Bachelor and bachelorette parties are known for getting wild, but most people can show enough restraint to remember that they're getting married soon. Some people, though, seem not to have that particular ability.
"People who have witnessed a "There's not going to be a wedding" moment following a bachelor/bachelorette party: what went down?"
These are going to get pretty cringey, so strap in and prepare for takeoff.
My dad and his friends took a buddy by canoe to an island to get drunk the night before the wedding. He told them all he didn't want to go through with it but couldn't figure out how to get out of it. When he woke up in the morning, they had stranded him on the island, he missed the wedding, his buddies were branded as the jerks. Groom to be was relieved.
I see a lot of bachelor and bachelorette parties in my line of work. I actually have a few of these memories.
The first that comes to mind was an interesting night where the bachelor party was happening at one bar and the bachelorette party was in the bar down the block. At the groom to be's party I get a call for help from the place. It's a tame security call. Just a couple getting it on in a bathroom. The bar wanted them booted.
I find out the dude is the groom to be and the girl is just some random chick. The chick goes off on her own and now I'm with the groom outside. He's drunk and almost uncontrollable. I am trying to find him a way home safe. His bros were all drunk and kept the party going without him.
After a while, the bride to be and her gals come walking down the street. A couple people around chime in and tell her why I am there dealing with him. She breaks down and calls the wedding off right there. He ended up going to detox that night.
I know a guy who seemingly had his life together: great career, lots of friends, beautiful fiancee.
He had a tendency to drink too much while partying, and a few weeks before the wedding he woke up in the hospital with serious injuries due to a non-automotive drunken accident. The scariest part for him was that he didn't remember a thing past leaving the party to walk home. Did he fall and hit his head? Did someone attack him and leave him for dead?
The thought of that scared him, and he decided to sober up. It also caused him to reflect on his life, and he realized his fiancee was manipulative, controlling, and he'd never be happy living with someone like that. He has some long term damage from the injury, but he's still sober, spends much of his free time for a charitable cause, and dodged a serious bullet (a bad marriage) as a result of that horrible injury so he oddly came out ahead in the end.
A wedding came in from out of town, the bride/groom hadn't had a stag/hen do so decided the night before that the men and women would split up and each have their own party. The men had a small cocktail bar and the women took the restaurant. I was meant to be working the main bar but got asked by a female colleague to cover the cocktail bar as the men were getting rowdy and making comments - no problem.
Got in there and it's just a group of old mates getting hammered, pretty standard stuff, until the stripper arrived. She did a full show, the groom has to get pretty involved. All was well until the woman found out and called off the wedding - shouting matches went on well into the early hours. The wedding did go ahead, but you could tell there was awkwardness in the air.
The bride came to the bar asking if we had seen the groom as he was needed for some photographs or cutting the cake, can't quite remember. None of the staff had seen him so she went outside, only to return a few minutes later in tears. She had caught the groom getting with the Maid of Honor...her sister.
All out family war commenced with extra guests just sitting there enjoying the buffet. Worst part was hearing the bride cry "I can't believe this happened again," I really felt bad for her because she was lovely.
I bartend weddings fairly often and work directly with wedding planners all the time and meet with the bride and groom to be to talk things through and create a sense of familiarity. Each time I met the groom he just kind of seemed out of it but I chalked it up to stress.
Day of the wedding before the ceremony the wedding planner comes over and asks for a couple shots for herself, she doesn't drink on jobs so I ask her why. Apparently things were about to get started but the groom was missing and wasn't responding to phone calls so everyone is looking for him then one of the bridesmaids disappears.
Not long after the brother of the groom gets a text from the groom saying he and the bridesmaid are in love and they're running away to elope and that he'll call him after. Everyone is getting antsy waiting for things to start and they've all been waiting like 2 hours. Now the wedding planner has to tell 150 people that the wedding is off and explain to the parents what happened while the wedding party is consoling the bride.
My wife's friend called off her wedding a week before the ceremony. She lived several hundred miles away for school but came back to her hometown two weeks before the wedding to make sure everything was lined up and have her bachelorette party. In the course of her visit, she came across an old boyfriend (who was also engaged) and things "sparked" up again. They agreed they should each leave their fiancés and give their relationship another shot.
Turns out, he didn't keep up his end of the bargain, and she is still single today.
I traveled with my wife (then girlfriend) to a wedding she was in. I told my wife there is something going on between the bride and the maid of honor. She laughed. Two weeks after the wedding the brides Facebook goes dark. The bride and maid of honor are now living together in another state. I still talk about how I called it within an hour of meeting them. Poor groom... super nice dude.
Ex-girlfriend was going to a friend of a friends bachelorette party, mainly for her friend who didn't want to go solo.
Anyway, I knew they were going to a strip club and expected to hear all about those shenanigans. She texted me when they were leaving, the bride had payed for two of the strippers to come back with them. They went back and the show continued.
Everyone seemed like they were having fun, but generally playing by the rules. Nothing that doesn't go on at tons of bachelorette parties.
At some point things took a turn. Then, things went the way they usually do with sexually charged people. Turned into two of the girls having sex with the strippers. Then the bride.
There was no wedding.
Wedding Photographer here - This happened with a couple back in 2015.
Night before the wedding, all the bridal party got together at the hotel, partied, and drank a LOT. I show up the next morning 8am after a 2 hour drive to be told by the hotel receptionist, that there was not going to be a wedding.
