Bachelor Party Attendees Reveal Why The Wedding Got Cancelled After That Night

Bachelor and bachelorette parties are known for getting wild, but most people can show enough restraint to remember that they're getting married soon. Some people, though, seem not to have that particular ability.
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"People who have witnessed a "There's not going to be a wedding" moment following a bachelor/bachelorette party: what went down?"
These are going to get pretty cringey, so strap in and prepare for takeoff.
40.
My dad and his friends took a buddy by canoe to an island to get drunk the night before the wedding. He told them all he didn't want to go through with it but couldn't figure out how to get out of it. When he woke up in the morning, they had stranded him on the island, he missed the wedding, his buddies were branded as the jerks. Groom to be was relieved.
39.
I see a lot of bachelor and bachelorette parties in my line of work. I actually have a few of these memories.
The first that comes to mind was an interesting night where the bachelor party was happening at one bar and the bachelorette party was in the bar down the block. At the groom to be's party I get a call for help from the place. It's a tame security call. Just a couple getting it on in a bathroom. The bar wanted them booted.
I find out the dude is the groom to be and the girl is just some random chick. The chick goes off on her own and now I'm with the groom outside. He's drunk and almost uncontrollable. I am trying to find him a way home safe. His bros were all drunk and kept the party going without him.
After a while, the bride to be and her gals come walking down the street. A couple people around chime in and tell her why I am there dealing with him. She breaks down and calls the wedding off right there. He ended up going to detox that night.
38.
I know a guy who seemingly had his life together: great career, lots of friends, beautiful fiancee.
He had a tendency to drink too much while partying, and a few weeks before the wedding he woke up in the hospital with serious injuries due to a non-automotive drunken accident. The scariest part for him was that he didn't remember a thing past leaving the party to walk home. Did he fall and hit his head? Did someone attack him and leave him for dead?
The thought of that scared him, and he decided to sober up. It also caused him to reflect on his life, and he realized his fiancee was manipulative, controlling, and he'd never be happy living with someone like that. He has some long term damage from the injury, but he's still sober, spends much of his free time for a charitable cause, and dodged a serious bullet (a bad marriage) as a result of that horrible injury so he oddly came out ahead in the end.
37.
A wedding came in from out of town, the bride/groom hadn't had a stag/hen do so decided the night before that the men and women would split up and each have their own party. The men had a small cocktail bar and the women took the restaurant. I was meant to be working the main bar but got asked by a female colleague to cover the cocktail bar as the men were getting rowdy and making comments - no problem.
Got in there and it's just a group of old mates getting hammered, pretty standard stuff, until the stripper arrived. She did a full show, the groom has to get pretty involved. All was well until the woman found out and called off the wedding - shouting matches went on well into the early hours. The wedding did go ahead, but you could tell there was awkwardness in the air.
36.
The bride came to the bar asking if we had seen the groom as he was needed for some photographs or cutting the cake, can't quite remember. None of the staff had seen him so she went outside, only to return a few minutes later in tears. She had caught the groom getting with the Maid of Honor...her sister.
All out family war commenced with extra guests just sitting there enjoying the buffet. Worst part was hearing the bride cry "I can't believe this happened again," I really felt bad for her because she was lovely.
35.
I bartend weddings fairly often and work directly with wedding planners all the time and meet with the bride and groom to be to talk things through and create a sense of familiarity. Each time I met the groom he just kind of seemed out of it but I chalked it up to stress.
Day of the wedding before the ceremony the wedding planner comes over and asks for a couple shots for herself, she doesn't drink on jobs so I ask her why. Apparently things were about to get started but the groom was missing and wasn't responding to phone calls so everyone is looking for him then one of the bridesmaids disappears.
Not long after the brother of the groom gets a text from the groom saying he and the bridesmaid are in love and they're running away to elope and that he'll call him after. Everyone is getting antsy waiting for things to start and they've all been waiting like 2 hours. Now the wedding planner has to tell 150 people that the wedding is off and explain to the parents what happened while the wedding party is consoling the bride.
34.
My wife's friend called off her wedding a week before the ceremony. She lived several hundred miles away for school but came back to her hometown two weeks before the wedding to make sure everything was lined up and have her bachelorette party. In the course of her visit, she came across an old boyfriend (who was also engaged) and things "sparked" up again. They agreed they should each leave their fiancés and give their relationship another shot.
Turns out, he didn't keep up his end of the bargain, and she is still single today.
33.
I traveled with my wife (then girlfriend) to a wedding she was in. I told my wife there is something going on between the bride and the maid of honor. She laughed. Two weeks after the wedding the brides Facebook goes dark. The bride and maid of honor are now living together in another state. I still talk about how I called it within an hour of meeting them. Poor groom... super nice dude.
32.
Ex-girlfriend was going to a friend of a friends bachelorette party, mainly for her friend who didn't want to go solo.
Anyway, I knew they were going to a strip club and expected to hear all about those shenanigans. She texted me when they were leaving, the bride had payed for two of the strippers to come back with them. They went back and the show continued.
Everyone seemed like they were having fun, but generally playing by the rules. Nothing that doesn't go on at tons of bachelorette parties.
At some point things took a turn.Then, things went the way they usually do with sexually charged people. Turned into two of the girls having sex with the strippers. Then the bride.
There was no wedding.
31.
Wedding Photographer here - This happened with a couple back in 2015.
Night before the wedding, all the bridal party got together at the hotel, partied, and drank a LOT. I show up the next morning 8am after a 2 hour drive to be told by the hotel receptionist, that there was not going to be a wedding.
Apparently a large fight broke out between the groomsman and bridesmaids. Money to pay the vendors was stolen. The ceremony was supposed to be at 11am that day. After about 2 minutes of WTF is going on here, nobody called and told me. I called the bride's mother - and she stated that she was off to pick up the bride and groom, sit them down, and still try to have a wedding.
Fast forward a couple hours, the groom showed up drunk out of his mind around 10am, guests were already showing up, the bride finally showed around 11:30 - noon time, and there was a ceremony at 1pm. Yes - they still got married. The groom was drunk the whole day, the couple argued a ton.
Needless to say... It was an eventful day.
30.
A friend of mine in college had been engaged to her highschool sweetheart. Plan was for them to get married after she graduated. She was one of those that dreamed of her wedding since she was a little girl. She had been planning FOREVER!!! A week before the wedding, he leaves without a trace, except a note saying I can't marry you. She was devastated.
We still had a party with the wedding cake, food, etc. because it had all been paid for already. Saddest party ever. She ran into him a few years later at an 80's dance club wearing a mesh shirt and a taxi hat making out with a dude.
29.
Not because of the party but still good. Day of the wedding Groom's family is patiently waiting. Bride's family hasn't shown. Bride's mother finally arrives and says that Bride has discovered Groom has a second fiancé in another state and wedding is off. Rehearsal dinner photos on Facebook and someone tagged the wrong girl assuming that was his fiancee he had been talking about.
