Bachelor and bachelorette parties are known for getting wild, but most people can show enough restraint to remember that they're getting married soon. Some people, though, seem not to have that particular ability.
"People who have witnessed a "There's not going to be a wedding" moment following a bachelor/bachelorette party: what went down?"
These are going to get pretty cringey, so strap in and prepare for takeoff.
My dad and his friends took a buddy by canoe to an island to get drunk the night before the wedding. He told them all he didn't want to go through with it but couldn't figure out how to get out of it. When he woke up in the morning, they had stranded him on the island, he missed the wedding, his buddies were branded as the jerks. Groom to be was relieved.
I see a lot of bachelor and bachelorette parties in my line of work. I actually have a few of these memories.
The first that comes to mind was an interesting night where the bachelor party was happening at one bar and the bachelorette party was in the bar down the block. At the groom to be's party I get a call for help from the place. It's a tame security call. Just a couple getting it on in a bathroom. The bar wanted them booted.
I find out the dude is the groom to be and the girl is just some random chick. The chick goes off on her own and now I'm with the groom outside. He's drunk and almost uncontrollable. I am trying to find him a way home safe. His bros were all drunk and kept the party going without him.
After a while, the bride to be and her gals come walking down the street. A couple people around chime in and tell her why I am there dealing with him. She breaks down and calls the wedding off right there. He ended up going to detox that night.
I know a guy who seemingly had his life together: great career, lots of friends, beautiful fiancee.
He had a tendency to drink too much while partying, and a few weeks before the wedding he woke up in the hospital with serious injuries due to a non-automotive drunken accident. The scariest part for him was that he didn't remember a thing past leaving the party to walk home. Did he fall and hit his head? Did someone attack him and leave him for dead?
The thought of that scared him, and he decided to sober up. It also caused him to reflect on his life, and he realized his fiancee was manipulative, controlling, and he'd never be happy living with someone like that. He has some long term damage from the injury, but he's still sober, spends much of his free time for a charitable cause, and dodged a serious bullet (a bad marriage) as a result of that horrible injury so he oddly came out ahead in the end.
A wedding came in from out of town, the bride/groom hadn't had a stag/hen do so decided the night before that the men and women would split up and each have their own party. The men had a small cocktail bar and the women took the restaurant. I was meant to be working the main bar but got asked by a female colleague to cover the cocktail bar as the men were getting rowdy and making comments - no problem.
Got in there and it's just a group of old mates getting hammered, pretty standard stuff, until the stripper arrived. She did a full show, the groom has to get pretty involved. All was well until the woman found out and called off the wedding - shouting matches went on well into the early hours. The wedding did go ahead, but you could tell there was awkwardness in the air.
The bride came to the bar asking if we had seen the groom as he was needed for some photographs or cutting the cake, can't quite remember. None of the staff had seen him so she went outside, only to return a few minutes later in tears. She had caught the groom getting with the Maid of Honor...her sister.
All out family war commenced with extra guests just sitting there enjoying the buffet. Worst part was hearing the bride cry "I can't believe this happened again," I really felt bad for her because she was lovely.
I bartend weddings fairly often and work directly with wedding planners all the time and meet with the bride and groom to be to talk things through and create a sense of familiarity. Each time I met the groom he just kind of seemed out of it but I chalked it up to stress.
Day of the wedding before the ceremony the wedding planner comes over and asks for a couple shots for herself, she doesn't drink on jobs so I ask her why. Apparently things were about to get started but the groom was missing and wasn't responding to phone calls so everyone is looking for him then one of the bridesmaids disappears.
Not long after the brother of the groom gets a text from the groom saying he and the bridesmaid are in love and they're running away to elope and that he'll call him after. Everyone is getting antsy waiting for things to start and they've all been waiting like 2 hours. Now the wedding planner has to tell 150 people that the wedding is off and explain to the parents what happened while the wedding party is consoling the bride.
My wife's friend called off her wedding a week before the ceremony. She lived several hundred miles away for school but came back to her hometown two weeks before the wedding to make sure everything was lined up and have her bachelorette party. In the course of her visit, she came across an old boyfriend (who was also engaged) and things "sparked" up again. They agreed they should each leave their fiancés and give their relationship another shot.
Turns out, he didn't keep up his end of the bargain, and she is still single today.
I traveled with my wife (then girlfriend) to a wedding she was in. I told my wife there is something going on between the bride and the maid of honor. She laughed. Two weeks after the wedding the brides Facebook goes dark. The bride and maid of honor are now living together in another state. I still talk about how I called it within an hour of meeting them. Poor groom... super nice dude.
Ex-girlfriend was going to a friend of a friends bachelorette party, mainly for her friend who didn't want to go solo.
Anyway, I knew they were going to a strip club and expected to hear all about those shenanigans. She texted me when they were leaving, the bride had payed for two of the strippers to come back with them. They went back and the show continued.
Everyone seemed like they were having fun, but generally playing by the rules. Nothing that doesn't go on at tons of bachelorette parties.
At some point things took a turn. Then, things went the way they usually do with sexually charged people. Turned into two of the girls having sex with the strippers. Then the bride.
There was no wedding.
Wedding Photographer here - This happened with a couple back in 2015.
Night before the wedding, all the bridal party got together at the hotel, partied, and drank a LOT. I show up the next morning 8am after a 2 hour drive to be told by the hotel receptionist, that there was not going to be a wedding.
