People Share The Absolute Worst Thing Someone Did At Their School
School is a great experience for many, but the exact opposite for others. Whether because of issues at home, struggling with classes, or bullying, some students have a really hard time with school.
This can lead to some kids lashing out, or doing things that get them into a world of trouble.
*The following article contains discussion of suicide/self-harm, domestic violence, and gun-related injury*
Reddit user u/kre8iv_username asked:
"What was the worst thing somebody did at your school?"
20.
A student stole a gym teacher's phone and then turned himself in when he found that the gym teacher had been sneaking photos of underage girls changing in the locker room. Not sure what happened to the student but the teacher got fired and I believe some sort of criminal charges. Good on that kid that turned him in, he is truly the embodiment of chaotic good.
19.
We had 14 bomb threats my freshman year of high school, where you evacuate, wait for police and bomb dogs to come clear the school for an hour. The first 2 were a little uneasy, but after that it was a routine break from 6th period.
18.
a guys brought a whole tray of pot brownies to class. the teacher took one look and said "well are you going to share with the class?". Fearing that he would get caught for acting strange he ended up giving brownies to everyone. All of them got to go home early, and the guy got a few days suspension. I do not condone drugging unsuspecting people, but my personal favorite part is when he was asked to share he denied at first, implying that he was going to eat a whole tray of pot brownies by himself while trying to solve math problems.
17.
Im hesitating between when two students took a bunch of sleeping pills, passed out in class and almost died, or a kid fighting a middle school History teacher because she tried to expel him from class.
Private catholic boarding school in France, some of the kids were spoiled, ill-mannered brats. They all were coming from rich families and did stuff like that all the time. I remember one time, a kid playing Chess was being bullied up to the point he pissed his pants. He had to change school because everybody was making fun of him.
16.
Some a**hole stepped on some kids pet rat which her grandmother gave to her a week before she died
15.
A kid commited suicide one night in front of his ex's home room class so that she had to go to school the next morning and see his dead body. The groundsman found him before school even started thank god and all the parents were notified to not send their kids to school that day.
We had a few deaths and suicides at my high school but that one stuck out when we found out the details
14.
Athletics Director put cameras in the girl's locker room and allegedly made some moves on some of them... it was Middle School.
13.
somebody brought some sort of contraption to school that was thought to be a pipe bomb (iirc it wasn't), so the school made us evacuate. then the school searched the student's car and found hunting guns. we were forced further away from school and they had to call in SWAT. the guy who did it got expelled and was in so much trouble with the law. I don't think he meant to do anything, it just looked really bad.
I don't know if he would've gotten in trouble for just having the guns in his car on campus (probably) but it did add fuel to the fire since they found the guns after thinking he had a bomb.
12.
Someone started a rumor saying they were going to shoot up the school. Posted it on different social media's, scrawled it in one of the bathrooms, told people not to come on a certain day, the whole 9 yards. Day came and not only did a ton of people not show up, we had police on site for obvious reasons. Luckily nothing came of it, but that was still a serious problem.
11.
Had a kid put weed in the vents and then try to sell a fake bomb for 5 dollars. He's in jail now
10.
Someone falsely reported a shooting at my school was going to happen on the coming Monday. Over the weekend two kids homes were searched, small town so everyone knew. Posts were made on Facebook and about 80% of the school did not attend on the following Monday. Students slowly began to trickle back into coming to school by the time the next Friday rolled around. One of the boys switched to home schooling afterwards actually a fairly nice guy sad to see it happened.
9.
Kid and his friend got high and got out his parents' gun. They played with it, they claim they were cleaning it and he ended up shooting himself in the face...his best friend was right next to him, trying to hold the kid's face together.
He survived but his face is very contorted and he has had lots of surgeries and has a prosthetic nose.
Sometimes...he takes his nose off because it's uncomfortable to wear. There's just a hole there now.
8.
At my high school there was a shortcut from one side of the building to the other side that went over the roof, 4 stories up and just below the shortcut was the entrance. a guy that had been extremely bullied decide to jump from up the roof in a suicide attempt. School got cancelled for a week. He did survive but he didn't come back, he changed schools.
