13 Retail Workers Share The Most Over The Top Threats They’ve Ever Received At Work.
These retails workers had some crazy threats launched at them as they went about their daily jobs. Read their stories below.
1. I was a manager of a clothing boutique in the mall. I got the gig through a friend who later quit, opening up his manager position for me. Anyways, it was cake. All I did was make the schedule and enter a code to approve returns. One day I'm walking the floor and this lady flags me down.
Lady: "Son, does that young man have an earring in his ear?"
Me: "Yes, he does."
Lady: "I'd like to speak to the manager."
Me: "Well, you're in luck. How can I help you?"
Lady: "I just think that's very... eh... showy-- if you catch my drift."
Me: "I'm afraid I don't, ma'am."
Lady: "If he's... queer... he should just keep that to himself. And it's your job to make sure he doesn't come to work like that."
Me: "I'm sorry it offends you. He isn't gay. He's not making a statement."
Lady:"Well if you aren't going to do anything about it, I'll just tell everyone I know that there are F*GGOTS working here."
And she left and I barreled over with laughter.
Six months later, we went out of business. I guess she knew more people than I thought.
2. This story happened to my friend...and there were no real threats, just hilarity...
My buddy was at a KFC in Chicago and the lady before him, alone, ordered two buckets of chicken.
The guy behind the counter asks "is this for here or to go?" and she suddenly screams "YOU THINK IMA SIT HERE AND EAT ALL THIS CHICKN BY MYSELF??" and he screams back "B*TCH I DONT KNOW YOUR LIFE."
3. Many years ago at Starbucks, a 45ish year-old businessman approaches:
Me: "Hey, how's it going?"
Customer: "How's it going? This isn't a fucking McDonald's, okay? You will address me as sir and take my order like a f*cking professional. Do you understand me?"
Me, sarcastically: "Good day to you sir, and welcome to the Starbucks Coffee Corporation, where it is our aim to...."
At this point the guy is behind the counter and completely in my face, ready to throw down. I'm laughing, and the manager grabs him and escorts him to the door. Unlike most expelled customers, he never showed up again.
4. I had a lady call in and she just started SCREAMING obscenities at an associate. Telling us we're all kinds of horrible people, and she's going to SUE us, because she was in the store yesterday, and bought a pack of highlighters. Then, apparently she fell asleep "for only 10 minutes" and her DOG ATE THEM, and now he's dying.
Yup, she was going to sue the manager, because, according to her, her dog was "half brain dead" now, and "all it does is run in circles." The associate finally was able to transfer her to a manager, but she just continued yelling obscenities and threatening to sue.
So, of course, the manager countered with "first of all, that's really nothing you can sue US for, considering we didn't MAKE the product, nor did we feed it to your dog." AND SECONDLY, "if your dog is sick and/or dying, the first thing you need to do, is get him to a vet!".
The lady, of course, thought nothing of this and threatened to hire a lawyer. But FIRST, she was going to bring the dog INTO the store so we could see what WE had done to him, and so that "we could feel the guilt of our sin". And if he died first, she actually threatened to throw the dead dog at our manager.
I was so disappointed when she never showed up.
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5. In my dark and sordid past I worked at a Pizza Hut. There was this one guy who would send his teen son in to get their order. Invariably, they'd arrive early and their order would not be ready yet. The son would leave the store, and the father would come in and start yelling about how lousy we were, never having their pizza done, etc.
The same guy would get his pizza, take it home and then call later saying we had messed up his order. My manager would always tell him that if he returned with the pizza, we would remake it for him. He'd always say that they ate it anyway, etc. but he'd want free pizza instead. My manager never gave into that demand, but always told him that as long as he brought the bad pizza back, she'd make him another to replace it.
After a few of these episodes, my manager and I developed a procedure to handle his orders. On his order, we would document when he called, how long we told him it would take -and we would add at least fifteen minutes to his order time.
When he came in, we would show him his pizza and make him confirm it was correct and to his satisfaction.
Well, he stopped coming in. He would make his son pick up the pizza. We would go through the process with his son. The guy would still try to call in later and complain. So we started refusing to sell his family's order to anyone but him.