Apparently a large fight broke out between the groomsman and bridesmaids. Money to pay the vendors was stolen. The ceremony was supposed to be at 11am that day. After about 2 minutes of WTF is going on here, nobody called and told me. I called the bride's mother - and she stated that she was off to pick up the bride and groom, sit them down, and still try to have a wedding.
Fast forward a couple hours, the groom showed up drunk out of his mind around 10am, guests were already showing up, the bride finally showed around 11:30 - noon time, and there was a ceremony at 1pm. Yes - they still got married. The groom was drunk the whole day, the couple argued a ton.
Needless to say... It was an eventful day.
A friend of mine in college had been engaged to her highschool sweetheart. Plan was for them to get married after she graduated. She was one of those that dreamed of her wedding since she was a little girl. She had been planning FOREVER!!! A week before the wedding, he leaves without a trace, except a note saying I can't marry you. She was devastated.
We still had a party with the wedding cake, food, etc. because it had all been paid for already. Saddest party ever. She ran into him a few years later at an 80's dance club wearing a mesh shirt and a taxi hat making out with a dude.
Not because of the party but still good. Day of the wedding Groom's family is patiently waiting. Bride's family hasn't shown. Bride's mother finally arrives and says that Bride has discovered Groom has a second fiancé in another state and wedding is off. Rehearsal dinner photos on Facebook and someone tagged the wrong girl assuming that was his fiancee he had been talking about.
Except it was the other fiancé. So Bride see her tagged as someone else and messages from out of town friends about "Can't wait to meet her why wasn't I invited?"
Strip club manager here,
Funniest thing I've ever seen. 5 man bachelor party comes into work. Kinda tipsy and having a good time but not being disruptive. They are hanging out for a while and they are great, throwing money and overall being pleasant. At this point they have done nothing wrong.
About 2 hours in, my front door flings open and in barge 4 very very drunk women. They storm right past security, make a beeline for the group and what I later learned was the bride, proceeds to beat the absolute crap out of the groom. Then 2 of the other ladies proceed to botch at than attack the best man and another guy. Me and my team bolt over to try and separate the cluster that just transpired pulling the ladies off the guys who looked just as surprised as we were.
We drag them outside and the guys all follow out. The bride start going absolutely nuts on the groom saying how she can't believe he'd go to a strip club to see naked women before their wedding. The groom starts yelling saying it's not a big deal etc. The maid of honor and best man (who were apparently married) also are having the same discussion.
The fun really gets turned to 11 when the quiet female (up to this point) walks up and slaps the dog crap out of the groom wondering why she wasn't good enough. Apparently they had dated years ago and she never got over him. Also apparently the bride did NOT know this information. Bridezilla goes OFF. Start beating the crap out of quiet chick.
While groom, me and another security guy are trying to stop a murder in my parking lot, best man and maid of honor are still arguing. Once we separate bride and quiet chick, all we hear is best man scream forget this! Walks over, tells groom he had sex the bride like 3 years ago at a party with the maid of honor and he didn't want him to marry her.
Groom surprisingly is calm... turns to bride and says the wedding was off. She starts freaking out crying apologizing and begging as he walks in the club to pay his tab...
Craziest night at work ever....
I was two weeks away from getting married, ex went off with her friends for Bachelorette party two in the morning I get a email from the maid of honor it was supposed to be sent to her friends and my name was accidentally selected, the email contained a video of my bride hooking up with one the male strippers.
The next day we were supposed to finalize some plans when the bride to be and maid of honor showed up to pick me up i just pointed at the computer... bride went pale then spent the next eight hours attempting to explain what was going on, then it turned into a horrible mistake, I think at some point I passed out because i had started drinking right after seeing the video and just didn't stop.
Military idiot in my old unit had a bachelor party at a (very nasty) strip club and had sex with a stripper in front of his buddies in the private room. Of course word about this spread like wildfire in the unit and confirmed by the dozen of guys that were in the room when it happened, military spouses gossip and talk and soon the wife found out and they were divorced less than a month later.
I'm still friends with the groom on FB and he is still an idiot.
My wife had a friend whose fiancee called off the wedding after he found out she had been with a black guy... years before they even started dating.
Gotta love it when the trash takes itself out.
This happened to one of my oldest friends who I met in preschool, our families were friends, they moved out of state in middle school but we kept in touch. Cut to our 20s- He gets engaged to his gf that he was living with, everything sounds good, I got the invite and was making plans to travel for the wedding. They had a joint bachelor/bachelorette weekend in Vegas with their wedding party and I coincidentally was out there the same weekend visiting family, so I joined them out one night.
It was awkward AF. I can't really describe the tension. Fiancé didn't even say hi or acknowledge me when I said congrats (first time meeting her too). Everything was disorganized, no one knew what was going on, we kinda wandered from place to place til we settled at a bar in a hotel. I never saw the bride and groom next to each other all night let alone talking.
They got in different cabs from one place to the other even though it was not separated by guys and girls, but one big party. I ended up hanging out mostly with my friend's older brother and his gf. I got the weirdest vibe off the situation and when I got back I told my SO I wanted to hold off buying the plane tickets and wasn't sure I wanted to make the effort and pay a lot of money to travel to a wedding that I felt so uneasy about.