7.
Some girl with a long dress kneeled down and took a dump in the middle of the cafeteria then walked off like nothing happened. I saw the whole thing. Not the worst thing but the worst that I myself witnessed
6.
A girl killed our superintendent in a hit in run accident around the corner for the school. She was speeding because she was running late for a class trip. She also killed the superintendents dog because he was taking him for a walk at the time. He was really liked in our community and it was devastating.
5.
Stabbed someone through the hand with a pencil. Gross, but not a huge deal. Then did it with a knife a few days later.
4.
There was a kid who would write bomb threats on the bathroom wall. He did it about 5-6 times before they caught him. Every time, they had to evac the school and send in police to search. Cost my city a ton of money. Never would have expected the kid that did it either.
3.
A fight spilled into my classroom. The two students began fighting each other somewhere in the hall before somehow opening the door to my class mid-fight. The room was not a normal classroom. It was meant for tech design classes, and had lots of computers in it around the walls. The two students continued to hit each other (admittedly not very well, both parties were inexperienced and missed most of the time) and ended up backing onto the desktop computer in front of me. I quickly got out of there to avoid being caught in the crossfire. They rolled along the desk, knocking every computer on it's side or off the desk. My poor 4 foot nothing teacher, a very softspoken woman, was desperately trying to contain the situation.
Then, the students began moving back towards the door, arms and legs still flailing. Out the door they went, followed by my teacher quickly closing the door behind them. Both students were suspended. The computers were damaged and some had to be replaced.
I knew both of the students involved, and they were both really terrible people. Had no sympathy for either of them and when I wasn't staring in disbelief I was laughing my ass off.
2.
This one girl in my grade in high school was an outcast. I never had any issues with her, but she was the kind of person who would hiss at people who she didn't like. Needless to say, people kind of avoided her.
My sophomore year, a couple guys filmed her talking about whichever 'The Purge' movie was coming out around the time, and used the video to set up a fake shooting threat to the school. There was even a fake "list" of people who she was going to target. The day it was supposed to happen, the place was practically deserted, and she got arrested on her way to school.
Since it was all a setup, they let her go, but she withdrew from the school right then and there, and I never saw her again. The guys who set the whole thing up got away with it with zero repercussions. It pisses me off to this day.
1.
Idk if it's the worst, but it's the worst one that I heard of and missed. Word got out that an abusive boy was beating his girlfriend. This is a rough redneck area with people who aren't scared to fight people over something like this.
A larger kid heard him boasting about beating her during lunch, told him he better apologize for even thinking it was something to be proud of and to never do it again.
Abuser laughed in his face. He got the smackdown of a lifetime, and it took numerous other boys to pull the big guy off of him. Ripped one kid's shirt in the process.
After big boy was done, he just walked himself to the principal's office.
Whole fight was recorded and got posted on social media for a bit, including the moments beforehand. Hence how I know what led to it. The kids around either knew the abuser was gonna get beat beforehand, or noticed the growing tension and started recording just in case.
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People Who Make More Money From Their Side Hustles Than Their Day Jobs Share Their Experiences
In this day and age, it's not uncommon for people to have a side gig -- an extra job as a way to make more money -- aside from their regular 9 to 5.
It's also not super uncommon for some of these people to find that their side gig can -- and sometimes does -- pay them more than their 9 to 5.
My best friend is a brilliant journalist by trade, but he makes way more money by freelance editing than he does as at the paper he writes for. Freelance editing is a side gig, however. He doesn't do it all the time, and yet makes enough to pay his monthly rent just by doing one freelance job!
Redditors have discovered other side gigs that pay them more than their regular 9 to 5, and are ready to share their experidnces.
It all started when Redditor DonkKinnis asked:
"People that actually found a side hustle that makes more than your 9-5, what was it?"
I Need A Weapon
"Making swords, it started as a hobby - like let's see where we can take it. It is now a company with 15 guys employed, and 1,500+ swords a year. Best job ever"
– Charming_Height_6944
"You’re living my husbands dream. He would love to forge swords as a hobby. If you feel so inclined, can you message me with info on your starter setup? It’s my goal to surprise him someday with a fully functioning beginner forge, but I have no idea where to start"
– _StaRrFoxX_
"Lucky for you guys England and France are at war. Business must be booming."
