Since we grow up in a world where it is assumed that we will be straight, we don't receive a lot of education on the LGBTQ+ community. Most places receive zero education, as decades of homophobia and gay erasure rear their ugly heads even in modern society.
So curiosity from straight people is natural. It's welcome. It only helps break down the walls between our communities.
<p>u/l_a_z_y_b_u_g asked:</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/gmrtbl/straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions_do_you/"></a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/gmrtbl/straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions_do_you/" target="_blank">Straight people of reddit, what questions do you have for the LGBTQ community?</a></p><p>Here were some of those answers.</p><p><br></p>
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The Clever One First
<p>What's on the gay agenda for today?</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/GaryNOVA/" target="_blank">GaryNOVA</a></p><p>For the lesbians, today is gardening and obsessing over hot female actresses.</p><p><del>I mean we do that every day but whatever.</del></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Erin_Howard-Boleyn/" target="_blank">Erin_Howard-Boleyn</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Erin_Howard-Boleyn/" target="_blank"></a>After polling my friends the answer seems to be animal crossing</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/magic_luver101/" target="_blank">magic_luver101</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_36" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Take Note, Straights!
<p>What are the creepy or offensive things things that well-meaning non-lgbt people say?</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/DiligentShopping/" target="_blank">DiligentShopping</a></p><p>The question "so which one is the girl and which one is the guy" is pretty offensive. We are not trying to fit ourselves in a straight mold. Were both girls/ were both guys. It's like the whole point.</p><p>Asking whose on top can be pretty intrusive if you don't know them well.</p><p>Asking a trans person their birth name or what's in their pants is super rude.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/l_a_z_y_b_u_g/" target="_blank">l_a_z_y_b_u_g</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Hetlag
<p>Are there "straight jokes"? Straight people use jokes about being gay all the time, especially guys.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/PlasticStain/" target="_blank">PlasticStain</a></p><p>I don't think it's the case for everybody but one of my group of friends is like 80% LGBT+ people and YES. So many jokes and puns about straight/cis people. But none of them are insults and I never heard a violent joke about straight people.</p><p>We DEFINILTY have jokes about the straights™ though. Like about heterophobia or straight pride.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/thelastmoth/" target="_blank">thelastmoth</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_3" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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This Is A Good Perspective, Listen Up
<p>I'm not straight but I've always wanted to ask a trans person what they mean when they say they "feel like a man/woman". I guess it's probably not entirely tangible but I've always found it intriguing.</p><p><span data-verified="redactor" data-redactor-tag="span"></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/CentrifugalFarts69/" target="_blank">CentrifugalFarts69</a></p><p>Imagine waking up every day of your life feeling like something's wrong. You're perfectly healthy, your life is great, but there's something wrong. You just don't know what.</p><p>The feeling gets worse when you look at yourself in a mirror, or see your body. It gets even worse when puberty starts and you watch your body change and you hate it, but you don't know why. There's just something wrong.</p><p>The feeling sometimes gets better when you look at people of the opposite sex (for me, girls). Sometimes, it gets worse and you get frustrated for no reason. Maybe you have a crush on one of those girls. Maybe you just want some attention from them. But then, if you had a crush on one of them, there would be some happiness. There just isn't. Never. Your life is great but you're miserable and you can't figure out why.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p><br>Then one day a random thought occurs. I wish I were a girl. Then you understand what was wrong with you all your life.</p><p>The way I experienced it, it's a mix of discomfort, longing, and envy. I wasn't comfortable with my body (mind you, I had an awful life, which is why I didn't explore these issues until I gained some control over it in my early 20s) because I was male. I was hoping something would change without really knowing what. I envied girls simply for being girls.</p><p>This might be controversial, but I wouldn't say I "feel" like a woman. I'm a woman. Just not physically, alas. Even now after successfully transitioning, I'm aware that I'm still biologically male. It still bothers me. But I can live my life as a woman and that's a massive weight off of my shoulders. I can look at my body or into a mirror. I wake up in the morning without that residual feeling that something is wrong. I am no longer miserable.</p><p>Identity is a difficult question and everyone has their own perception of it. I don't think you'll ever get a definite answer on your question. The best you can get is a variety of testimonials and personal experiences, few of which you will resonate with.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/BetelgeuseFox/" target="_blank">BetelgeuseFox</a></p>
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Moms Trying To Be Better
<p>What do (or did) you need from your mom?</p><p>(Mom of a trans teenager. I do my best to support him, and want to learn to do better)</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/insertcaffeine/" target="_blank">insertcaffeine</a><span></span></p><p>The most important thing is to affirm his identity. Use his new name and pronouns. Making mistakes is okay, but work on it.</p><p>Otherwise, help him protect himself. There is a ton of hate directed at transgender teens, and someone of his age isn't going to have the emotional maturity to deal with it all. Whenever someone wants to deny who he is, have his back.</p><p>If he hasn't started puberty blockers yet, it's 100% worth it. Puberty blockers now means no mastectomy later. And if he changes his mind later (he probably won't) they're mostly reversible.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/karry9001/" target="_blank">karry9001</a></p>It's Common Because Women Are Nice