Maybe two weeks later my friend calls to ask if I've bought tickets yet. Not yet... Good he says, the wedding is off. Fiancé decided she was in love with one of the groomsmen and she moved in with him. The groomsman that lived right next door to them. She claims she never cheated while they were together and it just happened... right. I think she and groomsman got married some time later, but my friend was stuck in the lease living next to them for several months.
It was a month before my scheduled wedding and I was getting everything ready. In the meantime all of my close friends in my wedding party came out to celebrate my bachelor party with some drinking, floating, skydiving, etc. Well the night before they get there, my now ex-fiance of 8 years says that she no longer wants to go through with the wedding.
So I spend the morning my friends are there calling around to friends, family, reservation services and explaining the news (completing blindsided). Come to find out she had cheated on me and had been feeling that way "for awhile" but didn't share this with me until the day of my Birthday... the day before my friends visit for a few days.
Needless to say the plans changed a bit and it turned into my Birthday party instead. Was pretty awful but I ended up having a good time with best friends.
Much happier now with my soul mate and so thankful that things worked out the way they did!
Bachelor party went on a cruise and never left the ship. Ate too much and drank a lot. Meanwhile the bachelorette party went to Vegas. The bride banged one of the strippers and two of the bridesmaids hooked up with old boyfriends who just happened to be there. The wedding never happened. But the bridesmaids are now both engaged to their respective boyfriends (the ones that they cheated on) and planning a double bachelorette party in..... you guessed it..... Las Vegas.
Three of us guys were best friends since high school - we'll say it's Billy (guy getting married), Joel (one of the 3 amigos), Martin (me). Fast forward to about age 23 - Billy is getting married to this girl who was 19 at the time. Night of the bachelor party, somehow Joel and I are alone with the bride-to-be. She's got a few drinks in her, and decides to seriously proposition Joel for sex.
We thought long and hard about telling Billy, but given previous experiences (we told him about an Ex doing some shady crap and he proceeded to stop talking to us until they broke up), we decided against it. They did get married... 6 months in he got home early from work and walked in on her in the middle of taking her clothes off in the living room with another dude. While they might have just been starting an innocent game of naked twister, he decided to divorce her.
One of the groomsmen got into a huge fight with the groom because he brought up the fact that his future wife cheated on him a few years prior. This is true, but it was water under the bridge by that point. Anyway, groom got really angry and said don't bother coming then started reconsidering the marriage at all.
Anyway, the next day they had sobered up and apologised to each other so the wedding went ahead. She did in fact cheat on him in the end several years later though.
My old roommate is the sweetest girl you'll ever meet. So it wasn't any surprise when guys were into her and she struggled to turn them down. There was one guy in particular who was really weird. He spent months pursuing her and she kept politely turning him down and eventually had to be clear that she only regarded him as a friend. Then he took it upon himself to become her best guy friend and took it to a creepy level.
Like when she brought a new boyfriend around and this guy insisted the boyfriend had to fill out an application and get approved by him before he could date my roommate. Weird ownership stuff that lasted for years. And it's very clearly all on his end because she never initiates hanging out or mentions him when he's not around or really seems to enjoy her time with him.
So fast forward a couple years and this guy is dating someone. He makes sure my roommate approves and she's constantly being brought along as a third wheel on dates and to everything they do. My roommate's approval is necessary and he wants to make sure these two women are really good friends. He'd bring his girlfriend over sometimes and just ignore her to pay attention to my roommate.
The couple gets engaged and he specifically makes sure my roommate can come (as basically his best woman) and insists she drives up to the wedding with them. So they take the several hour drive to the bride's hometown together.
The details from there are a little unclear to me. The morning of the wedding (like an hour before), the bride calls off the wedding and it's vaguely understood that she's really uncomfortable with her fiancé's attachment to this girl he used to pursue really hardcore and that she thought it would get better, but his insistence that my roommate be part of the wedding and spend all her time with them (even up to the day of the wedding) convinced the bride that he'd never give up on my roommate.
So in the midst of all this, it'd make sense if he cut my roommate off in order to work at his relationship, right? Well, instead he peaces out and drags my roommate with him and they immediately take the several hour drive back to our college town. So basically all the bride's fears are confirmed as he runs off with the woman she was concerned about.
My roommate got married a couple years later and I think that's when he finally gave up because he got engaged shortly after her wedding.
Well it wasn't a bachelor party but a couple months before the wedding it was discovered she was leading a double life.
Her frequent work trips to the UK were actually trips to a few hour drive away where she was living with another guy. Telling him the same story but in reverse.
Wedding was called off. Much money was lost. Not sure what her plan was...
Just was at a bachelorette party where one of the bridesmaids got drunk and was happily telling the bride, "Oh I'm so glad you and Fiance worked things out after he cheated, I know he didn't mean it, you two are perfect together."
The bride didn't know...
My close friend from high school thought it would be a good idea to marry this 'so handsome and mature' guy about 15 years older than her after only knowing him for 6 months. Didn't have a problem with the age as I prefer older men myself, but with that being said I know some of those men only seek after girls our age because of their immaturity. It was the Wednesday before their bachelorette/ bachelor parties and the three of us were having dinner at one of her and I's favorite spots together.
I guess his order of well-done steak came out improperly cooked and he just lost it on the waiter, demanded the chef in front of him to basically berate and call him incompetent and unable to do his job (in a Michelin Star awarded kitchen!!) I look up at my good friend and she is just borderline tears, I'm guessing going over every little tick or remark he's made in the past and then imagining a future with him. She called it off after the bachelor parties.