– Tudpool
Happy And Healthy
"I was a therapist for 5 years in acute inpatient psych, and I burned out HARD. From awful pay, zero security, staff getting cut but workload increasing, and the work culture being one of “suffering Olympics” where you’d see who can work the most on the least sleep, it was inhumane."
"In the last 2 years, I turned my photography hobby into a successful business! I shoot weddings, elopements, couples’/family sessions, you name it. I work much less and make much more, plus the second hand dopamine is fantastic for my own mental health."
– LimitedGenius
"Me, working inpatient psych as a nurse, studying this thread like my life depends on it."
– Addwon
Knickknacks
"I sculpt miniatures for 3D printing, RPG, DnD etc. I make roughly triple what I was doing at a previous ''real'' entry job."
– CougarJo
Just Whistle While You Work
"Cleaning houses makes pretty good money. It's surprising how much people will pay you to just come in once a week and do a little cleaning."
– Sprinkle_drama
"My dad told me once of a acquaintances wife who started a cleaning business. Not by hour but charged for the task. Floors swept and mopped was $xx dishes done and benches wiped $xx carpets vaccumed $xx bathroom cleaned $xx toilet $xx. It worked brilliantly esp for young busy working men. Having set prices for set tasks was easier for them to get their heads around than 3-4 hours cleaning. She did very very well out of it"
– SupTheChalice
Flowers DO Cost A Fortune!
"Wedding Florist. Quit the 9-5 last year!"
– _adsbygoogle
FOOD!!
"I sell brownies on delivery apps"
– andydessa
"There is a kid who did this with frozen pizzas from his apartment on YouTube."
– Elegant_Housing_For
"This is f-ing brilliant."
– HappyPixie
I Want One!
"I sew stuffed animals, quilts and sometimes children’s clothing. I use to work in a nearby hospital working with Covid patients and Covid samples. I can make my old paycheck in a day if I spend the entire day working."
– YrsaAse
Should I Be Scared?
"Building killer stereo systems I’ve also have been building patio chairs really just making stuff if you can make it but make it well and take pride in your craftsmanship there’s a market for it"
– Bass_head_thomas
"Read this too fast and thought it said “serial killer system” and I was very confused and slightly worried for a moment."
– Infinity9999x
A New Idea Is A Good Idea
"I’m a software engineer. I had a coworker who was into bowling and couldn’t find an app he liked to track his stats, so he wrote one himself after using it, his friends started asking if he could give it to them. He put it on the App Store. Within a year close to half his income was coming from his app selling."
"He tried to repeat his success a few times, but none of his other apps ever caught on."
– dring157
Didn't Even Know This Was A Thing
"Secret shopper."
"So technically I don’t have a 9-5 cause I’m a student, but it’s still a VERY well paying hustle."
"Essentially all I do I drive around the city, go to random stores, buy a lottery ticket, see if they ask for ID, and leave. Then I fill out some paperwork, and I’m done."
"They compensate full gas charge, and give roughly 30$ per store. I can easily do 20 stores in a day. The problem is once all the stores are done, I can’t check anymore."
– Mattrockj
Very Entrepreneurial
"I'm the unofficial tech guy for a pretty large retirement community. It started by me setting up a dvd player for my grandma, she started telling her neighbors and now one day a week I go by and will spend the day doing minor stuff for tech illiterate people. Half the time it replacing batteries, allot of the residence are given computers their kids or grand kids that ill set up for them. I charge next to nothing, but usually will ask for the old tech if im replacing something which i refurbish and sell. Alot of people buy their grandma new mac book every 2 years that are barely used, then given to me."
– handsthefram
Fun, Fun, Fun
"I became an Uber driver and make over 10k a month these days. Really enjoying it too."
– Alexanderdaw
Music Ties It Together
"I started a wedding DJ business and found people were willing to pay a premium for a non-cheesy DJ who doesnt make the night or party about them. Even though I only worked Friday-Sat-Sundays due to weddings mostly being held on these days, I was making 2x my 9-5 job."