<p>How come it's common for a gay man to befriend straight women but it's uncommon for a lesbian to befriend straight men?</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/sirjunkinthetrunk/" target="_blank">sirjunkinthetrunk</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/sirjunkinthetrunk/" target="_blank"></a>I'm gay and my sister a lesbian. My female friends have never requested to watch my husband and I have sex. Straight men are always asking my sister if they can watch my sister and her wife have sex. there's your answer.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Horrorwriterme/" target="_blank">Horrorwriterme</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_6" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Your First Gay Movie
<p>I've been fortunate enough to have quite a few close friends who were gay in my lifetime, so I've got no "how do things work" kind of questions that haven't been answered.</p><p>However, one of my favorites that I always ask when we're in the process of becoming friends... If you're around my age (mid-30's), and a gay guy, did you first realize you might be gay when watching the volley ball scene in Top Gun? And if not, why are you lying to me about when you first realized you were gay?</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/PlasticStain/" target="_blank">PlasticStain</a></p><p>I remember a reading an interview with John Cryer about Duckie in Pretty in Pink. And he was saying how people would come up to him and thank him because that's how they realized they were in the closet.</p><p>And he said he was kind of shocked because he didn't realize Duckie was closeted, but when he mentioned it to the other cast they all knew.</p><p>So, of course, that's when I first realized that Duckie was gay in that movie.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/RodamusLong/" target="_blank">RodamusLong</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Beep Boop
<p>How does "gaydar" work? How reliable is it?</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/NeedsMoreTuba/" target="_blank">NeedsMoreTuba</a></p><p>Gaydar is just that... Recognizing that someone is likely to be LGBTQ. It can be based on any number of things - mannerisms, hair and clothes, subtle references and symbols that might not obvious to people who aren't "in the know," etc.<br></p><p>As to efficacy? Moderate? But there are also some false positives - people who are assumed to be LGBT but aren't.</p><p><span></span><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/justanothersocalgirl/" target="_blank">justanothersocalgirl</a><br></p><div data-conversation-spotlight style="min-height:90px"></div>
The Gays. They're Everywhere.
<p>What did you wish you knew as a teenager that you know now?</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Orual309/" target="_blank">Orual309</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Orual309/" target="_blank"></a>There are so many more gay people in this world than statistics shows, because may people are either still in the closet or don't come out as gay on any form of census.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Gods-truth/" target="_blank">Gods-truth</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_8" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Rage Against
<p>As a father of a LGBTQ daughter how do I not rage at people who oppose the fact my daughter exist.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/daynedaman/" target="_blank">daynedaman</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/daynedaman/" target="_blank"></a>Lesbian here. You can have a little rage. As a treat.</p><p>Seriously though this comment made me smile. You seem like a wonderful dad. You don't have to hold in your anger at people who are pissed at your daughter for simply existing. Take the protective father stereotype and use it for good! :)</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/lennsden/" target="_blank">lennsden</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_9" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Transgender Man's Emotional Reaction After Seeing His Chest For The First Time Following Top Surgery Has The Internet Cheering
February 21 | 2020
@capritra/Twitter
A transgender man from Australia shared a huge catharsis with the internet following his top surgery.
<p>Sol (@capritran) shared a video of himself immediately post-surgery when he saw his chest for the first time.</p><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-twitter_embed">
</p><div id="b0617" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="LEEOUU1582304726"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229444361072435202" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">i’d like to share my very personal chest reveal moment with the world, to hopefully show that despite the endless n… https://t.co/GVPFUZLAXq</div> — sol🌞 (@sol🌞)<a href="https://twitter.com/capritran/statuses/1229444361072435202">1581957352.0</a></blockquote></div>
<p></p><p>"Been waiting for this for a long time?" asks the nurse, as sol gets visibly emotional about the completion of his top surgery.</p><blockquote><em>"I'd like to share my very personal chest reveal moment with the world, to hopefully show that despite the endless negative experiences we trans people have, we also get to experience some of the best feelings in the world. use this video to manifest your own future if you need to."</em></blockquote><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-twitter_embed">
</p><div id="aa747" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="48JSTJ1582304726"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229444363811295239" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">i want to thank all of my trans siblings and cis allies for their endless support, whether that’s on twitter or not… https://t.co/SxSrzHt9bf</div> — sol🌞 (@sol🌞)<a href="https://twitter.com/capritran/statuses/1229444363811295239">1581957352.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="893bd" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="G1L0QB1582304727"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229444557378424833" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">it’s 3:30am and i’m getting very little sleep in the hospital so please be patient with me. goodnight for a few more hours folks</div> — sol🌞 (@sol🌞)<a href="https://twitter.com/capritran/statuses/1229444557378424833">1581957399.0</a></blockquote></div>
<p></p><p>The biggest thing people took away from this video? </p><p> The trans struggle for gender confirmation and the emotions surrounding it are real.</p><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-twitter_embed">
</p><div id="d14f3" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="01KUYJ1582304727"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229555233677697024" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">i can’t express how thankful i am for every person who has shown their support. by posting this, i wish to show the… https://t.co/vitoV98mlG</div> — sol🌞 (@sol🌞)<a href="https://twitter.com/capritran/statuses/1229555233677697024">1581983786.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="e7624" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="PWWRV61582304727"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229482077780893696" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@capritran So happy for you!!!