Apparently a large fight broke out between the groomsman and bridesmaids. Money to pay the vendors was stolen. The ceremony was supposed to be at 11am that day. After about 2 minutes of WTF is going on here, nobody called and told me. I called the bride's mother - and she stated that she was off to pick up the bride and groom, sit them down, and still try to have a wedding.
Fast forward a couple hours, the groom showed up drunk out of his mind around 10am, guests were already showing up, the bride finally showed around 11:30 - noon time, and there was a ceremony at 1pm. Yes - they still got married. The groom was drunk the whole day, the couple argued a ton.
Needless to say... It was an eventful day.
A friend of mine in college had been engaged to her highschool sweetheart. Plan was for them to get married after she graduated. She was one of those that dreamed of her wedding since she was a little girl. She had been planning FOREVER!!! A week before the wedding, he leaves without a trace, except a note saying I can't marry you. She was devastated.
We still had a party with the wedding cake, food, etc. because it had all been paid for already. Saddest party ever. She ran into him a few years later at an 80's dance club wearing a mesh shirt and a taxi hat making out with a dude.
Not because of the party but still good. Day of the wedding Groom's family is patiently waiting. Bride's family hasn't shown. Bride's mother finally arrives and says that Bride has discovered Groom has a second fiancé in another state and wedding is off. Rehearsal dinner photos on Facebook and someone tagged the wrong girl assuming that was his fiancee he had been talking about.
Except it was the other fiancé. So Bride see her tagged as someone else and messages from out of town friends about "Can't wait to meet her why wasn't I invited?"
Strip club manager here,
Funniest thing I've ever seen. 5 man bachelor party comes into work. Kinda tipsy and having a good time but not being disruptive. They are hanging out for a while and they are great, throwing money and overall being pleasant. At this point they have done nothing wrong.
About 2 hours in, my front door flings open and in barge 4 very very drunk women. They storm right past security, make a beeline for the group and what I later learned was the bride, proceeds to beat the absolute crap out of the groom. Then 2 of the other ladies proceed to botch at than attack the best man and another guy. Me and my team bolt over to try and separate the cluster that just transpired pulling the ladies off the guys who looked just as surprised as we were.
We drag them outside and the guys all follow out. The bride start going absolutely nuts on the groom saying how she can't believe he'd go to a strip club to see naked women before their wedding. The groom starts yelling saying it's not a big deal etc. The maid of honor and best man (who were apparently married) also are having the same discussion.
The fun really gets turned to 11 when the quiet female (up to this point) walks up and slaps the dog crap out of the groom wondering why she wasn't good enough. Apparently they had dated years ago and she never got over him. Also apparently the bride did NOT know this information. Bridezilla goes OFF. Start beating the crap out of quiet chick.
While groom, me and another security guy are trying to stop a murder in my parking lot, best man and maid of honor are still arguing. Once we separate bride and quiet chick, all we hear is best man scream forget this! Walks over, tells groom he had sex the bride like 3 years ago at a party with the maid of honor and he didn't want him to marry her.
Groom surprisingly is calm... turns to bride and says the wedding was off. She starts freaking out crying apologizing and begging as he walks in the club to pay his tab...
Craziest night at work ever....
I was two weeks away from getting married, ex went off with her friends for Bachelorette party two in the morning I get a email from the maid of honor it was supposed to be sent to her friends and my name was accidentally selected, the email contained a video of my bride hooking up with one the male strippers.
The next day we were supposed to finalize some plans when the bride to be and maid of honor showed up to pick me up i just pointed at the computer... bride went pale then spent the next eight hours attempting to explain what was going on, then it turned into a horrible mistake, I think at some point I passed out because i had started drinking right after seeing the video and just didn't stop.
Military idiot in my old unit had a bachelor party at a (very nasty) strip club and had sex with a stripper in front of his buddies in the private room. Of course word about this spread like wildfire in the unit and confirmed by the dozen of guys that were in the room when it happened, military spouses gossip and talk and soon the wife found out and they were divorced less than a month later.
I'm still friends with the groom on FB and he is still an idiot.
My wife had a friend whose fiancee called off the wedding after he found out she had been with a black guy... years before they even started dating.
Gotta love it when the trash takes itself out.
This happened to one of my oldest friends who I met in preschool, our families were friends, they moved out of state in middle school but we kept in touch. Cut to our 20s- He gets engaged to his gf that he was living with, everything sounds good, I got the invite and was making plans to travel for the wedding. They had a joint bachelor/bachelorette weekend in Vegas with their wedding party and I coincidentally was out there the same weekend visiting family, so I joined them out one night.
It was awkward AF. I can't really describe the tension. Fiancé didn't even say hi or acknowledge me when I said congrats (first time meeting her too). Everything was disorganized, no one knew what was going on, we kinda wandered from place to place til we settled at a bar in a hotel. I never saw the bride and groom next to each other all night let alone talking.
They got in different cabs from one place to the other even though it was not separated by guys and girls, but one big party. I ended up hanging out mostly with my friend's older brother and his gf. I got the weirdest vibe off the situation and when I got back I told my SO I wanted to hold off buying the plane tickets and wasn't sure I wanted to make the effort and pay a lot of money to travel to a wedding that I felt so uneasy about.