Except it was the other fiancé. So Bride see her tagged as someone else and messages from out of town friends about "Can't wait to meet her why wasn't I invited?"
28.
Strip club manager here,
Funniest thing I've ever seen. 5 man bachelor party comes into work. Kinda tipsy and having a good time but not being disruptive. They are hanging out for a while and they are great, throwing money and overall being pleasant. At this point they have done nothing wrong.
About 2 hours in, my front door flings open and in barge 4 very very drunk women. They storm right past security, make a beeline for the group and what I later learned was the bride, proceeds to beat the absolute crap out of the groom. Then 2 of the other ladies proceed to botch at than attack the best man and another guy. Me and my team bolt over to try and separate the cluster that just transpired pulling the ladies off the guys who looked just as surprised as we were.
We drag them outside and the guys all follow out. The bride start going absolutely nuts on the groom saying how she can't believe he'd go to a strip club to see naked women before their wedding. The groom starts yelling saying it's not a big deal etc. The maid of honor and best man (who were apparently married) also are having the same discussion.
The fun really gets turned to 11 when the quiet female (up to this point) walks up and slaps the dog crap out of the groom wondering why she wasn't good enough. Apparently they had dated years ago and she never got over him. Also apparently the bride did NOT know this information. Bridezilla goes OFF. Start beating the crap out of quiet chick.
While groom, me and another security guy are trying to stop a murder in my parking lot, best man and maid of honor are still arguing. Once we separate bride and quiet chick, all we hear is best man scream forget this! Walks over, tells groom he had sex the bride like 3 years ago at a party with the maid of honor and he didn't want him to marry her.
Groom surprisingly is calm... turns to bride and says the wedding was off. She starts freaking out crying apologizing and begging as he walks in the club to pay his tab...
Craziest night at work ever....
27.
I was two weeks away from getting married, ex went off with her friends for Bachelorette party two in the morning I get a email from the maid of honor it was supposed to be sent to her friends and my name was accidentally selected, the email contained a video of my bride hooking up with one the male strippers.
The next day we were supposed to finalize some plans when the bride to be and maid of honor showed up to pick me up i just pointed at the computer... bride went pale then spent the next eight hours attempting to explain what was going on, then it turned into a horrible mistake, I think at some point I passed out because i had started drinking right after seeing the video and just didn't stop.
26.
Military idiot in my old unit had a bachelor party at a (very nasty) strip club and had sex with a stripper in front of his buddies in the private room. Of course word about this spread like wildfire in the unit and confirmed by the dozen of guys that were in the room when it happened, military spouses gossip and talk and soon the wife found out and they were divorced less than a month later.
I'm still friends with the groom on FB and he is still an idiot.
25.
My wife had a friend whose fiancee called off the wedding after he found out she had been with a black guy... years before they even started dating.
Gotta love it when the trash takes itself out.
24.
This happened to one of my oldest friends who I met in preschool, our families were friends, they moved out of state in middle school but we kept in touch. Cut to our 20s- He gets engaged to his gf that he was living with, everything sounds good, I got the invite and was making plans to travel for the wedding. They had a joint bachelor/bachelorette weekend in Vegas with their wedding party and I coincidentally was out there the same weekend visiting family, so I joined them out one night.
It was awkward AF. I can't really describe the tension. Fiancé didn't even say hi or acknowledge me when I said congrats (first time meeting her too). Everything was disorganized, no one knew what was going on, we kinda wandered from place to place til we settled at a bar in a hotel. I never saw the bride and groom next to each other all night let alone talking.
They got in different cabs from one place to the other even though it was not separated by guys and girls, but one big party. I ended up hanging out mostly with my friend's older brother and his gf. I got the weirdest vibe off the situation and when I got back I told my SO I wanted to hold off buying the plane tickets and wasn't sure I wanted to make the effort and pay a lot of money to travel to a wedding that I felt so uneasy about.
Maybe two weeks later my friend calls to ask if I've bought tickets yet. Not yet... Good he says, the wedding is off. Fiancé decided she was in love with one of the groomsmen and she moved in with him. The groomsman that lived rightnext door to them. She claims she never cheated while they were together and it just happened... right. I think she and groomsman got married some time later, but my friend was stuck in the lease living next to them for several months.
23.
It was a month before my scheduled wedding and I was getting everything ready. In the meantime all of my close friends in my wedding party came out to celebrate my bachelor party with some drinking, floating, skydiving, etc. Well the night before they get there, my now ex-fiance of 8 years says that she no longer wants to go through with the wedding.
So I spend the morning my friends are there calling around to friends, family, reservation services and explaining the news (completing blindsided). Come to find out she had cheated on me and had been feeling that way "for awhile" but didn't share this with me until the day of my Birthday... the day before my friends visit for a few days.
Needless to say the plans changed a bit and it turned into my Birthday party instead. Was pretty awful but I ended up having a good time with best friends.
Much happier now with my soul mate and so thankful that things worked out the way they did!
22.
Bachelor party went on a cruise and never left the ship. Ate too much and drank a lot. Meanwhile the bachelorette party went to Vegas. The bride banged one of the strippers and two of the bridesmaids hooked up with old boyfriends who just happened to be there. The wedding never happened. But the bridesmaids are now both engaged to their respective boyfriends (the ones that they cheated on) and planning a double bachelorette party in..... you guessed it..... Las Vegas.
21.
Three of us guys were best friends since high school - we'll say it's Billy (guy getting married), Joel (one of the 3 amigos), Martin (me). Fast forward to about age 23 - Billy is getting married to this girl who was 19 at the time. Night of the bachelor party, somehow Joel and I are alone with the bride-to-be. She's got a few drinks in her, and decides to seriously proposition Joel for sex.
We thought long and hard about telling Billy, but given previous experiences (we told him about an Ex doing some shady crap and he proceeded to stop talking to us until they broke up), we decided against it. They did get married... 6 months in he got home early from work and walked in on her in the middle of taking her clothes off in the living room with another dude. While they might have just been starting an innocent game of naked twister, he decided to divorce her.
20.
One of the groomsmen got into a huge fight with the groom because he brought up the fact that his future wife cheated on him a few years prior. This is true, but it was water under the bridge by that point. Anyway, groom got really angry and said don't bother coming then started reconsidering the marriage at all.
Anyway, the next day they had sobered up and apologised to each other so the wedding went ahead. She did in fact cheat on him in the end several years later though.
19.
My old roommate is the sweetest girl you'll ever meet. So it wasn't any surprise when guys were into her and she struggled to turn them down. There was one guy in particular who was really weird. He spent months pursuing her and she kept politely turning him down and eventually had to be clear that she only regarded him as a friend. Then he took it upon himself to become her best guy friend and took it to a creepy level.