So this was pre-bachelor party, but still relevant. My childhood best friend got engaged and invited me to come down and to meet his fiance/the rest of the bridal party (I moved states years ago, but we still keep in touch). So I made the trip down to see him and his family and things are going really well. Spent the day hanging out with him and catching up, but ultimately the first day was short just because I had been traveling all day.
Day 2 rolls around and we made a trip to go look at Tattoos. Important to note that my buddy has tons of tattoos and had been talking to me for weeks about getting my own. I agreed to go look and we had talked about him getting some additional work done all week prior to my trip. So we get to the shop, I decide to hold off on my tattoo for now (still deciding on the right one), but he gets a few of his touched up and gets a new one. That's where things go sour.
We leave the shop and there's like 6 missed calls from his fiance. We get back to their place and she asks if I ended up getting a tattoo and I admit that I didn't yet. Then she looks at him and sees his new tattoo, and she's furious. Like just absolutely beyond pissed. They get in a huge screaming match and eventually we have to leave to go out to meet with the rest of the wedding party.
Night starts off okay, but she keeps randomly yelling at my buddy and is just generally pissed off. We end up leaving the first bar and bouncing to the second one and things seem to have cooled off. I dip to use the bathroom for maybe 2 minutes, but by the time I got back the atmosphere had completely changed. No explanation but all I was told was that we were leaving and then no-one spoke.
She was sober cabbing for the group, so we had the most awkward completely silent hour long car ride home. Then when we got home my buddy asked me which couch I'd like to sleep on that night, as he'd be taking the other one.
They lasted about another month before the whole thing collapsed.
So for context a few more things had been going on in their relationship. They were currently living together in a small crappy apartment. He was working full time (at the time he was on leave because he dislocated his shoulder-he was a firefighter), while she was a student. He had just leased/bought a brand new very nice car, and had a history of impulse buys.
His thought process was that he worked for his money, it was his money, he could spend it how he wanted. Her thought process was that she wanted to move out of the apartment and it was their money. I think she wasn't so much upset with the tattoo as much as his lack of forethought in making purchases.
I never did get the full reason why, but that's my theory.
I have a contribution. Went to Vegas for a bachelor party and his mother decided to tag along (she was financing it all anyways). She convinced the groom to sleep with a adult video star we later found out she paid to exclusively come sleep with him so she could guilt him into telling the bride thus stopping the wedding. It worked.
So this was a crazy one. My boyfriend was the best man at his friend's wedding and told me this story after he got back from the bachelor party. On of the groomsmen (we'll call him Eric) from high school got wasted before they went out and told the groom (we'll call him Michael) that his soon to be wife was a terrible person and he can't believe that Michael would marry her because he thought he loved him (Eric).
Turns out, they had been having a gay affair for 3 years behind his fiancee's back but Michael was too afraid to tell his friends and family so he kept up the facade of a straight man so he wouldn't be cut off from his trust fund. Michael first told the groomsmen that Eric was crazy and kicked him out of the hotel they were staying at but called him later to meet up at a bar where they made out and left together.
My boyfriend said they had no idea where they went that night but Eric and Michael came back to the hotel the next day confessing that they loved each other and Michael proceeded to call his family and fiancée with the news and cancel the wedding. Some crazy stuff.
I used to work in the bar of a nice hotel in the city and we would occasionally have private events. We had a section of the lounge blocked off for an engagement party of about 40 people. They rolled in and seemed like relatively polite people (maybe a little bit bogan) but everything was going well. The groom seemed to love his Jacks and coke but just seemed a little bit off the entire night.
Anyway, there was this one little kid who would come to the bar and always politely ask "could I please have a coke with some raspberry sir?" The groom has noticed that the kid has had around 3-4 cokes and has just lost the plot. He just randomly bursts and starts yelling at the kid to "lay off the effing coke" and "your costing me a tonne, kid."
Obviously, the bride-to-be has walked over and tried to calm the situation down (this may have been a step-son situation in the family but not sure). The groom is not happy and just turns his anger towards his future wife and starts screaming and swearing incredibly loudly. Of course, the entire bar/lounge area can hear this argument and everyone (staff included) seemed pretty unsettled.
I didn't see this part as I was out back getting the boss, but apparently the father in-law came over and got pushed by the groom. I come back out and see the groom storm off, but of course, on his way out he "scrapes" the tables of all the plates and glassware with his arms and it smashes everywhere and makes a huge noise/mess. He then goes ahead and grabs a chair and throws it in the fountain for good measure. The situation was becoming laughable (definitely not for my manager though). I will never forget my boss walking around the guests asking for someone to sign the bill as nothing had been paid for.
As we were a hotel, we have guests checking in just past the bar area. Old mate has come through and just punched some dude on his way out, knocking him to the floor. Apparently on the way out he kicked a few taxi doors and got stopped by the police. The aftermath was by far the best part. The guy who had been punched came to the bar after everything had quietened down and was talking to the police. I got them all some water and pretended to do work so I could hear it all.
Apparently, the guy had flown from the US and had severe delays on his last flight. So, he had come in much later than he had hoped and was tired as anything. He just strolls into the hotel, keen to get some sleep and just gets punched in the face. I honestly couldn't stop smiling after I heard it, this dudes had the absolute worst day.