Maybe two weeks later my friend calls to ask if I've bought tickets yet. Not yet... Good he says, the wedding is off. Fiancé decided she was in love with one of the groomsmen and she moved in with him. The groomsman that lived right next door to them. She claims she never cheated while they were together and it just happened... right. I think she and groomsman got married some time later, but my friend was stuck in the lease living next to them for several months.
It was a month before my scheduled wedding and I was getting everything ready. In the meantime all of my close friends in my wedding party came out to celebrate my bachelor party with some drinking, floating, skydiving, etc. Well the night before they get there, my now ex-fiance of 8 years says that she no longer wants to go through with the wedding.
So I spend the morning my friends are there calling around to friends, family, reservation services and explaining the news (completing blindsided). Come to find out she had cheated on me and had been feeling that way "for awhile" but didn't share this with me until the day of my Birthday... the day before my friends visit for a few days.
Needless to say the plans changed a bit and it turned into my Birthday party instead. Was pretty awful but I ended up having a good time with best friends.
Much happier now with my soul mate and so thankful that things worked out the way they did!
Bachelor party went on a cruise and never left the ship. Ate too much and drank a lot. Meanwhile the bachelorette party went to Vegas. The bride banged one of the strippers and two of the bridesmaids hooked up with old boyfriends who just happened to be there. The wedding never happened. But the bridesmaids are now both engaged to their respective boyfriends (the ones that they cheated on) and planning a double bachelorette party in..... you guessed it..... Las Vegas.
Three of us guys were best friends since high school - we'll say it's Billy (guy getting married), Joel (one of the 3 amigos), Martin (me). Fast forward to about age 23 - Billy is getting married to this girl who was 19 at the time. Night of the bachelor party, somehow Joel and I are alone with the bride-to-be. She's got a few drinks in her, and decides to seriously proposition Joel for sex.
We thought long and hard about telling Billy, but given previous experiences (we told him about an Ex doing some shady crap and he proceeded to stop talking to us until they broke up), we decided against it. They did get married... 6 months in he got home early from work and walked in on her in the middle of taking her clothes off in the living room with another dude. While they might have just been starting an innocent game of naked twister, he decided to divorce her.
One of the groomsmen got into a huge fight with the groom because he brought up the fact that his future wife cheated on him a few years prior. This is true, but it was water under the bridge by that point. Anyway, groom got really angry and said don't bother coming then started reconsidering the marriage at all.
Anyway, the next day they had sobered up and apologised to each other so the wedding went ahead. She did in fact cheat on him in the end several years later though.
My old roommate is the sweetest girl you'll ever meet. So it wasn't any surprise when guys were into her and she struggled to turn them down. There was one guy in particular who was really weird. He spent months pursuing her and she kept politely turning him down and eventually had to be clear that she only regarded him as a friend. Then he took it upon himself to become her best guy friend and took it to a creepy level.
Like when she brought a new boyfriend around and this guy insisted the boyfriend had to fill out an application and get approved by him before he could date my roommate. Weird ownership stuff that lasted for years. And it's very clearly all on his end because she never initiates hanging out or mentions him when he's not around or really seems to enjoy her time with him.
So fast forward a couple years and this guy is dating someone. He makes sure my roommate approves and she's constantly being brought along as a third wheel on dates and to everything they do. My roommate's approval is necessary and he wants to make sure these two women are really good friends. He'd bring his girlfriend over sometimes and just ignore her to pay attention to my roommate.
The couple gets engaged and he specifically makes sure my roommate can come (as basically his best woman) and insists she drives up to the wedding with them. So they take the several hour drive to the bride's hometown together.
The details from there are a little unclear to me. The morning of the wedding (like an hour before), the bride calls off the wedding and it's vaguely understood that she's really uncomfortable with her fiancé's attachment to this girl he used to pursue really hardcore and that she thought it would get better, but his insistence that my roommate be part of the wedding and spend all her time with them (even up to the day of the wedding) convinced the bride that he'd never give up on my roommate.
So in the midst of all this, it'd make sense if he cut my roommate off in order to work at his relationship, right? Well, instead he peaces out and drags my roommate with him and they immediately take the several hour drive back to our college town. So basically all the bride's fears are confirmed as he runs off with the woman she was concerned about.
My roommate got married a couple years later and I think that's when he finally gave up because he got engaged shortly after her wedding.
Well it wasn't a bachelor party but a couple months before the wedding it was discovered she was leading a double life.
Her frequent work trips to the UK were actually trips to a few hour drive away where she was living with another guy. Telling him the same story but in reverse.
Wedding was called off. Much money was lost. Not sure what her plan was...
Just was at a bachelorette party where one of the bridesmaids got drunk and was happily telling the bride, "Oh I'm so glad you and Fiance worked things out after he cheated, I know he didn't mean it, you two are perfect together."
The bride didn't know...
My close friend from high school thought it would be a good idea to marry this 'so handsome and mature' guy about 15 years older than her after only knowing him for 6 months. Didn't have a problem with the age as I prefer older men myself, but with that being said I know some of those men only seek after girls our age because of their immaturity. It was the Wednesday before their bachelorette/ bachelor parties and the three of us were having dinner at one of her and I's favorite spots together.
