This article is based on the AskReddit question "What is a male/female double standard that really drives you crazy?"
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1/16. Single parents. Single father? He's a hero! Single mother? She's made questionable life choices and is probably easy.
-GladThatYoureHere
2/16. This one might be just where I live, but I notice it a lot.
When a guy holds onto his V-Card he's labeled as incapable of picking up chicks. But if a girl is holding onto it then she's praised for it.
-77remix
3/16. I was at wedding recently where a drunk bridesmaid was trying to pick up any single guys she could. She latched on to a coworker and wouldn't let go. She was literally grabbing his junk and trying to rip off his shirt. I ended up stepping in and reminding her about the finer points of consent (like "no means no").
when I tell the story most people go "lucky guy". Because a guy isn't allowed to not be interested in having sex with someone? Come on!
-SillySafetyGirl
4/16. Once my sister had a pool party at our house when she was 14 or so. I was 12. I was the only boy and still wanted to swim so I hung out with them. All the parents were inside the air conditioning. When I was out of the pool they thought it would be funny to pants me and take my suit. There were like 8 girls so I couldn't do anything and they held me and laughed up a storm. They kept me that way for what felt like an eternity although it was probably only a few minutes. I ran in to tell my folks, crying that kid cry where you can't catch your breath. They did nothing. Opened up the sliding glass door and yelled "leave him alone". That was it.
I think back to that and try to think of an adults reaction if it was 8 of my buddies and we were 14 and we did that to a girl.
-NoTime4LoveDrJones
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5/16. Girls at club can be very pushy and forward about hooking up with a guy. Other way around it's borderline sexual assault. This is coming from a girl.
-zarrenfication
6/16. When was the last time you saw a man in a yogurt commercial? I like yogurt too, dammit.
-rredleaderstandingby
7/16. I'm a female doctor, and I frequently fly with a few items of medical equipment (stethoscope, otoscope, etc). I put it in its own separate bag/bin, because they always search it. The TSA agent, while searching the bag will ask everyone else in line, "Sir, are you a doctor?" before finally turning to me and asking "Miss, are you a nurse?.
-arhoglen
8/16. Opening/holding doors. I open doors for everyone. If I'm there first, and you're behind me, I'm probably going to hold the door for you, IDGAF who you are. No, YOU INSIST? No, I INSIST, walk through the door and quit wasting everyone's time. I'll just stand here and wait.
-hoopharder
9/16. I'm getting married in 22 days.
Every (no exceptions) professional involved with putting on our wedding has emailed my fiance, but not me. She's had to forcibly insert me into the conversations. Even when I am the one who sent the initial email.
The wedding coordinator actually ignored her adding me to the email conversation the first time. She had to add me a second time.
When we talk in person, they attempt to pull her off to the side and discuss the events away from me, since it'll all be up to her.
Even (some of) our friends have found themselves referring to it as "her big day" before being glared at and reminded that it's both of us.
People: I am half of the marriage. My opinions about this wedding matter, even if every bridal show/magazine/whatever ever makes it out that the bride demands solitary control. My fiance, who has an anxiety disorder and gets extremely upset when she has to deal with too many open-ended questions, does not appreciate you taking me out of the conversation, and neither do I.
-darknaught
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10/16. I'm a female in my mid/late 20s and have had a boyfriend for about 5 years. The first 1.5 years of the relationship I still lived at home. If I went to my boyfriend's for the weekend my dad would lose his mind. We wanted to go overnight camping together? Dad couldn't fathom it. Now my younger brother is in his early/mid 20s with a serious girlfriend. He goes to his girlfriend's for a week at a time and Dad doesn't care. Girlfriend hangs out in my brother's room with the door closed? Not fazed. My boyfriend and I now own a house together and I'm still not 100% sure my dad can wrap his mind around us sharing a bedroom. Mom thinks it's ridiculous and acknowledges the double standard but can't do much else. eyeroll
-WinniWildcat
11/16. As a professional: high heels. Men's shoes look so much more comfortable. High heels are like medieval torture devices, but women have to wear them in certain work contexts.
-VanGone_by
12/16. Women get crappy razors because apparently their "skin is too delicate" for legit razors, 99.99% of their fashionable clothing lacks decently sized pockets, high heels are a pain to walk in, and they're taught that they won't look good without the cosmetics, the latest fashion, that one body shape, etc. etc.
Meanwhile I get good razors, practical stuff to wear, and don't have to worry about thigh gaps or applying makeup. And no one ever told me I couldn't wear a t-shirt I bought 3 years ago.
Whoever decided that this was a great idea... I don't even know what to say.
-DoctorBalanced
13/16. Weight. It's okay to ask a guy what his weight is, but asking a girl is considered rude. Same with age.
-CWH17
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14/16. Therapy or counselling So many outreach programs easily available to woman seeking help from sexual and domestic abuse to mental health. Which is fantastic but doesn't seem to be as readily available to men. Or just even the social stigma of a man seeing a counselor or therapist.
-ifedthefish
15/16. Late night UK TV last night, hunky gym guy comes on, audience (mainly female) erupted into a chorus of
"Top off, Top off, Top off,"
Imagine if a primarily male audience had shouted that at a female guest.