One very busy Saturday, I am running the main register. He makes his order, comes in and is waiting with everyone else. His turn comes. I retrieve his order, start showing it to him and he starts in complaining loudly that we never get his order right. I ask him what is wrong with the pizzas in front of him. He doesn't answer but continues to rant loudly about how we are the worst, etc. While he is ranting, I close up his pizza boxes and set them back on the warmer. He stops and looks at me.
I then calmly tell him that since it is obvious that there is no pleasing him, I am not going to bother selling him the pizzas he ordered. He turns about six shades of purple, lunges at me and then tries to climb over the counter and grab his pizzas off the rack. I step back, grab his pizzas and hand them to a coworker, and tell them to take his pizzas to the back and get my manager.
The guy runs out the door and all the other customers are just standing there wondering what they just witnessed. I call the next name and start selling pizzas again.
Later my manager comes to me and tells me she called the guy and told him he was banned from buying pizzas from us ever again.
Well, about a month later, I'm running the register, call out a name and the guy's teen son comes up to the register. He's his usual friendly self. I sell him his pizzas, but I notice he looks different. Prior to this the kid would look like he had been in a fight or was bruised in some way. This time he had no cuts, bruises or band-aids on him. I didn't say anything. He took his pizzas and left.
For the next few weeks, we'd get an order for the family under the new name. We'd fill it. The kid would pick it up and pay for it. We never heard any complaints. I'd still show him the pizzas before I rang him up. He'd always be very happy and tell us the pizzas looked great, etc.
Then early one afternoon, my manager asked me to show up a little early. She said there was a meeting I had to attend due to a customer requesting a meeting with both of us. The request had come through our corporate office.
I get to work, my manager tells me that the guy had called corporate and demanded a meeting be set up. Corporate had talked to my manager and she had filled them in on his ordering habits, etc. Her boss then said he would attend the meeting too. She told me to keep an open mind, allow her to do her job and see what happens.
The guy shows up, has his wife with him and his teen son. My manager introduces her boss to the guy. He introduces his wife and kid to us. Then my manager asks, "so what can we do for you?"
He asks me if I remember the last time he and I talked. I nodded. He goes on to say that it was very memorable to him also. He said his actions had scared him and made him take a good long look at himself. He said that, long story short, he had gotten help and was there to apologize to me for the way he had acted. I just stood there. I didn't know what to say. He said what he was doing was something that he felt he needed to do. Up to that night his life had been out of control and that he had almost lost his family over the way he had been.
His wife thanked us and he shook my hand, and my manager said some things, excused me and I headed into the back of the store to prepare for my shift. She later filled me in on the rest of her conversation. After he left that night, he'd gone home without the pizzas. After my manager had called and told him he was banned, his wife packed up her stuff and left him, telling him that until he got help, he could forget about having either of them in his life. So, I figure it was her giving him an ultimatum more than what went on in our store that gave him good reason to do something about his problem.
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6. I'm currently working at an art supplies store that isn't open until this Thursday. We've been in store since the 4th of February setting it up, and people always try to come inside (ignoring the 3 giant "coming soon" signs, and the banner.) Most people get to the automatic doors, realize they won't open, look around, and see the signs, then leave.
Well, it was about 9:01pm, (we close at 9 regularly) and some asshole shows up, and knocks on the door. I pry the doors open, and tell him that we're closed.
Him: "no, it'll only take a minute, open 'er back up."
Me: "no, sir, we're literally closed for the month."
Him: "What about all this sh*t on the shelves?"
Me: "You mean the 1/3 of the store that's stocked? Yeah, we're in the process of opening this store. The sign says Feb 25th..."
Him: "Give me the store phone number! I'm calling your manager."
Me: "The store isn't open, the phone doesn't work, but my manager is in the back, I can go get her."
Him: "No, boy, I'm dealing with you!"
Me: "well, we're closed."
Him: "[threatening voice] Just you wait, I'm coming back."
Me: "But that's what I've been trying to get you to do..."
Guy goes to his car and peels out and leaves.
