Angry People Share The Annoying Ways People Always Win Arguments
Why can't we all just get along? Or at the very least can we have some civil discourse -- not a round of "anything you can do I can do better" through words. Congratulations, you're smart and pretty and so darn great. WE KNOW! And deep down I must admit, I'm actually in awe of those who can manipulate so deftly. It's an art.
Redditor _stereovictrola wanted to know the secrets people use in certain situations by inquiring _What is the most annoying "card" people play to try to "win" an argument with you?
YOU DON'T KNOW EVERYTHING!!
"My __! I know what I'm talking about."
Absolutely not. Co-worker was pissing brown and had severe back pain. Another co-worker was saying it was no big deal and that he was just dehydrated. I was trying to get him to go to the ER. After a day of nagging he did and come to find out he was going into Renal Failure. He had worked out so hard the day before that the proteins breaking down in his muscles were clogging his kidneys and killing him.
Told her to keep her mouth shut unless she knows what she's talking about."Well, my brother's an army medic..."
JUST PUT YOUR HANDS UP!
Reminds me of a kid I worked with who was studying criminal justice in college. Heard him say to his other friend (while talking about smoking weed in the car) "Dude if we ever get pulled over, I got you, I'm studying criminal justice so I know my stuff."
As if an ACTUAL COP is gonna be like "oh boys we got a criminal justice student over here he's exposing us!!! we're not allowed to do anything!"
I. SEE. YOU!
Just completely denying what they were very obviously doing just a second ago.
I went to a festival and there was a dog that was running around in a party tent. The dog belonged to the owners and was very friendly. The dog had a VIP tag around his neck and some dude tried "discretely" taking it off by petting the dog and trying to work the VIP tag off his neck. I saw him and told him to cut it out and he denied he was doing it. I just saw you! Are you a 5 year old that was caught with a cookie in your hand and crumbs on your face?!
I LOVE GRITS! SO THERE!
A guy I knew would say, "Yeah, well ... you don't know grits from granola!"
Then he'd walk away with a smile of self-satisfaction, completely dismissing all that had been discussed.
PLEASE SPEAK UP!
Talking louder makes you right.
PHONES DOWN.
Finding the exception that proves the rule.
You say something like "iPhones are made in China" and they scour the internet for some source that one particular model was made in Taiwan or something, as if that somehow invalidates your entire argument.
COME PREPARED.
Saying you should "do your research" as if it's a winning argument when they obviously don't have a clue what they're talking about.
OH GRANDMA...
My grandma on facebook...
"According to the internet..."
As if it was some singular monolithic entity...
NOD, SMILE, WALK AWAY.
"You always want to be right. "
"Sure honey, you're definitely 100% right like always"
BYE FELICIA.
I don't know what the term would be. When you finish a statement, they turn and laugh lightly, and say whatever. I know that means I win, but it god damn sure doesn't feel like it.
LIGHTS ON.
If I complain about a minor thing like someone leaving the lights on, they tend to go _"well at least I'm not getting upset over LIGHTS, there are bigger things to worry about" _like yes true but can you turn the lights off and stop acting like you are superior because apparently don't complain about minor things ever in your life??
YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT "YOU'RE" SAYING!
I grew up with a hardcore narcissist for a parent. I've seen enough "cards" pulled to fill a deck. Someone already mentioned the showing emotions invalidating the entire argument thing, so I'll toss out another equally as hated tactic.
"You did not use a direct quote of something I said---you said that I said 'You are the worst' but I said 'you're' not 'you are'---therefore you are incapable of remembering facts properly. This makes you both incorrect, biased, and a liar, so I will no longer have this argument with you."
I am almost too enraged to write that out. One small mistake does not invalidate what I am saying or feeling. This is made even worse when the person you are arguing with is allowed to be wrong, but, unless you're absolutely flawless in everything that you do, you have no _"right" _to argue.
GOOD FOR YOU DEAR.
My boss love bringing up he went to college whenever we propose a solution to a problem that directly effects our way of work. We laid out a step by step plan to avoid work place accidents and he brought up a paper he did in college on the subject where he concluded that its not safer. We had been doing it for months before bringing it to him for approval and got other supervisors to agree it was a good plan. This happens whenever "hourly" workers suggest something....
#NEVER FORGET!