The bride and groom to be decided to have wedding in Vegas and invite lots of friends and family.
Night before the wedding, bachelor and bachelorette decide they're gonna have their parties TOGETHER. Big mistake.
Backstory- bride's best friend is a self centered narcissist but when drinking she becomes a full fledged Queen of the Harpies, who manipulates everyone, becomes ultra paranoid, who always falsely accuses someone of a crime- "Someone stole my jacket!" Your jacket is on the chair, "Someone stole my credit card!" Check your purse again, I saw you put it in there. She's just an evil attention seeker.
So, the big party night before the wedding, 15 of us party with the to be bride and groom at a Coyote Ugly clone bar. Everyone is drunk or near drunk, the guys are taking body shots off the waitresses and random women.
The Bride's best friend a.k.a. "The Harpy" is gas-lighting the bride the entire night, whispering in the Brides ear "Your husband is gonna cheat on you after the wedding. He doesn't love you. Look at his friends getting body shots. Look at the way he's looking at those women. Why aren't you mad at him? He's disrespecting you! He's gonna get a body shot next!" She purposely separated the bride from everyone else.
The groom was having fun with his guys and happy everyone was having fun and being totally respectful, but getting drunk.
The bride was drunk, been getting madder by the second because she was being manipulated by The Harpy.
The Bride bolts over to the to be groom, turns him around, throws a drink in his face, and slaps him hard!
The groom is shocked, grabs the shoulders of his bride to be while she's yelling at him and trying to hit him again, he's a big overweight guy with little balance, and she's easily 5'10" they topple to the ground.
The fall to the ground looks really bad. Everyone assumes the groom was the aggressor- he's 6'2 300 lbs.
Bouncers jump on him, restrain him, then the cops come and arrest him outside.
He's cuffed behind him, leaning against the squad car, red and blue lights on his face.
The entire wedding party knows the wedding is off.
The cops interviews witnesses, the bride acknowledges she started the altercation, a couple hours pass, the groom isn't charged.
The wedding goes on as planned, but for a few hours, everyone was scared that the wedding was off.
We all knew who was to blame- The Harpy
The Harpy went on to work in Wash. DC. with a congressman or senator. She's a hot, intelligent, psychopath...she'll do well there.
The bride's brother (having attended the husband's bachelor party) twisted and exaggerated every detail of the bachelor party to make the husband look bad to her parents in an attempt to deflect attention away from his pill addiction.
The jerk even bought his breakfast the morning after the party, ya know, cause he is such a great guy.
Did the supposed bride and groom ever reconcile?
They never split, just called off the wedding. Still together and have two kids.
A family friend had been with this guy for a few years, their relationship sounded absolutely perfect. Attractive guy, good job, caring and understanding and you could tell they were one of those "forever" couples. A week before the wedding he just disappeared. She came home that day and everything of his was gone, it was like he was never there.
Boring story since I have no idea what the story is - but I'm a wedding musician and I was driving to the rehearsal when I got a phone call from the coordinator (I used a hands-free device) saying "Don't come, the wedding's off."
It was weird, and it's why my contract requires a non-refundable 50% deposit now...
Well, I have a story of the worst wedding I was ever a part of.
I was an usher at this wedding, so I helped seat people and everything. They were both getting married against their families wishes. I've ushered weddings before, and I remember seating one of the mothers and she had this scowl and cold attitude. Just one that said, "I really don't want to be here."
Well, ceremony went well enough, they got married, and everyone went to the reception. That's when all hell broke loose. The families got into an argument, there may have been an actual fight, the bride sided with her mother, and the marriage was off. They decided to separate about 2 hours after getting married.
The worst of it, though, comes a few days later. We saw the groom in the paper. Apparently, he tried to hire a hitman to kill his wife's parents. The hitman was an undercover cop, and he got arrested. So bizarre.
Didn't actually witness it but got to hear the story and wanted to share even though I'm late to the party.
I got married in a Catholic church and during the rehearsal we met with the priest who would be doing the ceremony. He went over all the information we needed to know and then told us some ground rules including absolutely no drinking the day of the wedding.
He proceeded to tell us about a couple from a year or two ago that were getting married at the church. You are allowed to use changing rooms they have there, he went to check on the groom and groomsmen who were using the back room to get ready and as he walked in they were taking shots from a bottle left over from the party the night before.
He called the parents into his office and informed them there would be no wedding due to the alcohol. The parents flipped out, the bride apparently totally lost it and went off on him calling him a habitual drunk and stuff and their entire relationship ended.
Not a bachelor party, but I was in the stages of planning one.
My best friend was getting married, he was my best man, and I was about to be his, so I was really excited.
One day, I'm on the road, and he calls me upset out of his mind telling me that the wedding was off. Him and his fiance had a huge fight and broke up while at the airport, and she threw the ring at him.
I'm like, "uh oh, what about?"
Apparently the wedding that his wife and her mother were planning was becoming larger and larger and more out of control as they were going through the planning stages. He had made a comment about not spending too much because of the wedding, and it had spiraled into a huge argument about money.
She accused him of not being forthright with his finances. Not like, he had a secret bank account or he was outright lying about what he made in a year or something like that. Nope, just that she was under the impression that he had more money to pay for this insanely huge wedding than he had.
I was like, that sounds like a really ridiculous reason to break up - as a couple preparing for marriage, you'll cross all sorts of financial hurdles, so being able to agree on a wedding budget is a drop in the bucket.