– JamesKPolk130
"This day and age it does make sense to do this. Invest in a good sound system. Invest in a decent light setup. Be sure to have a wi-fi connection at the venue so if someone requests a song you can easily download it. Watch people have a great time"
– chxnkybxtfxnky
The Universe At Work
"I left my job in publishing and performed the same functions on a freelance basis for about two years."
"I made only about 5-10 percent less gross. Once you factor in my lack of commute to Manhattan, not havimg to buy clothing for work, not getting lunch out, etc., net was only single digits less."
"It was also cool because every so often the universe would toss me a random extra day off. That was hard to give up."
– AlanMercer
Check And Mate
"I make custom chess board sets for professional chess players."
– Magnetic_penis_strap
I understand. I would pay big money for one of those!
Do you have a side hustle we should know about? Let us know in the comments.
Let's be honest: men and women are different, and even that statement is pretty diminutive of the truth.
Men and women feel things differently. They think about things differently and go through different things. Their experiences and knowledge base are different.
Sometimes, this means men and women don't understand each other very well. The best way to solve a mystery is to ask a question, but men sometimes feel nervous about doing so. They don't want to offend women by getting too personal, and they don't know how else to proceed.
That's why it's a good thing Reddit exists. Men have finally asked their questions, and women have answered!
It all started when Redditor Asking35 asked:
“Men, what is something about women you are curious about but too afraid to ask?"
Perfect Nest
"What’s with all the pillows?"
– Canucker5000
"They make this glorious nest so I can sleep on my side without my hips tightening overnight, support behind my back and shoulders, support against my boobs, good positioning for my arms and legs, etc..."
"It's wonderfully comfy and cozy."
– ISwearIUsedToBeSmart
Health Is Hard
"Why do you steal my food"
– SleepingAddict21
"You left it unguarded lol"
– Blondy85019
""I'll have the 'My wife's not hungry". It comes with French fries, onion rings, and chicken nuggets."
– warda8825
"omg I've been waiting for the opportunity to answer this!"
"I don't know about other women, but for me it's because my husband isn't as health conscious about what he eats as I am. And I know that doesn't make sense at first but hear me out..."
"I don't have the same metabolism as my husband and have to monitor what I eat not to gain weight, which I don't like doing cuz it makes my back hurt. The problem is, my husband constantly brings home junk food or take out. He'll always ask if I want something from taco bell or Wendys or something and I'll say no because I genuinely don't want him to bring me any cuz I'm trying to be healthy. But it's always wishful thinking because as soon as he comes home and I catch a whiff of those McDonald's fries I literally can't resist eating some. Or when we're on the couch and he's munching on a cheesy taco, my salad start to look less appetizing and I find myself just staring at his food."
"This never happened when I lived alone because I would just buy healthy groceries so there wouldn't be any junk food at home tempting me with their seductive amazingness. And when I eat out alone I just order something healthy and there's nobody there tempting me with their delicious plate of nachos."
"So yeah to sum it up it's basically just me wishing to eat healthy but then not having any self control when my partner indulges in junk food in front of me."
"Any guys out there, if you want to test if your girl is doing the same thing, try eating healthier and see if she tries to steal your bowl of brown rice with veggies the same as she steels your fries. If she has no problem leaving your food alone when you eat healthier, then maybe stop eating junk food in front of her lol. Or continue, but just expect that she is not going to want to order whole meal but is going to have trouble resisting a couple fries when the smell hits her."
– koolaid-girl-40
Confidence Is Key
"Do you actually like it when a man approaches you with the intention of asking you on a date? I don't mean catcalling and that sort of weird sh*t, just being genuine and straightforward."
– PastOrdinary
"Depends on the situation. And talk to/get to know me first."
"Also, if I say “no” don’t persist."
– mercfan3
"Depends a little on how. If it's someone I've already met a couple of times, like a colleague/fellow student or friend of a friend, I don't mind if he is forward and asks me out - that confidence is attractive, and something I'd envy him, lol."