7. A disgruntled timeshare owner faxed a death threat to my office in Sedona, Arizona, complete with the date and time he planned to come to the office with his various firearms to discuss his complaints. To his credit, he was a man of his word, and showed up promptly at the specified time.
He received a sentence of 6 to 18 months.
8. A woman threatened to have her daughter pee on our floor if we didn't give her a refund once.
9. I work at a retailer that sells popular body products. Fragrances come and go, thats just how it is, they cant keep them all forever! Well sometimes people get so upset when I tell them their fragrance is no longer in stores, however most of them ARE online.
Lady comes in today and demands a fragrance we don't have in stores. I very politely tell her we do not carry it in stores but she can still find it online! She loses it, she starts screaming about how I am incompetent, and how she should be able to buy it in store if it is online. Keep in mind she is YELLING at me, like screaming over a fucking scent of lotion.
I tell her most online only products are marked that way and I give her a customer service card, because she is so irate and this company is obsessed with making customers happy, I tell her she can have 20% off her purchase. She screams at me and tells me if I don't give her money to cover shipping she's going to make me sorry. I tell her I can't just take money from the store. She says not from the store, YOU should give it to me. She wanted me to hand her money from my own fucking pocket to cover shipping. She actually said, I don't think I'm being unreasonable. I basically just stared at her. She said she was coming back, and I might want to reconsider.
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10. I didn't have any of this guy's fave ciggies, so he gets pissed off and threatens to jump the counter and bash me. I just said don't worry about jumping, I'll just open the door and let you in... let's see what you've got. He declined.
11. "I'LL TAKE MY BUSINESS ELSEWHERE, I'M NEVER SHOPPING HERE AGAIN!"
They always come back...there's almost nowhere else to shop in town.
12. I work at a smoke shop in a college town, all in all the customers are pretty cool, get a few tweakers every now and then looking for crack pipes and such. So in our shop you are not allowed to refer to a bong as a bong, it must be called a water pipe because bong implies drug use (and yes i know what people are doing with them, its just the hoop we have to jump through).
I operate on a three strike policy, if i warn you three times I will ask you to leave. I had a guy that just wouldn't stop saying bong and kept making really blatant drug references and asking me where he could score. When I finally had enough and asked him to leave he started back peddling saying that he would behave.
I told him again he needed to leave as I could not sell him anything because he made it abundantly clear that he was going to use it for pot. His attitude changed as he pulled out a police badge. The guy wrote me and the shop a ticket for selling paraphernalia which was like 2 grand. Fortunately we have cameras with audio that caught the whole thing on tape. The charges got dropped and the guy was supposedly suspended. Now the cops around town love our shop and actually go out of their way to make sure everything is cool after hours.
13. I worked at an ice rink in a pretty affluent area up until a year or two ago. Friday and Saturday nights the rink had free skate nights that mostly drew the middle-school crowd, as there was a public middle school next door. These are 11-14 year olds with the guys dressed 'gangster' and the girls in bicycle shorts, push ups and tank tops in an ICE RINK, referred to the rest of the post as 'prostitots'. The rink has a City Police Officer come to run security on the place because these kids sneak off into First Aid rooms to do whatever. Some of the things i've dealt with:
I was working with a very passive co-worker one night in the concession stand. He was leaning on the counter on his elbows when two kids (13-14) walk up, pull their wallets out, and proceed to see 'who has a bigger wad of cash on them'. Both had 60+ dollars on them. Our food isn't cheap ($3ish for fries, $2ish for hot chocolate), but not a 60$ night. One of them emerges victorious from the money count, and presses the wad of cash in my co-worker's face. "You like how that smells? Mmm." Kid got thrown out later that night for making an a*s of himself regardless. Management knew who he was.
Self-entitled prats reaching over the counter and stealing stuff on display. Candy, whipped cream dispensers, dipping sauce cups, anything they could reach.
I've had prostitots come to the counter and try and push their A-cups up to get free shit.
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When in the beginning stages of dating, it's important to know as much as humanly possible.
The element of surprise is no longer a fun aspect of romance.
Ask the small questions. Ask the hard questions.
Interrogate. Grill. Investigate.