I’ve officially scheduled my surgery for April of this year and I’m still in disbeli… https://t.co/3cT9xYfFy6</div> — Owen Shepard! (@Owen Shepard!)<a href="https://twitter.com/cinnamontail/statuses/1229482077780893696">1581966344.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="41b37" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="AIDNF11582304727"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229652600523558912" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@capritran I’ve been feeling this way a lot - deep down I know I’m not a girl, but I don’t want to admit it just ye… https://t.co/XDjJgqnYcs</div> — Anna • アンナ (@Anna • アンナ)<a href="https://twitter.com/another_anna_/statuses/1229652600523558912">1582007000.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="fd851" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="DK5IYS1582304727"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1230181835461685248" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@capritran I can't imagine how awful it is to see your own body & know it doesn't reflect your identity and the ide… https://t.co/3CJVRMuJNh</div> — beegsf🌊🌊🌊 (@beegsf🌊🌊🌊)<a href="https://twitter.com/beegSF/statuses/1230181835461685248">1582133179.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="7bf3e" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="YZTDYY1582304727"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229670879673692163" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@capritran @DamianAsia I didn't draw the scars right, I think, but... thank you for sharing this. I hope I'm there… https://t.co/3vCMyhkLMb</div> — 🍰Cake🍰 (@🍰Cake🍰)<a href="https://twitter.com/CakeAndCrows/statuses/1229670879673692163">1582011358.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="fc5fc" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="KYJM4T1582304728"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229516885034700801" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@capritran I don’t know you and I’ve got a LONG way to go before I understand how to be a proper ally but this vide… https://t.co/UVgQMgxRA8</div> — Katie Tunn (@Katie Tunn)<a href="https://twitter.com/Katie__Eden/statuses/1229516885034700801">1581974643.0</a></blockquote></div>
<p></p><p>Despite the fact that <a href="https://time.com/5710466/transphobic-abuse-online-study/" target="_blank">transphobia around the world has skyrocketed,</a> plenty of folks were very supportive.</p><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-twitter_embed">
</p><div id="9226c" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="S4YOI61582304728"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229510751586541568" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@capritran Congrats 🎉🍾🎊🎈 https://t.co/VPVGnzjS4V</div> — HOTGURL🦄 (@HOTGURL🦄)<a href="https://twitter.com/imkweenofficial/statuses/1229510751586541568">1581973181.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="01fd3" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="PLLSDW1582304728"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229550474526969861" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@capritran @Nefermira This is why I support. You can see the relief in your face. How dare somebody even judge peop… https://t.co/Tc7Djcii8Z</div> — Sesshomaru’s BM (@Sesshomaru’s BM)<a href="https://twitter.com/TooConnie/statuses/1229550474526969861">1581982651.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="44784" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="SCC5J61582304728"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1230257802674757632" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@capritran @JulieM0rcombe So happy for you.</div> — Lez Parnas Not Chicken! (@Lez Parnas Not Chicken!)<a href="https://twitter.com/HeavenOrHellGod/statuses/1230257802674757632">1582151291.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="a5bb6" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="Y1LK4U1582304728"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1230140432719450112" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@capritran Thank you so much for sharing this.</div> — Dara Does Deep State ⚖️ (@Dara Does Deep State ⚖️)<a href="https://twitter.com/daralynn13/statuses/1230140432719450112">1582123308.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="b9c9e" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="JUW2RR1582304728"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229456639654334467" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@capritran I love seeing these videos. They are so revealing of the actual joy and emotions of my trans sibs. Well… https://t.co/jAsoQ1QQnx</div> — Charlie 💚🥒 (@Charlie 💚🥒)<a href="https://twitter.com/iloverealppl/statuses/1229456639654334467">1581960279.0</a></blockquote></div>
<p></p><p><a href="https://www.hrc.org/resources/violence-against-the-trans-and-gender-non-conforming-community-in-2020" target="_blank">The HRC reports</a><a href="https://www.hrc.org/resources/violence-against-the-trans-and-gender-non-conforming-community-in-2020"></a> that violence against trans people is going strong this year, with a death already reported in 2020, and 26 deaths due to transphobic violence in 2019.</p><p>While the numbers sound small, with the tiny size of the openly transgender community, the percentage of deaths makes trans people one of the groups most targeted for murder.</p><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-twitter_embed">