Like when she brought a new boyfriend around and this guy insisted the boyfriend had to fill out an application and get approved by him before he could date my roommate. Weird ownership stuff that lasted for years. And it's very clearly all on his end because she never initiates hanging out or mentions him when he's not around or really seems to enjoy her time with him.
So fast forward a couple years and this guy is dating someone. He makes sure my roommate approves and she's constantly being brought along as a third wheel on dates and to everything they do. My roommate's approval is necessary and he wants to make sure these two women are really good friends. He'd bring his girlfriend over sometimes and just ignore her to pay attention to my roommate.
The couple gets engaged and he specifically makes sure my roommate can come (as basically his best woman) and insists she drives up to the wedding with them. So they take the several hour drive to the bride's hometown together.
The details from there are a little unclear to me. The morning of the wedding (like an hour before), the bride calls off the wedding and it's vaguely understood that she's really uncomfortable with her fiancé's attachment to this girl he used to pursue really hardcore and that she thought it would get better, but his insistence that my roommate be part of the wedding and spend all her time with them (even up to the day of the wedding) convinced the bride that he'd never give up on my roommate.
So in the midst of all this, it'd make sense if he cut my roommate off in order to work at his relationship, right? Well, instead he peaces out and drags my roommate with him and they immediately take the several hour drive back to our college town. So basically all the bride's fears are confirmed as he runs off with the woman she was concerned about.
My roommate got married a couple years later and I think that's when he finally gave up because he got engaged shortly after her wedding.
18.
Well it wasn't a bachelor party but a couple months before the wedding it was discovered she was leading a double life.
Her frequent work trips to the UK were actually trips to a few hour drive away where she was living with another guy. Telling him the same story but in reverse.
Wedding was called off. Much money was lost. Not sure what her plan was...
17.
Just was at a bachelorette party where one of the bridesmaids got drunk and was happily telling the bride, "Oh I'm so glad you and Fiance worked things out after he cheated, I know he didn't mean it, you two are perfect together."
The bride didn't know...
16.
My close friend from high school thought it would be a good idea to marry this 'so handsome and mature' guy about 15 years older than her after only knowing him for 6 months. Didn't have a problem with the age as I prefer older men myself, but with that being said I know some of those men only seek after girls our age because of their immaturity. It was the Wednesday before their bachelorette/ bachelor parties and the three of us were having dinner at one of her and I's favorite spots together.
I guess his order of well-done steak came out improperly cooked and he just lost it on the waiter, demanded the chef in front of him to basically berate and call him incompetent and unable to do his job (in a Michelin Star awarded kitchen!!) I look up at my good friend and she is just borderline tears, I'm guessing going over every little tick or remark he's made in the past and then imagining a future with him. She called it off after the bachelor parties.
15.
So this was pre-bachelor party, but still relevant. My childhood best friend got engaged and invited me to come down and to meet his fiance/the rest of the bridal party (I moved states years ago, but we still keep in touch). So I made the trip down to see him and his family and things are going really well. Spent the day hanging out with him and catching up, but ultimately the first day was short just because I had been traveling all day.
Day 2 rolls around and we made a trip to go look at Tattoos. Important to note that my buddy has tons of tattoos and had been talking to me for weeks about getting my own. I agreed to go look and we had talked about him getting some additional work done all week prior to my trip. So we get to the shop, I decide to hold off on my tattoo for now (still deciding on the right one), but he gets a few of his touched up and gets a new one. That's where things go sour.
We leave the shop and there's like 6 missed calls from his fiance. We get back to their place and she asks if I ended up getting a tattoo and I admit that I didn't yet. Then she looks at him and sees his new tattoo, and she's furious. Like just absolutely beyond pissed. They get in a huge screaming match and eventually we have to leave to go out to meet with the rest of the wedding party.
Night starts off okay, but she keeps randomly yelling at my buddy and is just generally pissed off. We end up leaving the first bar and bouncing to the second one and things seem to have cooled off. I dip to use the bathroom for maybe 2 minutes, but by the time I got back the atmosphere had completely changed. No explanation but all I was told was that we were leaving and then no-one spoke.
She was sober cabbing for the group, so we had the most awkward completely silent hour long car ride home. Then when we got home my buddy asked me which couch I'd like to sleep on that night, as he'd be taking the other one.
They lasted about another month before the whole thing collapsed.
So for context a few more things had been going on in their relationship. They were currently living together in a small crappy apartment. He was working full time (at the time he was on leave because he dislocated his shoulder-he was a firefighter), while she was a student. He had just leased/bought a brand new very nice car, and had a history of impulse buys.
His thought process was that he worked for his money, it was his money, he could spend it how he wanted. Her thought process was that she wanted to move out of the apartment and it was their money. I think she wasn't so much upset with the tattoo as much as his lack of forethought in making purchases.
I never did get the full reason why, but that's my theory.
14.
I have a contribution. Went to Vegas for a bachelor party and his mother decided to tag along (she was financing it all anyways). She convinced the groom to sleep with a adult video star we later found out she paid to exclusively come sleep with him so she could guilt him into telling the bride thus stopping the wedding. It worked.
13.
So this was a crazy one. My boyfriend was the best man at his friend's wedding and told me this story after he got back from the bachelor party. On of the groomsmen (we'll call him Eric) from high school got wasted before they went out and told the groom (we'll call him Michael) that his soon to be wife was a terrible person and he can't believe that Michael would marry her because he thought he loved him (Eric).
Turns out, they had been having a gay affair for 3 years behind his fiancee's back but Michael was too afraid to tell his friends and family so he kept up the facade of a straight man so he wouldn't be cut off from his trust fund. Michael first told the groomsmen that Eric was crazy and kicked him out of the hotel they were staying at but called him later to meet up at a bar where they made out and left together.
My boyfriend said they had no idea where they went that night but Eric and Michael came back to the hotel the next day confessing that they loved each other and Michael proceeded to call his family and fiancée with the news and cancel the wedding. Some crazy stuff.
12.
I used to work in the bar of a nice hotel in the city and we would occasionally have private events. We had a section of the lounge blocked off for an engagement party of about 40 people. They rolled in and seemed like relatively polite people (maybe a little bit bogan) but everything was going well. The groom seemed to love his Jacks and coke but just seemed a little bit off the entire night.
Anyway, there was this one little kid who would come to the bar and always politely ask "could I please have a coke with some raspberry sir?" The groom has noticed that the kid has had around 3-4 cokes and has just lost the plot. He just randomly bursts and starts yelling at the kid to "lay off the effing coke" and "your costing me a tonne, kid."
Obviously, the bride-to-be has walked over and tried to calm the situation down (this may have been a step-son situation in the family but not sure). The groom is not happy and just turns his anger towards his future wife and starts screaming and swearing incredibly loudly. Of course, the entire bar/lounge area can hear this argument and everyone (staff included) seemed pretty unsettled.