Of course, you should do it with a subtle hand instead of an interrogation lamp.
The truth is all we have.
Redditor RedditPenguin02 wanted to make a list of the best inquiries to make when starting a relationship, so they asked:
"What is a good question to ask before you start dating someone?"
From what I've learned in my past, always ask... "Are you into Buffy the Vampire Slayer? The TV show."
If it's a no, then it's a dealbreaker.
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"Are you married?"
"I would ask that. If they said no, the next question was 'Would your wife agree?'"
"If they laughed, they were telling the truth. If they got indignant and pissed off that I thought they were lying…they were married."
"Worked every time."
"Do you clap when the plane lands?"
"I swear people used to do this all the time when I was a kid (early 2000’s), and I don’t think I’ve heard anyone do it in 5+ years. I guess 9/11 really made people afraid of flying for about 10 years and then most folks decided they didn’t need to applaud when the plane landed safely?"
"Do you want kids in the future? If one person wants kids and the other wants to stay child-free, then they are not compatible. And it is better to try dating someone else."
"It confuses me whenever some couples who disagree on this end up in a conundrum because one expected the other to change their mind. This is something I bring up early cause I see no future with someone who wants kids when I do not."
"You should always put childfree on your dating profile. It's not a small thing. Either you agree on it or not. If I had to date, I would put childfree on my profile too."
Carb it on...
"Do you like bread? That is the extent of my flirting skills."
"Being German, bread is like a frickin' cultural phenomenon here, we have around 300 kinds of bread, there's a bread museum, every time I go on vacation I'm like yeah it's nice here but the bread ain't it yall, never as good as home lol. So yeah, valid question and the only answer to this is an enthusiastic yes."
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"What temperature do you set the thermostat to throughout the year?"
"Haha this one always gets me as someone who needs low temps - you can always put on more clothes, I can't peel my skin off to get cooler."
The thermostat is a dealbreaker for me.
It's gonna be 60. Love it or move on.
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"When was the last time you changed your mind about something?
"Opens a window to how they think."
"If that was really early on in the dating I’d think it was a bit of a head-f**k question. I’d probably find that question a red flag, tone dependent, although I agree with the sentiment."
"Aside from major differences about finances, kids, politics, or religion, a big one is; What are your hobbies? If they don’t really have any, you may be the next hobby, which isn’t going to work unless you’ve got that kind of time. If the hobbies are time-consuming ones generally done with a SO."
"But you have no interest in them, that could be an issue as well. If only one of you likes camping, wanted to spend vacation lounging instead of exploring, didn’t like sports, etc either that partner is annoyed or the other feels like they don’t get to enjoy what they love."
"Ask them about their exes. If they think every single one of them is an a**hole... they are likely the real a**hole."
"I have mixed feelings about that - I've been in three previous relationships and all three were emotionally abusive towards me (one wasn't nearly as bad as the other two, though) in various ways. I know this is a common sentiment and it always makes me afraid that people won't believe me or something.
"I mean, I realize in your comment you said 'likely' and not '100% sure' and there's plenty of room for nuance."
"I would try to take care of any dealbreakers. If I find out that she has different political values than I do, it's not going to work out in the long run, so I wouldn't bother. Same thing with other factors (religion, financial values, etc.). I would also ask how much cuddling she likes to engage in, as I prefer a lot."
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"When I was dating my three essential questions were always kids, sex, and money. If you're not on the same wavelength for any of those three things, just don't even try."
"So, how much personal debt do you have?"
"Source: the guy who dated a woman with huge debts and was asked to pay for everything and then some".
"After that, I'd go with, 'Have you ever been diagnosed with borderline, narcissistic, or histrionic personality disorders?"
The questions are basic.
Just ask for the truth.
Do you have any good Qs to add to the queue? Let us know in the comments below.
As much as we always hop for our dating efforts to be worth it and for every relationship to work out, we all know that some relationships are not destined to work out.
But sometimes relationships end for totally valid reasons, and sometimes the reasons are painful, if not devastating.
Redditor overIorded asked:
"What went wrong with your last partner?"
