submit the work that I feel reflects my true potential and I get so overwhelmed that I don't want to do it at all.

I had someone tell me it's better to get a decent grade like an 8/10 rather than submit nothing and get zero if that makes sense. Get the credit and make the best with the time you have left otherwise you'll regret that zero just because you wanted a 10.

Idk if anyone else has this particular struggle or needs to hear this but yeah it's helped me anytime I've felt like giving up.

- toiletqueef

I know this advice as "don't let perfect get in the way of good". It means work on producing a good, finished artefact rather than chasing unrealistic goals of perfection.

- digibollocks

Good Luck

From my professor in college about a final in an email:

"Students, I will not wish you good luck on this test. Luck is wished on those who believe they will do bad. Instead, I wish you the best on finding time to study for this exam, guaranteeing you a passing grade."

- erwreckahh

Reminds me of a professor who explained on the first day that his class is structured to be "easy to pass, easy to fail, and hard to get an A in." So much of life is like that-if all you want is to not fail, just show up and do the basics. If you want to excel it gets much more difficult. I know it's not advice in the traditional sense but I think about it a lot.

- turingtested

Being Nice

"Yer born into a world that ya didn't ask for, suffer for decades, and then ya die. Cuz everyone dies to make room for the new gen. Dun't matter if yer rich or poor or lucky or unlucky, cuz everyone is suffering in their own way. So be nice to em, because it'll make em suffer a little less, and you'll feel better too. Being nice is all you can do, and it does a lot."

-my dad roughly 20 years ago

I honestly never received such brutally honest advice that actually helped me become a better person.

- Brangur

Nobody Knows What They're Doing

No one really knows what they're doing in their job. The closer you get to the roles at the top, the more you'll see that everyone is still making their best guess.

Instead of worrying about making the right call 100% of the time, and procrastinating on decisions, get better at failing but moving forward from it.

- macadamianutt


There are friendships and there are friend"shifts."

Most people you'll get to know during your life will be friend"shifts," just a few will be friendships. That doesn't mean the relationships that end don't have meaning, though be prepared that a deep one, even most deep ones will eventually fade, and that's ok.

It may sound like a downer, but it has helped me to not get so devastated when I realize someone I care about isn't part of my life anymore.

- DJArcusII

You Don't Have To Be Stupid

You don't have to be stupid to do dumb things.

We all screw up from time to time, but that's not a reflection on your intellect. Be an adult about it, acknowledge your error as necessary, correct it, learn from it. If you're worried about people judging you for screwing up, they're probably paying a lot less attention to you than you think, and chances are they either didn't notice or didn't care.

- EwoksMakeMeHard

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They say one man's trash is another man's treasure - and sometimes that saying is pretty literal.

Lots of people build entire businesses picking up cool stuff on bulk-pickup trash day, and upcycling it into something even better that people are willing to pay for.

Sometimes, you might even end up with something pristine and usable right away.

Reddit user JampackedAlborn1976 asked:

What is the most valuable item that you have seen somebody throw away or have found in the garbage?

And for real ... some of these people scored BIG TIME. Like big time. Like really big.

Like Refrigerator Big

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"Our current refrigerator is a double-door one with exterior ice and water dispensers. We got it for free, with absolutely no problems whatsoever. It's just a few years old."

"How we got it? My dad (civil engineer) was doing some work on someone's apartment when they said they had bought a new modern French door refrigerator and that they were just going to discard their current refrigerator."

"My dad simply asked if he could have it.. and they said yes." - SauloJr

Immigrants In Action

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"I immigrated to the US from Brazil when I was 12. And every Saturday, my mom, stepdad, sister and I would go out at night to upper middle class neighborhoods the day before trash pickup to rummage through the garbage they were putting out."

"We found perfectly good TVs, VCRs, microwaves, couches, lazy boys, tables, books and comics, etc."

"I couldn't believe these Americans were throwing out like that. We furnished our entire house with that stuff. The entire Brazilian immigrant community in my town did it. We were flabbergasted." - PhillipLlerenas

With A Note

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"My wife yelled at me that someone put a big TV outside with a note on it. Walked across the street and it was a brand new Samsung 37 inch HDTV."

"They were actually renovating the apartment building and got an upgraded TV. Even had the remote taped to it with batteries, I guess I have really nice neighbors here in NYC." - MadLintElf

Life Hack!

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"If you want high end stuff out of the garbage for free, follow these steps:"

"Pick a city with a large university in it. If it's a school well known for its law programs, or medical, or engineering, all the better."

"Search for luxury apartment complexes that market themselves towards students. Look for things like included shuttle service, pools, fitness centers, etc. The more expensive and swanky the better."

"Figure out when finals week is at the end of Spring semester."

"Dumpster dive at those luxury apartment complexes during that week and the following weekend."