I didn't see this part as I was out back getting the boss, but apparently the father in-law came over and got pushed by the groom. I come back out and see the groom storm off, but of course, on his way out he "scrapes" the tables of all the plates and glassware with his arms and it smashes everywhere and makes a huge noise/mess. He then goes ahead and grabs a chair and throws it in the fountain for good measure. The situation was becoming laughable (definitely not for my manager though). I will never forget my boss walking around the guests asking for someone to sign the bill as nothing had been paid for.
As we were a hotel, we have guests checking in just past the bar area. Old mate has come through and just punched some dude on his way out, knocking him to the floor. Apparently on the way out he kicked a few taxi doors and got stopped by the police. The aftermath was by far the best part. The guy who had been punched came to the bar after everything had quietened down and was talking to the police. I got them all some water and pretended to do work so I could hear it all.
Apparently, the guy had flown from the US and had severe delays on his last flight. So, he had come in much later than he had hoped and was tired as anything. He just strolls into the hotel, keen to get some sleep and just gets punched in the face. I honestly couldn't stop smiling after I heard it, this dudes had the absolute worst day.
11.
The bride and groom to be decided to have wedding in Vegas and invite lots of friends and family.
Night before the wedding, bachelor and bachelorette decide they're gonna have their parties TOGETHER. Big mistake.
Backstory- bride's best friend is a self centered narcissist but when drinking she becomes a full fledged Queen of the Harpies, who manipulates everyone, becomes ultra paranoid, who always falsely accuses someone of a crime- "Someone stole my jacket!" Your jacket is on the chair, "Someone stole my credit card!" Check your purse again, I saw you put it in there. She's just an evil attention seeker.
So, the big party night before the wedding, 15 of us party with the to be bride and groom at a Coyote Ugly clone bar. Everyone is drunk or near drunk, the guys are taking body shots off the waitresses and random women.
The Bride's best friend a.k.a. "The Harpy" is gas-lighting the bride the entire night, whispering in the Brides ear "Your husband is gonna cheat on you after the wedding. He doesn't love you. Look at his friends getting body shots. Look at the way he's looking at those women. Why aren't you mad at him? He's disrespecting you! He's gonna get a body shot next!" She purposely separated the bride from everyone else.
The groom was having fun with his guys and happy everyone was having fun and being totally respectful, but getting drunk.
The bride was drunk, been getting madder by the second because she was being manipulated by The Harpy.
The Bride bolts over to the to be groom, turns him around, throws a drink in his face, and slaps him hard!
The groom is shocked, grabs the shoulders of his bride to be while she's yelling at him and trying to hit him again, he's a big overweight guy with little balance, and she's easily 5'10" they topple to the ground.
The fall to the ground looks really bad. Everyone assumes the groom was the aggressor- he's 6'2 300 lbs.
Bouncers jump on him, restrain him, then the cops come and arrest him outside.
He's cuffed behind him, leaning against the squad car, red and blue lights on his face.
The entire wedding party knows the wedding is off.
The cops interviews witnesses, the bride acknowledges she started the altercation, a couple hours pass, the groom isn't charged.
The wedding goes on as planned, but for a few hours, everyone was scared that the wedding was off.
We all knew who was to blame- The Harpy
The Harpy went on to work in Wash. DC. with a congressman or senator. She's a hot, intelligent, psychopath...she'll do well there.
10.
The bride's brother (having attended the husband's bachelor party) twisted and exaggerated every detail of the bachelor party to make the husband look bad to her parents in an attempt to deflect attention away from his pill addiction.
The jerk even bought his breakfast the morning after the party, ya know, cause he is such a great guy.
Did the supposed bride and groom ever reconcile?
They never split, just called off the wedding. Still together and have two kids.
09.
A family friend had been with this guy for a few years, their relationship sounded absolutely perfect. Attractive guy, good job, caring and understanding and you could tell they were one of those "forever" couples. A week before the wedding he just disappeared. She came home that day and everything of his was gone, it was like he was never there.
Boring story since I have no idea what the story is - but I'm a wedding musician and I was driving to the rehearsal when I got a phone call from the coordinator (I used a hands-free device) saying "Don't come, the wedding's off."
It was weird, and it's why my contract requires a non-refundable 50% deposit now...
08.
Well, I have a story of the worst wedding I was ever a part of.
I was an usher at this wedding, so I helped seat people and everything. They were both getting married against their families wishes. I've ushered weddings before, and I remember seating one of the mothers and she had this scowl and cold attitude. Just one that said, "I really don't want to be here."
Well, ceremony went well enough, they got married, and everyone went to the reception. That's when all hell broke loose. The families got into an argument, there may have been an actual fight, the bride sided with her mother, and the marriage was off. They decided to separate about 2 hours after getting married.
The worst of it, though, comes a few days later. We saw the groom in the paper. Apparently, he tried to hire a hitman to kill his wife's parents. The hitman was an undercover cop, and he got arrested. So bizarre.
07.
Didn't actually witness it but got to hear the story and wanted to share even though I'm late to the party.
I got married in a Catholic church and during the rehearsal we met with the priest who would be doing the ceremony. He went over all the information we needed to know and then told us some ground rules including absolutely no drinking the day of the wedding.
He proceeded to tell us about a couple from a year or two ago that were getting married at the church. You are allowed to use changing rooms they have there, he went to check on the groom and groomsmen who were using the back room to get ready and as he walked in they were taking shots from a bottle left over from the party the night before.
He called the parents into his office and informed them there would be no wedding due to the alcohol. The parents flipped out, the bride apparently totally lost it and went off on him calling him a habitual drunk and stuff and their entire relationship ended.
06.
Not a bachelor party, but I was in the stages of planning one.
My best friend was getting married, he was my best man, and I was about to be his, so I was really excited.
One day, I'm on the road, and he calls me upset out of his mind telling me that the wedding was off. Him and his fiance had a huge fight and broke up while at the airport, and she threw the ring at him.
I'm like, "uh oh, what about?"
Apparently the wedding that his wife and her mother were planning was becoming larger and larger and more out of control as they were going through the planning stages. He had made a comment about not spending too much because of the wedding, and it had spiraled into a huge argument about money.
She accused him of not being forthright with his finances. Not like, he had a secret bank account or he was outright lying about what he made in a year or something like that. Nope, just that she was under the impression that he had more money to pay for this insanely huge wedding than he had.
I was like, that sounds like a really ridiculous reason to break up - as a couple preparing for marriage, you'll cross all sorts of financial hurdles, so being able to agree on a wedding budget is a drop in the bucket.
I called her because I thought there was maybe something else to it. I mean, I figured I could have this open dialogue with her, it wasn't like she was a stranger, she was dating my best friend, and of course, we all hung out together, went camping, etc.
Nope, she confirmed, that was it, and for whatever reason, she just couldn't get her head around it.