History Repeating Itself
"He cheated on me. And I was glad because that was finally reason enough to allow myself to leave."
"Now I know somebody who's in the same situation. They're trapped. And she's such a gentle and fun person who's afraid to leave him because 'well, it's always been like this, I'm used to it,' and 'I deserve it.'"
"She wants to leave him, she knows she should leave him, but it's so hard to do it, and I know that feeling."
"I'm thinking I should give her my phone number like when the day comes you've had enough, I'll gladly come to help you move out from that s**thole."
Mental Health Struggles
"I'm lost in my own trauma and mental illness and he deserves better than anything I have to offer right now."
"I’ve been on the receiving end of this, and mildly said, it absolutely ruined me. Her trauma and mental problems were BAD, but I still wanted to be with them. So if you ask me, as long as they can give you the space and support you need, and want to be with you, let them make the decision."
"It's also fair and mature to care very much about someone but realize that you only have the emotional bandwidth to take care of yourself right now."
"I'm sure it was very hard for both of you to come to terms with that decision. I don't think it's that he deserves better, I think it's that your attention needs to be on guiding yourself through this thicket of trauma and mental illness before you can be someone else's partner. You can love each other very much but also acknowledge that you don't have the tools to spare for a relationship right now."
"I'm proud of you for focusing on your own mental health and someday, when you have more emotional stability and energy, I hope you find a wonderful partner."
"We disagreed on how many women he was allowed to date. I’m very strong on monogamy and have no interest in someone (in a supposedly committed relationship) that isn’t."
At Least There's That
"Her psychotic brother tried to kill me. Thankfully he has a Stormtrooper's aim..."
"Hate the attempted murder, love the 'Star Wars' reference."
"He wanted a big family, like, six kids, all-natural. Obviously, he wouldn't be birthing them. This was very important to him while I was pretty ambivalent about kids, and the further into my adulthood I've gotten, the more I've realized I just don't want to be pregnant."
"I broke it off so we could both get the lives we wanted. He was also quite a bit more conservative than me, and at the time closeted pansexual person, and some stuff he believed just didn't line up with what I believed. It hurt, but it was amicable."
"Now he has a wife and kids like he wanted, and I am happily partnered and childfree. It worked out for the best."
"She hated that I had a healthy relationship with my family and was trying to find ways to sabotage it."
"Similar aspect to mine, she hated my sister and mother because she had a bad relationship with her sister and mother. She would get mad at me whenever I brought my family up."
"My last boyfriend dumped me because I got mad that he was coming to Dallas after I hadn't seen him for two months, but didn't want to see me."
"He was going to meet up with some friends of his he hadn't seen in a few months. I told him that was fine with me, but I felt he should make time to see me too since we hadn't seen each other in two months and we were supposed to be a couple."
"He responded to my anger by ghosting me. That was two years ago."
Distracted with a Punch
"A girl contacted me about him talking to her. I asked him what was going on, and he sucker-punched me in the face."
"He cheated on me for all six years we were together and then accused me of cheating on him, even though I wasn't allowed to leave the house."
"I'm also pretty sure he slept with my sister-in-law when my brother and I went to pick up dinner."
Children Come First
"He was and still is no father to his kids, has anger issues, and probably has other mental health issues. I tried for years to help him and help the relationship, but he wasn't having it. After seeing how my oldest suffered under him, I had to leave."
"I communicated how I felt about many things in the relationship. He never communicated about anything."
"Oh look, it's the last 14 years of my life..."
"I'm guilty of this, and boy, do I regret not being able to open up about my feelings. It cost me my marriage. But now I'm trying to be more open and share my thoughts and feelings. Just wished I could've done this earlier than later."
"I started drinking again and became a miserable a**hole due to my own depression and my s**tty job. As such, she didn't get the attention she deserved, and had to put up with my s**tty mood all the time... so she left. I don't blame her."
"So, it was me. I don't know if I trust myself with a relationship again, but aside from the shame of knowing I hurt someone who I loved, and loved me back, but I was too self-absorbed and selfish, I am trying to be a better human to everyone."
"And to my ex: You'll find someone again... someone better."