As soon as they realize they won't win an argument they bring up something I did wrong in the past that has nothing to do with what's being discussed. At that point it's not about winning the argument at hand, it's about just winning something because they can't handle being wrong. That annoys me.
WHAT'S YOUR IQ?
The straw man. Basically they grossly misinterpret your point, transform it into a weaker point, and proceed to defeat the weaker point while claiming they defeated the original point. It's complete intellectual cowardice.
FOCUS PLEASE.
Pot of greed to try to summon two more counter arguments when their other ones have been proven wrong.
WHO DO YOU THINK YOU'RE TALKING TOO?
I don't know what to call it but the "how dare you insinuate I did something wrong despite all the clear evidence showing I did something. I'm a literal angel who cannot do anything wrong so how dare you even suggest I could possibly do anything bad. I'm not the bad guy here. You're the bad guy for even thinking anything wrong of me. I am incapable of doing anything bad and for you to suggest otherwise shows how much of an abusive a**hole you really are." Whatever card you call that. The perfect angel card or something I guess.
TROLLS.
Personal attacks, especially online. People know no limits.
I TRICKED YOU.
Shifting the goalposts to a new argument without acknowledging that's what they're doing.
We can take up a new argument once the first one's been settled.
DON'T BE LIKE THAT.
I had an ex that would immediately go to "WELL i'M SORRY i'M SUCH A F**K UP, AND YOU HATE ME!" Any time I brought up something I was unhappy with in our relationship which made it impossible for me to bring up anything I was unhappy with.
Me "Hey, I'm not happy that I do the cooking every single night."
Her "Well I'm sorry I'm such a stupid idiot who doesn't know how to make anything. I hate myself"
Then I had to console her, and keep cooking every night. Totally unfair.
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Getting disowned by your family can either be absolutely devastating or a massive relief. Either way, usually it's to get rid of toxicity within a family structure, whether on purpose or an unintentional result of the situation.
Here are a few stories about being disowned by family members, from the side of the person who was disowned. Heads up, these might get a little ugly.
<p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/theconquer0r12/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">U/theconquer0r12</a> asked: <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lu0smq/serious_those_of_you_who_have_been_disowned_what/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf" target="_blank">[Serious] Those of you who have been disowned, what was your side of the story?</a><br></p><p><br></p>
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<p>​First up, here are the ones about family members who definitely dodged a bullet. These are stories of people who were honestly probably better off without them anyway.</p>
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Now THAT’S a toxic family.
<p>I don't consider myself disowned, but I have been cut off from seeing my younger siblings. I've pretty much disowned certain family members myself.</p><p>My mother(50) has been abusing her position of EPOA for my Alzheimers addled Grandmother(80) via extortion, and unlike everybody else, I choose to hold her accountable for her actions, because her selfish actions lead to my nana nearly needing her feet amputated from having lack of medical care and attention.</p><p>I told everyone what she was doing and nothing happened. No one wants to prosecute her because apparently legal fees are more important than getting my grandmother justice.</p><p>So, essentially, I was 'disowned' for exposing her extortion.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Mumsacunt/" target="_blank">Mumsac*nt</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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At least there was a happy ending.
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Talk about mommy issues.