I guess his order of well-done steak came out improperly cooked and he just lost it on the waiter, demanded the chef in front of him to basically berate and call him incompetent and unable to do his job (in a Michelin Star awarded kitchen!!) I look up at my good friend and she is just borderline tears, I'm guessing going over every little tick or remark he's made in the past and then imagining a future with him. She called it off after the bachelor parties.
So this was pre-bachelor party, but still relevant. My childhood best friend got engaged and invited me to come down and to meet his fiance/the rest of the bridal party (I moved states years ago, but we still keep in touch). So I made the trip down to see him and his family and things are going really well. Spent the day hanging out with him and catching up, but ultimately the first day was short just because I had been traveling all day.
Day 2 rolls around and we made a trip to go look at Tattoos. Important to note that my buddy has tons of tattoos and had been talking to me for weeks about getting my own. I agreed to go look and we had talked about him getting some additional work done all week prior to my trip. So we get to the shop, I decide to hold off on my tattoo for now (still deciding on the right one), but he gets a few of his touched up and gets a new one. That's where things go sour.
We leave the shop and there's like 6 missed calls from his fiance. We get back to their place and she asks if I ended up getting a tattoo and I admit that I didn't yet. Then she looks at him and sees his new tattoo, and she's furious. Like just absolutely beyond pissed. They get in a huge screaming match and eventually we have to leave to go out to meet with the rest of the wedding party.
Night starts off okay, but she keeps randomly yelling at my buddy and is just generally pissed off. We end up leaving the first bar and bouncing to the second one and things seem to have cooled off. I dip to use the bathroom for maybe 2 minutes, but by the time I got back the atmosphere had completely changed. No explanation but all I was told was that we were leaving and then no-one spoke.
She was sober cabbing for the group, so we had the most awkward completely silent hour long car ride home. Then when we got home my buddy asked me which couch I'd like to sleep on that night, as he'd be taking the other one.
They lasted about another month before the whole thing collapsed.
So for context a few more things had been going on in their relationship. They were currently living together in a small crappy apartment. He was working full time (at the time he was on leave because he dislocated his shoulder-he was a firefighter), while she was a student. He had just leased/bought a brand new very nice car, and had a history of impulse buys.
His thought process was that he worked for his money, it was his money, he could spend it how he wanted. Her thought process was that she wanted to move out of the apartment and it was their money. I think she wasn't so much upset with the tattoo as much as his lack of forethought in making purchases.
I never did get the full reason why, but that's my theory.
I have a contribution. Went to Vegas for a bachelor party and his mother decided to tag along (she was financing it all anyways). She convinced the groom to sleep with a adult video star we later found out she paid to exclusively come sleep with him so she could guilt him into telling the bride thus stopping the wedding. It worked.
So this was a crazy one. My boyfriend was the best man at his friend's wedding and told me this story after he got back from the bachelor party. On of the groomsmen (we'll call him Eric) from high school got wasted before they went out and told the groom (we'll call him Michael) that his soon to be wife was a terrible person and he can't believe that Michael would marry her because he thought he loved him (Eric).
Turns out, they had been having a gay affair for 3 years behind his fiancee's back but Michael was too afraid to tell his friends and family so he kept up the facade of a straight man so he wouldn't be cut off from his trust fund. Michael first told the groomsmen that Eric was crazy and kicked him out of the hotel they were staying at but called him later to meet up at a bar where they made out and left together.
My boyfriend said they had no idea where they went that night but Eric and Michael came back to the hotel the next day confessing that they loved each other and Michael proceeded to call his family and fiancée with the news and cancel the wedding. Some crazy stuff.
I used to work in the bar of a nice hotel in the city and we would occasionally have private events. We had a section of the lounge blocked off for an engagement party of about 40 people. They rolled in and seemed like relatively polite people (maybe a little bit bogan) but everything was going well. The groom seemed to love his Jacks and coke but just seemed a little bit off the entire night.
Anyway, there was this one little kid who would come to the bar and always politely ask "could I please have a coke with some raspberry sir?" The groom has noticed that the kid has had around 3-4 cokes and has just lost the plot. He just randomly bursts and starts yelling at the kid to "lay off the effing coke" and "your costing me a tonne, kid."
Obviously, the bride-to-be has walked over and tried to calm the situation down (this may have been a step-son situation in the family but not sure). The groom is not happy and just turns his anger towards his future wife and starts screaming and swearing incredibly loudly. Of course, the entire bar/lounge area can hear this argument and everyone (staff included) seemed pretty unsettled.
I didn't see this part as I was out back getting the boss, but apparently the father in-law came over and got pushed by the groom. I come back out and see the groom storm off, but of course, on his way out he "scrapes" the tables of all the plates and glassware with his arms and it smashes everywhere and makes a huge noise/mess. He then goes ahead and grabs a chair and throws it in the fountain for good measure. The situation was becoming laughable (definitely not for my manager though). I will never forget my boss walking around the guests asking for someone to sign the bill as nothing had been paid for.
As we were a hotel, we have guests checking in just past the bar area. Old mate has come through and just punched some dude on his way out, knocking him to the floor. Apparently on the way out he kicked a few taxi doors and got stopped by the police. The aftermath was by far the best part. The guy who had been punched came to the bar after everything had quietened down and was talking to the police. I got them all some water and pretended to do work so I could hear it all.