It seems humans NEED to objectify the bodies of others, now we can't do it to ladies men are in the firing line. Manorexia on the rise, it's no joke.
-Calamity_Payne
16/16. NO SPAGHETTI STRAPS YOUR ARMS ARE SO DISTRACTING. Meanwhile, your male peers are allowed sleeveless jerseys with the arm-holes cut to expose the side of the torso and 2in of boxers sticking out of their pants. Because that isn't distracting at all. But fuck me and my sexy feminine shoulders, right???*
*Yes, my school's dress code said no sleeveless shirts for ANYONE. However, people wore them anyway. Girls constantly got sent to the office but I only recall one guy ever getting sent out of class to get a more appropriate shirt/get a belt. It was infuriating.
-the-mortyest-morty
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U/lit3rallyuseless asked: What doesn't deserve the hate it gets?
​Film and media are probably the biggest contender for being hated on randomly. It may seem harmless, but not always deserved.
Actors are people too!
Actors who played characters that people didn't like.
Really if you hated the character then the actor did a good job (assuming that was the role).
The best cartoons.
nice day summer GIF by PBS KIDSGiphyChild cartoons. Some are actually really good, even as an adult.
I feel like watching cartoons aimed at generally a younger audience allows for you to be reminded of some life lessons, I know I forget some things, or didn't realise others, or it at least partially renews my awareness of something I should still like or appreciate
This doesn't deserve awards, it's just my opinion that is apparently shared by many.
This man did nothing wrong.
Guy Fieri, he literally is the nicest person in the world but since he looks like he was electrocuted by mountain dew people want to saw his head off.
Even before that, I was witness to his other charitable work. A few years back, Santa Rosa was hit by some terrible fires and he showed up at a few shelters and personally cooked up and served some killer buffet food. No cameras, no massive team of PR, just a dude with an assistant to keep him on schedule to hit up other shelters in the area. Guy Fieri legit earned a lot of respect in my book for that.
You know who DEFINITELY doesn’t deserve hate? Animals. They’re just living their best lives, and need to be left alone.​
The best cats.
Black cats.
We got a black cat for the first time last year. I've since formulated the theory that black cats might get some of their reputation from the fact that people can't see them well in the dark and so they seemingly appear out of nowhere and they might be instinctually cautious because they know people have a tendency to kick them while walking in the dark. Our black cat is the sweetest cat I've ever known.
They get a bad rep.
Discovery Sharks GIF by Shark WeekGiphySharks. They are beautiful, complex creatures, deserving of respect and, like any wild animal should be left alone in their natural habitat, but they get this reputation as vicious bloodthirsty monsters. This is only because every shark attack is news, and only then because they are so rare. More people are killed EVERY DAY by mosquitoes than sharks kill in a year.
Any apex predator that has remained evolutionarily unchanged for hundreds of millions of years, whose existance predates TREES, is deserving or our respect and admiration. Shine on, you crazy cartlaginous fish, shine on.
So cute too!
Opossums. They're neat little critters. They eat tons of ticks that carry Lyme disease, (mostly) don't carry rabies because their body temp is too low, and they're the only marsupial native to North America! They get a bad rap because their first defense is to hiss and bare teeth, but failing that, they just play dead.
If you don't have the predisposition to hate them, you'll find they're pretty cute too.
E: this is about /opossums/, the north American species.
Kiwis, I feel for you, but this comment isn't about your possums.
​Hating on other people for just living their lives also seems to be a big contender for things that don’t deserve to be hated on.
This is so true.
Unemployed people. A lot of people genuinely are looking for work and did not want to lose their last job/it was beyond their control (like a layoff) but they get so much hate and called lazy by most people. I know too many unemployed people that are actually really trying hard. They definitely aren't lazy. (Not saying lazy unemployed people don't exist, but to be fair, so do lazy employed people too lol)
Leave the weather man alone!
Fox Raining GIF by Family GuyGiphyMeteorologists. They try their best to predict the weather based on patterns, models, and data. They're not perfect because predicting the weather is insanely difficult. When they get it wrong, I think we should go easy on them. It was probably an outlier result almost no one could have foreseen.
I've seen people get angry over the meteorologists for getting it right. Like they control the weather - it is their fault we are having rain, that kind of BS. Never made sense to me, but hey, I have plenty of relatives I clashed with growing up.
Please stop being d*cks to these people.
Customer service associates.
I hate when customers think that I, the minimum wage person forced to sit there and listen to them yell, am personally responsible for every policy they disagree with. Like, ma'am, if I had that much power and influence, I wouldn't be sitting here on a Saturday evening serving you.
Wholesome and necessary.
People don't deserve hate they give themselves when they are not doing too good at the moment.
I'm in a weird place and I didn't know I needed to read this. Thanks buddy.
If you haven't heard it from anyone else today, I'm proud of you.
It seems like people hate on things simply because they think they're meant to hate them. But you can always be the change and make an effort to stop being an a**hole about certain things.
No matter what though, sometimes haters gonna hate