<p>My mom decided when I was 13-14 that she didn't want to have kids anymore. Her and my dad divorced. So my dad moved out of the family house and my mom was newly single.</p><p>So she gets my sister out first by asking my sister to go away to stay with our dad for the weekend. When my sister came back, my mom had packed all her items in boxes and said, "find somewhere else to live." Sister was maybe 15. Her reasoning is she didn't like the crowd my sister was running with.</p><p>With me, I stuck around longer. I took more abuse and neglect. My mom didn't cook, or clean, or have food in the house. And despite getting child support, if I asked for shoes, or anything, "ask your father, don't ask me."</p><p>Despite not having food or money, she wouldn't give me the alarm code to the house, or a key. I could only come home if she was home. One day she agreed to drive my friends and I to the movies. Well she and I got into a small argument about something in the morning (I don't remember what) and I left and arrived home in the afternoon. She was home but wouldn't let me in. I was a 13-14 year old kid (before cell phones were that commonplace). Ringing the bell, peering in the windows. She wouldn't let me in. Finally, I found an open window and climbed through and she coldly looked at me and said, "you know, I could have you arrested for breaking into the house if I wanted to."</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>I went to live with my dad shortly thereafter. She moved away to live with a guy she met from the internet. Sponsored him to come into the country with his 12 year old son. By the time I was 16, she was married and moved the guy in, and bought his son new video games, travel allowance, his own apartment when he was a teenager, and wouldn't even buy me shoes.</p><p>Well, she gave this guy access to her bank account and he took all her money. Her entire life savings. All her money in the world. She lost her house and became homeless, my sister took her in at the time.</p><p>My mom eventually got back on her feet a little bit, got a job. I tried to repair the relationship and be nice. Never for long.</p>
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<p>Finally she had some kind of mental breakdown a few years ago when I was in my early 30's. And called my office demanding I help her. Something happened at work where her mental health went sideways and she started behaving very erratically. For some reason when she called my colleague speaking nonsensically and rambling about me, my colleague decided to give her my number (!!) to take it up with me myself. My colleague said she felt bad after.</p><p>So I tried to help my mom, and spent all this time talking to her boss, her union rep, her neighbors, her doctor, trying to help her. And she just kept going crazy and being abusive, not willing to accept my help.</p><p>I washed my hands of her.</p><p>So she disowned me when she got a better family and then I tried to help her but she tried to take me down with her.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/lazarus870/" target="_blank">Lazarus870</a></p>
<p>​Unfortunately, most of these situations come out of something completely traumatic. Here are a few of the most heart-wrenching stories.</p>
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This mother is a monster.
<p>I was told by my mother that my general existence causes more problems than it solves, and I had two weeks to either leave or kill myself. She didn't care which I chose to do, but if I killed myself I needed to make it look like an accident or she couldn't collect on my life insurance. She decided this needed to happen because I'm disabled.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/alchemicals/" target="_blank">Alchemicals</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Screw that mess, indeed.
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<p>I was disowned but probably by my own choice.</p><p>Father died when I was 18. I gave up college to look after him drive him to hospital every other day for tests. He went to hypno sessions I would sit for hours waiting for him. I did it all. My brother was never to be seen he was away living his life. Mother was a heavy drinker. I still lived at home my brother didn't. I was left to put up with drunk abuse from my mum losing her husband of 30yrs.</p><p>I looked the double of my dad so for some reason she took it out on me. Or this is what people told me. Changed locks on me after coming home from work all the time and I was stuck. Claimed I was stealing from her. Telling everyone lies about me it was horrible. Nightly abuse shouting at me accusing me of nonsense while drunk. I tried to help but she didn't want to know. Used to call police on me claiming all sorts. They would turn up see my mum being drunk and me in my room chilling and tell her off.</p><p>Was very toxic. My brother wasn't interested he was 4 years older than me and just didn't care. Never visited me or my mum. I begged for help and he was just a coward.</p>
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<p>One day a friend had a room come up for rent so I packed stuff and just left. She was shocked and surprised. But was the best thing. I used to try keep in touch but just got abuse. Drunken phone calls and threats.</p><p>I was 21 at this point and was expecting a child with my partner so decided I had had enough. I cut all ties.</p><p>Cue my brother realising my mum had lots of money from my dads retirement and life insurance. Becomes my mums best friend. She buys him everything. Effectively making a deal with the devil. And is scared to talk to me incase she finds out.</p><p>Long story short years later turns out my mum had throat cancer he just didn't tell me about until she choked and died suddenly one day. And I get left a voicemail telling me as much. Attended the funeral through gritted teeth.</p>
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<p>And then found out I was nowhere on the will. And my brother got the lot. A substantial amount. And I never heard from him again to this day it's been 5 years since my mum died and he just vanished.</p><p>I was told I could fight it but that wasn't me. I was never about the money unlike my brother.</p><p>And I live hoping he comes knocking one day and needs a kidney so I can tell him to go away kindly.</p><p>Family and money is a horrible situation. And I live daily thinking I did something wrong and I can't put my finger on what it was to be treated this way and it haunts me and has left me with many issues.</p><p>The wrong family member died first my dad was a gentleman and looking back put up with horrible abuse from my mum. I was like my dad and my brother was like my mum.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Boothshaq/" target="_blank">Boothshaq</a></p>
<p>​Sometimes being disowned is over beliefs, or something someone can’t control. Usually these people end up better off at the end, to be honest.</p>
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Very culty.
<p>I was a Jehovah's Witness, and I started asking the wrong questions.</p><p>There is now several hundred people that watched me grow up, the only social circle I was allowed to have, that must pretend I don't exist if they ever see me.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/excusetheblood/" target="_blank">Excusetheblood</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_11" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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WTF to all of this.