Apparently, the guy had flown from the US and had severe delays on his last flight. So, he had come in much later than he had hoped and was tired as anything. He just strolls into the hotel, keen to get some sleep and just gets punched in the face. I honestly couldn't stop smiling after I heard it, this dudes had the absolute worst day.
The bride and groom to be decided to have wedding in Vegas and invite lots of friends and family.
Night before the wedding, bachelor and bachelorette decide they're gonna have their parties TOGETHER. Big mistake.
Backstory- bride's best friend is a self centered narcissist but when drinking she becomes a full fledged Queen of the Harpies, who manipulates everyone, becomes ultra paranoid, who always falsely accuses someone of a crime- "Someone stole my jacket!" Your jacket is on the chair, "Someone stole my credit card!" Check your purse again, I saw you put it in there. She's just an evil attention seeker.
So, the big party night before the wedding, 15 of us party with the to be bride and groom at a Coyote Ugly clone bar. Everyone is drunk or near drunk, the guys are taking body shots off the waitresses and random women.
The Bride's best friend a.k.a. "The Harpy" is gas-lighting the bride the entire night, whispering in the Brides ear "Your husband is gonna cheat on you after the wedding. He doesn't love you. Look at his friends getting body shots. Look at the way he's looking at those women. Why aren't you mad at him? He's disrespecting you! He's gonna get a body shot next!" She purposely separated the bride from everyone else.
The groom was having fun with his guys and happy everyone was having fun and being totally respectful, but getting drunk.
The bride was drunk, been getting madder by the second because she was being manipulated by The Harpy.
The Bride bolts over to the to be groom, turns him around, throws a drink in his face, and slaps him hard!
The groom is shocked, grabs the shoulders of his bride to be while she's yelling at him and trying to hit him again, he's a big overweight guy with little balance, and she's easily 5'10" they topple to the ground.
The fall to the ground looks really bad. Everyone assumes the groom was the aggressor- he's 6'2 300 lbs.
Bouncers jump on him, restrain him, then the cops come and arrest him outside.
He's cuffed behind him, leaning against the squad car, red and blue lights on his face.
The entire wedding party knows the wedding is off.
The cops interviews witnesses, the bride acknowledges she started the altercation, a couple hours pass, the groom isn't charged.
The wedding goes on as planned, but for a few hours, everyone was scared that the wedding was off.
We all knew who was to blame- The Harpy
The Harpy went on to work in Wash. DC. with a congressman or senator. She's a hot, intelligent, psychopath...she'll do well there.
The bride's brother (having attended the husband's bachelor party) twisted and exaggerated every detail of the bachelor party to make the husband look bad to her parents in an attempt to deflect attention away from his pill addiction.
The jerk even bought his breakfast the morning after the party, ya know, cause he is such a great guy.
Did the supposed bride and groom ever reconcile?
They never split, just called off the wedding. Still together and have two kids.
A family friend had been with this guy for a few years, their relationship sounded absolutely perfect. Attractive guy, good job, caring and understanding and you could tell they were one of those "forever" couples. A week before the wedding he just disappeared. She came home that day and everything of his was gone, it was like he was never there.
Boring story since I have no idea what the story is - but I'm a wedding musician and I was driving to the rehearsal when I got a phone call from the coordinator (I used a hands-free device) saying "Don't come, the wedding's off."
It was weird, and it's why my contract requires a non-refundable 50% deposit now...
Well, I have a story of the worst wedding I was ever a part of.
I was an usher at this wedding, so I helped seat people and everything. They were both getting married against their families wishes. I've ushered weddings before, and I remember seating one of the mothers and she had this scowl and cold attitude. Just one that said, "I really don't want to be here."
Well, ceremony went well enough, they got married, and everyone went to the reception. That's when all hell broke loose. The families got into an argument, there may have been an actual fight, the bride sided with her mother, and the marriage was off. They decided to separate about 2 hours after getting married.
The worst of it, though, comes a few days later. We saw the groom in the paper. Apparently, he tried to hire a hitman to kill his wife's parents. The hitman was an undercover cop, and he got arrested. So bizarre.
Didn't actually witness it but got to hear the story and wanted to share even though I'm late to the party.
I got married in a Catholic church and during the rehearsal we met with the priest who would be doing the ceremony. He went over all the information we needed to know and then told us some ground rules including absolutely no drinking the day of the wedding.
He proceeded to tell us about a couple from a year or two ago that were getting married at the church. You are allowed to use changing rooms they have there, he went to check on the groom and groomsmen who were using the back room to get ready and as he walked in they were taking shots from a bottle left over from the party the night before.
He called the parents into his office and informed them there would be no wedding due to the alcohol. The parents flipped out, the bride apparently totally lost it and went off on him calling him a habitual drunk and stuff and their entire relationship ended.
Not a bachelor party, but I was in the stages of planning one.
My best friend was getting married, he was my best man, and I was about to be his, so I was really excited.
One day, I'm on the road, and he calls me upset out of his mind telling me that the wedding was off. Him and his fiance had a huge fight and broke up while at the airport, and she threw the ring at him.
I'm like, "uh oh, what about?"
Apparently the wedding that his wife and her mother were planning was becoming larger and larger and more out of control as they were going through the planning stages. He had made a comment about not spending too much because of the wedding, and it had spiraled into a huge argument about money.