I called her because I thought there was maybe something else to it. I mean, I figured I could have this open dialogue with her, it wasn't like she was a stranger, she was dating my best friend, and of course, we all hung out together, went camping, etc.
Nope, she confirmed, that was it, and for whatever reason, she just couldn't get her head around it.
He tried all sorts of stuff to reason with her and compromise - including offering that they have a joint bank account so she could always see exactly how much he had. No dice.
What followed was a period of her acting incredibly childish in that strange period of exchanging stuff, including asking for several gifts back that she had given him.
Occasionally she still reaches out to my wife, who just ignores her (they both are nurses at the same hospital). We know who our family is.
I feel bad for my friend. He'll come over to hang out with me and my wife, and he's awesome with my kids, and I know he still thinks about it - he says things like, "I would have been married for this long and probably would have a kid" etc. I know he really wants a family and wants to meet the right woman.
I was working as a bouncer one time and the bride and groom decided it would be a good idea to throw their bachelor/bachelorette parties on the same night in the same town. I guess they must have been from out of town. Anyways it's the night before the wedding. Which is not a good night to get falling down drunk. Both parties wind up at my bar at the same time. Groom catches the bride doing body shots off a dude and kissing him, so he gets jealous and grabs the bride. They get into it and he gets rough with her.
So I grabbed the dude to drag him out, and he and his friends decided it would be extra fun to try and fight a bunch of pissed off sober bouncers. We beat the hell out of him and his friends while some of the other staff kept the girls held back. Cops showed up and he got hauled off, none of us wanted to press charges. I'm 99.99% positive the wedding didn't go through
They broke up. A few years passed. They got back together and then got married later on. Sometimes stuff happens and people need extra time to figure out what they want and how they want it. No hard feelings, they have a beautiful life now.
We don't know...we still don't know. Just got a call saying the wedding had been cancelled, no details. Of course this opened the floodgates of speculation, no one seemed comfortable talking about it, I wasn't close enough with the bride or groom to inquire. Definitely odd, but probably better than going through with a wedding you don't want to have.
Here is a more upbeat story: the night before their city hall wedding, the bride and groom had separate big parties and got so wasted they both slept through the wedding. They didn't realize it until city hall called asking where they were, and they decided "Hell, we'll do it later."
They did eventually get married, and still are as far as I know, over 20 years later.
My cousin runs a popular upscale marriage venue and always tells the story way better than this so here is a rough overview. The groom's mom was a heavy drinker and got belligerent when she drank so understandably the bride wanted the groom to try to limit her drinking. The afternoon before the wedding the bride arrives to see groom's mom smashed with the groom himself giving her beers. Next thing my cousin knows (she was there to oversee preparations) the bride and groom are in a straight up fist fight which leads to an Anchorman-style street fight between members of both families in the parking lot.
Apparently they recently scheduled a new day for it. I can't imagine the tension there.
When determining how to spend our life in a way that feels worthy, many place a heavy emphasis on experiences. We want to die with scars and stories.
And sticking our necks out inevitably leads to a whole lot of struggle. But that doesn't mean we wouldn't do the same thing the very next day if we could go back.
Some things, though we'll never do them again, were too important an experience to pass up.
Redditor JackIrishJack asked:
"What should you do once, but not twice?"
Many people talked about the life experiences, big and small, that influenced their outlook. They recommend people go through some discomfort to gain important awareness.
A Capacity for Empathy
"Working in the food industry I feel like everybody should do it once so they can have a respect for food workers but it's also a hell I never want to go through again"
Paying for a Daydream
"Buy a lottery ticket"
"You're not going to win, but buying a lottery ticket gives you the chance to dream and pretend. Having a second lottery ticket isn't going to make your dreams more vivid."
Plenty of Implications
"Visit Auschwitz. I firmly believe everyone should go visit it so as to not forget what humans are capable of doing to each other. But no need to visit twice. Once was enough for me."
Others brought up things which, if done twice, would be a sure sign that something is very very wrong.
Supposed To Be Permanent
"Learning how to walk. The first time - good on you. Having to
relearn a second time means something went terribly wrong."
Only Two Sets
"Lose all of your teeth" -- Outrageous_Cream_112
"Haha I had to think about this for a second" -- ApplesauceDoctr
Don't Wanna Find Yourself There Too Often
"Get beaten half to death breaks the concepts of your limits. Second time breaks the spirit. Third time is overkill."
Others apparently viewed the question as an opportunity for a little cleverness.
If You're Good
"Cut...you measure twice before." -- wxguy215
"For me its more like 'measure twice, make sure it's just a teeny bit too long then go back and shave it off little by little until it wedges in perfectly' " -- pistpuncher3000
As the Saying Goes
"Fool me" -- Thia_suzieUzi
"FOOL ME THREE TIMES FU** THE PEACE SIGN LOAD THE CHOPPA LET IT RAIN ON YOU" -- nixusthegod
Only a Couple to Work With
"Donate a kidney" -- RealisticDelusions77
"Donate one kidney, you're a hero. Donate two kidneys, you're a corpse. Donate three kidneys, you're a felon." -- Drach88
"Be born. Going through the birthing process again would probably kill my mother." -- cylonrobot
Here's hoping we can all find the healthy balance between living a full, experienced life and punishing ourselves a little too much.