"He wanted to move to Alaska to be with some girl he was 'friends' with before me."
"My ex's early-onset Alzheimers (at the age of 50) and the resulting violence, paranoia, and irrational thinking. I tried to honor my vows, but he was so far out there, I feared for my life."
Different Definitions of Marriage
"She cheated on me after five years total together, the last one of which was while we were engaged. She cheated on me for months, all while I was planning the wedding, working part-time, and going to graduate school so I can support us comfortably in the future."
"I planned on giving her everything I could and sharing the rest of my life with her, and apparently she didn’t care."
This conversation just goes to show that relationships can end for all kinds of reasons. Even in relationships where there is still a lot of love and committment, the relationship can still end, just like how the relationship can end suddenly because of a surprising and devastating realization.
We all had our aspirations about becoming a certain type of person or accomplishing different goals when looking towards the future.
But the goals we have for ourselves can drastically change once we're adults, and that's partly due to the influence of different life experiences.
Sometimes, despite our best intentions and respective strategies to achieve something by a certain age, we can never imagine experiencing different outcomes.
Curious to hear from strangers online who never saw themselves in their current positions in life, Redditor graces-taylor12 asked:
"What about becoming an adult caught you completely off guard?"
The following Redditors were not ready to process the inevitable when it came to their parents.
A Role Reversal
"Watching your parents becoming old and frail."
"Dealing with this yesterday and it is an eye-opener. Its hard seeing someone you’ve known as a pillar of strength for 30+ years in a position of such weakness, and knowing that he might improve but generally the decline is coming."
"I've had a weird atypical experience. My dad was pretty old when I was born and always had a bad knee he could never afford to get fixed. He could barely walk and has never been able to run since I could remember. It got so bad that he couldn't even walk up or down the stairs in our house."
"Well he eventually got a knee replacement and he's now more agile at 73 than he was at 53. It's weird to see."
"I'll never forget when I first realized how frail they actually were. I went over to their house to help out with some chores, and they couldn't even clean out any of the pens by themselves. They ended up selling most of their animals that year because they couldn't look after them."
Life Can Be Cruel
"It’s slowly beginning with my parents, small hints here and there, they’re in their mid 50s.The big freak out for me has been watching my grandparents slowly declining over the last 3ish years. One set of grandparents have been gone since I was a kid, so these two are all I’ve got now. My Pap’s arthritis and sciatica is to the point now where it’s a process for him just to stand up. 2020 I saved him from a fall, if I wasn’t there to catch him, he would’ve easily been in the hospital for quite a while. That was the first 'Oh sh*t, he’s not immortal' moment."
These Redditors discovered older doesn't always mean wiser.
"I can do whatever the f'k I want. But I don't really want to do anything..."
"Yup, the idea of doing whatever you want as an adult was the biggest scam cartoons sold us."
"Yeah, you can do anything you want but you're gonna need money. So you get a job, there goes most of your day to your job."
"So now you have money but that'll go to bills first and by the time you can do what you want you don't have the energy or funds. Then the loop continues.."
Fake It Til You Make It
"How clueless other adults are. I really thought adults had their sh*t in order while in reality most people are winging it."
"Maturity is a skill. Some people learn it quickly. Others never do."
"Children are limited by their youth. Their brains aren't fully developed. But adults are not guaranteed to get more mature without working for it."
"Some people never grow up. They just get old."
"I'm surprised by the amount of people who genuinely couldn't live by themselves if they had to. They somehow never learned basic life skills like simple cooking or cleaning and always had someone else to do it for them."
People became more aware of time.
Not Enough Me Time
"How little free time you have. You have to work, you have to prepare for work, drive to work, drive home from work. You also have to do household chores. You have to take care of kids if you have some. When do I get to enjoy my hobbies?"
Point Of Exhaustion
"Most of the time I'm so tired from the day, I just don't have the mental capacity to do anything but go right to bed and watch tv ;_;"
Never Going Back
"Transitioning from college student + part time worker to full time worker I gained a bunch of time back. I was shocked that I could just decide to do laundry tomorrow if I didn't feel like it. Every evening I had this huge chunk of time that was just open."