She accused him of not being forthright with his finances. Not like, he had a secret bank account or he was outright lying about what he made in a year or something like that. Nope, just that she was under the impression that he had more money to pay for this insanely huge wedding than he had.
I was like, that sounds like a really ridiculous reason to break up - as a couple preparing for marriage, you'll cross all sorts of financial hurdles, so being able to agree on a wedding budget is a drop in the bucket.
I called her because I thought there was maybe something else to it. I mean, I figured I could have this open dialogue with her, it wasn't like she was a stranger, she was dating my best friend, and of course, we all hung out together, went camping, etc.
Nope, she confirmed, that was it, and for whatever reason, she just couldn't get her head around it.
He tried all sorts of stuff to reason with her and compromise - including offering that they have a joint bank account so she could always see exactly how much he had. No dice.
What followed was a period of her acting incredibly childish in that strange period of exchanging stuff, including asking for several gifts back that she had given him.
Occasionally she still reaches out to my wife, who just ignores her (they both are nurses at the same hospital). We know who our family is.
I feel bad for my friend. He'll come over to hang out with me and my wife, and he's awesome with my kids, and I know he still thinks about it - he says things like, "I would have been married for this long and probably would have a kid" etc. I know he really wants a family and wants to meet the right woman.
I was working as a bouncer one time and the bride and groom decided it would be a good idea to throw their bachelor/bachelorette parties on the same night in the same town. I guess they must have been from out of town. Anyways it's the night before the wedding. Which is not a good night to get falling down drunk. Both parties wind up at my bar at the same time. Groom catches the bride doing body shots off a dude and kissing him, so he gets jealous and grabs the bride. They get into it and he gets rough with her.
So I grabbed the dude to drag him out, and he and his friends decided it would be extra fun to try and fight a bunch of pissed off sober bouncers. We beat the hell out of him and his friends while some of the other staff kept the girls held back. Cops showed up and he got hauled off, none of us wanted to press charges. I'm 99.99% positive the wedding didn't go through
They broke up. A few years passed. They got back together and then got married later on. Sometimes stuff happens and people need extra time to figure out what they want and how they want it. No hard feelings, they have a beautiful life now.
We don't know...we still don't know. Just got a call saying the wedding had been cancelled, no details. Of course this opened the floodgates of speculation, no one seemed comfortable talking about it, I wasn't close enough with the bride or groom to inquire. Definitely odd, but probably better than going through with a wedding you don't want to have.
Here is a more upbeat story: the night before their city hall wedding, the bride and groom had separate big parties and got so wasted they both slept through the wedding. They didn't realize it until city hall called asking where they were, and they decided "Hell, we'll do it later."
They did eventually get married, and still are as far as I know, over 20 years later.
My cousin runs a popular upscale marriage venue and always tells the story way better than this so here is a rough overview. The groom's mom was a heavy drinker and got belligerent when she drank so understandably the bride wanted the groom to try to limit her drinking. The afternoon before the wedding the bride arrives to see groom's mom smashed with the groom himself giving her beers. Next thing my cousin knows (she was there to oversee preparations) the bride and groom are in a straight up fist fight which leads to an Anchorman-style street fight between members of both families in the parking lot.
Apparently they recently scheduled a new day for it. I can't imagine the tension there.
When it comes to electing a leader, the choice is an easy one if a potential candidate shares the same values as yours.
And while a candidate is fit to lead remains to be seen, we rely on our instinct to choose someone with whom we can relate.
But sometimes, our options are limited and we inevitably go with someone who is the lesser of two evils.
Curious to hear from strangers online about a hypothetical, Redditor Cashmeresquid2309 asked:
"Americans of Reddit, would you vote for an openly Atheist presidential candidate? Why or why not?"
Redditors were quick to point out the answer was a no-brainer.
We Already Know The Answer
"Asking Reddit if they'd vote for an atheist..."
"I feel like the answer would be obvious."
"Americans of Reddit, would you vote for a Star Wars fan who heckin loves doggos?"
For The Atheists In The Crowd
"Atheists of atheistville, would you vote for an open atheist?"
Others weighed in with a range of opinions.
"Better to ask the question in r/conservative"
"What's funny is how many of them would probably say no, even though they voted for Trump and would do so again. Say whatever else you want about him, but I seriously can't understand how anyone could genuinely believe Trump is a Christian. He's so obviously faking it and is undoubtedly the most atheistic president we've ever had or are likely to have for a long time."
"This is a guy who's never even so much as read the Bible or attended church, who told a conservative radio host his favorite Bible verse was 'an eye for an eye', who told evangelical interviewers that he's never asked God for forgiveness because he's never done anything wrong, and who routinely commits all 7 deadly sins (pride, greed, wrath, envy, lust, gluttony and sloth) without remorse."
From A Different Perspective
"Not an american but interestingly according to this survey on 1006 people from 2007, being atheist was the worst thing you could be as a candidate (of the things asked) with only 45 % of people saying they'd vote for one."
An atheist candidate isn't necessarily a big strike.
"I wouldn’t not vote for someone just because they were atheist."
"This is it. If they’re running on platforms I support with a history to back up those campaign promises, I don’t care if they belong to the church of the flying spaghetti monster. They could literally be a member of the satanic temple and I, an actual practicing Christian, would give less shi*s than a constipated sloth."