</p><div id="76ff8" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="7TAKCB1582304728"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229725757829734409" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@capritran I’m so happy for you 💙</div> — Ida Skibenes ❄️ (@Ida Skibenes ❄️)<a href="https://twitter.com/ida_skibenes/statuses/1229725757829734409">1582024442.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="f4380" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="CFMH2F1582304728"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229456731912200198" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@capritran Oh goodness. The visible *Relief* when you look. I'm so, so happy for you!</div> — Perrin Gaybara 🏳️🌈 (@Perrin Gaybara 🏳️🌈)<a href="https://twitter.com/pyromastyx/statuses/1229456731912200198">1581960301.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="28da6" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="DCIDPO1582304729"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229517874668154880" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@capritran Please, how do you share this to Facebook? Would like to show my son</div> — ankicat (@ankicat)<a href="https://twitter.com/AnnikaDarkangel/statuses/1229517874668154880">1581974879.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="fa653" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="6NTP5F1582304729"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229472216649207810" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@capritran This is the Type of energy we need in 2020, love that for you!!</div> — Yeenis (@Yeenis)<a href="https://twitter.com/YeenItBefore/statuses/1229472216649207810">1581963993.0</a></blockquote></div>
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<p></p><p>Let's hope the 2020s are the years of the trans community quickly becoming more accepted.</p>
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Retailer Sends Apology Letter After Staff Refused To Let Transgender Shopper Try On Clothes In Menswear Changing Rooms
February 20 | 2020
A transgender shopper has been sent a personal letter of apology from British retailer Marks & Spencer after staff refused to let them try on clothes in the menswear changing rooms.
<p>Myla Corvidae, 30, was born female and now identifies as transgender non-binary using they/them pronouns.</p>
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<p>They had picked up a few items of clothing from the menswear section of M&S in Aberdeen, Scotland, and wanted to try them on in the store.<br></p><p>But a member of staff told them they could not try the clothes on in the changing rooms by the menswear section.</p><p>Myla says they were told the facilities were "only for men" during the incident on December 31, 2019.</p><p>A spokesman for M&S admitted "a mistake was made" and the store has apologized - including a personal letter from the manager.</p>
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<p><strong>Myla, of Aberdeen, said:</strong> <br></p><blockquote><em>"I'd picked up some shirts and jumpers from the menswear section and went into the changing rooms nearby. There was no attendant so I just went on in."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"I left the changing room to grab a bigger size in one of the jumpers and a female attendant approached me on the shop floor."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"She told me I couldn't use the changing rooms there as they were 'only for men' and said that I had to use the changing rooms downstairs which are for women."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"I was utterly shocked and the only thing I could think of to say was 'I'm not female' to which she looked me up and down, apologized and walked off."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"I felt sick, like I was being accused of some kind of crime just for trying on clothes. Afterwards, I went home and cried - I have never been accosted like that in a store before."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"I had to go back in and speak to someone in store because no one took it seriously the first time and I started crying even trying to talk about it again with them."</em></blockquote>
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<p>Myla had been shopping in the Aberdeen City Center branch of Marks & Spencer regularly for the past five years before this happened.<br></p><p>Following the incident, Myla has complained to Marks & Spencer who have formally apologized to them both in person and via letter.</p><p>Despite the apology from the company, Myla feels unable to return to the shop due to the distress caused on that day.</p><p><strong>Myla said: </strong></p><blockquote><em>"I don't think the apology was enough to be honest, it shouldn't have ever happened to start with and I have lost confidence in Marks & Spencer as a company for standing up for trans folk like myself."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"I still feel scared to shop at Marks & Spencer in case it happens again elsewhere or if I have to deal with that same person again." </em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"The fact that I saw a female using the space at the same time in full view of the attendant when I left the changing rooms just made it so much more of a personal attack."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"I honestly don't think I would go back there, I don't want to have to experience something like that again or see that staff member again."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"I am still very much upset by what happened and if I were to go back I wouldn't go on my own and I would not be shopping for clothes there again."</em></blockquote>
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<p><strong>An M&S spokesperson said:</strong> <br></p><blockquote><em>"With our fitting rooms we only offer individual lockable cubicles and this is to ensure every customer feels comfortable and has the privacy they need."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"The fitting rooms are located within our womenswear and menswear departments and therefore are mainly used by customers of that gender. However, as an inclusive retailer and in line with most other retailers, we allow customers the choice of fitting room in respect of how they identify themselves."</em></blockquote><blockquote><em>"Clearly on this occasion a mistake was made, we have apologized to our customer for this incident, additionally our store manager wrote a personal apology assuring the customer they have spoken to the team."</em></blockquote>
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Straight People Divulge Which Questions They've Been Too Embarrassed To Ask Their LGBTQ Friends And Family
February 20 | 2020
Being someone who is in the LGBTQIA+ community, I always really appreciate open conversation with people outside the community. There's no shame in asking questions--it's best to foster the conversation rather than make assumptions. But straight people will always have questions. Here are some of them.