"But then, moving from an apartment to a house, now there's a bunch more chores to do. Then introducing kids, now there's all that. But still, I wouldn't go back to the hectic college life."
"How it just goes on endlessly."
"When you're a kid, there's a summer break every year, and a new school to go to in a couple of years. Whatever part of your life you are in is clearly delimited and there is something new to look forward to after it."
"Once you're an adult, it's just 5 days of work and 2 days of weekend over and over and over until you die."
After having a decent, long run in the entertainment business as a dancer, I've long held the belief I was invincible.
I was physically stronger, more agile, and foolish enough to think I could perpetually live in such a state.
All of a sudden, reality smacked me in the face one morning when I woke up and heard and felt various parts of my body crackle and pop like when milk hits a bowl of Rice Krispies.
My tired body had the audacity to inform me:
"Not today and from this day forward."
We're currently not on speaking terms.
Not much good can come from dwelling on the past.
Even so, no matter how hard we try to avoid doing so, we can't help but look back on things we've done in our lives which we regret.
In some cases, it's nothing which had any sort of lasting effect, like wishing we thought more carefully about where we had a birthday or spending more than we could afford on an outfit that didn't end up paying off.
In sadder cases though, we often wonder what our lives might have been like if he had made a different, and smarter decision.
If we didn't say certain things to certain people, not spoken up when someone needed us to or rushed too hastily into a life we weren't ready for.
"What is one thing you regret doing in life?"
Giving People Attention Who Didn't Deserve It
"Wasting time worrying about people that never spared me a single thought."- Eborys
Getting In With The Wrong Crowd
"I regret making friends with people who I knew were bad for me just because it was easier than becoming friends with good people."
"Now I don't have many solid friends."- misswallflowerr
Staying In, When They Should Have Gotten Out
"Not ending bad/unhealthy/unfulfilling relationships sooner."- Superseriouslyguys
"Hanging on to a relationship for too long."
"I should have up and disappeared the first time he was disrespectful."- Mirrorflute88
Not Taking Enough Risks
"Not putting myself out there enough."
"I probably missed out on a lot of opportunities because I'm so self-conscious."
"Working on this though!"- Fife_Flyer
"Not following my dreams and ended up sitting behind a desk for 30 years."
"Of course, I'm currently on Reddit sitting behind my desk."
"So, there's that."- CatOnTheHill
"Overthinking my way out of potentially rewarding choices."- mmmmike1590
Rushing Into Things
"Going to college before I had the slightest idea what I wanted to do with my life."- Mysterious_Shake2894
Taking Things For Granted
"Not spending more time with my mom."
"I visited her 2-3 times a week but still, there were other times she'd call and I'd ignore the call or tell her I didn't have time to talk."
"Would give anything to go back and take every one of those calls."- Fruitjustlistens
Putting Their Health At Risk
"Most of 2019–addiction bottom."
"Sober now for 432 days and counting."- CommunicationTop5231
"20 years spent on expensive, self-fed poison."
"Biggest regret of my life, by far."- Itsprobablysarcasm
"Mentally exhausting myself at work for companies that turned out to not give a sh*t about me or value my work."- fpuni107
"Being too nice to tell undeserving people to f*ck off when I should've been putting myself first."
"Lessons learned."- MrsHppy
Not Having Enough Fun
"So, this is gonna sound kinda dumb, but I kinda wish I had acted out a bit more."
"Taken more risks, gotten in trouble more, explored and pushed my boundaries."
"I was pretty sheltered growing up and really wanted to be this good person."
"It created a lot of conflicting feelings for me."
"It also contributed to me avoiding doing some stuff cause I thought it'd be bad for me."
"Now that I'm older and worked through some of those issues, I feel like I missed out on a lot of stuff other people got in their teens and 20s."
"I'm now at a point where I'm exploring that, but most people my age have already gone through it."
"I just feel like I'm trying to 'catch up' with everybody."- animewhitewolf
It's only human to look back on things we regret, or wish we had done differently.
But living in the past will only keep us in the past.
The only way to move forward and make progress is to accept the present for what it is: a present.