He tried all sorts of stuff to reason with her and compromise - including offering that they have a joint bank account so she could always see exactly how much he had. No dice.
What followed was a period of her acting incredibly childish in that strange period of exchanging stuff, including asking for several gifts back that she had given him.
Occasionally she still reaches out to my wife, who just ignores her (they both are nurses at the same hospital). We know who our family is.
I feel bad for my friend. He'll come over to hang out with me and my wife, and he's awesome with my kids, and I know he still thinks about it - he says things like, "I would have been married for this long and probably would have a kid" etc. I know he really wants a family and wants to meet the right woman.
05.
I was working as a bouncer one time and the bride and groom decided it would be a good idea to throw their bachelor/bachelorette parties on the same night in the same town. I guess they must have been from out of town. Anyways it's the night before the wedding. Which is not a good night to get falling down drunk. Both parties wind up at my bar at the same time. Groom catches the bride doing body shots off a dude and kissing him, so he gets jealous and grabs the bride. They get into it and he gets rough with her.
So I grabbed the dude to drag him out, and he and his friends decided it would be extra fun to try and fight a bunch of pissed off sober bouncers. We beat the hell out of him and his friends while some of the other staff kept the girls held back. Cops showed up and he got hauled off, none of us wanted to press charges. I'm 99.99% positive the wedding didn't go through
04.
They broke up. A few years passed. They got back together and then got married later on. Sometimes stuff happens and people need extra time to figure out what they want and how they want it. No hard feelings, they have a beautiful life now.
03.
We don't know...we still don't know. Just got a call saying the wedding had been cancelled, no details. Of course this opened the floodgates of speculation, no one seemed comfortable talking about it, I wasn't close enough with the bride or groom to inquire. Definitely odd, but probably better than going through with a wedding you don't want to have.
02.
Here is a more upbeat story: the night before their city hall wedding, the bride and groom had separate big parties and got so wasted they both slept through the wedding. They didn't realize it until city hall called asking where they were, and they decided "Hell, we'll do it later."
They did eventually get married, and still are as far as I know, over 20 years later.
01.
My cousin runs a popular upscale marriage venue and always tells the story way better than this so here is a rough overview. The groom's mom was a heavy drinker and got belligerent when she drank so understandably the bride wanted the groom to try to limit her drinking. The afternoon before the wedding the bride arrives to see groom's mom smashed with the groom himself giving her beers. Next thing my cousin knows (she was there to oversee preparations) the bride and groom are in a straight up fist fight which leads to an Anchorman-style street fight between members of both families in the parking lot.
Apparently they recently scheduled a new day for it. I can't imagine the tension there.
Everybody needs a job.
But some colleagues can be an issue.
And some careers and jobs bring about those that have work ethic issues.
So what do we do?
We make it work, of course.
We pray and hope everyone will do their best.
Redditor Glaurung1536 wanted to discuss the people we all work with, so they asked:
"Which profession attracts the worst kinds of people?"
Some jobs are the worst. So maybe it's not always the people.
Bad Influence
"Ok so not really a profession but… there is a certain subset of musicians who are also wannabe influencers… particular people who are very on twitter. so back-stabby and clout hungry."
curoku
The Worst
"I’m a casino dealer. People losing money brings out the worst qualities in them. Especially when I deal high limit games. Plus the pit boss/supervisors won’t throw a person out who is literally spending thousands. Doesn’t matter what they do or say. The casino doesn’t want to lose those kinds of patrons."
"They’re catered to. They can be so awful to the dealers. The job has made me look at humanity in a completely different light lol."
"Pro relationship tip: Bring a date to the casino and see how they treat the dealer if they’re losing. You’ll see what kind of person they really are. I have about 10 years of experience in the industry."
kaioina
Crazy Eyes
"Stockbrokers. I have some friends who are stockbrokers. I love them, but man, they are some bullsh*t artists. And not like, 'Oh, they're a good salesman, and could sell you anything,' No, it's like they make sh*t up as they go along and try to sound confident in what they say."
LawnGuyLand94
"I have met a couple people who were successful, lifelong stockbrokers. To be a successful, lifelong stockbroker, you actually have to like what you do. They all had crazy eyes. Each and every one."
RoofClinger
Drive On
"Tow truck drivers. At least 80% of all the tow truck drivers I've met have been felons, and about 98% have been shady d**kheads."
Blue8Delta
Tow truck drivers are definitely gruff.
Bounced
"Bouncers. I swear those people are always looking to create trouble so they can exercise their right to kick a**."
hatredwithpassion
"Former bouncer in my youth, and I can 100% confirm that most of the drama we were in was caused by the two biggest guys that just wanted to f**k with people and brag about it while we were having our after-shift drinks."
nifaryus
Lifeless Humans
"Paparazzi."
SuvenPan
"Absolutely lifeless humans. Audio-visual bottom feeders with a camera, searching for scraps and the next payment. Not only does their profession provide something that is arguably valueless, but the means to produce it is abominable. Predatory mannequins that need removal."
ByTheCreed
Sell. Sell. Sell.
"Pyramid scheme. Property agents."
polymathicus
"I have had a few friends that have become realtors later in life. The ones that stayed with it, it totally changed who they are. After a few years they are hardly recognizable as the same people. Vein, shallow, and 100% of the time they are in character and trying to sell."
StrayMoggie
Big Impacts
"I thought I wanted to be an architect… but then I met a bunch of architects. And architecture students. And architecture professors. And they were pretty much all A-holes. It was weird. I mean… how could it be so consistent? But there ya have it."
oferchrissake
"I used to teach in a program that often fed students into the world of architecture."
"Every semester I would orchestrate one charette where I would bring in architects to critique student work. No matter how much coaching I did (to both visiting architects and students) students would feel crushed by the feedback. There were almost always tears."
"I often hear back from students that it was the most impactful part of our work together."
Str8intothestorm
Hands Up
"Law enforcement - double-edged sword, because it attracts the best and the worst."
"The best in people who want to help, protect, and do good. The WORST in people who want to exact authority over people. Power-hungry a**holes who are insecure and have short fuses and low tolerance for defiance. If you can't handle someone defying you without losing your sh*t, you shouldn't be a cop."
bluepillblues69
So many jobs full of questionable people.
Did we miss any? Let us know in the comments.
We can't all know and be experts in everything, but there are some things that are vital for us to know, like the basics of keeping a clean home and cooking simple, healthy meals.
But a lot of us were raised in households that taught us a lot of those vital basics, leaving us to have to figure them out on our own.
Redditor Wehause asked:
"People who love to cook, what tips and tricks do you have for beginners?"
Key Rules in the Kitchen
"Prepare everything before you start cooking. Cooking can be so stressful if you ignore this step."
"Clean as you cook. Waiting 20 minutes for that soup to simmer? Take that moment to clean."
"You don't always have to every the recipe down to a tee. Sometimes improvisations can work just fine."