"If its someone I don't know or just met I prefer if he gives me his contact information rather than asking for mine. I'll most likely say no if it is the latter."
"Something simple like, "Hey, I really enjoyed talking to you and would like to go out sometime to get to know you better. Here's my number". That puts me less on the spot and if he's not my type there won't be the awkwardness of immediate rejection."
"But that's just me."
– Mugwumpen
Be Honest
"Do you admire a guy after he chooses to be vulnerable and bare it all in front of you?"
– awara_bakchod
"Yes. Personally, I have a hard time opening up and just talking about my feelings in general. Whenever my husband does, it makes me feel like I’m doing something right."
– asiazoldyck
Sending A Message
"Why do they all put their hand on their man’s stomach for photos?"
– RojoandWhite
"We want to make sure whomever is looking at the pic to know this is my romantic partner, not my friend."
– KathTurner
"Mine, that’s why."
– Jelly-Unhappy
Monthly Visitor
"Is there a calendar function to the menstrual cycle that you guys have memorized? Like does it happen some time on X number week of the month or is it much more systematic and occurs every 30/31 days?"
– TheGamingNerd80085
"First of all, the period is the first 5-7 days of the menstrual cycle. The menstrual cycle is 28-35 days long."
"Everyone is different. Some people it’s every 28 days on the dot exactly, other people it’s “oh it’ll happen sometime this week” and some people it can vary massively. The average is every 28 days but a normal (normal meaning not to be concerned about) is 28-35 days. And then some people do not have a regular cycle, I myself have had it go from 32 - 52 days in the last year."
"Your period happens 12-14 days after you ovulate, which happens on day 12-14 in a 28 day menstrual cycle. The time in between is called the luteal phase. Then your period starts, and the cycle starts over on day 1."
– anchordwn
Girls Just Wanna Have Fun
"Hmm, well I've always wondered why women need an entire Sephora store's worth of makeup just to go to the grocery store. But I'm pretty sure if I ask that question out loud, I'll get hit with a mascara wand. So I'll just keep wondering in silence."
– Extension-Release558
"I’ll gladly answer this without throwing anything at you!😂 Make-up is fun; it really is that simple for a lot of us. That’s along with wanting to look our best, which in turn makes us feel our best."
– Maleficent_Tie4767
I Don't Get Cold...Sort Of
"How are y’all not freezing when you wear dresses to the club in winter"
– adz568
"We are. We’re just tougher than men ;)"
– bigkitty17
"It’s not that we aren’t cold most times, it’s that we are taught by society in general that we have to ignore our own comfort for other people."
– tweetybirdlover
It's Mine Now
"Why do you take our hoodies and never give them back?"
– HumpieDouglas
"Because they smell good and they're comfy :)"
– SelphiesSmile
Everyone's Different
"what part of the male body are you attracted to"
– Tonton1605
"Hands that are well kept and groomed finger nails, nice eyebrows and eyes"
– P0pCandie
"I personally like a nicely trimmed beard. Scraggly beards look horrible IMO."
– kaydaugherty423
"Biceps."
– the-Lady-Lazarus
Hear Me Coming
"Do y'all ever wear heels just to hear the clip-clopping of them on the pavement like you're the main character in a movie? Because that's what I'd do if I wore heels, and I wish to know if there's a woman out there whose brain is on my wavelength or if this is just me."
– VoidChickenFan
"Yup. but the feeling is stronger when walking in a fancy building"
– RominaRaBer
"I choose my heels by a) how they look b) how they sound. If they are quiet, I don’t usually get them."
– notgonnasext
Exactly! What's the point of quiet heels?
Thanks to the ladies of Reddit for sharing their responses to some of these Redditor's questions.
Do you have anything to add? Let us know in the comments below.
I've never dated someone older.
Just hasn't happened.
I'm not averse to it, but I'd feel more comfortable with someone closer in age.
I hear there are a ton of benefits, though.
Learning. Growing. Sharing.
It can be comforting to be with someone who has navigated life in certain ways already.
Redditor hotmomkaia asked:
"Men of Reddit! What are the advantages of dating an older woman?"