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<p>What broke the camels back was I was visiting family and her mother's partner kept on making me uncomfortable. Kept trying to don my child with a certain political hat and took video of her saying political stuff I was not ok with. Kept saying I was uncomfortable but was told "You need to take the stick out of your @ss" or "You need to learn to take a joke." The behavior still continued. Then a big confrontation happened and she denied everything of my childhood. My mother said she can't control her partner, he does what he wants despite us telling her its not ok. She then stated and begged for me to get help. I mentally broke. I'm in therapy now but right now I don't know if I can take it if something like this happens again. I am just thankful for my support system now.</p><p>I'm probably missing some stuff but at this moment i'm thankful for who I have in my life and that I'm alive.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/KittyThinksThings55/" target="_blank">KittyThinksThings55</a></p>
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Good riddance.
<p>My biological father is an abusive alcoholic, but also super Christian? And super redneck conservative. He gave up his rights when I was 4, which my mom always told me was for the best. After I found out I was pregnant, he added me on social media and saw where I had shared some posts with pro-choice views. I guess it bothered him because he blocked me lol</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Emotional-Fruit/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Emotional-Fruit</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_14" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>Overall, getting disowned sucks, but in the long haul, it can be for the best. People leave our lives for a reason, and it's usually because they're really freakin' toxic. So if you're going through this, know that it will get better, and you will grow stronger from it.</p><p>Surround yourself with the people who love you. Family doesn't have to be blood related</p>
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We all have our vulnerable moments we try our best to keep hidden.
They say, "Never let see you sweat," but sometimes that is easier said than done.
<p>Visible anxiety is common during, say, a job interview or a first date. The commonality is the need to win someone over, and there is something endearing about that. </p><p>However, some people would rather hide their uncertainties in negative ways that can be annoying as all heck.<br></p><p><strong>Curious to hear what strangers on the internet had to say, Redditor <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/confuciusly/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">confuciusly</a> asked: </strong><strong></strong><br></p><blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsnlgi/what_screams_im_insecure/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">"What screams 'I'm insecure?'"</a></blockquote> <img alt="" src="https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/img/renderTimingPixel.png">
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Taking Others Down With Them
<p>Perhaps one of the biggest indicators of someone being insecure is the need to make others feel the same by pointing out their flaws. </p><p>Can people who do this sleep at night? </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_36" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Hurtful Tactic
<p>"putting someone down in a group conversation to make themselves seem better."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsnlgi/what_screams_im_insecure/gosustp?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">modernagehippie<br></a></p><p>"In my engineering class last semester I was basically put in a group to give a few solutions to a problem. I made a suggestion and one person in my group was like, 'wow that's a bad idea' and I basically just shut up for the rest of the thing. Then when all the groups presented their solutions, ofc they all had variations of my 'bad idea' and I internally face-palmed so F'ING hard. </p><p>And to clarify, yes the professor thought it was a great solution."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsnlgi/what_screams_im_insecure/gotl1e3?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The_Beast_Meister</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Sharing In Others' Joys
<p>"The inability to be genuinely happy for others."</p><p>"If other people's success or happiness feels threatening or uncomfortable, that is usually due to insecurity. If you're confident, you can separate their life from yours, not compare and focus on your own lane and you can be happy for others for succeeding in theirs. Understanding that your value isn't diminished by the fortune of others."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsnlgi/what_screams_im_insecure/gotktll?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">poozu</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_3" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Bad Gossip
<p>"When somebody can't stop badmouthing others." </p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsnlgi/what_screams_im_insecure/gosl514?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">WhaChuLookingAt</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Pitying The Unfortunate
<p>"Pointing out someone's flaws as a 'joke' or a way to look cool."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsnlgi/what_screams_im_insecure/goss636?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">hej__alle</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_5" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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A Pat On The Back
<p>Some people are not content in just knowing they have done well. </p><p>They need approval from others by listing their accomplishments to elicit a reaction. What they end up getting, however, is one big eye-roll.<br></p>Seeking Validation
