The holidays are just around the corner, and for many adults that means shopping for their co-worker, their family, and their kids because heaven forbid little Jimmy go one year without the latest Lego set. With so much love going around for everyone else, you can easily forget to take care of yourself. Thankfully, the internet is here to remind you that you want things, too, and that's okay.
Reddit user, u/danny_ish, wanted adults to be honest about what they wanted this year when they asked:
Adults of reddit, what gifts do you actually want for the holidays?
Holding On To Memories Of Now
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A really nice, digital camera with great zoom so I can take beautiful photos of my kids, my Siberian Huskies and the birds in my garden. 😍
Who's A Good Doggo?
same thing I wanted as a kid honestly - a dog
May I suggest looking now- a lot of shelters are crazy busy come Christmas, and then a lot of dogs get returned. If you look now you will have more to choose from, and you can still buy all the accessories on sale before Christmas
Something Sweet And Kind
Honestly I cherish any note or card my kids have given me especially when they say something positive or nice in it.
Keep It Clean
A basket of hygiene products. Hair care, razors and shaving gel, etc. That sh-t is expensive so if I can get a few week's supply for free for Christmas, YES PLEASE.
A Sleeping Hug
A weighted blanket. I heard it feels like a hug. It will also maybe prevent me from waking up with sheets on the floor as I am a tornado in bed.
Also crazy socks. I think they look cool.
Everyone Knows The Shapes Of Action Figure And Doll Boxes
I'm 24 and I still like getting toys and games for Christmas.
Things I would enjoy but feel guilty about buying for myself because they're "frivolous."
Holographic Darth Maul, Anyone?
Any Funko Pop. They're like $20CAD, and the variety is endless. For me I guess it's the gesture of getting a gift that makes me feel good, and a Funko Pop can be thoughtful depending on what you get/give.
Reminder To All Fellow Millennials Out There:
The full series of The Office on DVD because its being taken off Netflix January 1st
That Last One, Tho
A water heater
A better vacuum cleaner
Fuel Oil for the furnace
Reece's candy
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Being an adult is sad and hard and that's why I need candy.
Nothing Better In The Morning
A coffee maker. Mine crapped the bed about 9 months ago. My parents are still pretty cool and always get me something for Christmas and my sisters.
My sisters both asked for a ton of crap and the only thing I asked for was a coffee maker. And maybe some socks because I can never seem to keep a matching pair.
Something Homemade, With Love
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My daughter-in-law always makes me things. This year she is making ornaments with all of her pets' footprints on them. This is the type of gift I prefer.
We Like Stuff We Can Eat
For most adults, I find consumable goods are the best gifts cause we all live in tiny spaces and theres no room for more stuff.
So bougie versions of normal stuff like cookies, fancy wines/beers, a nice perfume (if u kno their preferred scents) candles, snacks, soaps etc
If you want actual stuff I recommend small tokens that remind you of them. Socks or a Keychain of their favorite cartoon/show. Or Small pieces of jewelry, nothing fancy, you can find cute inexpensive jewelry at most department stores like Macy's or jc penny or online on Etsy. Stuff that fits their style.
If you're closer to the person then stuff that compliments their hobbies. I have art friends that die for art supplies, gamers always have another video game they want to buy, music obsessives love records or band merch, some people love doing weird makeup styles so new brushes or palettes (im srs pay attention to their hobbies)
If you're REALLY at a loss.... gift cards with a funny card. Write a cute message.... pick a restaurant, coffee place or major store (target). Pajamas. I feel like you can't f-ck up with pajamas or a nice blanket. But gift cards.
Getting Everything You Want, But Not All You Want
It's a bit of paradox now that I think about it.
When I was a child I lacked an income so I depended on my parents to buy me all of the material things I wanted which is why I looked forward to birthdays/holidays.
Now that I'm an adult with what most would consider a high income I can buy any material things I want but working hard to make that money by seeing patients, taking call and running a business often leaves me lacking quality time spent with my parents who aren't exactly going to be around forever.
So my answer is just a couple weeks off to go spend time with my parents. That's all I want and all I'm looking forward too during the holidays
Thinking Ahead To The Future
A pregnancy [massage] or a cheap 50' smart TV, which there are a lot of right now but its just not in my budget with Christmas, Hanukah and my Sons birthday all in the same 2 weeks plus a baby due a few weeks after. My parents are awesome tho so they might buy me one if I ask.