"Food tastes a bit bland? Add more salt. Does the food taste like it just needs something? Add an acid (vinegar, lemon juice, tomatoes, etc)."
"Taste. Your. Food. Don't be like me, the id**t who used precise measuring spoons for his first two years in the kitchen. Add a little bit of salt/spice. Taste it. If it's a bit under-seasoned, add some more. Doing this is how you build up intuition in the kitchen, and it's how you learn how to season things intuitively."
- Distinct_Water_5075
Clean as You Cook
"To kinda go along with the 'Clean as you cook', keep your work area clean, too."
"Set aside something that is your designated trash collector on your counter, so as you're chopping or whatever, all the onion papers, garlic skins, and carrot ends have a place to go."
"I like using paper plates or the meat tray so once I'm done, I can just pick up the whole thing and throw it all away at once."
- iluvhalo
Prep Ahead of Time
"Prepare everything before you start cooking. Cooking can be so stressful if you ignore this step."
"AKA 'Mise en place,' or for us casuals, 'get your s**t together.' Truly makes everything go much smoother."
"My MIL (Mother-in-Law) is continually horrified at using 'so many bowls and cups.' Dang lady, I’m running the dishwasher anyway, so why does it matter? Even if hand washing a prep bowl is like a ten-second cleanup."
- AtlEngr
Go with Medium Heat
"The only time I ever go higher than exact medium heat (aside from boiling something) is to do a quick sear. Always medium or lower."
- ConsiderationWise205
Seriously, Medium Heat!
"I can’t even say this loud enough or repeat it enough. Medium heat!"
"In college I had a friend ask how I made grilled cheese both melty and without burning. He was just putting it on high and sticking the sandwich on the pan."
- luvitis
Intuitive Spicing
"Taste everything as you cook and do it often. All cooks should be doing that but if you are a new cook it's even more important. Not tasting as you cook is like covering your eyes as you paint or plugging your ears as you play music."
- bajesus
Learn from the Recipe
"What you want to do is cook a recipe as is exactly the first time you make it. Otherwise, you really can't properly evaluate it. Halving the sugar since you want less can drastically impact the target flavor. So make it according to the directions once and then rate it."
"You'll end up with a library of actual good recipes (seems rare in this click-views blogging age, unfortunately). Then you can adjust the next time you remake it if you think it should be altered. Or since you now know what it should taste like, measure by feel until you perfect making it again and again without measuring."
"Now you're a chef and creative modifications will soon follow. But doing it properly first will teach you more than just winging everything."
- 7ht4tguy
Take a Note from 'Pirates of the Caribbean'
"If you're cooking recipes are more like guidelines than rules. If you're baking, a recipe is a doctrine."
- NGC_1277
Know the Basics and Go Wild
"If you understand the basics of baking, you can go wild. But it's the 'understand the basics' part that stumps people."
"People hear that baking soda can't be substituted for baking powder (which is true) and then they're terrified to alter a baking recipe."
"There's a book called 'Cooking for Geeks' that's a good read. It gets into the chemistry of acid-base rises, the Maillard reaction, and other underlying principles."
"The trick is to understand what's going on, to learn the savvy to grab vinegar so beaten eggs hold their shape when you don't have the cream of tartar."
- doublestitch
That Steak, Tho.
"Clean up as you cook. If you’re not using a utensil or strainer or whatever you use anymore, clean it while you wait. I’ve kind of made it a game to see how efficient I can be while cooking. It’s kind of fun."
"If you want to make a steak delicious baste it in minced garlic and butter. Then after you’re done basting it, drop your veggies or whatever side in the pan, and shake it around. I’ll do this if I’m trying to wow someone with a good meal. Not the healthiest but is the tastiest."
- Ac997
Start Simple and Grow
"Choose simple recipes, follow each step, and consider why they might be important."
"Give it time, don’t try to rush things through, most food takes time to let the flavors combine."
"Look at cooking videos or read cookbooks, even if you have no intention of making that specific recipe it might give useful information you could have used in other recipes."
"I can recommend looking into authentic Italian cuisine, often simple recipes with few ingredients but the techniques to each step can be crucial to the finished product."
- Daddebuff
Know the Textures
"Not something that will apply to everyone's style of learning, but when I was learning to bake and cook I did a lot of things by hand the first few times and then used a mixer or other tools later. For me, it helped to understand the different possible feelings and textures."
"I knew what to look for when I introduced more appliances and tools because I knew how it felt and how it needed to look from doing it more slowly first (dough is the best example, but there were many other things too)."
- goanaog
Be Careful with the Cookware
"I learned that lesson in my early 20s. You don't have to spend 100s of dollars on good cookware but 50 to 90 dollar set works well."
- geri73
A Hot Pan is Your Friend
"Make sure you let the pan heat up before putting food in it."
- JustDave62
A Necessary Companion
"Get a knife sharpener. I paid like $12 for mine, on clearance, and the difference after sharpening is night and day."
- 314159265358979326
None of these tips are particularly complicated or groundbreaking on their own for someone who frequents the kitchen, but each of these will make a new cook's experience that much sweeter and more savory.
Did we miss any pearls of wisdom? Let us know in the comments below.
We're human, and we can acknowledge that we all make mistakes.
But there's a limit to how much grace any person can be shown for their slip-ups.
In fact, there are some mistakes that a person could make in a single day that could ruin the rest of their lives.
Redditor TunaSaladWithBeans asked:
"How did somebody you know ruin their life in one day?"
Second Chances Included
"Not a barn burner but still pretty bad considering the 'adult' involved. TLDR (Too Long; Didn't Read): So-called adult failed to adult after numerous warnings and went off a metaphorical cliff."
"The clown was a senior married reserve Naval officer who also had a job at a nuclear power facility that required a Top Secret Clearance. He got deployed as a reservist to do classified work in Europe. Nothing James Bond but still not something the US wanted people to know about. It was plenty cushy too: living in a luxury hotel with lots of paid time off base to check out the sights."
"But the clown decided to hook up with a German woman and have an affair. The military doesn't care about that so long as you're above board with them about it so you can't be blackmailed. They don't even tell the spouse. This is spelled out once you get a security clearance."
"He didn't tell the military; they found out another way. But the unit went easy on him. His commander told him either tell his wife or stop seeing this German woman. If he did that, there'd be no consequences; if he didn't, there'd be h**l to pay."
"This warning was repeated to this clown on multiple occasions. The clown said he'd stop. Then he went off to Germany on vacation to, you guessed it, hook up this German woman."
"The commander took it personally that the clown ignored his warnings, disobeyed orders, and lied to him. Go figure. The commander fired him from the cushy job and revoked his security clearance, which ruined the clown's reserve military career."
"Because he needed a security clearance at his civilian job, he lost that too. And of course, his wife found out and divorced him."
"I suppose the clown recovered from this and is doing OK. But I imagine it's just as possible he's living in a van down by the river."