<p>"Fishing for compliments. Nothing annoys me more." </p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsnlgi/what_screams_im_insecure/gosjtv0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">JohnWhoHasACat</a></p><p>"When my wife and I moved into our house I got approached by the neighbor across the street. He introduced himself, said he was retired from the military and said he makes a ton of money from disability. I think during our 10 minute or so conversation the topic of money was brought up at least 5 times and it all circled back to how well off he was. And then he started talking sh!t about the neighbor that lives next door to us."</p><p>"I could tell he really wanted people to be impressed and like him." </p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsnlgi/what_screams_im_insecure/got9ehx?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Edge80</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_6" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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I'm So Incredibly Smart
<p>'People never shutting up about their IQ."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsnlgi/what_screams_im_insecure/gosd5rq?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">advicemovingon</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Intellectual Prefix
<p>A parent of a child I teach is in Mensa and she's convinced that means she can teach him better than us. '<em>I'm</em> in Mensa and <em>I</em> think-' is a prefix to everything she says when we try to put anything in place for him. Why should his less than 50% attendance be a problem? His mother's in Mensa! That means he'll learn more at home (never mind that he's 10 and can't count or read)."</p><p>– <strong></strong><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsnlgi/what_screams_im_insecure/got514y?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">MerylSquirrel</a><br></p><div data-conversation-spotlight style="min-height:90px"></div>
A Dose Of Sarcasm
<p>"Yeah, I have a distaste for that too. Fortunately i'm much more acute than a lot of other Homosapiens who just aren't as fortunate as I to develop such a well perceptive disposition. Inconceivable that such incomprehension could draw breath in this world but not surprising that I consider them so simple minded. I mean I am very apt so it's no surprise that they couldn't reach my level knowledge. Yeah honestly i'm even sometimes surprised by my own intelligence and learning ability."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsnlgi/what_screams_im_insecure/gosmbnh?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Pleasantry_</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_8" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Keeping Appearances
<p>There is nothing wrong with expressing gratitude for the good things happening in a person's life – whether it's a good job or a wonderful marriage.</p><p>But there should be a statute of limitations before it gets into bragging territory. <br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_9" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Look At Meee
<p>"Posting 15 times a day about your life on social media. Secure people don't need to seek validation for everything they do."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsnlgi/what_screams_im_insecure/goshwb8?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">DeathSpiral321</a><br></p>Soul Mates
<p>"Constantly having to post how amazing your relationship is."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsnlgi/what_screams_im_insecure/gosg57f?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">TopCod5724</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_10" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Aftermath Of A Breakup
<p>"My sister in law does this, and then boom she broke up with who-ever-the-hell-cares and proceeds to post a bunch of those 'inspirational' quotes about how the most caring, soft hearted people get taken advantage of and then they turn into the coldest, hardest person you know."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsnlgi/what_screams_im_insecure/gosmh1u?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">killerrqueeen</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_11" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Feigning Busyness
<p>"Acting like you're so much busier than everyone else. I have a coworker who pretends to talk on the phone with people, always emails everybody at 10:00 pm to make it look like he's 'working late,' constantly complains about how much is on his plate, etc. He feels the need to constantly be validating his worth to everyone."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsnlgi/what_screams_im_insecure/goscad3?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">dick-nipples</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_12" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>The subReddit went viral because the scenario of people having all the obvious signs of insecurity was relatable. </p><p>They have most likely been vulnerable themselves enough to recognize the telltale signs. </p><p>So how do we avoid engaging with these annoying individuals – especially a friend?<br></p><p>While giving in to ridiculing someone who hides their insecurities with a veneer of immodesty, there might be an opportunity there to open up a conversation and lend a sympathetic ear. </p><p>It's not a one-size-fits-all solution, but sometimes, we all just want to be heard. <br></p>
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Rules, rules, rules... we all need them yes, but some are just plain ridiculous. Of course life would be chaos without order, well more chaotic but let's not micro-manage every little thing. Of course every once and a while an unintentionally good surprise can spring from nonsense. Rule makers should really think long and hard before they implement anything severe. You never know when it's gonna bite you.