u/VictorAnichebend asked: [Serious] Straight people of Reddit, what questions do you have for LGBT people you'd be too embarrassed to ask in person?
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nobody will expel you from the gayhood......
<p>Sexuality is not black and white, there's a lot of grey areas. So, yes, it's perfectly ok for a gay guy to feel attracted to a girl at some point. I think that's the biggest difference between homosexuality and heterosexuality: If you are gay and kiss a girl nobody will expel you from the gayhood, if you are straight and kiss another man you'll be forever known as a closeted gay. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f50szs/serious_straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions/fhw8gvl?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"> rgb-queiroz</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/rgb-queiroz/" target="_blank"></a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_36" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Eye Roll Issue....
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMjc4NzQwNC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY1NDkxMjM4N30.hdw44bWkRRiNBGcb8du2jbKHAnfymgnh0uuxOB-nBxs/img.gif?width=980" id="95de2" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="aa2d2e3ecd20208b646798399751317f" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="271" data-height="336" />Giphy<p>I dated a girl who was pansexual for a time but never bothered to ask her what the difference is between being bi and being pan. Mostly cause it doesn't matter if there's a difference but I am kinda curious because when I was dating her I told a gay friend of mine she was pan and he kinda rolled his eyes. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f50szs/serious_straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions/fhw6o0l?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">P2Pbytaxes</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Outing.
<p>What was it like to come out to your parents/people you care about? Btw for those that have traditional parents, I'm so proud of you. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f50szs/serious_straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions/fhw56ts?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">juandeagen</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/juandeagen/" target="_blank"></a><span></span>I never got the coming out story everyone else has, because I was outed to my parents. The hardest person to come out to was a girl I worked with who obviously had feelings for me. Tried to let her down gently but I just felt like an arsehole. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f50szs/serious_straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions/fhw5ecb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">VictorAnichebend</a><span style="background-color: initial;"></span></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_3" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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"I think I have a crush on this girl."
<p>I came out to one of my friends first in like 6th grade (I know its crazy young). The thing is I had just moved from the North to the South my 6th grade year. When I first arrived to my school I easily made friends. I started dropping hints to my new friends. Some of them picked up, and some didn't. I came out to a girl during lunch in the bathroom. All I said was "I think I have a crush on this girl." </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>She was so nice to me and we're still friends to this day. She was the first person to really accept me and make me feel ok about my sexuality considering I was so young. We always talked during school and she just was so nice and understanding. However with my parents I never "formally" came out. They just went through my phone and found texts and my social media with the pride flag in it. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f50szs/serious_straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions/fhwh73w?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"> lilaanh</a><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/lilaanh/" target="_blank"></a></p>
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"yes mam" or "no sir"
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<p>Sexuality is entirely a spectrum of people with varying desires, drives, and needs. There are people that find sex as a repulsive as picking somebody's nose, and others who are total horndogs. Some people want to take people to pound town, others like it slow and sensual, and kissing is hotter than penetrative sex. Your sexual preference largely doesn't dictate this. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f50szs/serious_straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions/fhw3h40?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Commander_Shepard_</a><span></span></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_6" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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To the T's....
<p>To the T's out there, how and when did you realize.</p><p>I have a trans friend who is currently socially transitioning so I don't want to ask heavy questions as she has recently gone through a lot.</p><p><strong><em>Edit: </em></strong>don't want to be that guy but this blew up in terms of notifications. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f50szs/serious_straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions/fhvytm4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">SheepishBlacksmith</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f50szs/serious_straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions/fhvytm4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"></a>My anonymous blood-relation said it was coming on slowly for a while but it finally clicked for her in class. She had already been questioning for a few months when this happened. Her all female table group was being very rowdy so the teacher said "ladies quiet it down!" And she just knew when she was called a lady that it was <em>right</em>. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f50szs/serious_straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions/fhw6aj4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Gay-Alchemist</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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BI the way...
