Actors Explain How Their Real-Life Partners Handle Their On-Screen Sex Scenes

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It must be hard enough to regularly witness your romantic partner transform into a completely different person.

But, presumably, the acted out sex scene with another actor would be the strangest version of that transformation. What other job forces infidelity to feel so close at hand?


Plenty of Redditors have years of experience in the area. They're partner, a film or theater actor, is forced to come home after landing an exciting role with some news: there's a sex scene.

One would assume an ocean of jealousy and excruciating opening nights. Imagine, the proud partner in the front row showing support while some simulated hanky panky gets underway about 10 feet away.

But most comments in the thread give surprising takes on the situation, elements and concerns that are so far away from jealousy.

Side note: had no idea that live theater did so many sex scenes.

LuciferEdgeLord asked, "Actors of reddit, what are sex scenes like for your significant others, How do they handle them?"


One would assume an ocean of jealousy and excruciating opening nights. Imagine, the proud partner in the front row showing support while some simulated hanky panky gets underway about 10 feet away.

But most comments in the thread give surprising takes on the situation, elements and concerns that are so far away from jealousy.

Side note: had no idea that live theater did so many sex scenes.

LuciferEdgeLord asked, "Actors of reddit, what are sex scenes like for your significant others, How do they handle them?"

Nothing to Worry About

"I do have a funny story that my old theater teacher used to love to tell."

"He once had to do a sex scene (like full on ripping clothes off, making out, pushing to the ground) with someone he HATED. Since he hated her, his SO was okay with it."

"But each time they had to do the scene (this was a play, so at least a few times a week) they tried to one-up each other with how much they could gross each other out."

"Imagine having to play tonsil-tennis with someone who has dorito chunks in their teeth and passing it off like you enjoy it."

-- throwmybodyinthetras

A Kiss Isn’t Even the Half of it

"Seeing them fight on stage actually gave me WAY more anxiety than seeing them kiss. My husband can be really loud, intimidating, and scary."

"He has never been that way with me because we've never had that kind of fight but I dread the day I ever see that side of him."

-- QueenLaufy

Harsh Realities

"Y'all, if your SO's doing sex scenes, please understand that it's all just more stage direction to us. It's awkward and meaningless outside of the context of the performance!" -- Justforfun_x

"The person I was having stage sex with was super hot, but it still just felt like work. I was legitimately worried that it would be too arousing, but it ended up just feeling like business." -- Ethan_May

Growing Pains

"My wife is an amateur actress and has done a few nude/sex scenes in her plays. At first I didn't really like watching it and would leave to use the bathroom when the scene started and come back after."

"But after a while I got used to it. It's acting. What she does on that stage is not real, her feelings for that guy or girl do not actually exist. Now I can watch it with no problems."

-- cadential

Less Immersive for the Actors I Guess

"You've got a ton of union dudes with guts, cameras, microphones, lights all looking at you."

"If you keep that in mind, its no big deal."

-- nickmillerwallet

Brass Tacks

"My boyfriend and I are both actors. It's really not that weird."

"We have a conversation about whats happening in the scene, and if there is anything that is truly uncomfortable it can be discussed with your director. But at the end of the day its just work."

-- Fooeey

A Relief?

"Me and my wife both know my penis hasn't worked properly in 15 years, so it's not like I'm gonna actually smudge the fudge of any other of these hot young actresses the directors always want me to fake bone."

-- 100_Donuts

The On-Screen Mackin’ Bill of Rights

"I tend to just be out-of-sight, out-of-mind about it, but follow two rules for myself: don't fall in love with or f*ck your costar and you'll probably be fine."

"And if you're the jealous type, don't watch her work."

-- ConvenienceStoreDiet

All Business Over Here

"It's choreography. It's blocking. It's the thing you're trying to look natural while doing while simultaneously NOT looking like you're trying to remember what happens next."

"It's interesting once, maybe twice, then it's just one more part of the scene."

"At this point I've been doing this too long to worry or let the performance suffer because of what an SO thinks."

-- LexSenthur

A Deflating Lack of Concern

"My first kissing scene after my wife and I married was with a stunningly beautiful South African woman (I'm American). I gently brought it up to my wife, and she laughed at me."

"Me - 'Aren't you even a little nervous something could happen?'"

"Her- 'Oh god no... She's so far out of your league.'"

-- kipopadoo


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