The Reddit community opened up about their dating experiences.
Randy
Olivia Wilde Reaction GIFGiphy"I've dated some older women who were frisky as hell."
uncultured_swine2099
"My girlfriend is only a few years older than me, but she is BY FAR the horniest I've been with."
Phantom579
Talk 2 Me
"The communication. An older woman that can communicate well will cut through the bulls**t and get straight to what she wants and expects. It’s refreshing as hell."
Fresh-Grab-8005
"Yeah agree. My GF and I are both in our late 50s. Had a long talk on the phone last night and spent some time talking about potential issues between us. Both of us have come out of long and not particularly pleasant marriages."
"We each have low maintenance adult kids. We both have our own places so we don't have to be in each other's space all the time. We are both financially secure so if we want to spend money on some together time then we just do it. I wouldn't have it any other way."
michaelrohansmith
Swoon
"Older women play less mind games than younger women do. They're more straight up, and often know what they want. The difference between an older woman flirting and a younger woman flirting, in my experience, is night and day."
"Younger woman flirting: 'Hey I like your hair, can I touch it?' Older women flirting: 'I am absolutely swooning over you. If I wasn't married, you'd be with me tonight.'"
-lighght-
Basics
"I've been with a few older women, I have also dated women of a closer age. In my personal experience I will say that older women communicate much more, don't have unrealistic standards, they have a lot more experience both in life and the bedroom. The biggest one of all is that older women are just super hot! Is there anything I've missed?"
MuscleMummy
Eat Up
dinner GIFGiphy"She knows where/what she wants to eat."
MalibK
"Right, but she still won’t tell you."
QuintShahkHuntah
The food argument has been the downfall of many a couple. Just pick a place!
She Knows
Growth Growing GIF by Insecure on HBOGiphy"Maturity. It’s night and day. Most older women actually have their lives together and don’t play the childish game of validation."
Cactus_Pear94
Back then...
"When I was 18 I dated a 28 year old for about a year. I wasn't a virgin, but my experience up until then was just awkward teenage sexual stuff. She taught me the value of the non-sex parts of a sexual relationship. How to listen and learn what your partner enjoys and how to communicate what you enjoy. She helped mature my views on relationships, foreplay and sex in ways that someone my age wouldn't have been able to."
Nythoren
Love It
"I’m not dating an older woman but I am in a sexual friendship with a 49 year old mom (we have an agreement that the sex will stop but the friendship will continue if either of us get in a serious relationship). She is extremely good at responding to text messages and being on time. She even apologized for being five minutes late one time. I love this about her because most people I know can’t freaking answer their phone."
beefstewforyou
Forever
"Depends what you are after but I found that there was less pressure of 'is this going to be long term' as you both have realistic expectations up front and know that will not change. Generally because of that, I found there was never any drama and just honest conversations. With one, she would actually talk about what sort of woman she saw me ending up with one day. No jealousy, just an understanding that we were enjoying each other's company for now."
Working_Turn_6625
Helping Me
archivesontario yes GIF by Archives of Ontario | Archives publiques de l'OntarioGiphy"I'm not dating an older woman, mainly because I'm married to one."
"She is 5 years older than me, but it sometimes seems like a much bigger gap when you account for maturity level."
"She's actually helped me do a better job of understanding and managing my emotions, which is nice."
Issueless
"Perhaps more confidence, steadiness, realism, honesty to themselves and others, fewer illusions and less sensitivity to influence. All just generalisations from my own experience. I don't have mommy issues or anything but I feel more comfortable and equal with slightly older women. I know myself pretty well, I'm pretty independent and I'm not being pushed either."
collective_artifice
Love who you love.
Age is only a number.
Do you have any experiences or lessons to share? Let us know in the comments below.
Sex and love.
The heart, the brain, and the body can fall into a "love daze."
Maybe because we've been taught to place too much importance on these matters.
Life can be very fulfilling with love and very complete without them.
But Reddit had a few things to say about dispelling some common misconceptions.
Redditor These-Froyo2242 asked:
"What are some misconceptions about sex or relationships that many people believe?"
Love and sex are misconceptions in general.