Are You Listening, Santa?
New flooring for the kitchen and dining room. Never ever buy the cheapest flooring, because we now have holes in our linoleum.
Also, jobs for my kids as soon as vaccines are all over the place, I would like them to move to their own place(s) for a little peace and quiet.
A job for me would be nice too.
Can I Get Some Sweet, Sweet Silence?
I want 48 hours all to myself. In my house.
Did I mention, ALONE?
God that would be awesome.
I love my family and all but I am NEVER alone. It drives me nuts.
They Can't Not Think Of Things They Want
Kitchenaid Pro 600 mixer in the color Ice or Aqua Sky
Camera gear
Switch games
Clothes (I rarely shop for myself so Christmas is usually when I get clothes or any other necessities I need)
I used to hate getting socks and underwear as a teen but for the past 17yrs I've been thankful that my mom still gets me a new pair because they aren't cheap.
Nothing Like Right Out Of The Oven
As a an adult man with a good job who can buy anything he wants - home made chocolate chip cookies are still always appreciated.
Building Your Own World
I'm a grown man and I still want some more Lego.
I'm a grown man and I bought waaaay too many Legos this year hah
Oh Yeah...Worldwide Pandemic.
A warm hug from people I care about. There can never be too much hugging.
Same, stupid virus. I hope you and yours are safe and healthy
You Never Know What You Have Until It's Gone
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For the whole family to be able to get together for Christmas. I will not have that this year, but hopefully next year
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But we should also be prepared and ready to ask the right questions to have a leg up on the competition.
"What is THE best question to ask on a job interview?"
A company's history or information about a past employee were suggested subjects appropriate for questioning.
Prior Knowledge
"When you were interviewing here, what would you have liked to know before you joined?"
"This worked for me. I asked my interviewer a question about how she had personally dealt with a company policy she had just explained. She bragged about her stellar adherence to the policy. I nodded my approval. I got the job."
A Previous Employee
"One that has always gone over well for me:"
"What were some qualities that the previous employee in this role brought to the job that you would like to see carried forward?"
"Another good thing to do is research the company you are interviewing with and you can ask things about what they may be involved in or you could drop that while reading about the company, you wondered this."
Hypothetical questions were suggested as helpful examples of inquiry.
Indicators Of How Companies Treat Employees
"A question that landed me a job once was: 'If I asked your direct reports about your management style, what do you think they'd tell me?' Stumped a hiring manager and he emailed me personally to tell me about it, no one ever asked him that question but got the job.
"In my current interviews I'm asking 'what did your company do for its employees during [the virus] to improve their day to day, work life balance, etc.' and I ask 'Is there anything your company adopted during [the virus] that they plan to keep post [the virus]?"
"These questions give a lot of insight into whether a company treated their employees well."
Past Performance & Adjustments
"If we were currently sitting in my 1 year review, what would I have done in this year for you to say I excelled in my role?"
"If I could snap my finger right now and change anything about your job or the company, what would it be and why?"
The following questions about a prospective company may not be answered from initial digging on their website.
Measure Of Success & Career Trajectories
"How is success measured in this role?"
"What are some possible career trajectories within the company that could stem from this position?"
Being A Solution
"Ask them what is the biggest problem you can solve for them in your first six months with the company. Similar to 'don't think of a purple hippo,' this forces them to imagine you succeeding in the position."
Simply The Best
"Who is your best employee and why is he/she the best?"
"You will then face 2 situations mostly:"
"panicking CEO who can't answer you 'Bob who works 17 hours a day for a slice of bread' so the fear in their faces must be a big nono for you"
"entusiast CEO who actually follow their business and can tell you who is an added value for the company and why."
– ThePiz91
My experiences with job interviews are different than others seeking work in office environments.
Having had a years-long career as a dancer, my "interview" was the dance audition, where hopefuls dance in small groups of people at a time after learning a routine and then awaiting their fate after the panel evaluates their performances.
The question I may or may not have asked in such a scenario earlier in my career was: "Did I make the cut?"
I did not make the cut. And I learned never to ask that again.
I remember the worst date I ever had. My biggest regret is that I stayed for the entire thing. I should've left as soon as I realized this was not going well, which was basically at hello. But he was paying so I drank, a lot. I'll keep names and dates to myself to protect the innocent.