"Very wealthy international students will arrive in the US, fully outfit an apartment with nice furniture, big TVs, audio systems, gaming consoles, you name it, and when the semester ends they just junk it all because they aren't going to fly it back to wherever, and it's too much effort to spend the time selling when they do not care about the money."

"It's a smaller scale phenomenon a little like all the luxury cars abandoned at the airport in Dubai." - whattothewhonow

Literal Gold Treasure

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"I found a gold coin at goodwill for 5 bucks. It was in a case with someone's name and company name."

"It was their gift from the company for retiring. I assume the family threw it out when he died not knowing it was solid gold. It was in a in a thick solid plastic case that had to be cracked opened."

"It literally said 1 oz fine gold on it. I figured 5 bucks was worth the risk it not being real."

"It was a South African KRUGERRAND 1 oz coin. Everyone was just too busy to read it lol."

"Bought it and took it too a pawn shop and sold it for a couple grand." - streetmitch

The Best Day Of My Life

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"When I was a kid, I grew up right outside the Los Angeles area in the suburbs. My stepdad was a garbage truck driver for the city of Beverly Hills."

"I swear in the late 80s and early 90s we'd have so much basically brand new stuff (still in boxes) brought home on a regular basis."

"I'll never forget one day in particular. My stepdad came home and was like 'get ready, come to the car, I'll need your help.' So I go down there and in back seat of his car he had a few large black garbage bags."

"We haul them up to our apartment and he's like 'go ahead, open them.' Inside was what I could only describe as an 80s kids trove of treasures."

"One bag contained just about every Ghostbusters and GI joe toy you can imagine, they were played with but had every little accessory, there was a bunch the playsets and everything."

"In the other bag was pretty much every LEGO of the early 80s sets, still in their original boxes. I was a big LEGO nerd but was totally thrown off by the old school space ones because they looked nothing like the 90s space sets. I think they even said "NASA" the minifig's chests."

"That was like a random day in July, it felt like Christmas. I was 9 years old and it was basically like the best day of my life up to that point." - Zombgief

Who Throws Away Money?

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"A jar full of quarters."

"Annual spring cleaning projects happen in a lot of towns where anyone can put almost anything on the curb and it's taken away for free. It's to stop open dumping or stuff being dumped in ditches."

"Sometimes people deal with estates from winter by just dumping all their grandfather's stuff on the curb for the cleanup to get the house empty immediately. Most often they don't even bother to look at what they are throwing away."

"In 2012 on north road in Akwesasne I found an estate pile that I shuttled back and forth with my bike trailer getting lots of older tools like a scythe, hammers, saws, screwdrivers and wrenches, a 22 rifle with 100 round of ammo, a bunch of ar15 magazines, cast iron cookware, oil lamps, a hand crank food mill with all kinds of accessories, a black raven axe head (worth $100 easily since they are a collectable), and a quart size mason jar full of change mostly quarters."

"That was spring and the sheriffs office did a gun buyback in the fall where I took the mags and got $20 each for them (30 round mags suddenly illegal under the safe act of fall 2012. The buyback was a local political move). I still got the 22 and picked off a lot of woodchuck with it in my gardens." - Bogtrotterso1980

Filing Fever

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"I own a small company which is located directly in front of a state funded program facility. The state decided to have this office shred all of their files as they were going to switch to electronic data (exclusively)."

"We found two of these old rotary filing cabinets outside of their office. They're worth almost $3k each!"

"They just placed them there and we saw them and asked what they planned on doing with them. They said, 'Hmmm.....either donate them or trash them.' The state told them simply to get rid of them."

"We jumped at this and took the two into our already tiny office because there was no way in hell that we were going to let these gems go. (We do use paper files, unfortunately)."

"They wanted to give us two smaller ones but seriously, our office is very small. I made some phone calls and they were picked up immediately by other office workers/friends." - GlitzBlitz

This Sucks - In A Good Way!

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"In the 1990s my moms work had a really nice high end Hoover that stopped working. They threw it out."

"My mom took it home because my dad tinkers and repairs things easily. Turns out since it was a bagged vacuum all the dummies had to do is REPLACE THE BAG."

"Like it never occurred to them to do the most easy and basic step. My parents were excited to have a really upgraded vacuum. Maybe like $500ish." - schweddyboobs

Tiffany's Trash

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"My dad found an old stained glass window laying out by someone's trash. He thought it would look cool hanging in our cabin, so he stopped and grabbed it."

"It sat in our garage for a few years before he looked at it more closely and found "Tiffany and Co." branding on it. He got in touch with some stained glass window dude who figured it was worth about $40k fully restored, so my dad sold it to him for somewhere around $30k." - throwaway_stopdrink

Have you had any awesomely trashtastic treasures? Let us know!