Not a Fix
Dont Touch Me Go Away GIF by One ChicagoGiphy"That your relationship problems or lack of sex gets better when you get married. LOL."
"Or have a child! Yeah cause the incredibly hard task of keeping a tiny human alive will most def help a failing relationship!"
fookinmessss
It's Sad
"Getting a girlfriend will not automatically make your depression and self hatred magically disappear."
Road_Ok
"At the time I didn't know I had chronic depression so I was confused too. When puberty started my happiness was gone. I had no friends so I thought friends would fix me."
"I got amazing friends and even if I had wonderful adventures with them when I was home alone I cried every time. Then started to think I just needed a gf... And when I had one, the most amazing girl in the world I still felt empty and sad. She suffered a lot because she noticed my struggle and I was an idiot. She left me without knowing how much I loved her."
DrDeadwish
Not Typical
"That you won't ever have a fight or argument, that it's easy peasy lemon squeezy."
MadamePurples
"Yes, but how you disagree matters a lot. Arguments should not devolve into name calling, extended shouting matches, or berating, and it's GOOD to take breaks to calm down/regulate if you're upset. And if one partner is regularly berating the other it's a really really bad thing and not a 'typical argument.'"
femNms
Know Boundaries
"That you have to put up with bulls**t just because it's a relationship. People seem to think it's normal to put up with someone giving you grief just because you're going out with them. Don't put up with behavior in relationships that you wouldn't expect from a best friend."
judochop1
"To an extent. I think relationships are more complex than that. It can bring out a different side of you when it's a life partner that you feel you need to trust and count on and vice versa. What matters is that you both acknowledge faults, issues and work through them together to improve."
Willing_Archer
Unhealthy
new girl help GIFGiphy"Drama = passion. That's unhealthy. Be happy in contentment."
chewie8291
"I always hated that the TV show New Girl fell into this trap. They put the main character into the healthiest relationship she has in the whole show then... she dumps him because they never fight? Yeah that's a healthy message to the audience."
thatwasntababyruth
Don't use movie and TV love as a blueprint.
Be You
Treat Yourself GIF by blackbearGiphy"That how my partner sees or treats me is a reflection of how desirable or lovable I am. Nah. If someone doesn't appreciate you or isn't attracted to you, that's about them. Don't change yourself for other people. Be your own person. Love yourself."
picsystix
Closer
"Sex should be fun and natural, and it's ok and not a problem if your partner, says not tonight I'm knackered from work. They still want you they still want to be with you. They are just tired from work, but people get too hung about sex in a relationship. Yes it's definitely a huge part of the closeness in a relationship, but your relationship shouldn't be defined on sex alone."
nickmasonsdrumstick
Team Efforts
"If you are just in it for your own pleasure, it’s gonna be bad sex. Sex is a team sport."
Substantial-Stand744
"Say it louder for the people in the back please. Last person i was with wanted to do it all the time, but I didn't always have the same energy. he started complaining about me not putting in the effort and I'm like... we just screwed 4 hours ago idk what you expect."
sage_vex
Mutuals
"Also, as a woman, that being desirable is the ultimate goal for a healthy and pleasing sex life. My sexual experience is so much more than my body and it's appearance/desirability. Sex should be mutually pleasing. As women, I think we are fed a lot of crap about what being sexy means. It's good to unpack all of that and ask yourself what YOU want."
picsystix
Like A...
like a virgin madonna GIFGiphy"It's okay to be a virgin. It should not be stigmatized."
gik323
"Absolutely. For years I thought I was broken because I was a virgin in my mid 20s. When I finally lost it when I was 28, I wondered why everyone made such a big deal about it."
EchoedJolts
All Sizes Welcome
"It’s okay to be average sized in the pants. Many women have said they prefer average."
RathGodofWar
"Penis size and confirmation gets talked about all the time, but there’s also a lot of variation in labial and vaginal size and conformation. Physical sexual compatibility relies a lot on how those sizes relate and to be honest the rest of your anatomy and preferred sexual positions also tie in to it."
WyrdHarper
There's quite a lot to unpack here! It seems that open honest communication between partners is best.
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