- Eric_da_MAJ
A Life-Changing Drive
"A dude I met was 18 and had been drinking. He was driving down a rural road when he lost control of his car, and flipped it. "He killed his passenger, who was his best friend."
"He was charged with a felony DUI and manslaughter. He was really messed up by this and knowing that he killed his friend haunted him."
"He was also an avid hunter and had to give that up because he was banned from owning firearms as a felon."
"He was in his thirties when I met him and he was pretty messed up."
- teaching-man
Over Before It Began
"Had a friend in college. We were both training to be Pilots. His dad owned an insurance company and gave him the company's credit card to pay for all his flight hours with."
"He got about two years in when he finished his first license. ($30k-50k) Got a DUI halfway through his second license."
"Pilot career down the drain. On top of that, his father's company will be paying for it."
- taylorman8181
Keep Checking In with Friends
"A childhood friend who relapsed from drug addiction. He ingested fentanyl and died all alone in a filthy basement."
"He had been looking healthier, we reconnected, and he was planning his life going forward sober. That hurt a lot, that hope being taken away in a few minutes."
"F**k opiates, fentanyl, and those who deal it. Too many lives are lost every day."
- TheBklynGuy
Hot Off the Press
"My boss had his dream job as a sports editor of the local paper, a nice family, and a young daughter. He called one day to say he wasn’t coming to work."
"Turns out he was busted trying to meet up with a girl he met online for sex, and the girl was actually a cop."
- esmerelda_b
Celebratory Loss
"My friend's wife was diagnosed with cancer. The doctors said she had about a 10% chance of surviving."
"She scheduled her surgery for a month out, and without telling him, took out several credit cards in just her name. She ranked up $100,000 in debt in that month flying around the world and doing everything on her bucket list."
"She had the surgery and chemo after and... lived. She was fine. That debt completely f**ked up their lives for about 10 years."
"The husband, my friend, knew she was traveling. He saw the roughly $10,000 added to their joint credit card. He did not know she had taken out credit and was hiding an additional $90,000 in debt."
"And his wife honestly thought she would die, and then the credit cards would close the accounts and the family would owe nothing. Which is not exactly how it works. So luckily that did not happen."
"It f**ked up a lot of things. He lost his DoD security clearance because of it (people with a lot of debt, can be bought). And he took a less-paying job as a federal contractor, where I met him. But he honestly does not regret it, and is happy to have his wife and kids all alive."
- Bug1oss
Serious Matters
"I knew a guy my freshman year of college. Easily the most socially awkward person I've ever met. Not necessarily a bad guy but a really weird one."
"He was expelled for making a bomb threat. No idea what happened to him after that but I can't imagine anything good."
- cfbethel
Mob Mentality
"Brother of a friend went out drinking with some scumbag 'friends' people had warned him to stay away from. Late into the night, there was an argument with one of them. My friend's brother ended up being part of a group that beat this poor guy to death. He won’t see the outside of a prison for a good 20 years now."
- MargotChanning
Tragically Anticlimactic
"Guy I went to high school with was diagnosed with testicular cancer when we were about 25. For months, maybe years, I would see updated posts about the progress he was making with treatment."
"Then one day he posted on Facebook that he was cancer free. The next day he was dead."
"To celebrate, he'd gone out that night and got absolutely wasted and fell down a flight of concrete steps outside his flat in the early hours of the morning. By the time he was found in the morning, he was gone."
- vicki5150
Just Heartbreaking
"A friend of my parents was a good family man who loved his family. One day he was playing with his toddler and was playfully tossing her on the bed. She would get back up giggling and he would toss her again."
"In one of the tosses, he threw her a bit too far and she hit a bedpost. She lived but became bedbound, unable to even talk."
"He went to jail for child abuse. He lost his wife, his job, and his little girl would never be the same."
- IIVIIORTAL_K
Losing Roulette
"An old coworker went to Vegas, felt really good about his odds due to the liquor, and ended up betting his entire life savings on roulette and lost. He ended up losing his house, his wife, and kids, and from what I've seen he lives in a tiny apartment and works a min wage job."
- Dire-Dog
New Work-From-Home Fear Unlocked
"He ate dinner alone, choked, and died."
- waterloograd
Holy Debt, Batman
"Some kid in our senior year of high school pulled the fire alarm every day. He was getting away with it for a while."
"The school had town officials and the chief of the fire department and the police come in and talk about the dangers."
"The town would send trucks and be without them if there was another emergency. None of that worked."
"When they offered a reward the kid’s friends ratted him out. His family had to pay for all those calls, he was expelled from school and didn’t graduate."
- JediMasterPopCulture
Prescriptions Needed
"A week ago, my little sister slipped on the ice getting out of her car and hit her head. She didn’t think much of it when she had a pounding headache later, figuring she just whacked herself good."
"Her friend told her to just sit down and take it easy until she started slurring her words roughly 10 hours after the fall."
"They called an ambulance for her, but she was going into cardiac arrest. Turns out she’d stopped taking her blood thinners she was supposed to be on for clotting issues. The headache wasn’t the fall, it was the clot in her leg cutting off blood to the brain."
"At the age of 26, she never recovered and leaves behind a four-year-old and two-year-old."
- KearneyZzzyzwicz
Hero Status
"A day horribly altered my life. I was a teacher and coach. For a field trip, the principal 'could not afford two busses,' so I had to walk about ten girls to the field trip location, and back to school, while the one bus was filled with the rest of the junior high students and faculty."
"It would be about a mile each way. I chose the girls of my team because they would listen to me outdoors, unlike lots of middle school kids."
"While crossing the street in the crosswalk, with the walk signal in our favor. All the kids went first, and like girls, they were clumped together and chatting while walking."
"I noticed a woman made a left turn into our crosswalk and never saw us as she tried to accelerate to beat an oncoming car. I knew she was going to run right through the girls."
"I pushed the kids forward, very forcefully. Most of the girls fell onto the pavement in front of other vehicles waiting at their red light. (They were badly scraped up, like road rash from me pushing them. But no hospitals or doctors were needed for their scrapes.)"
"I don't remember the impact. I remember seeing a Pontiac symbol between the headlights. I came to, and I was in a whole different lane, facing where I had just come from. I could not get up. They say my body went up the car, and off the driver's side, tearing the side mirror off the car and breaking her windshield."
"Horror and sobbing from my student-athletes. The girls raised me onto a backboard when the ambulance came, which must have been traumatic."
"Now, 20 years later, I am still an ambulatory wheelchair user. I can't teach or coach. I can't work at a desk. I have chronic pain. Yes, my life can be really sucky, but I would not change what I did that day."
"When I get low emotionally from all my limitations, I remember those girls. I watched them go to college, get married, grow into mothers, and hold impressive jobs in their fields. And when they show a photo on Facebook of their happy moment, it recharges me to know they are safe, healthy, and happy. And it reaffirms my decision to save them from harm."