<p>Where can I go to learn about the newer terms and what they mean? I don't know what asexual or pansexual or many other terms and I would just prefer to not be ignorant. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f50szs/serious_straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions/fhvzlqs?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"> jesusz1lla</a><span></span></p><p>I know it's cliche, but seriously, just google the terms. You'll quickly come up with several places that will explain the terms. However, I'll explain the two you specifically mentioned. Asexual in terms of sexuality means a person just has no or very little sex drive and/or really isn't attracted to any gender. Pansexual pretty much means they can be attracted to anyone regardless of gender or biological sex.</p><div data-conversation-spotlight style="min-height:90px"></div>
<p>There is an argument as to if this is synonymous with bisexual with many people saying the are and others saying they aren't. As a bisexual myself, I come down on the no category because many, like myself, are only attracted to males and females but not, for example, hermaphrodites. Every pansexual I have discussed this are also be attracted to the people that fall outside of the typical male/female categories.</p><p>Slight edit to slightly more clarify asexuality. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f50szs/serious_straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions/fhw4kyp?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">JPKent80</a></p>
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Not the Sheep.
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The Hard Way.
<p>Is it hard being lgbt. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f50szs/serious_straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions/fhvxst2?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">m0rh3n</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f50szs/serious_straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions/fhvxst2?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank"></a><span></span>Yes, very. I am blessed with a very supportive family who didn't bat an eye when I came out. But there's still the rest of the world.</p><p>I can't go to school without people screaming about how I'm going to hell in the courtyard. My SO's family is catholic so we're constantly sneaking around so they don't have to know I exist. In general you're just trying to live life then BOOM. There is something or someone reminding you that you don't fit in and they don't want you to exist. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/f50szs/serious_straight_people_of_reddit_what_questions/fhw58uz?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x" target="_blank">Gay-Alchemist</a></p>It's all about boundaries.
<p>I'm female, In college I had a friend who was a lesbian, and we ended up sharing a room for a few years. I always wondered but never felt right asking; is it okay for me to change down to nearly naked (we kept underpants on) when she was also in the room, since we were both women? Or should I step into the bathroom, the way I would if it was a male friend in the room, due to attraction? It felt like a silly question and I didn't want to cause tension or be insulting. I ended up just changing in the room, since it was three years and constantly hiding would have gotten tiresome.</p><p>But I did wonder if maybe I had actually been doing something awkward without realizing it?</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/WankSpanksoff/" target="_blank">WankSpanksoff</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_10" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p><br>This may have been something to ask her. I know it probably felt too awkward to do so at the time, but I think it's good, regardless of sexuality, to have a clear understanding of each other's boundaries. In other words, even if your roommate was straight, it probably would have been good to just say something like, "Hey, would you prefer I change in the bathroom, or are you ok with me changing in here?"</p><p>Of course, you definitely don't want to assume she's attracted to you simply because you're a woman, just as you don't want to assume what her general comfort level is like with this type of stuff. And probably vice versa on her side, with you, because your boundaries are also important to take into consideration.</p>
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<p>I think it varies from person to person - different people will be ok with different things. I'm a lesbian who's had three different female roommates of three different sexualities during these past few college years, and in every case, I asked to make sure I didn't make my roommates uncomfortable. </p><p>One of my roommates was comfortable being completely naked in front of me when she was changing, another always stepped into the restroom or wore a bathrobe (not because she was creeped out by me, but because that's just how she rolled), and my current one is comfortable with me seeing her in underwear. Of course I always made sure to reciprocate and never overstep the comfort level of my roommates. I think if you just asked casually without making it a huge thing, there is little chance your roommate would have been offended.</p><p>I guess we'll never know how she felt unless she says, but it sounds like you both got through it ok. If it disturbed her too much, she most likely would have said something. I'm sure you were fine. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/dreamlover999/" target="_blank">dreamlover999</a></p>
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Definitely.
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMjc3OTYwOC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYxODMxOTU4NH0.i6tzs9tysHMyWHVXhTH2_D29eOplSYMo3rCXTkXpFeY/img.gif?width=980" id="a736b" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="e987883c6abd9660d567610edecdbf0a" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="266" />Giphy<p>When they have gay couples in movies and TV shows, does that actually make you feel included?</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Jomega6/" target="_blank">Jomega6</a></p><p>It feels really good. I'm not against straight couples or anything, but it's really good to see a gay couple in something.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Kai_The_Dom/" target="_blank">Kai_The_Dom</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_13" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Well put.
<p>Gay dude here, but was just thinking about this earlier today:</p><p>Do people who identify as asexual enjoy pleasuring themselves?</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/schwulschwanz/" target="_blank">schwulschwanz</a></p><p>Not Ace myself, but asexual people often enjoy sex and self stimulation but simply do not experience sexual <em>attraction</em>.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/bisexym478/" target="_blank">bisexym478</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_14" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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It's ok.