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Lies. Life and "wisdom" is littered with lies. Simple, everyday truths we tell ourselves and others are just a fabrication.
I know we want everyone to stay upbeat throughout our time on this Earth, but how desperate do we have to be to swallow some of this poppycock?
It gets better. Times heals wounds. Alcohol doesn't help with weight loss. I love you. Nonsense! Maybe I'm in a mood and exaggerating a smidge, but not by much. LOL
Redditor u/OptionsTrader14 wanted to gather up intel on what parts of popular chatter are just not up to snuff these days by asking:
What popular sayings are actually bulls**t?
Seriously, looking back, how did we not start questioning the origins of these sayings long before we tried to implement them? Or at least when we reached ages when we should know better. Cue the gaslight...
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"An apple a day keeps the doctor away! Damn, the older I get, the more I wish it were that simple."
"Love is never having to say you're sorry." I think from the movie, Love Story. Stupid and ridiculous."
"Said to Ryan O'Neil in "Love Story." In "What's up Doc?" Barbara Streisand quotes the line to Ryan at the end and he replies: "That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard"
The past year it has been "We're in this together."
"NO F YOU!"
More than Twice
"The lightning never strikes twice in the same spot." Yes, it does. Especially if that spot is a high metal structure, it will be struck twice, even more than just two times."
"Without a lightning rod, these strikes would ground themselves through the building's wiring, or through the people working on one of its 103 floors, causing untold amounts of damage."
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"That'll buff right out."
I do love apples. And I don't have to see the doctor often, so maybe there is merit there. Plus that one is easy, somebody just wanted somebody else to eat healthier. Just say that! And I like to focus on a different kind of buff.
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"Sleep like a baby. A more accurate description for it would be pissed the bed twice and woke up screaming."
"We're all in the same storm together. But most of us are in rowboats, a bunch are treading water in the waves without so much as a life jacket. Meanwhile a handful are in their mega yachts looking down on everyone else, talking about how terrible the storm is."
"Finish what you started. No, sometimes the thing I started was a bad idea and maybe I should do something I like better."
"Do what you love and you'll never work a day in your life. Well, I do what I love and I'm an unemployed alcoholic. Somehow, I don't think whoever said that first had this in mind."
"Do you really love it if it involves a lot of tasks you hate? I feel like that's just a job you don't love if you're not enjoying the bulk of it. Sounds just like you love the results of it, love the impact, not that you enjoy the day to day. Then you're just not doing what you love on a day to day basis."
"I've had a lot of jobs I hated and loved, currently love. It makes a HUGE difference, between being depressed and not. I knew my life would be way better when I found a good job I loved. Now I'm getting over alcoholism and cut way the heck down, and don't feel like I need to drink to cope."
"The "never work a day in your life" just means you'll never feel that stress of hating your job every day like many do. It doesn't literally mean you won't work, just that those stresses of work will be so unimportant and not make you feel like crap."
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"Teacher of mine have a good metaphor to illustrate the non sense. He said "areas of the brain not being all stimulated at the same time might sound like a non optimal way of using a machine."
"But now take a traffic light, we can say I works 1/3 of its capacity at time (one color represents a signal) and if it worked 100% all the time, putting all the colors at once, you agree it could be very dangerous for the traffic right?"
That baby one is so true. I never thought about that one. And now I'm going to stockpile a list of sayings and begin origin research. Expose the lies! And just use common sense.
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Whenever I visit clothing stores, I make it a point to fold the clothes I unfurl. That is apparently my downfall as a customer.
Because of this, fellow customers often peg me as an employee and always ask me questions like where the bathroom is, or if the store has certain sizes left in stock.
Umm, no, I don't work here. I'm just a responsible customer. As you were.
Many of us make assumptions about other people just by looking at them. Who knew we were so presumptuous?
Curious to hear the experiences of strangers online, Redditor lilmizzvalz asked:
"What do people assume about you, based on your appearance?"
People often misinterpret moods based on how someone looks. That's unfair, wouldn't you say?
"That I'm caring and supportive. I have a resting nice face."
"That I am always mad. Nope just dissociating and staring off into space."
Not Meaning To Be Mean
"That I'm mean. I have a resting mean face for a dude I guess. Also lately it's worse because I'm bigger now. I don't really notice how my face appears but apparently, I seem angry when I'm looking at stuff."
"'You should smile' and 'are you ok?' comments followed me from busboy, waiter, bartender my whole career."
When it comes to measuring intelligence of others, some people are just way off.
Hard To Live Up To Expectations
"That I'm clever. People keep saying it to me, but I'm dumb and that sh*t is hard to live up to."
"I have glasses."
Eyes Full Of Wisdom
"I apparently have something similar going on mixed with looking like I know sh*t, because people come up to me in public and ask about directions, bus schedules and stuff all the time. Like, they'll deliberately avoid other people to ask me. Including when I'm abroad and should look a bit out of place."
"They assume I have an intellectual disability. (And also that I'm deaf, since I'm not able to speak.)"
"No, I am a person with two university degrees who happen to need a wheelchair because of a nasty neurological illness."
People don't always look their age. Some don't even act their age. But these Redditors have gotten their fair share of wrong guesses for their ages.
"That I'm 15."
"I'm 38 and a doctor. 'Did you just finish school?' EVERY DAY."
"This thread was depressing to read as I am 38 but often get mistaken for 50. I hate y'all and your youthful beauty."