"Edit: yes, I realize the Satanic Temple does not actually worship satan. I used it for that purpose. The Church of Satan has some…problematic views and I probably would not vote for someone who literally holds a platform of eugenics."
Some view the role of religion in politics as important.
"Religion can be relevant: I would have strong reservations about voting for a Scientologist, even if I agreed with the policies they proposed. I would have strong reservations voting for a member of an apocalyptic cult or, possibly worse, a follower of the (highly heretical) 'prosperity gospel,' which unfortunately includes more and more so-called 'evangelicals' — I didn't vote for George W. Bush, but it's not because he was an evangelical."
"It depends on the role: I'd probably be more flexible with a legislator than an executive (mayor, governor, president), as their character is IMO more important than for a legislator and their policy stances somewhat less important relative to a legislator."
"Satanic temple — well, that's just an organized group of atheists and humanists with an intentionally inflammatory choice of name. They're generally fine people."
A Bad Rap
"The Satanic Temple is an excellent organization that every decent person should be able to respect. A Church of Satan member, not so much."
"There's a huge difference between them!"
And Redditor boganvegan said it best.
"Better an open atheist than a fake Christian."
It all boils down to trustworthiness. Without full transparency, how could anyone put their faith in a candidate who spews nothing but lies?
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Being home alone isn't always the most tranquil thing.
No one is there to help or protect you.
And things that go "bump" in the night... sometimes they do more than bump.
Redditor ag9910 wanted to hear about the times home felt like an unsafe place to be. They asked:
"What is the scariest, strangest, most unexplainable thing that has happened to you while home alone?"
I'm always freaked out when I'm home alone. Lights on. Yeah, my electric bill is high.
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"I dreamed the front door blew open at the exact time the house alarm went off... I hopped up and sure enough, the front door was open. No intruder."
I See You
"Not home alone but only one in right side of the house. Went to my mom's bathroom to wash my hands and saw a pair of feet behind the half open door. Laughed and said 'very funny Ma, I see you.' then finished up and left. Bumped into my mother in the kitchen unpacking, nobody else was in the house. I'm glad whatever was behind the door didn't peek out."
"One night I had forgotten to lock my apartment door and woke up in the middle of the night. My bedroom door was about 2 feet from my front door, as you walked into the apartment. First a big dog ran by, then a person. Holy crap I was so scared and I screeched 'Who is it?!?!!'"
"A man said 'It’s Doug!' As I was thinking to myself, who the f**k is Doug, he said 'oh, crap.' He turned around to go back out the front door saying 'Sorry.' I asked 'Didn’t you have a dog with you?' He said 'Oh, yeah. Hey, c’mon!.' He left, his dog ran out after him and I locked my front door."
"Edit: glad you all thought this was funny, because I did too, once my heart quit trying to beat right out of my chest! The next day the girls at work thought I was crazy for not being upset, but eh, done is done. Peace!"
"My sister and I were home alone and we heard someone big running up the stairs. The stairs make lots of noise with slight pressure so when there’s someone big on them you can tell. I went out of my room to check but saw no one anywhere and my sister also came out of her room and she asked if that was me I said no and we both looked around to see if there was anyone but found no one in the whole house. We were confused and called our parents and just waited until they got back and that was that."
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"I very clearly saw a guy walk into my room. But when I went after him there was nobody there. I checked in the closet, under my bed, everywhere one could hide in my room."
This is why home video surveillance is key.
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"My parents were on a road trip, just left, and I sat down at my desk. I thought 'Weekend alone by myself' and a voice yelled into my right ear 'NO' so loud it hurt."
"I managed to lock myself out of my house on my birthday during a tornado while trying to bring my cats to the basement for safety. I later found out that the tornado was approximately a couple miles or less from me at that exact time. The sky was green and it got weirdly calm and then I could hear what sounded like a train coming before I found an unlocked window to climb through. Wild times."
Saturday morning in the 80s...
"I wasn't home alone but I was awake by myself one Saturday morning in the 80s when I was around 7 or so. I believe my mom was the only one home because my dad went to the lake to go fishing that weekend, and I'm not sure where my older brothers were, maybe they went with him, idk."
"Anyways, my mom's sleeping in, and I'm in the living room by myself, watching Saturday morning cartoons and making a fort out of sheets and cushions. Something made me turn around and I saw my dad in his pajamas standing in the hallway entrance with his hands on his hips, looking the mess I was making and shaking his head."
"He then turned around and walked into my room, which was just off the hallway entrance. Dude. I didn't even look, I just booked it to my parents room and woke my mom up. I don't remember what happened after that, this was around 35 years ago. And yes, my dad was fine, nothing had happened to him."
Get the Bat...
"I was at home by myself on a call with some friends when all of a sudden my dog begins to bark like crazy, which was odd since it was the middle of the night and he's usually sleep. I go downstairs to check on him and find him barking at our hall closet, terrified I grabbed my bat that I keep in my room just in case and open the door. There was nothing out of usual at first at then I look down and notice a familiar looking object at the bottom of the closet."
"It was my mom's necklace she had lost when I was 9, (i'm 15 now just to put in perspective how long it's been). I showed it to my mom at breakfast and she was just as shocked as I was. I still have no clue how it got there or how my dog knew it was in there, definitely one of the oddest occurrences of my life."