<p>How do you help let someone know that it's ok?</p><p>I have a friend Daniel who's turning 30 and never been with anyone. He's never come out or acknowledge it and actually expresses disgust at other gay men. When he sees other men holding hands in public or at a gay bar, he will tell me how gross they are.</p><p>He has an obvious crush on one of my other guy friends Ben (who's married to a woman). Ben could sense it too and told him in a light hearted joking way that he wasn't gay. Daniel reacted angrily that he wasn't gay then later that night, left literally 12 miss calls/ messages that he wasn't gay to me and another friend who witnessed it.</p><p>He has depression and I've watched him become so sad and really selfish. He has become obsessed with how he looks as well. I think a part of what has triggered his depression is about being gay and in denial. He also encourages other friends in bad relationships (infidelity etc) to stay with each other despite it obviously being not ok.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Keowaii/" target="_blank">Keowaii</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_15" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Valid question.
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yMjc3OTYxMC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYxOTMxMzgxOX0.8bULTUFnSuW8MdTX-JFMhxTuLX5gwC0Oyco6BI62IBM/img.gif?width=980" id="d6f8e" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="52503fab3d39f49b2f0f30c9f2feaeb4" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="200" data-height="97" />Giphy<p>I've been fortunate enough to have quite a few close friends who were gay in my lifetime, so I've got no "how do things work" kind of questions that haven't been answered.</p><p>However, one of my favorites that I always ask when we're in the process of becoming friends... If you're around my age (mid-30's), and a gay guy, did you first realize you might be gay when watching the volley ball scene in Top Gun? And if not, why are you lying to me about when you first realized you were gay?</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/alek_hiddel/" target="_blank">alek_hiddel</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_16" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Everyone has their own story.
<p>How old where you when you realized you were LGBTQ? Did you feel guilt at first because you were so-called "different" from the other kids? No disrespect intended of course.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/WEREWOLF10MM/" target="_blank">WEREWOLF10MM</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/WEREWOLF10MM/" target="_blank"></a>It took me a long time to accept that I was bi, I thought for many of my teen years that it was just me being sexually over whelmed and hence I didn't care who I fantasized about or what I had to do to lose my virginity.</p><p>My first sexual partner was my girlfriend at the time but I almost had a relationship with an older boy in my high school but I got scared about people in my family finding out and especially my parents since my dad was not kind about anyone being lgbt.</p><p>It was until my 20's that I decided to experiment and then after some time I accepted I'm bi and yeah I'm happy about being honest with my family and myself.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ikindalikeme/" target="_blank">ikindalikeme</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_17" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Okay Patrick Bateman.
<p>Do you look in the mirror and get turned on?</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/DjBattleCattle/" target="_blank">DjBattleCattle</a></p><p>Kinda, but that has more to do with my narcissism.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/VarangianDreams/" target="_blank">VarangianDreams</a></p><p>Do you like Huey Lewis and the News?</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/juanpuente/" target="_blank">juanpuente</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_18" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Classic.
<p>Do you ever get confused about your own desires? Like, do you see a nice butt and you're not sure if you want that butt or if you <em>want</em> that butt?</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/RedSkeye/" target="_blank">RedSkeye</a></p><p>Ah yes, the classic 'be him or f*** him' dilemma.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/hermanerm/" target="_blank">hermanerm</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_19" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Nibling.
<p>What do I call my sister's child now? I know that they use they, them, their as pronouns and that is all good. I know they have chosen a name they want to be addressed as and that is all good too. What I don't know is how would I refer to them in conversation to show our relationship. They are neither my niece nor my nephew. So is it just , this is my sister's child? Or is there a phrase or a reference that I should be using?</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Deedoodleday/" target="_blank">Deedoodleday</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_20" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>Probably just ask.</p><p>I came out to my half-sister, and she asked what her kids should call me (I said "uncle" because I think some of the new words sound a little childish). If any of my extended family gave a sh*t about LGBT people or my preferences, I'd just prefer to be called "one of [mom's] kids". But some might want to be called niece, nephew, nibling, sibkid, etc</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Kangaroodle/" target="_blank">Kangaroodle</a></p>
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High School Athlete In Legal Battle To Stop Trans Girls From Competing Against Her Undermines Her Case By Beating Trans Opponent In Race
February 20 | 2020
Chelsea Mitchell, a student athlete, filed a case against trans students participating on the track team.
She claims it's "unfair" for trans girls to race against her in the sport.
However, shortly after filing the case, she beat another fellow sprinter—who happened to be a trans girl.