Redditor u/TabblespoonFarmer3 wanted to know how we could apply all "the rules" into our own lives by asking... People of Reddit, What stupid rule at your work/school backfired beautifully?<div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_1"></div>
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<p>I love karma. And I love to say <em>"I told you so!" </em>And nothing is sweeter than when that action and that intention meet. Then you get to revel in the crestfallen face of your oppressor. Ok, I'm being dramatic but I've earned a bit of it. The people on this thread no of which I speak. </p>
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Free Time
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwMDg5Ny9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2ODA5OTcxOX0.jfw8x_eqGqfSjc05ZesI5P-YI9oEhOSB0HVzYBF4PwY/img.gif?width=980" id="2cc53" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="b70b5adb3c49f20f40e33de9256120a0" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="320" data-height="240" />Michael Jordan Reaction GIFGiphy<p>My boss started putting "all staff required to start 15 mins earlier than indicated" on the roster. I started keeping track of my unpaid overtime and stung her for 3 paid days off. That's not required anymore. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsdkob/people_of_reddit_what_stupid_rule_at_your/gorkcow?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">muthaclucker</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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The Drive
<p>I was working as a medical assistant at a private practice medical clinic. Our clinic manager wouldn't allow the new receptionist to drive to the bank to deposit cash. Made her walk carrying the money bag so that she couldn't "drive away with the money." Bizarre. I know. That went on for a few weeks. Then the receptionist was mugged and over $1000 in cash was stolen. She was allowed to drive after that. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsdkob/people_of_reddit_what_stupid_rule_at_your/gorftxt?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">IndyMazzy</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_3" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Bad Policies
<p>Back in the early 00s, my high school implemented a policy that you had to wear your ID tag at all times. If you didn't have it on, you were sent home. So many students "lost" their ID tag to go grab food or skip a class. We were the only graduating class to wear them all four years. The policy ended soon after. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsdkob/people_of_reddit_what_stupid_rule_at_your/gorcqon?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">sushinova</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Just Google
<p>Not mine, but an old roommate of mine was a senior developer for a small company. It was an open secret that one of the other senior devs, a guy who had been there since the beginning, would sometimes spend time looking at plastic surgery photos--before/after shots, photos of active procedures, etc. <span></span></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_5" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>He did it enough that people would poke fun at him about it, but he didn't seem embarrassed about it, and it wasn't harming anyone.</p><p>Well, one day a project manager said something to the CEO about this guy's ongoing plastic surgery obsession, and the CEO flipped. He said that, going forward, no one was allowed to use their work computers to access external websites AT ALL.</p>
<p>Anyone who's ever been a developer knows that half the job is googling stuff, so this policy pretty much halted productivity in its tracks. It only lasted a day before the CEO retracted the rule, but let everyone know that their browser history would be monitored going forward. After that, no one really changed their behavior, they just started remotely accessing their home computers to browse instead. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsdkob/people_of_reddit_what_stupid_rule_at_your/gorcwrs?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Salsa__Stark</a></p>
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When at Starbucks
<p>I worked at Starbucks for like 5+ years before and during undergrad and at one point our district manager thought it was a good idea to implement a "just say yes" policy, where we literally weren't allowed to tell the customer no. Lasted for about 3 months and in that three months our unaccounted product and waste went up over 300% because when the POS didn't have a way to punch in a customer request we had to just do it anyways. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>We also got complaints from stores in surrounding districts because they had angry customers who were requesting things that were against local food service code, and told them that we did it for them at our store. I knew exactly how that policy was going to play out and I just laughed every time management was freaking out about the problems it was causing. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsdkob/people_of_reddit_what_stupid_rule_at_your/gorbkrp?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">yunglilbigslimhomie</a></p>
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<p>I once had a boss who was a punctuality obsessed sadist. They insisted... INSISTED we always be five minutes early. Otherwise, you're late and that's a strike on your records. And strikes add up to consequences... blah, blah, blah. The staff always made sure to clock in for those five minutes. I'll be here but my time isn't free. After a while all those five minutes added up. And guess who got a strike from corporate because of a bloated payroll? I'll just sit here and sip my tea while you guess. ;) </p>
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Extra Laps
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwMDk4OC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYyNDc2MjM3M30.UOoTP4s5njT6fwQpN7YVXhKHJWo2uD_KtN8SXJBfFWw/img.gif?width=980" id="d619f" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="5801e69bb7989f0ec00f31b7af769440" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="480" />animation swimming GIF by Percolate GalacticGiphy<p>The bottom floor of my secondary school was a square that had corridor all the way around. After some incident where a kid got knocked over, they implemented a one-way system. Unfortunately, they were Very Strict on enforcing it. If you accidentally walked past your class, you couldn't just turn around. They seemed very proud of their new rule... until everyone started showing up late for class because they had to do extra laps of the bottom floor. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsdkob/people_of_reddit_what_stupid_rule_at_your/gor97o1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">FrosnPls</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_9" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Missed Calls