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"Many years ago, I was 14 or so, my first night alone in the house when my parents were out. Lying on the living room floor reading, my cat sleeping next to me."
"Suddenly, cat wakes up, stares intently into the dark corner of the room behind me, hair on end, growls and then bolts out of the room and upstairs. I look behind me and see nothing, but follow cat upstairs and hide under the covers. Freaked me out."
Thank God for alarms. I hate being home alone.
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The human body is still such a mystery.
How much do we really know?
Not a lot apparently. We're learning more all the time.
And most of it is gross.
Redditor BathNo7713 wanted to discuss the ick factor of anatomy. So they asked:
"What is the most disturbing fact about the human body?"
The body freaks me out. But it's all I've got. So teach me some things.
"The fastest killing virus takes around 4 days to kill you. That would be Ebola. Your immune system can kill you in 15 minutes."
"If your brainstem (the part of the brain that mediates most motor control for all of the body) is damaged, you can get 'locked-in' syndrome. That means you're fully conscious and aware of your surroundings but unable to move or speak. The only muscles that remain unaffected in most people are the muscles that move they eyes and the eyelids."
"You're essentially trapped within your own body with your only way of communication being blinking or moving your eyes It can be caused by toxins, blockage of the basilar artery which is the main artery of the brainstem, or other brainstem damage."
"Some people suffer from Exploding Head Syndrome, which causes them to hear a loud bang when they wake up."
"When I was younger I believe I experienced this a few times. Sounds I heard were: about a million people talking and laughing all at once, a train that irl would've been about a foot away from me based on the volume of the sound, and a door slamming loudly."
"Not sure if this is by design, but I totaled my car once, almost completely uninjured somehow. Then I looked down to my right hand which I remember jabbing into my dashboard at 55mph. Luckily (unluckily?) only my pinky took the blow. But instead of a floppy-udder full of bone-sand, my pinky was 0.5 inches long."
"Broke no bones, but instead perfectly stacked my phalanges, or finger bones, INTO my hand. This is fixed by a muscular Russian murse grabbing your pinky with both hands and pulling very hard. God I wish they gave me more lidocaine."
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"If you have a surgery where they need to move your organs around they might not function for a day as the body assumes that they are dead."
Move things around? You mean that's not fake when it happens on "Grey's Anatomy?"
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"It is always making disgusting body noises."
"The only reason you are not aware of it is because the ambient noise kind of drowns it out because your ears focus on it. If you go to one of those super-silent rooms that absorb all sorts of sounds, it is a really weird way to reacquaint yourself with your body."
"Idk about the most disturbing but how bad human teeth are. We’d think it’s our sugary and processed diets these days that cause it, but even Otzi the iceman discovered in Italy was found to have terrible teeth, mouth diseases and cavities. It’s odd that even with the most basic of diets our teeth are so bad."
In the bowels...
"I noticed this after my abdominal surgery. When I turned over in bed my guts seemed to fall from one side to the other. Mentioned to my doc and she confirmed it was my bowels rearranging themselves."
"Apparently the doctor just throws your intestines back in there higgeldy-piggeldy because there isn't a correct way to pack them neatly."
A Quick Burst
"There are a vast number of ways that your body can malfunction and kill you with little or no warning. An aneurysm can go undetected until it bursts and kills you. Getting hit in the chest just the right way can stop your heart. You can encounter an allergen that never previously provoked an immune response that freaks out your body so badly that you die. You literally just never know if your body will just... die."
The body is such a conundrum. Sexy and gross all at once.
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Being overweight comes with numerous challenges.
And not only challenge's to one's health.
Unfortunately, overweight people are far too often a target for judgment and ridicule, often owing to misconceptions.
Even worse, sometimes simply being bigger than other people leads others to assume that they must also be less than or inadequate in general.
Redditor Rude_Guarantee_1479 was curious to hear what people felt is the worst part, or most common misconception about being overweight, leading them to ask:
"What is the worst part about being a fat person?"
Since I'm fat, I must also be stupid.
"For some reason people always assumed I was simple minded/stupid when I was obese."
"Now that I've lost weight people just talk to me like I'm a regular person."- batyablueberry.
No comfort to be had.
"Feeling uncomfortable all the time."- Keithninety.
Not being seen and always being noticed.
"I have a fear that nobody is ever going to fall in love with me because I don't feel visible and I am fat
Also, going to the pool or beach and you have to put on a swimsuit. I feel like a seal stranded on the beach.- mango_0111.
"My belt trying to stab me in my belly when I sit down."- jimjohn2017.
"Nothing seems to fit nicely or still look nice in your size."- OutlandishnessNo1950.
"The amount of pants you go through."- Cmonredditalready.
"Putting on a shirt, walking into the backroom, seeing how it makes me look, and then never pulling out my favorite shirt ever again."- YeaItsaThrowaway112.
Never feeling good about yourself.
"Feeling guilty while eating your favorite foods, not looking good in photos/clothes."- pissed_at_everything.
"My thighs rubbing and chaffing."
"I'm so raw right now."- HeavyBreathin.
"Not the worst part, but the most constantly sh*tty part is constantly being called 'big guy' by every kind of person other than other 'big guys'."- Professor-ish.
As the old saying goes, true beauty comes from within.
And the way someone looks should never be one's first impression.
Nor does anyone need to go through the day facing unwanted judgment when simply walking down the street.
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