<p>The lawsuit was filed by the Christian law firm Alliance Defending Freedom, known for its strict anti-abortion stance as well as their attacks on LGBTQ equality. It argued that trans students have an unfair advantage to cisgender students, and that they have "deprived" them from titles and scholarship opportunities.</p><p><strong>Despite statistics showing no such advantage exists, people still claim the lie is reality.</strong></p><p>On February 14th, Mitchell beat Terry Miller in a 55m race. As a result, the case seems to have lost some credibility. </p><p><strong>However, Mitchell stood her ground.</strong></p><blockquote><em>"I don't think it could go against [the case], there's still tons of girls that lose on a daily basis."</em><br></blockquote><blockquote><em>"I try to just clear everything out of my mind, this is just track, you know, it's just running, just focusing on myself, not trying to think about anything else that's been happening."</em></blockquote><p>The ACLU made a statement on this particular case that it is a "a dangerous distortion of both law and science in the service of excluding trans youth from public life".</p><p><strong>The same complaint was filed by two additional girls—recruited by anti-trans groups—in the Connecticut school system. </strong></p><p>A week later, a united front of women and LGBTQ+ rights organizations stood with Miller, and released a public statement collectively. Many groups cosigned on the statement, which was in support of transgender student athletes competing alongside their cisgender peers.</p><p><strong>Miller herself released a statement on the complaint, defending her participation as a sprinter.</strong></p><blockquote><em>"I have faced discrimination in every aspect of my life and I no longer want to remain silent.</em><em>"</em></blockquote><span></span><blockquote><em>"I am a girl and I am a runner. I participate in athletics just like my peers to excel, find community, and meaning in my life. </em><em>It is both unfair and painful that my victories have to be attacked and my hard work ignored."</em></blockquote><p><strong>Many folks on the internet have jumped to Miller's defense.</strong></p><p class="shortcode-media shortcode-media-twitter_embed">
</p><div id="f2060" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="TI591C1582218328"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229308984793993216" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">TL/DR: Chelsea Mitchell is as sore of a winner as she is a loser. https://t.co/FDUQ1b6T64</div> — drafttweets (@drafttweets)<a href="https://twitter.com/drafttweets3/statuses/1229308984793993216">1581925076.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="a3f24" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="RAYYSX1582218328"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1230218370005577728" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@drafttweets3 @TiffanyStarrXXX seen that. Pathetic. So many don’t understand what hormones do to muscles.… https://t.co/sKqblPATsV</div> — 🏳️⚧️ Ts Bunny 🏳️⚧️ transsexul entertainer (@🏳️⚧️ Ts Bunny 🏳️⚧️ transsexul entertainer)<a href="https://twitter.com/TsPrincessBunny/statuses/1230218370005577728">1582141890.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="7f987" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="X0J5AC1582218328"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1227652349050548225" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">All this b/c two Black trans girls Andraya Yearwood & Terry Miller of @ChangingGameDoc sometimes win their races &… https://t.co/rNYl29YwPi</div> — alex schmider (@alex schmider)<a href="https://twitter.com/anderfinn/statuses/1227652349050548225">1581530103.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="d8020" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="01JG1C1582218328"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229403304410701830" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">Kinda undercuts the whole argument that trans women competing vs cis women is unfair doesn't it
https://t.co/XHMpM6X8tV</div> — Madeline Rose 🌹 (@Madeline Rose 🌹)<a href="https://twitter.com/transgrlinexile/statuses/1229403304410701830">1581947563.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="790d0" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="5P0F3R1582218328"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1230176967216861184" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">https://t.co/0J8WAKdfGx
So the CT sore loser actually beat her long time rival, who happens to be transgender, yet… https://t.co/NH9o5YzlrM</div> — John McCrostie (@John McCrostie)<a href="https://twitter.com/McCrostie4Idaho/statuses/1230176967216861184">1582132019.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="4f899" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="VQW0LO1582218329"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1228530067673944065" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">After losing a championship race by two-hundredths of a second, Terry Miller applauded someone who is literally sui… https://t.co/6RxauiYLwb</div> — Alex Putterman (@Alex Putterman)<a href="https://twitter.com/AlexPutterman/statuses/1228530067673944065">1581739367.0</a></blockquote></div>
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</p><div id="e9520" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="JN9D7W1582218329"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet twitter-custom-tweet" data-twitter-tweet-id="1229408494144696320" data-partner="rebelmouse"><div style="margin:1em 0">@transgrlinexile They will say she lost on purpose because of the heat</div> — Emma Nicole W. (@Emma Nicole W.)<a href="https://twitter.com/emnicw/statuses/1229408494144696320">1581948800.0</a></blockquote></div>
<p></p><p>Kate Farrar, the executive director of Connecticut Women's Education and Legal Fund, was one of the cosigners on the collective statement.</p><p><strong>She told </strong><strong><em>Outsports</em>:</strong></p><blockquote><em>"The heart of feminism is acknowledging gender identify and recognizing all aspect of oppression. In that vein, we felt the need to show a united front of support for transgender rights in our state."</em></blockquote>
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