<p>I worked on this company that had mandatory 1 hour lunch breaks. Since we ate on the premises, our lunch break was often 15 minutes or so. We tried negotiating having shorter lunch breaks so we could leave earlier and beat traffic. Next day an e-mail was sent from the own stating the fixed work and break hours for the whole team, and they were to be followed no exceptions.</p><p>Cool! Next week, a big client called about half way through our lunch, and nobody moved. It rang and rang until said owner took the call, talked to them, and immediately came to scold us. "Sorry, boss, as per your rules, we are off until 1PM, no exceptions."</p>
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<p>A couple of weeks later, we did some work on site for the same client. They were, to be honest, one of the coolest clients I ever had in my life. They took us out to lunch, and while talking we ended up relaying the owner's rule. They had a big chuckle over it, and while the project lasted, they made a point to always call while we were at lunch break just to annoy owner. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsdkob/people_of_reddit_what_stupid_rule_at_your/gornazf?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">LGMHorus</a></p>
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Making Contact
<p>A place I used to work had a rule that executive-level staff needed to be contactable when on leave, so they had a section on the leave form for the address of where you'd be staying and a contact number.</p><p>Some knuckle-shuffler in HR decided it applied to all staff and the shenanigans began. People would put down the address and phone number of sex shops, sports grounds, medical clinics. I gave the latitude and longitude of the place I was going camping and the UHF channel my radio would be tuned to. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsdkob/people_of_reddit_what_stupid_rule_at_your/gorbaea?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Flight_19_Navigator</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_12" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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In a Mini...
<p>Late 80's high school- rule was no shorts. Classmate came for an exam with basketball shorts on that were below her knees. Teacher made her go home to change. She came back in a micro mini skirt and wrote her exam. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsdkob/people_of_reddit_what_stupid_rule_at_your/gorb4gr?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Spellflinger2019</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_13" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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The Good Gang
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwMDk4NS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzNDM2NTY3NX0.62DhHcplX3z9K2UTQmTu90xAA2FoUz0OEULzJrRRnAo/img.gif?width=980" id="22ea8" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="da40850f9943bedaa78f06a42bc404da" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="336" data-height="237" />one piece pink GIFGiphy<p>A long while back, but my school banned the color pink because a bunch of students were wearing it one October and they thought it was a "gang" thing.</p><p>It was for breast cancer awareness month. The rule didn't go well for them. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsdkob/people_of_reddit_what_stupid_rule_at_your/gori911?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">WaywardWriter</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_14" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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The naming process of new life is an enormous responsibility and can be an emotionally exhausting decision. This person is going to be glued to this "title" forever, or until they're tired of being saddled to it so they change it; when they're free of their parent's constant gaze. Thankfully I will never have children but I do have to name pets. And that is taxing as well. Thankfully there are people around who can set us all straight when we're not thinking straight.
Redditor u/Kubanochoerus wanted to hear about some of the bad ideas they were able to help avert by asking... Nurses and midwives of Reddit, have you ever tried to talk new parents out of a baby name? What was it?
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<p>The people on this chain had some bad ideas about naming humans. Like, for real not good ideas. And medical staff already has a tough enough job by delivering babies. Clearly they also have to be sound voices of reason. Especially when people are in their most emotional state... post birth. </p>
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TINA!!!
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwMDMwMi9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYyMzMzMDQ1MH0.tsr7EGvZjNsIJ22F7t7GruJyrRcQfxzwlXNwkCjXfio/img.gif?width=980" id="3f7f5" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="9c6a780b51b9cd3888e7e641b0e723ca" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="360" />the best tina GIF by London Theatre DirectGiphy<p>My boyfriend's grandmother wanted to name her daughter Sunshine. The midwife said that wasn't allowed because "it wasn't a real name" and his grandmother had no other backup baby names. So, a few minutes later when she heard someone down the hall screaming "Tina", she named her daughter Tina because she couldn't think of anything else on the spot.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls5oeh/nurses_and_midwives_of_reddit_have_you_ever_tried/goqh9nc?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">goddesswithgatos</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Poor Mo...
<p>Boss's friend named their kid Monster Galileo [last name]. Nurse tried to talk them out of it. Called in child services to talk them out of it. They insisted. Kid goes by Galileo. Honestly, I kind of like the sound of it for an adult or a performer's name but guy, being a kid named 'monster' has to be rough in school. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls5oeh/nurses_and_midwives_of_reddit_have_you_ever_tried/goqh9jz?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">WeaselBit</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_3" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Be Normal...