- CannaBeeKatie
Most of the subReddit shared stories of drug and alcohol use or negligent driving. But some of the stories were far more tragic than gross, and there were even some heartwarming stories thrown in.
But the conversation is an important reminder to be mindful of our actions since they truly could change our lives in a moment.
What separates a human being from a monster?
It's an age-old question about humanity. How is a species that is born out of love and blessed with the ability for critical thinking and making others happy capable of committing unspeakable acts of horror?
The scary thing is anyone is capable of the worst kind of crime–taking another's life.
Does it take one unfortunate moment in a fit of rage or cross paths with the wrong individual resulting in a person snapping and killing someone?
Or, are some of us born with the murder gene?
To answer these questions, Redditor akd432 dug deep into the dark side of humanity and asked:
"People who know murderers, were there any signs that something was off? If so, what were they?"
It could be anyone.
It Started With The Barking Dog
"One of my former co workers decided to shoot a house all because a dog was barking in the back yard of a different house, went on a shooting spree killing the entire family except for the infant that was on the second floor."
"Only thing that was off was his drinking problem."
– Car_loapher
The Friend's Brother
"I’ve met several after the fact, but this is about one I met weeks before the murder."
"My then-husband and I were hanging out and met up with a friend of his and the friend’s girlfriend. The friend gets a call from his brother and invites him join us. The brother arrives, and pretty soon afterwards, the whole vibe changed."
"My ex knew both men since all three were kids, so he was relaxed enough to start drinking around them. I was babysitting a wine cooler because I’m the next thing to a teetotaler and was the designated driver. I kept noticing the brother staring at me, but tried to ignore it, but it quickly became very uncomfortable. I’m nothing special to look at facially, I got the mom-bod on lock, and I was with my husband."
"The brother then asks me why I’m not drinking. I explained that I’m not a real drinker and added that I like to be aware of who and what’s around me. So he asked my husband why I wasn’t drinking. I don’t remember his response, but dude looks at me and says 'we need to get you drunk.'”
"I left to go sit in the car, because wtf was that. I didn’t feel safe or protected because my ex wasn’t even paying attention. About 20 minutes later, dude walks up to my car and asks if I can take him to the corner store. I reminded him that he had a car and he replied that he couldn’t drive because he’d been drinking. I told him I wouldn’t take him, which led to us staring at each other in silence for several moments. He broke the silence by saying 'I bet you’re real loyal. A loyal girl. A good girl. I know that motherf'ker get anything he want from you.' Then he laughed and walked away."
"When I told my ex the next day, he wasn’t bothered and was making excuses for the friend’s brother’s behavior. A few weeks later, there was a report on the news about the body of a woman being found in my exe’s old neighborhood. Find out later she’s been murdered. It didn’t take long to find and arrest her killer, aka the friend’s brother."
– miKezOGnoze
Some kids show signs of being unstable but are easily dismissed as nothing serious until it was too late.
Don't F'k With Squirrels
"I’ve posted about it before but a kid down the street talked about killing squirrels for fun. He was 7ish years old."
"He moved away and we forgot about him."
"20 years later we saw him in the news for brutally killing his parents."
– SchleppyJ4
Led By Vengeance
"I knew Christopher Bennett as a child. Honestly I thought he was a bit of a jerk, then again most little boys are mean to little girls. Especially little girls who are 3 years younger than them and seem to think they can do whatever the boys are doing. Last time I saw him, we had grown up a little, I was 11, he was about 14, he wasn't as mean as I had remembered him. Did I see it coming, no, most people didn't. I mean he was getting into trouble a lot but murder, never thought he had it in him. Then again he was right to kill the bastard he did and I think a lot of other people would become murders if they saw what he did."
– CylonsInAPolicebox
Trophy Collector
"I spent a lot of time at a friend's house when I was 6-9 years old. He had a brother who was like 3 years older than us, who I remember as being generally nice, but I have one weird memory of him absolutely losing his sh*t when he tried to teach me and his brother to roller blade and I couldn't get it--like throwing things and weeping uncontrollably. When I was in high school, found out that he had joined the military, and while he was deployed he got court martialed for killing civilians and keeping body parts (fingers, ears) as trophies."
– StarFanthirteen
Family members share their horrific experiences of being related to a murderer.
The Jealous Sister
"Knew a girl as a freshman in college who was mean, obviously mentally unstable, and not too bright. When her fraternal twin sister fell in love with a good friend of mine, she became enraged with jealousy and could not let it go. Her sister begged her to get help and there was a huge blowout in a hallway on campus where my friend had to intervene to prevent his girlfriend from getting stabbed by her sister. The police were called to campus and she spent a week in jail before her sister decided to not press charges. Her remaining friends dropped out of her life because of her actions and unwillingness to get help. She got kicked out of college shortly after threatening the guidance counselor who was giving her one last chance and moved back in with her parents. When her sister went home for Christmas with my friend to introduce him to her parents, I told him to watch his back. They hadn’t even made it all the way into the house before they were attacked and repeatedly stabbed. My friend died on the porch and she died at the hospital the next day. The murderous sister was beaten to death in a jail fight a few days later.
"I met their older brother, who I didn’t even know existed, at the funeral for the good sister. He said he had gone no contact with the family years before for his own protection because his parents refused to do anything about the mental health problems that his little sister always had, even as a small child."
– howarewestillhere
The Off Uncle
"One of my uncles murdered his wife. He was out of jail by the time I was a kid. Yes, there was always something off about him. My mother told me he was always violent and had a sadistic streak - he liked to make people afraid. He mellowed out as he got older but he was always a user and always looking to take advantage where he could. I’m pretty sure he was a sociopath. My mother had a lot of siblings and he was the only one like this."
– mrsshmenkmen
You think you know someone.
No Murder Vibes
"For 4 years I worked 4 desks away from someone who was arrested and convicted of a 32 year old cold case murder. Dude was an a**hole but didn't give off murder vibes. The general reaction was 'huh, I hope his replacement is less of a d*ick."
– Hobbs172
She Suddenly Snapped
"I knew someone who killed her mother."
"No, absolutely no warning at all. No hints to look back on and say we should have seen it coming."
"She was a perfectly average suburban wife and mother who woke up one day and snapped. And ended up being featured on Snapped."
"She’s currently serving out a 40 year term."
– 5footfilly ·
People joke about individuals going postal when pushed to their limits, but that's all it takes for someone to abandon all sense of logic and go on a killing spree.
But there are also those who have mental issues and are cast off from society and can be triggered to act on any suppressed violent impulses as a possible reaction to being neglected and unloved.
Either way, it's hard to pinpoint exactly what drives anyone to murder.
And the scary thing is, you never really know who a coworker really is when they're off the clock, a neighbor who never leaves their house, or even a family member who has a history of being the polite one.