Life is hard. And navigating life is harder.
The only saving grace of navigating life is that there has always been somebody before us who can so easily impart upon us the wisdom of their mistakes and of their life.
We hope we will be able to hear those, as these people have heard.
Here were some of those answers.
Live Slow; Don't Die
My dad once told me, half jokingly, that "Live Fast Die Young doesn't work if you don't die young." He has a bunch of health problems now due to not taking care of himself when he was younger. It really opened my eyes to how the way I treat my body now will have repercussions decades in the future. After hearing that phrase and seeing his health issues accumulate, I've started eating much healthier and exercising more frequently.
Try A New Way Of Thinking
Treat things as an opportunity not an expectation.
If you're expecting a certain outcome then you'll generally be disappointed but if you are looking at it as an opportunity for things to go one way or another you'll usually be happier with the outcome and not stress over it if it's negative.
It's a lot easier to see silver linings or benefits in things when you're not expecting the outcome to be a certainty and you'll be a lot more appreciate of said outcomes when you're not already starting at a benchmark
It will still be here tomorrow.
Wisdom from my boss on having a huge to-do list at work and not stressing over it. Get done what you can today, what you don't finish will be there to work on tomorrow and you don't need to take the mental baggage of having a big to-do list home with you.
Measure twice, cut once.
I actually sometimes recall the moment my uncle told me that in a conversation when I was maybe 13 or 14. I think we were talking about it literally, cause I did have a woodworking class in school at the time.
It has helped me be more cautious when doing certain things though. Like when doing a task where I can't redo it if I screw up, I'll be super super careful at each stage to be very aware of what's going on.
Let It Go
Marriage advice: "Pick your battles". Seriously, this helped me so much over the years as I've come to understand that most things just aren't important enough to argue over and that you don't "lose" anything by letting things go.
It Is What It Is
If you can't hide it, point to it.
As in: If you slip and fall on your butt in front of a group of people, stand up and take a bow. If you make an embarrassing typo, make a joke about it. Acting embarrassed only makes embarrassing situations worse. Embrace it and laugh about it.
Trust Yourself First
Being an electrician working in industries: "trust no one."
If the process operator is convinced that the power is shut off, go and see it for yourself.
If a trainee tells you he has tightened all and any bolts and screws, go and see it for yourself.
If your foreman sounds convincing enough that the materials for the job are ordered, go and see it for yourself.
It's a philosophy not for sowing mistrust, but to ensure you can do your job properly and safely.
Don't Mess It Up
Honest work is better pay.
Parents taught me this, and I always applied it when doing indoor painting and repair work. Sometimes, my customers would figure out little things that I did later on, like taking doorknobs off before painting just in case they wanted to change out knobs.
Word of mouth travels fast when the person they're paying good money to doesn't screw them and pays attention to detail.
Get In A Different Room
Don't recall where I heard this but...
"If you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room"
OP, since you're still young always remember this as the people who you surround yourself with especially in your young adult life will have a profound impact on the rest of your adulthood. Surrounding yourself with driven and intelligent people will influence you positively.
Keep Going At 100
Marriage isn't 50/50. It's 100/100. You don't split duties and responsibilities. You both give your all, regardless of how much your spouse is giving.
There will be times when they won't give as much, out of sickness or sadness or whatever reason. Instead of feeling like they should do more, just pick up the slack. There will be times when you can't do your share either. Dishes need doing? Do them.
Instead of asking whether they're doing enough, ask if you can do more. Serve them. Give them yourself. If both people do this, it will be a happy marriage.