Some people are typed out as certain types of people with just one look.
Watch Your Tone
"That I have a southern accent. Not one stranger has ever suspected that I have a 'New Jersey' accent (Born and raised in New Jersey before moving south)"
Not A Biker
"That I ride a Harley and/or work on them. I'm bald with a long goatee and tons of tattoos, but I'm in IT for a living and don't ride motorcycles at all."
Like others have expressed in the thread, I've also been accused of having "resting b*tch face."
You know, that neutral expression where you're not smiling the one time you're not in a situation where you have to be "on" for other people?
Yeah, that one.
If someone's resting face comes across as unfriendly, well, perhaps it's best not to upset them by asking them what's wrong all the time. Just sayin'.
Ideally, a teacher should take the job because of a genuine interest in helping students, furthering their education as well as their self-development. Of course, it's not as simple as that (administrative issues aside). Unfortunately, there are some teachers out there who aren't cut out for the job––and they even have a mean streak when it comes to their students. The effects this can have on the learning process are dire.
Teachers don't get paid well, and they're well aware. Many stick with the job because they have a passion for teaching; many others stick with the job because of the position of inscrutable authority it offers them over helpless students.
People shared their experiences after Redditor Ara-Rat asked the online community,
"What did your teacher do that made you call them 'the worst teacher ever'?"
"Questioned 5th-grade teacher's manner of pluralizing a word on the board. Got sent to the library to look it up in a dictionary and report my findings to the class.
Decades later and I'm still mad at that woman for trying to publicly humiliate a ten-year-old student."
That's awful. What is with adults who try to deliberately an example out of children?
"My old band teacher..."
"My old band teacher threw a projector at his students. He left the district later that year."
That was... probably for the best, when you think about it. (I had a teacher who threw a girl's pencil case out the window when she wouldn't stop talking; no, he was not fired.)
"My 3rd-grade teacher..."
"My 3rd-grade teacher got frustrated with a kid's stutter and started pounding the kid's desk with a closed fist while mocking his stutter."
Hopefully this teacher was disciplined and/or fired. That's the sort of behavior that thankfully would not fly today––it would go viral so fast.
"The worst were the teachers..."
"The worst were the teachers who would take books away from me and hold me up for ridicule because they disagreed or didn't approve of the genre or subject material. I was always into science fiction and horror genre's and many of them didn't consider it true literature worthy of reading. I remember my father getting into it with one of the teachers who disapproved of Robert Heinlein's Stranger in a Strange Land, to which he pointed out it was on the required reading list of a lot of major universities. Dad was awesome like that, and chewed the teacher and principal out for having the temerity to try to stop any student who wanted to read, regardless of what the genre was."
Teachers who mock students for reading are the worst. Reading is one of the best things any student can do––there are so many benefits! Hopefully you have not lost your love of reading.
"When I'd instinctively try..."
"She tied me to my chair. I was hyperactive, and also 5. She would also hold my hand during formation in the mornings and squeeze so hard my tiny knuckles would crack. When I'd instinctively try to pull my hand away, she'd hold onto it and smile at me and ask me if it hurt."
The abuse here is almost incomprehensible. But it happens: a few years ago, a teacher made headlines for hanging a student by his coat on a coatrack. You can bet there were lawsuits.
"I was in the only dress I owned..."
"Tried to get me suspended for a dress code violation when I was 15. I was in the only dress I owned at the time because I was going to my best friend's funeral. She'd committed suicide two days before. I was crying and begging her to just let me stay till my mom picked up my remaining friends to go to the funeral. Said teacher then took me to the office and I had to sit in the front office under a tarp until my mom picked me up."
"My 8th grade English teacher..."
"My 8th grade English teacher never published grades and every time I'd ask her about it she'd answer with, "I don't know, what do you think it is?"
IF I KNEW WOULD I BE ASKING?!"
I've had a few teachers like this. Makes one wonder: Are you actually grading anything? WHAT are you doing, exactly?
"My biology teacher..."
"My biology teacher took my yearbook away right before the summer break. I didn't put it away in time.
That year my parents divorced and I was moving away. I told her this after class and she didn't care. She kept it until the last day. I didn't get any signatures.
Ended up throwing it away. What a witch."
"My university lecturer..."
"My university lecturer was the most incompetent bloke I've ever met. He taught I.T and for the life of me, I can't figure out how he got that job.
- In the first lesson, he got us to sign up to Twitter so we could share lesson content, tweet at each other so we'd get to know one another, and also tweet him. Everybody, including the lecturer, used Twitter once. We just used the university intranet to share stuff.
- Again, during the first lesson, he announced he was going on holiday for four weeks during our first term.
- All of his lessons were PowerPoint presentations, each slide had about a paragraph of text written on them which he would read out loud while awkwardly looking over his shoulder. Once he was done doing that he would essentially repeat what he had just said.
- One day he asked us for help in booking his airline tickets online because he couldn't figure out how to use the website.
As sad as these stories are, consider that these teachers are very much the exception to the rule. The majority of the teachers I have known over the years genuinely care for their students, work tirelessly on their lesson plans, and would never tolerate a single moment of the behavior featured here. Thank you to those teachers for doing their jobs––we appreciate you. (And ya'll deserve a raise, it's honestly messed up how little lawmakers understand about how hard your jobs actually are.)
Have some stories of your own? Feel free to tell us about them in the comments section below!
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