0/10
Big Brother Reaction GIF by Big Brother After DarkGiphy"Went to brewery, date said I had hairy arms and that meant I was horny, said "you look really awful in this light" and then tried to dig out of that hole by saying in his native language that was a term of endearment long term couples said to each other. 0/10 did not date again."
Lucky 13?
"My wife wanted to plan our 13th wedding anniversary. I was excited because usually, I plan it. She bought us some new disc golf discs and after a quick supper, we went to play. We hadn't played in forever. We were laughing and I had a great time. She served me with divorce papers and told me that the date was a test to see if she still had feelings for me. I also learned that she was having an affair that started well before our anniversary."
- rmorlock
Two Hours from Home
"Not necessarily a date but a person I was dating invited me to his parent's house for the afternoon. He wanted to introduce me to them and show me the house he grew up in. I thought it was super sweet and had no problems going. He was also in the middle of moving and needed to pick up a few things, so it really didn't seem that unusual."
"Yeah, we got there and it was awful. His entire family was there. They traveled from hours away too. This was not just meeting the parents, it was meeting the ENTIRE family. Even worse? At some point, this idiot told his parents that he had proposed. We had been dating TWO months. I spent the entire afternoon dumbfounded and just playing along."
"We were two hours from home and I had no cell service, no way to leave at all. We ended up spending the afternoon brainstorming wedding ideas and planning an Alaskan honeymoon that his parents planned to gift us. His brother even called to say congratulations! We drove back to his apartment in silence. When we got there, I got in my car and left, didn't even bother grabbing my stuff. Weirdest experience ever. I have no idea how he broke it to his parents that we weren't getting married."
You're Cut Off!
"Got set up on a blind date once between mutual friends. She shows up to the restaurant already a little tipsy, orders multiple appetizers and only takes like one or two bites from each one. Then she proceeds to order 3 or 4 more drinks and is visibly drunk at this point. She gets up and says she's going to the bathroom and staggers off. About 15-20 minutes go by so I try to call her several times but no answer."
"Finally I decide to pay the check and just leave. About 2 hours later I'm sitting at home and I get a call from an unknown number. It's the police department. She was picked up on a DUI on her way home after she ditched me and gave the cops my number to see if I could go bail her out!"
- mox44ah
Sorry?
Bbc Three Idk GIF by BBCGiphy"Well, I gave this answer on a different topic, but it ties in with this. We were out on a date, we had been seeing each other for a while, close to a year maybe. She gets a phone call. Suddenly she looks destroyed. Her fiancé had just died in a motorcycle accident."
What in the world? I mean how can we ever expect to pair off with the dating pool being inundated with liars and nut jobs? I'm going to delete my apps.
Girl, Bye.
Sassy Beyonce GIFGiphy"Had a girl openly flirt with the bartender in front of me. She says she wasn't. But handing him her own phone and asking for his contact info in front of her date seems like it to me."
Crazy!
"Came out from a movie, late at night, and date's Camaro was stolen. Apparently, he called his WIFE (that I did not know he had) and let her know where he was and what happened. She showed up and realized he was on a date! She started chasing ME around the parking lot telling me she was going to kill me. Saved by the cops who showed up just in time to take the auto theft report."
Hey Mom
"Met a girl at a country bar one night in my 20s. We were both pretty drunk but hit it off pretty good. Ended up getting her number and we agreed we'd go on a real date. Fast forward to the date, she gets in my vehicle and... she looks almost identical to my mom. I was mortified. I was polite and we went for lunch where I found out she also had a boyfriend she "wasn't sure if she was into". Never talked to her again."
- SgtGo
Liars...
"When I was in college many years ago, before the advancement of cell phones and social media, I was chatting with a girl I met on a BBS who lived on Long Island, NY. I was 18 at the time, but lied and said I was 22 because she said she was 25. We spent a few weeks emailing each other, as well as calling each other."
"We even exchanged pics. When we finally met up, things blew up. Turns out we both lied about our ages: She was really 33, and lied because she thought she looked younger. She admitted she sent a college photo to me. We still had dinner together, but it was awkward as hell. We never spoke again."
Doubles
Kill Me Now Season 1 GIF by FriendsGiphy"It was a double date. She was more interested talking to the other girl throughout the whole thing. Found out later from the other guy that his girl cheated on him with my date."
Ummm... I think I'm just going to stay single. That is a handful of crazy. Why can't people just be honest? I swear the search for love warps people's brains. Be careful out there people.
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