<p>My classmates mother was a maternity nurse and she has a couple who wanted to name their son "Collin" but wanted to give him a "unique" spelling for it. (I do not understand why parents do this. It doesn't make a boring name more interesting all it does is set your child up for lifelong inconvenience.) They spelled it out for her to put on the birth certificate C-O-L-O-N. <span></span></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>They tried to name their son colon. As in, the organ attached to your anus. When my classmates mother explained this to them they were painfully embarrassed and asked her to write it down with the normal spelling instead. I don't think they'll ever live it down. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls5oeh/nurses_and_midwives_of_reddit_have_you_ever_tried/goq57hd?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">skippyist</a></p>
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Listed
<p>In France there used to be <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/1995/11/11/style/IHT-the-ins-and-outs-of-french-first-names.html" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">a list of names you had to choose from</a> (mostly based on that day's name saint and 3-4 others). Which is why there were so many Jean / Marc / Louis /Phillipe / Marie / Anne / Valerie, etc in France.</p><p>Now it's a free choice.... but <em>anyone</em> can ask a judge to cancel a name-choice and force the parent(s) to suggest one <em>the judge</em> finds acceptable. So no names like Coca-Cola, Xerox, Nutella, Sex Fruit, Devil, Blue Murder... PLUS the rejected name gets added to a "banned" list to streamline the rejection in the future. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls5oeh/nurses_and_midwives_of_reddit_have_you_ever_tried/goqavqf?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">LozNewman</a></p>Dirty...
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<p>You would think people were drunk when the baby arrives. You really should wait until after you sign a birth certificate. For example, it feels this next group of people may have imbibed on a few shots and thought... <em>"hey that name sounds like fun." </em></p>
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Midwife Down
<p>I once had a student named Linoleum. Some midwife dropped the ball on that one. My brother wanted to name our soon to be younger brother Corn Peas and our parents almost went with it because they felt bad about asking for his input and then rejecting it. Fortunately, they got over that and passed on the name. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls5oeh/nurses_and_midwives_of_reddit_have_you_ever_tried/gops5kf?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">BigOrangeBall</a></p><div data-conversation-spotlight style="min-height:90px"></div>
Hey Vi...
<p>And here my mom was talked out of naming me Violet. "Sounds like an old lady" they said. I got one of the most common names of the 80's. When I went to college I lived in a hallway where there were literally 6 of us. My roommate had the same first name too.</p><p>I do like my name because it sounds good with my last name but I have only once met a Violet in 37 years and she's my friend's niece. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls5oeh/nurses_and_midwives_of_reddit_have_you_ever_tried/gopey2v?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Maleficent_Mink</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_8" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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All the Dylans...
<p>Not in the medical field, but a teacher. There are certain names that each teacher avoids because we've had a student (or seven) with that name who were difficult in one way or another.</p><p>One year, there were four Dylans in the same cohort and they were all hell on wheels. One of the teachers at that grade level had a baby with his wife that spring, and she named the kid Dylan. The rest of us were like, "didn't you vehemently veto that?" </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_9" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>He just shrugged and said it was important to her and he wasn't the superstitious type. Flash forward a few years, I saw a toddler tearing through the salad bar at the grocery store, spilling things, moving spoons from one container to another, reaching in with his hands... it was Dylan. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls5oeh/nurses_and_midwives_of_reddit_have_you_ever_tried/gopvl9f?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">BobosBigSister</a></p>
Oh Katrina
<p>I had a coworker named Trina. When she was pregnant, she told me that she and her husband had decided to name the baby Latrine. I had to explain to her that she was naming her poor baby after the hole in the ground that soldiers defecate into. She was horrified and changed it to Katrina. Two days after the kid was born, Hurricane Katrina hit New Orleans. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ls5oeh/nurses_and_midwives_of_reddit_have_you_ever_tried/goqkn8n?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">SpecificMost19</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_10" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Pegged
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<p>I know Hollywood has made it seem glamorous to choose off the wall names (I'm talking to you Gwyneth Paltrow) but Hollywood is crazy. So think long and hard before you saddle a new human with some ridiculous moniker. Remember... they have to go through life with it. You don't. </p>
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